I got married recently, and few weeks in, I Left for my work that takes me away for 6months international lng delivery voyage. My wife is a good woman but I find it had to get her attention online (whatsapp), as it is our only way of staying in touch while onboard. She is heavy n decided to move to her sister's place......my issues is that she get carried away by home chores n work that she creat little or no chat time for me. Ive complained several times but no improvement, so I resort to calling ppl who are in nja n online to place voice call to her for her to come online as I am currently in GMT+9 i find it even more difficult to get her as her sleep time is my day time and vice versa. She recently got angry one of those times I had my friend get her...said its embarrassing. Its hard for me as i constantly practically beg for attention. Worst i . a lot of girls wanting my attention but i want to stay clean but I sometimes feel deeply lonely coz of the nature of my job. My wife hardly pick her call ...u have to send entire community to call her before she picks on the 1000th attempt, I'm considering ordering her return to our house as she tend to seek approval from her ppl on slightest of things Pls advice as im getting worried

Cheat on her, that will get her attention

She's not really into you and as such doesn't miss you.

If you like stay there for years, she no seND you

Ehnn....before I leave don't forget to do DNA test on the baby she's carrying

Now you uploaded the chats, her lack of interest is written all over it. Pregnant women that seek attention like their lives depend on it.

The truth is someone is giving her that attention at your expense

If you mean she's heavy as been pregnant, then please don't cheat on her, shes going through a lot already but also you could simply drop her a message on WhatsApp, you'll know when she reads it or not from the blue ticks, and you pay attention to the time she replies, give it a time frame of 2 to 7 days and if you feel like you want more, then get another WhatsApp number to message her as someone els...just do better for all your sake. She might just be going through the motions or angry with you..

Mafia001:
If you mean she's heavy as been pregnant, then please don't cheat on her, shes going through a lot already but also you could simply drop her a message on WhatsApp, you'll know when she reads it or not from the blue ticks, and you pay attention to the time she replies, give it a time frame of 2 to 7 days and if you feel like you want more, then get another WhatsApp number to message her as someone els...just do better for all your sake. She might just be going through the motions or angry with you..

Thanks...will try

Why do men always have to play the "...or else I'm going to cheat " card ?

Cheat on your pregnant wife ? Seriously dude ?

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vizkiz:
You are a man gaddemmit!

You shouldn't beg for attention from anyone! What the fück happened to your ego?

If your wife is being a child, then you treat her like one. Oga fill your wants with other ladies around you. Abi you get disabilities for body? So why the fück you allowing a woman take your love for granted?

Whenever you send her a text and she isn't online, wait till she comes on then you get your share of attention from her. No just kee yourself untop woman matter. If you die, na other man go father your child.

FYI: it is quite obvious this was how you got her in thr first place. Acting like an attention starved freak. That kindda shìty attitude is disgusting to women. They love men who ain't dependant on a woman's attention. Alpha male kindda vibe.

PS: You sure say another guy no dey oil your woman engine so? Cus on a normal level, na she suppose dey take call disturb you.

[/s] You're bad!

Mariangeles:
Why do guys always have to play the "...or else I'm going to cheat " card ?

Cheat on your pregnant wife ? Seriously dude ?

Pls i never mention cheating....dont even have it in mind.

Honestly, she's not that into you dude. Maybe she's used to you not being around from your dating days.

Abi una no date? Because you didn't mention whether she changed.

abi dem force her to marry u?i know some guys beg their friends or parents to arrange wife for dem.hope urs is not like dat sha.

mikezuruki:
Honestly, she's not that into you dude. Maybe she's used to you not being around from your dating days.

Abi una no date? Because you didn't mention whether she changed.

maybe na all dose arrangee wife wey parents dey arrange for their son from village.its like she is not happy in d marriage.something like dem force her to marry op.

Don't disturb her again, don't send her messages, don't tell anyone to her and most importantly, do not send her money.

When she sees that you do not care anymore, the tables will turn.

Don't mention....

Officialgarri:
Don't disturb her again, don't send her messages, don't tell anyone to her and most importantly, do not send her money.

When she sees that you do not care anymore, the tables will turn.

Don't mention....

