LilMissFavvy:
The spoilt brat needs to be disciplined thoroughly, feminism does not encourage women to be disrespectful to their husbands, that is why some feminist are happily married. Because the mother is against the man stopping payment of fees does not mean the child copied bad attitude from her mother.You should know how some mothers are, she is more worried how the daughter will cope without money, and is less worried about the need to discipline their daughter.

paraltero:
You guys' responses are exactly why so many Nigerian kids are not as close to their parents as the should be. You guys are so consumed by your god complexes that you don't realize that your behaviour gradually alienates your kids and makes them even less likely to ask you for stuff.

Be truthful to yourselves: most of you would rather ask your friends and colleagues for stuff before you ask your parents. How is that a healthy parent-child relationship? You guys have no idea what the difference is between a healthy relationship between parent(s) and child and disrespect.

Later it's the same you guys that would be asking your kids "why didn't you ask me? Why did you ask other people and not me?"

Continue perpetuating the same unhealthy dynamic with your own kids o. I hope it pans out well for y'all.

AmazonTopaz:
Silly girl.You wan bite the hand wey dey feed you
You go tell your daddy make him wash him plate and the man is still responsible for you and paying your school fees. You nor try at all the least you can do for someone taking care of you is to do things that would make such person happy not challenge them.

What does he mean by this? If the woman is also working nkor her husband should not assist her in the home front. While so self centered you want a wife who would be an asset and help you provide yet you cannot help her domestically

LilMissFavvy:
This has nothing to do with feminism. This is purely a bad attitude displayed by a spoilt child. She must have got spoilt after relocating to live abroad. Feminism does not encourage females to be disobedient to their parents.

LilMissFavvy:
This has nothing to do with feminism. This is purely a bad attitude displayed by a spoilt child. She must have got spoilt after relocating to live abroad. Feminism does not encourage females to be disobedient to their parents.

paraltero:


If throwing insults is how you make your point, you can do better.

If my kid asks me to do the dishes and I'm disposed to, then why not? What is so wrong with washing dishes? If the child was not there, wouldn't I still do the dishes myself?

And yes, I can ask my parents to help me do the dishes because they're not insecure buttholes.

willy2000:


If the mother had done a proper job on her daughter, the daughter would not be rude and spoilt to bite and be arrogant to the finger that is feeding her.

This is even common sense, you should be loyal and grateful to your benefactors, so long your pride and dignity are intact.

LilMissFavvy:
So teaching children good morals is only a woman's responsibility? Hmm.

willy2000:


Whose responsibility is it to teach a girl how to cook? Or did your father teach you kitchen etiquette?

switsylver:

You still could not hide your feminist claws. Even when he stated that a man can do that when there is need to support his wife you still reared the ugly nature of who you are, feminism is no virtue!

Piercy:
I grew up in a home where boys and girls did their dishes, cooked, swept, did the cleaning of the house irrespective of gender all examples my father himself sets.
seven kids in the home, both mom and dad did everything and every chores to raise each properly, so the fact the husband refuses to fund his daughters education for such is stupid to me, I know it's wrong but punish her with something else not her education.
I can imagine the dirty slap my dad will give you for not washing your plates or help in the kitchen because you saw three girls relaxing when they deserved it lol your brain will remember gender equality for the house.
I hope to raise my kids this way, a woman is not a slave nor a servant, fact is put her in that position to get money for the family and she will do it, so why can't you help when you can, take sometime cook for her, do the dishes, bath the kids, I am a guy I already know alot about raising a kid seeing my dad do same for me and the others.

this is not feminism it's the real truth, a woman is your partner, your second half not some equipment to achieve your aim.

paraltero:
The funny thing is this article never explicitly said she was rude or said it in a manner that lacked respect. The article only implied from what was said that it must have been rude.

What if she's busy and couldn't do his dishes and asked him to do it himself so dirty dishes wouldn't stay stinking up the kitchen.

Besides, prior to this, she must have been doing his dishes so for her to ask him to do it himself, there has to be a context we aren't getting.

But of course, in their haste to justify their regular bashing of feminism, Nigerian men are already here, because food done done for them.
Fool's comment....Stupid people like this one everywhere....What happens to respect and our values as Africans. Soon she'll also bring in men into her father's house because some fools like this who doesn't know the difference between Gender Equality and Respect ( especially parental respect) talking about Feminism

paraltero:
You guys' responses are exactly why so many Nigerian kids are not as close to their parents as the should be. You guys are so consumed by your god complexes that you don't realize that your behaviour gradually alienates your kids and makes them even less likely to ask you for stuff.

Be truthful to yourselves: most of you would rather ask your friends and colleagues for stuff before you ask your parents. How is that a healthy parent-child relationship? You guys have no idea what the difference is between a healthy relationship between parent(s) and child and disrespect.

Later it's the same you guys that would be asking your kids "why didn't you ask me? Why did you ask other people and not me?"

Continue perpetuating the same unhealthy dynamic with your own kids o. I hope it pans out well for y'all.

