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Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 12:29pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus: You will not understand . . . untill you get married! |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Gloriagee(f): 12:56pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
You don't know children now have rights. No time to eat what is not their spec. Mum, I want to throw up... ![]() merahki: 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 1:06pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: If every spending plan is to the last letter, with little or no cross overs? This is a very good deal for a woman in Nigeria today. On a second thought I wouldn’t mind it for myself if I really liked the man and wanted to get married to him I had to clarify this. What would be bad is if I was against contributing financially in a marriage and went ahead with the marriage, only to make myself and partner miserable with my resentment. If one has a problem with bringing money, they should say it upfront, so there won’t be marriage under false guises and expectations In other words, settling is dehumanising to everyone involved 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Theyoungmatron: 1:22pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
biGDhAp:Weekly clean 2 Daily clean 3 Vacuuming 4 Cleaning kitchen/bathroom 5 Heavy duty kitchen cleaning 6 Tidying up 7 Washing clothes 8 Washing bedding 9 Changing sheets 10 Ironing 11 Managing the family budget 12 BEARING THE BRUNT OF CHILD BIRTH/FAMILIY PLANNING AND POTENTIAL INFERTILITY 13 GIVING BIRTH 14 Organizing payment of utility bills 15 Liaising with school/nursery over everyday issues 16 Liaising with school/nursery over trips 17 Being the first person called if there's a problem at school/nursery 18 Packing schoolbags 19 Doing/supervising homework 20 Arranging childcare 21 Arranging applications for primary/secondary school 22 Arranging play dates 23 Taking children to schools 24 Organising birthday parties 25 Buying clothes 26 Organising Christmas 27 Buying family presents/cards 28 Managing hospitals appointments 29 Looking after children at evenings and weekends 30 Search for a nanny to look after the children at evenings and weekends 31 Reading bedtime stories 32 Looking after SICK children 33 Taking time off work to look after SICK children 34 Settling children that wake in the night 35 Organising birthday presents for family members 36 AND MANAGING YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS BULLSHITS 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 1:35pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron:.. lol .. are this done everyday ,weekly or monthly?? 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 1:40pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Really? You must tell me something oo. ![]() If I tell you say I don already cross that bridge before, the next thing you will then say is until I have 4 kids before I will understand. ![]() Aunty, go siddon abeg. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 1:42pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:More power to your 'Ukpa'. ![]() No wonder the subject of taking care of feeding alone wants to make you develop high BP. How much is your salary? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 1:48pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Gloriagee:That's if you spoil them. I know you will not agree. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 1:53pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron:If you are sure in your heart that you as a wife will do all of these and make them your primary responsibility without any assistance or complaints, then no problem. Unfortunately, you and I both know that after just two weeks of doing these yourself, you will still start complaining all over again. ![]() Nigerian women, na una way... 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Gloriagee(f): 2:03pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
It's not so much as spoiling them as much as knowing when to draw the line between letting children realise they are individuals as well as growing with an independent can do spirit and not spoiling them by giving In to their every demand. crackhaus: 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 2:12pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus: I'm not talking about myself . . I can handle ALL expenses on my salary and still have the resources to take a cruise around the world if I want to (no joke) . . But why should I? I'm not a single mother na . . what will now be his role as the OGA kpata kpata of the house ![]() ![]() ![]() And then what about this OP, who is not financially okay, and whose husband can comfortably provide feeding. Why won't he? I'm very happy to be submissive and remain in my supporting role biko, I am a WOMAN! |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 2:14pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus: I'll be very surprised if you are married . . You don't need four kids to know the effects, or feel the satisfaction of providing for your family and making your wife smile/glow. You are still a learner. |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 2:16pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron: Chop knuckle jor . . . ![]() |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Theyoungmatron: 2:19pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus:Of course, i do all this without complaining. Did i add that i still go to work to complement my husbands income. Handing off your sole responsibilities of providing for the family and expecting me to shut it is the height of injustice and responsibility. |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Theyoungmatron: 2:21pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
biGDhAp:You should get married to find out. Or maybe you should co-habit with married couples since you didn't grow up in a family house. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 2:43pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki: Exactly my point . . If you agree to it ab-initio, then it's not really an issue is it? But the reality is that women are already under great pressure at the home front, something has to give. Most women are actually willing to do the most they can to support their husbands . . Some women have the GRACE to provide and also be care-givers, I am NOT one of such women. I will not raise my daughters to be either . . ![]() |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 3:03pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron: Preach sister. Disclaimer note: The list is still incomplete. Theyoungmatron: Exactly! And on top of it all women still contribute to the family's income. Weaker vessel my foot. Then they will even have the guts to die earlier. ![]() biGDhAp: What a question! How old are you? You can't see that most of these things MUST be done daily and weekly? And when I say that only inexperienced boys argue on such threads, they get upset. