luminouz:

U were making sense till I got to the 'sit her down and talk to her part' and u lost it. I dislike that quoted above,u lots think women are some underdeveloped cretins who have no sense yet u continue being fooled by them. They are not as weak as u think. She knew already she goofed and should be disciplined,yet u advocate throwing a party for her? With which money o? Urs or hers or the business's? For me,no party anything,maybe a small gift and I will let her know the capital is the cause of that. That I need the capital back to boost my own business. That way,u teach her that business is business and defaults have consequences. She will get that money back(if she was sincere in the first place) and work harder to gain ur trust. That's how to teach discipline, not sitting her down after some birthday party issh...she might not see the seriousness of ur so-called financial lecture!

Godoverevery:
Hi everyone.... just need your veiw if am doing the right thing.
I started dating my current gf last December and it have been alot of up and few down........what really happened was Wen we met she just lost her job so I felt like helping her out so I came up with the idea of her doing a business of her own were we can both benefit....so one of my friend gave me a link to were she can pick perfumes ,body spray and female slippers in bulk at cheap prices and resale since she knows lot of people due to her friendly nature.
After discussing with her and she accepted so I sent her 100k around feburary ds year to start and got her a new phone has well cos d one she was using was bad so she can also advertise online.....sales was good according to her........fast forward to April
I just felt like knowing if she was keeping the money in her account as she Claimed so i asked her to come give account of the sales cos I told her we will share the gains between ourselves becos i didn't want her to lose track and be financially reackless ........she did the account and it good sales......i now asked her to send me the capital back...to my surprise
She said she sorry that her dad was in need of cash and was depressed so she borrow him 80k out of the money......I was really angry cos she didn't tell me before doing it so alot of drama happened..... after begging she said her dad will give her back d cash ending of last month...... ending came she started begging again dat I should give her till mid this month.....last week she started begging again I should give her till ending of D's month.

Ds were I need you guys help.....I love the gal if God permit I want to marry her.
Her birthday is on Friday and I av plans of celebrating it on Sunday with few friends at a nice lounge....(get cake, wristwatch with set of nice panties has gift).
But has I was making order for the wristwatch D's afternoon at work something in me just ask if am sure am doing the right thing and ever since I am really thinking I should just cancel the plan.... because what she did with the business money really hurt and I find it difficult to trust her.

Pls am I doing the right thing celebrating her birthday or I should just cancel it....thanks

Sanchez01:

The Summary of your post

1. She is more of a business partner than a girlfriend. You thought to establish her because you feel you could benefit from it...
2. So you probably suggested or sold the idea of how the profit would be shared...she agreed and you lent her a 100k.
3. You automatically took control of a supposed adult by asking her to audit/give account of her sales journey because you feel she is answerable to you and needed to guide her so as not to misappropriate or spend recklessly, according to you.
4. You made it known that you'd both share her profit, being the financier. Issokay.
4. She failed to remit the capital as agreed despite good, theoretical sales...
5. Supposedly, she failed to remit the capital on the agreed time/month/date because she, according to her, used a reasonable part of the money on her dad.
6. You got angry because you felt you should have been in the know on how she spends the business money. I guess you made it known that she must return the capital and has failed to do so, month after month.
7. For the record, it doesn't really bother you that the money is spent on family. You are more concerned about how she spends and you being in the know...
8. Presently, you are nursing the idea of not going through with the plans you have for her birthday because you feel she didn't handle the business fund properly.

Let me overanalyze your case

1. It was noble you assisted your 'girlfriend' but what you guys have here isn't a romantic relationship. Money is in the way already and nothing would make sense given the impression on ground.

2. Your girlfriend isn't really your girlfriend but a business partner. Why you thought to 'help' her is because you thought it would 'benefit the both you'. By benefit, it means you collecting a part of her profit, beyond the capital you lent her. This is nothing but an investment with eyes on ROI. You could have stopped at the capital but you clearly didn't think you have a special kind of relationship with this person and even if you don't owe her a thing, seeing her do well in whatever she settles for should be your priority.

3. The capital isn't in sight from the looks of it. You made a mistake already and she hasn't done well on her part. Whether or not she spent the money on her dad isn't the issue, I'm sure she wouldn't have acted the way she did if the money was a loan from a financial organization.

4. Requesting for your capital and part of her profit is you being a loan shark. If your mind doesn't release the money to her, by all means get your capital but don't go beyond that.

5. I'd advise you celebrate your girlfriend and not your business partner. You of all person know whether or not she has been a good girl (not business partner). Don't judge her from the business angle. Take her out and celebrate her.

Seeing that she reinvests is key.

Godoverevery:
Yea she a good girl.
should i also get the gift don't want the love to enter her head and she start misbehaving.....cos she said non of her ex av done something like D's for her.

Godoverevery:
Yea she a good girl.
should i also get the gift don't want the love to enter her head and she start misbehaving.....cos she said non of her ex av done something like D's for her.

mhizdebbygold:

Get her a gift but most times reduce the love you show her women can misbehave if u show them too much love

Godoverevery:
thanks ma...... should i also go on with the plans for the party.

Godoverevery:
thanks ma...... should i also go on with the plans for the party.

mhizdebbygold:

Yeah sure... I guess today is d day, u said Friday right?

Godoverevery:
Yes ma did the celebration yesterday.....

Samyj247:
lols she is comparing u with her ex, when a higher bidder performs better than u financially, u will become an ex. good luck to u. I am expecting ur story online next time but please don't change ur Monika so we will know its u lols.

then she will be like " just small money u borrow me u no allow me rest....see this guy now dash me 200k for free. if u want I go pay u ur money times 2 sef.

alert us when part two comes out.

Samyj247:
lols she is comparing u with her ex, when a higher bidder performs better than u financially, u will become an ex. good luck to u. I am expecting ur story online next time but please don't change ur Monika so we will know its u lols.

then she will be like " just small money u borrow me u no allow me rest....see this guy now dash me 200k for free. if u want I go pay u ur money times 2 sef.

alert us when part two comes out.

Samyj247:
lols she is comparing u with her ex, when a higher bidder performs better than u financially, u will become an ex. good luck to u. I am expecting ur story online next time but please don't change ur Monika so we will know its u lols.

then she will be like " just small money u borrow me u no allow me rest....see this guy now dash me 200k for free. if u want I go pay u ur money times 2 sef.

alert us when part two comes out.

Jollof123:


Lol...wizard, part two is out already oooo. Grab your copy nowwww.

Samyj247:
lols...winch, u don see am na

JasonScoolari:
Celebrate her like never before. To see better girls these days hard pass Nigeria Economy.

Goodluck bro!