Thnx

Yours is better reason is she's pregnant. You don't take it out on her like that , she might be going through a lot . I have a girlfriend who hardly pays attention and wen I noticed that I just pulled out of the relationship gradually by given attention and got from someone who can't stay a day without calling me . Now we are ex . But in the case of your wife it's normal with all pregnant women .

Listen to Officialgarri on this but when she gets the message, stop.

To add to what he said, how is your communication like? Seriously, if your woman isn't reciprocating attention, it is possible that you normally talk is (hi Dear, how are you? Have you eaten? What did you eat? Yen yen yen).


And you may not be good in the bedroom. That is one way to domesticate a woman.

Women are like wild animals and has to be domesticated by: showing love, good sex, taking care(money is involved), good communication, etc.

Marriage needs constant effort to keep the 'fire' burning because when you marry, you see a lot of idiosyncrasies of women as they unfold. Take her out occasionally, feel young and free.

Inconsiderate selfish man!
Your wife is heavy with your child yet you stress her with house work, what stopped you from employing house helps that will assist her in house chores and for her to rest and enjoy her marriage?

Most people are really not into chatting!
I have several unopened message on WhatsApp and i reply when i feel like, to me, i prefer calling to chatting!

Besides you don't expect her to reply when you nag her all day and not showing any iota of care and romance?

You are just a selfish man that is looking for the slightest reason to cheat....don't you know pregnancy comes with its own wahala?
Incase you don't know, most pregnant women get irritated by their own husband during that period!
So,you berra enjoy it!!

If you can call other people be calling her nah.
Some just sing like chatting. Am taking you I know

koife:
I got married recently, and few weeks in, I Left for my work that takes me away for 6months international lng delivery voyage. My wife is a good woman but I find it had to get her attention online (whatsapp), as it is our only way of staying in touch while onboard. She is heavy n decided to move to her sister's place......my issues is that she get carried away by home chores n work that she creat little or no chat time for me. Ive complained several times but no improvement, so I resort to calling ppl who are in nja n online to place voice call to her for her to come online as I am currently in GMT+9 i find it even more difficult to get her as her sleep time is my day time and vice versa. She recently got angry one of those times I had my friend get her...said its embarrassing. Its hard for me as i constantly practically beg for attention. Worst i . a lot of girls wanting my attention but i want to stay clean but I sometimes feel deeply lonely coz of the nature of my job. My wife hardly pick her call ...u have to send entire community to call her before she picks on the 1000th attempt, I'm considering ordering her return to our house as she tend to seek approval from her ppl on slightest of things Pls advice as im getting worried

It's so sickening that most people dont see the problem here,they just busy ranting.
Six months onshore no funny my brother,its too much for her to bear..
Try to seek for another job. Newly married couples should be close...
maybe initially,she thought she could cope,buh she hasn't been finding it easy again.

Liliyann:
Inconsiderate selfish man!
Your wife is heavy with your child yet you stress her with house work, what stopped you from employing house helps that will assist her in house chores and for her to rest and enjoy her marriage?

Most people are really not into chatting!
I have several unopened message on WhatsApp and i reply when i feel like, to me, i prefer calling to chatting!

Besides you don't expect her to reply when you nag her all day and not showing any iota of care and romance?

You are just a selfish man that is looking for the slightest reason to cheat....don't you know pregnancy comes with its own wahala?
Incase you don't know, most pregnant women get irritated by their own husband during that period!
So,you berra enjoy it!!

Okay, let me put it to you that our home is pretty ok. I place my wife on salary even when she has a job of her own. The house chore I mentioned is at her sisters. She got used to the place coz she stayed with her sister before our marriage. She personally prefers it there coz she complaine of boredom back in our home. Issue is she get too involved with her sister home stuff that she forgets about me.....esp as her sister is always on business runs. So you see...try to get factz first before u type gibberish... I love my wife And she is a good woman but lacks in this area.....
So talk about selfness! Next time think before you type
Smh

HarunaWest:

It's so sickening that most people dont see the problem here,they just busy ranting.
Six months onshore no funny my brother,its too much for her to bear..
Try to seek for another job. Newly married couples should be close...
maybe initially,she thought she could cope,buh she hasn't been finding it easy again.