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 3:19pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: You would be surprised at the extent people go to, to tie the knot -buying foodstuff and cooking them for boyfriend, giving his friends tasty (food) treats, weekly etc. How will this replete man know this girl is anti spending? She defers totally to him, cajoles him when he fights with his family, thanks him when he sends money home, his oo, etc. He has a little problem, she offers to give him a loan or a dash. He marries her saying, oh a helper finally, then he finds out she does not want to spend her dime at all and cannot stand his family I have seen a man who married a girl. She was not ready but only agreed because he came with all providing cylinders firing, providing for, and showering treats on her and her family. He was supposedly an investment banker with huge accounts everywhere. After the marriage she discovered that she had to spend the next 5 years using all her salary to zero every month. Providing man had no money and had no degree (the two things he sold to her before she agreed to marry him) Falsehood everywhere One day at the clinic a woman came in sick After clerking I realised that she was physically manifesting stress. And I only asked, nne what’s wrong? The dam broke. How she married a man who does not satisfy her in bed, and never has, does not give her money, who also wanted her to borrow money for their family. The kids had to discontinue schooling for lack of school fees How she stole his 10K that morning after she saw that sum and a condom in his pocket. How she needed to eat pepper soup(she showed me the money, and I encouraged her to eat pepper soup ![]() When I asked her why she married this man who could not satisfy her in bed and who would not give her money, she could not say much, but I think she also said it was time to do so I judged her for getting married and staying that unhappy. But I mostly felt like yanking her out of that marriage to her own space, she works and is young and can go it on her own. But no, because marriage I believe people can pretend and lie to dizzying extents just to get married Exhausting stuff You e-sound upfront and honest and that is admirable You clearly also have money and that ensures some independence and peace of mind. Nice |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by armyofone(m): 3:24pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
We've heard superwoman, supermom, strong woman helicopter mom etc Superdad, superman (only in Hollywood ![]() ![]() She forgot to add nightly bedroom duty to the list ![]() crackhaus: |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Theyoungmatron: 3:40pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Mindfulness:Their arguments pisses me off. ![]() ![]() ![]() We have accepted our fate so men should man up to their responsibilities. |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by Nobody: 3:47pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron: Do you want them to die at 40? ![]() I love the list you have compiled. Goes to show how much women work and accomplish. |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:00pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron:You do the 36 without his assistance whatsoever? This is what you and your friends want us to believe on this thread? Okay then. So which of you is married to the men who are hands-on in the home? ![]() Because anytime such topic comes up, it's usually these same group of ladies that be talking about how their husbands are hands-on with everything. ![]() Different day, different stories. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:04pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
armyofone:Ahh you too? ![]() So all of you are all married to the typical African man that doesn't assist with any of those 36 things she listed. I will be here when another topic comes up. If I see you talking about being married to a 'progressive' man who is hands-on, I will call you out. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 4:09pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
merahki: That's why men need to come to the realization that money matters to women, that way nobody cab deceive them. It's just like a man telling me 'I love you for you, not your body . . . ', when clearly the bottom line for most men is SEX! Even the ones that marry virgins want them to be experts in the bedroom . . . Same way a woman marrying a man under that guise of 'I don't need your money' is lying through her teeth. She may not need your money now, but any man should know that when the kids start coming his money will come in handy. Women stay in marriages for all the wrong reasons, that's why I encourage women to be financially independent. Money gives voice. You cannot be dishing out orders and having high expectations, and then come to demand for money for sanitary pads the next moment. Life is a bargain, you need to at least have some cards to play with I learnt it from my father,and I plan to pass it on to my daughters, God willing! 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:13pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Lmao... You're just trying too hard to shut me up. What is it about providing or making a woman smile/glow do you think I don't already know about? I should submit my résumé abi? ![]() Aunty go siddon abeg. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:19pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:If you had just said this at the beginning, there would have been no need for this teté a teté. ![]() I like that you recognize your husband's undisputed authority over you. I struck that bit out for the exaggeration. Even ogas for Chevron no dey talk like that. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:23pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Gloriagee:That was my point. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 4:32pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() That is why men should work hard and make money. You cannot be wanting submission when you are unable to feed your family. Even God will be upset with such an unrealistic expectation. |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 4:36pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus: You sound like my elder brother, who is busy baby-boy'ing in lekki, and yet will not accept that a bachelor like him knows nothing about life, and women ![]() |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:36pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Wow, this is the first time you will be so honest & realistic with the situation of things. On this one, we agree 100%. It is the reason why I have always been a resounding voice against the pseudo-feminists littered all over this forum. Everything I put in bold there, believe me, most Gs already know. Na women dey deceive themselves. It's the reason why we have never taken Nigerian women who preach equality serious cos we know wetin dey happen behind the scenes. Yesterday, a lady here was trying to prove to herself (definitely not me) that money can't buy her submission. If only she knew how much I laughed as I read that statement. She never see money be that, is all I could say to myself. One is on my WhatsApp uploading multiple status everyday having something to say about men this, men that, society this, society that, misogynist this, misogynist that, yet money is her love language. Give her money and she will dance. Abeg ee. Uju, we agree on something finally. 1 Like |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by UjuJoan2: 4:47pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
crackhaus: Aha . .. Now hell will freeze over! ![]() |
Re: See What Her Husband Did After She Refused To Buy Food Stuff In The Home by crackhaus: 4:48pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Your elder bro must be a real G. ![]() Is it not better he remains a bachelor and still get to enjoy everything that comes with marriage without signing any paper? ![]() |
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