Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 10:09pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
merahki: Taking the average Nigerian situation into consideration? I honestly think that any partnership where the woman’s only financial responsibility is food/meal provision is a good deal One could say this is still part of keeping house If I had a husband or partner who took care of every financial responsibility in the house but food provision? I would be respect him like no end, can even call him daddy sef and mean it! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
He provides rent, school fees, car maintenance, fuel, gadgets, clothing, dates/outing, holiday, utility, etc money? He is gold and deserves the all star treatment - this woman should take up the house keeping and child minding duties because she has struck gold. Well if I were the marrying kind I would Or was the OP a sarcastic one that I missed? A drink is probably what I need now
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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by 2019news: 10:11pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
bukatyne: Was expectations not discussed during courtship?
And nothing pisses me off than spouses sweeping issues under the carpet when they should communicate.
Is eating bread or outside everyday the solution to the problem? Yes, the same character as usual. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by 2019news: 10:14pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by 2019news: 10:18pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron: |Every other things like what When you are not feeding your family as a man, it nullifies every other thing you are doing. A man that waits for a woman to feed him. A man that shares his god giving responsibility of putting food on the table with his wife, that man is less OF a man. The new generation of men has watered down their responsibilities to the extent of delegating FEEDING, SHELTER AND SCHOOL FEES TO THEIR WIVES and still expect to be respected.
Let the wife provide the money, let the man buy and cook, i think the woman will agree to this since we are in the era of delegation The Best contribution. A1 ( Distinction) 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Of course the absolute best would be when he provides everything And lets me spend all my money on nothing. He also lets me have as much help as I want-cook oo, maid oo, dish washer oo, laundry gadgets oo, all Then cooks for me a lot when it is just us two But this man here would be an angel eh? Or a maga, or a super rich And to top it all, he has a mild or very low grade obsession with me, therefore wants to always please me sexually, and has eyes for no one else He is super cerebral too, fine in a tall and dark way with dimpled cheeks and some body hair, but not in Ric Ross proportions Well dreams are nice, and somebody right now somewhere is wishing upon this dream ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by duduade: 6:32am On Jun 07, 2019 |
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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 6:56am On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus:
![](https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/lkrwtf.gif) What's the face? That is the simple truth! A man that cannot feed his family is not a complete man. Food is key and should be every man's duty. They teach my kids in school that a father provides for the family while a mother cooks . . . who are we to argue with the wise teachers? ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) . ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 7:02am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Chuks9000: Selfishness on your part. Who pays for house rent? Other household items (fuel for car and gen, etc)? If it's just food and you are complaining, then I wonder what your views of marriage is. Just food? Like seriously, you think food is 'just' ![](/faces/huh.png) A woman should not be responsible for something as vital and recurrent as feeding. As much as she should support, constantly providing food for the family should not be her responsibility. She can periodically provide foodstuffs, or even contribute to rent, maybe pay some water or light bills . . . but feeding? Nah . . . that's too big a burden. I know that feeding takes a huge percentage of my family's upkeep, more than rent, fuel or whatever other bill is expected. Feeding is vital. 5 Likes |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 7:58am On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
What's the face? That is the simple truth!
A man that cannot feed his family is not a complete man. Food is key and should be every man's duty.
They teach my kids in school that a father provides for the family while a mother cooks . . . who are we to argue with the wise teachers? . ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) God in his infinite wisdom has made it such that the 'completeness' or 'realness' of a man is NOT defined by what women think of him. Hallelujah!! If it was by what women think, I doubt there will be any permanent real/complete men in this world. The man can even wake up complete but before evening, he will be incomplete..or he will be real today, and not real tomorrow...all depending on how good he is able to make a woman feel emotionally. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Thank God for God oo. ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) 2 Likes |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 8:06am On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki: Of course the absolute best would be when he provides everything And lets me spend all my money on nothing. He also lets me have as much help as I want-cook oo, maid oo, dish washer oo, laundry gadgets oo, all Then cooks for me a lot when it is just us two But this man here would be an angel eh? Or a maga, or a super rich And to top it all, he has a mild or very low grade obsession with me, therefore wants to always please me sexually, and has eyes for no one else He is super cerebral too, fine in a tall and dark way with dimpled cheeks and some body hair, but not in Ric Ross proportions Well dreams are nice, and somebody right now somewhere is wishing upon this dream
![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 9:53am On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
Just food? Like seriously, you think food is 'just' ![](/faces/huh.png) A woman should not be responsible for something as vital and recurrent as feeding. As much as she should support, constantly providing food for the family should not be her responsibility. She can periodically provide foodstuffs, or even contribute to rent, maybe pay some water or light bills . . . but feeding? Nah . . . that's too big a burden. I know that feeding takes a huge percentage of my family's upkeep, more than rent, fuel or whatever other bill is expected. Feeding is vital.