We are working on getting us a business while I get something else

zolajpower:
Yours is better reason is she's pregnant. You don't take it out on her like that , she might be going through a lot . I have a girlfriend who hardly pays attention and wen I noticed that I just pulled out of the relationship gradually by given attention and got from someone who can't stay a day without calling me . Now we are ex . But in the case of your wife it's normal with all pregnant women .

You have a point

vizkiz:
You are a man gaddemmit!

You shouldn't beg for attention from anyone! What the fück happened to your ego?

If your wife is being a child, then you treat her like one. Oga fill your wants with other ladies around you. Abi you get disabilities for body? So why the fück you allowing a woman take your love for granted?

Whenever you send her a text and she isn't online, wait till she comes on then you get your share of attention from her. No just kee yourself untop woman matter. If you die, na other man go father your child.

FYI: it is quite obvious this was how you got her in thr first place. Acting like an attention starved freak. That kindda shìty attitude is disgusting to women. They love men who ain't dependant on a woman's attention. Alpha male kindda vibe.

PS: You sure say another guy no dey oil your woman engine so? Cus on a normal level, na she suppose dey take call disturb you.

Why are you guys littered everywhere on nairaland spewing trash in the name of hardcore advice and damaging marriages?

Respect people's marriages!

Op,

Try and calm down. No issue is above solving with dialogue.

FortifiedCity:
She's not really into you and as such doesn't miss you.

If you like stay there for years, she no seND you

Ehnn....before I leave don't forget to do DNA test on the baby she's carrying

Insensitive

She's pregnant, it's just a mood swing, for you to be away for 6 months leaving a pregnant woman its emotionally stressful for her, she wants more than just chats she wants you back home, I believe right from the start she wasn't happy with the idea of you leaving for that job in the first place she's hurting

Liliyann:
Inconsiderate selfish man!
Your wife is heavy with your child yet you stress her with house work, what stopped you from employing house helps that will assist her in house chores and for her to rest and enjoy her marriage?

Most people are really not into chatting!
I have several unopened message on WhatsApp and i reply when i feel like, to me, i prefer calling to chatting!

Besides you don't expect her to reply when you nag her all day and not showing any iota of care and romance?

You are just a selfish man that is looking for the slightest reason to cheat....don't you know pregnancy comes with its own wahala?
Incase you don't know, most pregnant women get irritated by their own husband during that period!
So,you berra enjoy it!!

Do you even read at all?

I don't think your wife is really into you cos it appears she does not miss you

She is just bored as a young married person and find it difficult to cope with your absence there by leading to depression. As long as she is caring your baby, please never cut her salaries and stop listening to negative advises up there , dont just stop communicating. Some women are like that, they cant cope easily. And since she is not fighting you, just keep sending her messages ,when she carry her phone she will see it and if possibe you monitor the time she sees the messages and she is online, place a call through. Alternatively, let her go to her sister's place or call her sister to discuss her temporary staying with her, and always tip her something to her account from time to time. If you want to call her, call her sister instead and communicate well with both of them. If you are around, make sure you give her 100% attention and stay with her as much as possible even by assisting her doing her chores without being asked for. You dont have problem with your house, its just the way some women reacts to bore room.
My wife was like that on several occasions because i travel alot too. Until i came home one day and i noticed her phone is always far from her, and at times under the pillow while i do call. Anytime i wanted to travel, her mood will totally change and she would be acting cold. But, hey, businesses must go on.
Please dont suffer her. It may begin another round of worse problem.

Forreellinc:
Cheat on her, that will get her attention

You are too deep calm down......

Nairaland men are weak!
If your woman isn't replying your messages fast then stop sending her messages but OP answer these questions
Was she always like this before marriage?
Did you force her into marriage?
It could still be because of her pregnancy, maybe she's just moody but I encourage you to perform a DNA taste on the child.

FortifiedCity:
She's not really into you and as such doesn't miss you.

If you like stay there for years, she no seND you

Ehnn....before I leave don't forget to do DNA test on the baby she's carrying

Sense no go kee you....gbayi!!!