ImaIma1:
When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

bettercreature:
That comment by luminouz doesn’t make any sense! It wasn’t ordinary 200 naira (it was the last straw) this lady has been taking care of your immediately family,as if that isn’t enough you are telling her to start sending money to your relatives,It’s even very embarrassing telling your wife to send money to your dad let alone just 200naira Its just super wrong
This poster is taking advantage of his wife generousity

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

Acidosis:


If I'm 40, and earn only 40k salary, I will get married. Marriage is not meant for the rich and certainly not for the sole purpose of procreating. Should a man on a 40k salary get married? YES, if his fiancee is willing!

Some people will not make 100k a month in their life time! There are some HARD facts we need to start telling ourselves. Some on big salaries today will someday lose their jobs, while they're married. This is another hard fact.

SocialJustice:
Exactly and he did it in such a shameful manner. I'm even shocked he has to come here to report before he realises he's a failed husband.

emerald16:
Thanks guys please I don't want this on front page

solasoulmusic:
Money comes and goes but the loyalty that stays and supports is valuable she should have sent it sometimes yes it’s frustrating when you have to handle all the bills but for the people we love we should not count the cost. I’ve sent credit to someone when they only called me for one minute

chinchonglee:
Hw is she d one catering for u wen u earn 60k monthly..

Wetin u dey use ur 60k do?


Wen i said i rather remain single for life dan get married wit a 60k income u pple thought i woz joking baa.

luminouz:

Ion know u from Adam but take a thousand kisses from me darling.
Your first sentence is gold personified! The rest has diamond crested all over!
Are u married? My younger bro is ready sis.

xendra:
now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.

debayun:
In my own little opinion you should quit your job and join your wife in her business so it becomes a family business then any income earned will be an effort from both sides cos 60k in this time is nothing cos 60k is just earning $150 and to be comfortable a little u should earn at least $400 that's if u stay in a relatively cheap area.

solasoulmusic:


Thank you and I’m honored but my heart is elsewhere

Lexusgs430:


And he is surprised she was mad at him.........


How come he cannot tell his dad, he has no money to send call credit?

How come it's N200, he wants to send to his dad?

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

luminouz:
Small money like 200 made her flare up?
Yet husbands have taken care of their wives,sons,her parents, his parents, his and her siblings without grumbling or complaining. Oh yes,its a man's job according to society but once he defaults,hell comes down. No wonder men die young around here.
No one ever appreciate the men folk and all they do!

I keep asking myself,who really ends up enjoying the institution called marriage?

prince3009:


Marriage is nothing but a scam! Women are the ones who are burdened to have a so-called life partner and when they do, they relinquish every responsibility to the man alone!

I blame the OP for allowing a woman walk into his life and run him over.

luminouz:

Have u been broke before?? I doubt it!

I've been so hungry before I was killing and eating people in my dream...how come una dey form on NL na!!

Is 200 naira not money?? What if the dad needed to make an urgent call? Or we should wait till we get 10k?? Any amount is appreciated in such situations.

Lexusgs430:


So father would be reliant on son (at wives expense), for N200 call credit......
I would be ashamed to give someone N200...... This is 2019 you know and not 1989..............

Let's not attempt to twist the main issues at hand...........

luminouz:

Have u been broke before?? I doubt it!

I've been so hungry before I was killing and eating people in my dream...how come una dey form on NL na!!

Is 200 naira not money?? What if the dad needed to make an urgent call? Or we should wait till we get 10k?? Any amount is appreciated in such situations.

luminouz:

I get ur point but like I said,I have been in those shoes before, so I never judge anyone for being broke or question the little they give to help

xendra:
now you are trying to be an ingrate, you are not even shameful enough that a woman is catering for you, you now want to prove a man to your family with her money. SMH! tell them you don't have money and stop adding to the woman's stress.