Good morning I am obsessing about this issue now ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Feeding is a big responsibility but when providing this it is the only financial responsibility a woman has in the house? I think it is fair oo The couple has 4 kids (5, 7, 11 and 13 years old) for instance and live in a 2 bedroom flat. The man has a Toyota Camry and the woman a Toyota Corolla (she either bought it before marriage with her own money or the husband got it for her after they hooked up) I am trying to calculate the monthly household expenditure for this unit Monthly rent 25K Power -15K, water(they buy from tankers and must be most frugal with it to use just one tank load per month)-4K, petrol for generator @3litres only per day-13,500K, petrol for the two cars-56K, dstv compact (the minimum that can serve up some fair cartoons and football)-6K, cooking gas-5K, pure water @1bag/day- 3K, (128K so far, I hope) Then paying school fees, not top notch private schools at all @ 150 each child times 4 is 600K divided by 12 -50K This would most probably increase with increasing age and and level of education with Common Entrance,JAMB, SSCE,NECO, postUME etc all lurking/looming Oil servicing same three changes per year (usually more but let’s make it three)@ 6k/change is 18K and times 2 cars is 36K then divided by 12 - 3K Clothing money for a year- 150K divided by 12- 12500K (I am sure I underquoted this one, maybe twice what I have submitted even) Okay toothpaste, toilet rolls, soap, body lotions, detergent-?5K Total so far -190something Miscellaneous has to come in, maybe-10K? So monthly total spending for the man is the above Then the woman has to provide the food? And cannot buy in bulk because erratic power supply and etc? Say buys 4 chickens per month 10K and beef of 8K? Rice 50cups/month 5k, beans 40cups/month 3200K, crayfish 1painter 2500K, dried fish/stock fish 5K, tomatoes and pepper 10K, garri 6 painters 2100K, yam 2K, vegetables 3K Ogbono 800K, egusi 10 cups- 3000K Breakfast stuff 1K a day- 30K (100K so far) Okay this is a lot of spending ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif) Feeding is huge, but any woman who can do this is a pure gem to her man. I would want this kind of woman for my brother In the scenario I created, the man spends 200 to 205K every month, and the woman spends 95-105K every month I actually like it, they are both showing up, and the man is doing substantially more as the head of the house Supposing they were both working with the Federal Public Complaints Commision and each is paid 150K/month, how would they do it? The man has to have side hustles, plenty Marriage in a country without any form of government financial support or risk protection is a huge thing to undertake This couple with the hypothetical salaries should have just have one child, or two at most But they are most likely to have 3,4,or 5 I have exhausted myself, and I don’t know why! Cheers 3 Likes |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 10:09am On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus:
![](https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/bpg2.gif) Just the highlighted? Taken from the whole post? Looks like low grade porn Not my intent What does this meme mean? You are watching me in high definition? ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Cheers |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 10:26am On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki:
Good morning I am obsessing about this issue now ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Feeding is a big responsibility but when providing this it is the only financial responsibility a woman has in the house? I think it is fair oo The couple has 4 kids (5, 7, 11 and 13 years old) for instance and live in a 2 bedroom flat. The man has a totota Camry and the woman a Toyota Corolla (she either bought it before marriage with her own money or the husband got it for her after they hooked up) I am trying to calculate the monthly household expenditure for this unit
Monthly rent 25K Power -15K, water(they buy from tankers and must be most frugal with it to use up one tank load per month)-4K, petrol for generator @3litres only per day-13,500K, petrol for the two cars-56K, dstv compact (the minimum that can serve up some fair cartoons and football)-6K, cooking gas-5K, pure water @1bag/day- 3K, (128K so far, I hope) Then paying school fees, not top notch private schools at all @ 150 each child times 4 is 600K divides by 12 -50K This would most probably increase with increasing age and and level of education with Common Entrance,JAMB, SSCE,NECO, postUME etc all lurking/looming
Oil servicing same three changes per year (usually more but let’s make it three)-12K then divided by 12 - 1K Clothing money for a year- 150K divided by 12- 12500K (I am sure I underquoted this one, maybe twice what I have submitted even) Okay toothpaste, toilet rolls, soap, body lotions, detergent-?5K Total so far -190something Miscellaneous has to come in, maybe-10K? So monthly total spending for the man is the above