Piercy:
I grew up in a home where boys and girls did their dishes, cooked, swept, did the cleaning of the house irrespective of gender all examples my father himself sets.
seven kids in the home, both mom and dad did everything and every chores to raise each properly, so the fact the husband refuses to fund his daughters education for such is stupid to me, I know it's wrong but punish her with something else not her education.
I can imagine the dirty slap my dad will give you for not washing your plates or help in the kitchen because you saw three girls relaxing when they deserved it lol your brain will remember gender equality for the house.
I hope to raise my kids this way, a woman is not a slave nor a servant, fact is put her in that position to get money for the family and she will do it, so why can't you help when you can, take sometime cook for her, do the dishes, bath the kids, I am a guy I already know alot about raising a kid seeing my dad do same for me and the others.

this is not feminism it's the real truth, a woman is your partner, your second half not some equipment to achieve your aim.

Lleigh:


We will get shouted at but this is what is happening right now to children. Someone was saying the exact thing recently. Her words were why do you think most Nigerian children are not close to their children? But the house I grew up in my father cooked and when visits me there is nothing in the sink. I wash up as I go anyway, and I also get a do you want me to make the rice for dinner. If we can't speak to our parents for help who do we speak to. Or will you say a child should never ask her father to feed his grandchild.
If we don't change we will be raising children the same way, we were raised that was wrong. But the parents did it because of the way the were raised...

Imagine the curses rained on kids all because they did something wrong a child would do. Or the implements used to punish us as kids is it still right to use electrical wire on a child all in the name of discipline.

Anyway, there could be more to the story.

Piercy:
I grew up in a home where boys and girls did their dishes, cooked, swept, did the cleaning of the house irrespective of gender all examples my father himself sets.
seven kids in the home, both mom and dad did everything and every chores to raise each properly, so the fact the husband refuses to fund his daughters education for such is stupid to me, I know it's wrong but punish her with something else not her education.
I can imagine the dirty slap my dad will give you for not washing your plates or help in the kitchen because you saw three girls relaxing when they deserved it lol your brain will remember gender equality for the house.
I hope to raise my kids this way, a woman is not a slave nor a servant, fact is put her in that position to get money for the family and she will do it, so why can't you help when you can, take sometime cook for her, do the dishes, bath the kids, I am a guy I already know alot about raising a kid seeing my dad do same for me and the others.

this is not feminism it's the real truth, a woman is your partner, your second half not some equipment to achieve your aim.

Beetobee:
Papa,I support you 100%. What utmost nonsense! She needs to be relocated to a university in Naija where she'll be running upandan to secure a seat in the lecture hall.

Piercy:
I grew up in a home where boys and girls did their dishes, cooked, swept, did the cleaning of the house irrespective of gender all examples my father himself sets.
seven kids in the home, both mom and dad did everything and every chores to raise each properly, so the fact the husband refuses to fund his daughters education for such is stupid to me, I know it's wrong but punish her with something else not her education.
I can imagine the dirty slap my dad will give you for not washing your plates or help in the kitchen because you saw three girls relaxing when they deserved it lol your brain will remember gender equality for the house.
I hope to raise my kids this way, a woman is not a slave nor a servant, fact is put her in that position to get money for the family and she will do it, so why can't you help when you can, take sometime cook for her, do the dishes, bath the kids, I am a guy I already know alot about raising a kid seeing my dad do same for me and the others.

this is not feminism it's the real truth, a woman is your partner, your second half not some equipment to achieve your aim.

LilMissFavvy:
Is cooking good morals? I am talking about good morals not duties/house chores. Both parents are supposed to train up their children, not only the mother. If the lady has character flaws, then both parents failed to train her well, or maybe she was influenced negatively from peers. I wonder what people gain rushing to blame women by all means.

willy2000:


Did you read the op's post at all, or you could not comprehend the post?

obinnawhyte:

Your problem is preconceived idea of something you rarely understand. Feminism I suppose is about Gender equality while the post is about Respect ( especially parental respect) and our values as Nigerians.

willy2000:


The bone of contention here is kitchen etiquette, asking an elderly person to do dishes shows such a kid lacks kitchen etiquette.
And if you do ask your father to do his dishes after eating, then good for you.
Hopefully, your daughter will ask you to cook and wash their laundry for them, while they slay around.

obinnawhyte:

Fool's comment....Stupid people like this one everywhere....What happens to respect and our values as Africans. Soon she'll also bring in men into her father's house because some fools like this who doesn't know the difference between Gender Equality and Respect ( especially parental respect) talking about Feminism

Inception:


Please read the OP's post again. But this time read it CAREFULLY to be sure you understand the bone of contention here.

This also applies to the person that liked your post.

AntiBrutus:
Poor girl,

She read and took the feminism handbook too serious.

LilMissFavvy:
This has nothing to do with feminism. This is purely a bad attitude displayed by a spoilt child. She must have got spoilt after relocating to live abroad. Feminism does not encourage females to be disobedient to their parents.

Piercy:



I did , I don't understand his refusal to further his own child's education, punish the child like I said if it belittles you which it does to we Africans it's an insult out rightly but you yourself would agree that education aspect is rather wrong

Piercy:



I did , I don't understand his refusal to further his own child's education, punish the child like I said if it belittles you which it does to we Africans it's an insult out rightly but you yourself would agree that education aspect is rather wrong

LilMissFavvy:
Did I in anyway support what the girl did? I can see you want to drag me by force into a banter of words with you, otherwise you would not mention my father. You are very stupid to force words on me, where did I support what she did? Bastard!