Then the woman has to provide the food? And cannot buy in bulk because erratic power supply and etc? Say buys 4 chickens per month 10K and beef of 8K? Rice 50cup/month 5k, beans 40cups/month 3200K, crayfish 1painter 2500K, dried fish withstock fish 5K, tomatoes and pepper 10K, garri 6 painters 2100, yam 2K, vegetables 3K Ogbono 800, egusi 10 cups- 3000 Breakfast stuff 1K a day- 30K (100K so far) Okay this is a lot of spending ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif) Feeding is huge, but any woman who can do this is a pure gem to her man. I would want this kind of woman for my brother
In the scenario I created, the man spends 200 to 205K every month, and the woman spend 95-105K every month I actually like it, they are both showing up, and the man is doing substantially more as the head of the house Supposing they were both workers Federal Public Complaints Commision and each is paid 150K/month, how would they do it? The man has to have side hustles, plenty Marriage in a country without any form of government financial support or risk protection is a huge thing to undertake This couple with the hypothetical salaries should have just have one child, or two But they are most likely to have 3,4,or 5
I have exhausted myself, and I don’t know why! Cheers
Money matter is exhausting!!! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) School fees and house rent are periodical, they don't get paid monthly . . . Most working parents often collect some sort of upfront (housing and other allowances), to help with these bills anyway. And they can save and plan towards it, unlike feeding that is a constant and recurrent expenditure. I know how much we spend on feeding monthly and there is no way I will take that burden upon myself, even if I have the means. I'll rather contribute to other periodic expenses, and not feel the constant pressure to put food on the table daily. But that is just me . . and also the problem here, as this woman is not finding it easy. Do you think if she believes the sharing formula is well balanced she will be here complaining? In any case, if a man is financially capable of feeding his family, why place the burden on the wife? I am a strong believer that women should not be put under any form of financial pressure. Our role is to SUPPORT. I should be able to resign my job, and not worry about how my children will feed. Truth is that this country is tough, and men should work harder to support their families. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 10:27am On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus:
God in his infinite wisdom has made it such that the 'completeness' or 'realness' of a man is NOT defined by what women think of him. Hallelujah!!
If it was by what women think, I doubt there will be any permanent real/complete men in this world. The man can even wake up complete but before evening, he will be incomplete..or he will be real today, and not real tomorrow...all depending on how good he is able to make a woman feel emotionally. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Thank God for God oo. ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) BE there speaking grammar . . . when you get married your eyes will open! |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Kendumazy(m): 11:10am On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki: Taking the average Nigerian situation into consideration? I honestly think that any partnership where the woman’s only financial responsibility is food/meal provision is a good deal One could say this is still part of keeping house If I had a husband or partner who took care of every financial responsibility in the house but food provision? I would respect him like no end, can even call him daddy sef and mean it! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
He provides rent, school fees, car maintenance, fuel, gadgets, clothing, dates/outing, holiday, utility, etc money? He is gold and deserves the all star treatment - this woman should take up the house keeping and child minding duties because she has struck gold. Well if I were the marrying kind I would Or was the OP a sarcastic one that I missed? A drink is probably what I need now
I love this. If you are a lady. I love you already for this. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Gloriagee(f): 11:10am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Are costs for baby food, biscuits, cereals, indomie, bread,milk and other food items you typically buy in a supermarket covered under breakfast cost? Not to mention the cost for fried rice, chicken and chips when home cooked etc. These things add up. Exhausting stuff merahki:
Good morning I am obsessing about this issue now ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Feeding is a big responsibility but when providing this it is the only financial responsibility a woman has in the house? I think it is fair oo The couple has 4 kids (5, 7, 11 and 13 years old) for instance and live in a 2 bedroom flat. The man has a Toyota Camry and the woman a Toyota Corolla (she either bought it before marriage with her own money or the husband got it for her after they hooked up) I am trying to calculate the monthly household expenditure for this unit
Monthly rent 25K Power -15K, water(they buy from tankers and must be most frugal with it to use up one tank load per month)-4K, petrol for generator @3litres only per day-13,500K, petrol for the two cars-56K, dstv compact (the minimum that can serve up some fair cartoons and football)-6K, cooking gas-5K, pure water @1bag/day- 3K, (128K so far, I hope) Then paying school fees, not top notch private schools at all @ 150 each child times 4 is 600K divided by 12 -50K This would most probably increase with increasing age and and level of education with Common Entrance,JAMB, SSCE,NECO, postUME etc all lurking/looming
Oil servicing same three changes per year (usually more but let’s make it three)@ 6k/change is 18K and times 2 cars is 36K then divided by 12 - 3K Clothing money for a year- 150K divided by 12- 12500K (I am sure I underquoted this one, maybe twice what I have submitted even) Okay toothpaste, toilet rolls, soap, body lotions, detergent-?5K Total so far -190something Miscellaneous has to come in, maybe-10K? So monthly total spending for the man is the above
Then the woman has to provide the food? And cannot buy in bulk because erratic power supply and etc? Say buys 4 chickens per month 10K and beef of 8K? Rice 50cups/month 5k, beans 40cups/month 3200K, crayfish 1painter 2500K, dried fish withstock fish 5K, tomatoes and pepper 10K, garri 6 painters 2100, yam 2K, vegetables 3K Ogbono 800, egusi 10 cups- 3000 Breakfast stuff 1K a day- 30K (100K so far) Okay this is a lot of spending ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif) Feeding is huge, but any woman who can do this is a pure gem to her man. I would want this kind of woman for my brother
In the scenario I created, the man spends 200 to 205K every month, and the woman spends 95-105K every month I actually like it, they are both showing up, and the man is doing substantially more as the head of the house Supposing they were both working with the Federal Public Complaints Commision and each is paid 150K/month, how would they do it? The man has to have side hustles, plenty Marriage in a country without any form of government financial support or risk protection is a huge thing to undertake This couple with the hypothetical salaries should have just have one child, or two at most But they are most likely to have 3,4,or 5
I have exhausted myself, and I don’t know why! Cheers
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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 11:35am On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki:
Just the highlighted? Taken from the whole post? Looks like low grade porn Not my intent What does this meme mean? You are watching me in high definition? ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Cheers
Low grade porn ke, not at all. The whole post was nice, very nice..but that particular bit did make my blood heat up a few degrees cos I could feel your sexual confidence & energy. So yea, it means watching you in HD, in a very good way. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 11:45am On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
Money matter is exhausting!!! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
School fees and house rent are periodical, they don't get paid monthly . . . Most working parents often collect some sort of upfront (housing and other allowances), to help with these bills anyway. And they can save and plan towards it, unlike feeding that is a constant and recurrent expenditure.
I know how much we spend on feeding monthly and there is no way I will take that burden upon myself, even if I have the means. I'll rather contribute to other periodic expenses, and not feel the constant pressure to put food on the table daily.
But that is just me . . and also the problem here, as this woman is not finding it easy. Do you think if she believes the sharing formula is well balanced she will be here complaining?
In any case, if a man is financially capable of feeding his family, why place the burden on the wife? I am a strong believer that women should not be put under any form of financial pressure. Our role is to SUPPORT. I should be able to resign my job, and not worry about how my children will feed.
Truth is that this country is tough, and men should work harder to support their families. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) I agree at wanting to just really want to play a supportive role I actually want to spend zero Naira ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) I know some bills are periodic, I just got the monthly equivalents for such. Not all workers get allowances like bankers. For us there is just that paltry housing allowance every month With the country all twisted, and unemployment and underemployment everywhere, with extended family responsibilities too? I would love that lady for my brother if he is not a super rich Igbo man who is totally in control of finances, as provider in every sense of the word Well done at marriage Nodu ofuma |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 11:48am On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
Money matter is exhausting!!! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
School fees and house rent are periodical, they don't get paid monthly . . . Most working parents often collect some sort of upfront (housing and other allowances), to help with these bills anyway. And they can save and plan towards it, unlike feeding that is a constant and recurrent expenditure.
I know how much we spend on feeding monthly and there is no way I will take that burden upon myself, even if I have the means. I'll rather contribute to other periodic expenses, and not feel the constant pressure to put food on the table daily.
But that is just me . . and also the problem here, as this woman is not finding it easy. Do you think if she believes the sharing formula is well balanced she will be here complaining?
In any case, if a man is financially capable of feeding his family, why place the burden on the wife? I am a strong believer that women should not be put under any form of financial pressure. Our role is to SUPPORT. I should be able to resign my job, and not worry about how my children will feed.
Truth is that this country is tough, and men should work harder to support their families. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) And this my friends is exactly why women will continue to be women. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Money matter don come, they will agree to support and not drag leadership. Tell them to be submissive, they will come for your head. My brothers, hear read me. Please make money and make lots of it. This is the goal in life. Not falling in love, not finding a good woman, not marriage. MONEY. Make money, I repeat, make money and be comfortable. It is the most important goal oo. Children are the bonus, they are the cherry on top of money goals, NOT wife oo. A word is enough for the wise. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 11:49am On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
BE there speaking grammar . . . when you get married your eyes will open! Really? Tell me something... ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 11:57am On Jun 07, 2019 |
Gloriagee: Are costs for baby food, biscuits, cereals, indomie, bread,milk and other food items you typically buy in a supermarket covered under breakfast cost? Not to mention the cost for fried rice, chicken and chips when home cooked etc. These things add up.
Exhausting stuff
Hello I was going for cheap breakfast Akara and pap and milk Bread and egg and hot cocoa not oats and pancake and cornflakes type -breakfast oo Baby food? For the man oo cos I forgot that bit ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Truly honestly exhausting, and feels like prison |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 12:00pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus:
And this my friends is exactly why women will continue to be women. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
Money matter don come, they will agree to support and not drag leadership. Tell them to be submissive, they will come for your head.
My brothers, hear read me. Please make money and make lots of it. This is the goal in life. Not falling in love, not finding a good woman, not marriage. MONEY.
Make money, I repeat, make money and be comfortable. It is the most important goal oo. Children are the bonus, they are the cherry on top of money goals, not wife oo. A word is enough for the wise. We call it, nwanne, jee chuba/chuwa ego |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 12:01pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki:
Good morning I am obsessing about this issue now ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Feeding is a big responsibility but when providing this it is the only financial responsibility a woman has in the house? I think it is fair oo The couple has 4 kids (5, 7, 11 and 13 years old) for instance and live in a 2 bedroom flat. The man has a Toyota Camry and the woman a Toyota Corolla (she either bought it before marriage with her own money or the husband got it for her after they hooked up) I am trying to calculate the monthly household expenditure for this unit
Monthly rent 25K Power -15K, water(they buy from tankers and must be most frugal with it to use up one tank load per month)-4K, petrol for generator @3litres only per day-13,500K, petrol for the two cars-56K, dstv compact (the minimum that can serve up some fair cartoons and football)-6K, cooking gas-5K, pure water @1bag/day- 3K, (128K so far, I hope) Then paying school fees, not top notch private schools at all @ 150 each child times 4 is 600K divided by 12 -50K This would most probably increase with increasing age and and level of education with Common Entrance,JAMB, SSCE,NECO, postUME etc all lurking/looming
Oil servicing same three changes per year (usually more but let’s make it three)@ 6k/change is 18K and times 2 cars is 36K then divided by 12 - 3K Clothing money for a year- 150K divided by 12- 12500K (I am sure I underquoted this one, maybe twice what I have submitted even) Okay toothpaste, toilet rolls, soap, body lotions, detergent-?5K Total so far -190something Miscellaneous has to come in, maybe-10K? So monthly total spending for the man is the above
Then the woman has to provide the food? And cannot buy in bulk because erratic power supply and etc? Say buys 4 chickens per month 10K and beef of 8K? Rice 50cups/month 5k, beans 40cups/month 3200K, crayfish 1painter 2500K, dried fish withstock fish 5K, tomatoes and pepper 10K, garri 6 painters 2100, yam 2K, vegetables 3K Ogbono 800, egusi 10 cups- 3000 Breakfast stuff 1K a day- 30K (100K so far) Okay this is a lot of spending ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif) Feeding is huge, but any woman who can do this is a pure gem to her man. I would want this kind of woman for my brother
In the scenario I created, the man spends 200 to 205K every month, and the woman spends 95-105K every month I actually like it, they are both showing up, and the man is doing substantially more as the head of the house Supposing they were both working with the Federal Public Complaints Commision and each is paid 150K/month, how would they do it? The man has to have side hustles, plenty Marriage in a country without any form of government financial support or risk protection is a huge thing to undertake This couple with the hypothetical salaries should have just have one child, or two at most But they are most likely to have 3,4,or 5
I have exhausted myself, and I don’t know why! Cheers
You even did this using four (4) kids, very nice. However, how many women still want to birth 4kids today when they have body goals to work towards? ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) The woman in the OP doesn't even have one child and she's complaining of feeding. Why will men not continue dying before their wives? And even after death, just like on another thread the other day, this is the kind of wife that will still be throwing a hissy-fit if her husband decides to will his wealth to the children and not to her. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Men gotta be wise in this generation abeg. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 12:06pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki:
I agree at wanting to just really want to play a supportive role I actually want to spend zero Naira ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
I know some bills are periodic, I just got the monthly equivalents for such. Not all workers get allowances like bankers. For us there is just that paltry housing allowance every month
With the country all twisted, and unemployment and underemployment everywhere, with extended family responsibilities too? I would love that lady for my brother if he is not a super rich Igbo man who is totally in control of finances, as provider in every sense of the word Well done at marriage Nodu ofuma
What about your daughter? Would you want to put her under such pressure? Remember a woman is under a natural pressure to breed and handle the home front. That's why God made men the major breadwinners . . . to give women the chance to breed! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 12:07pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
bukatyne: Was expectations not discussed during courtship?
And nothing pisses me off than spouses sweeping issues under the carpet when they should communicate.
Is eating bread or outside everyday the solution to the problem? ... the only solution to the bloody problem is what they've been doing before .. using her fcking salary to foot the bills of foodstuffs. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 12:08pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki:
We call it, nwanne, jee chuba/chuwa ego
Please interpret, I muss hear dis wan 2 Likes |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron: |Every other things like what When you are not feeding your family as a man, it nullifies every other thing you are doing. A man that waits for a woman to feed him. A man that shares his god giving responsibility of putting food on the table with his wife, that man is less OF a man. The new generation of men has watered down their responsibilities to the extent of delegating FEEDING, SHELTER AND SCHOOL FEES TO THEIR WIVES and still expect to be respected.
Let the wife provide the money, let the man buy and cook, i think the woman will agree to this since we are in the era of delegation since the man is suppose to do all this what on earth is the woman suppose to do. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 12:17pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
What about your daughter? Would you want to put her under such pressure?
Remember a woman is under a natural pressure to breed and handle the home front. That's why God made men the major breadwinners . . . to give women the chance to breed! ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) That’s the main implication of my post I don’t want it for me (and sister/daughter) But want it for my brother/son Shows up gender war for the hypocrisy that it is in my opinion I am gamophobic as a matter of fact. Too stressful, too limiting in most cases There must be really nice exceptions though I believe About the pressure to breed? ![lipsrsealed](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/lipsrsealed.png) |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 12:19pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
funmisticqueen: Being married to him is helping out plenty, let him be a man and buy foodstuffs . just look at this bullcrap. this is the kind if thing that makes a man not wanting to get married .. i swear if i no get babymama make i hear wetin happen. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 12:26pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus:
You even did this using four (4) kids, very nice.
However, how many women still want to birth 4kids today when they have body goals to work towards? ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
The woman in the OP doesn't even have one child and she's complaining of feeding. Why will men not continue dying before their wives?
And even after death, just like on another thread the other day, this is the kind of wife that will still be throwing a hissy-fit if her husband decides to will his wealth to the children and not to her. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) Men gotta be wise in this generation abeg. I have 4 kids . . . . And I'm not dead yet. Besides if I can sacrifice my body to breed, the man should sacrifice his finances to cater . . ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png) |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 12:27pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki:
That’s the main implication of my post I don’t want it for me (and sister/daughter) But want it for my brother/son Shows up gender war for the hypocrisy that it is in my opinion I am gamophobic as a matter of fact. Too stressful, too limiting in most cases There must be really nice exceptions though I believe About the pressure to breed? ![lipsrsealed](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/lipsrsealed.png)
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