Thoniameek:


Dude please!...

You're just scared of rejection and maybe a lack of confidence in some areas too...


Simply because some women show interest in you does not mean you cannot go for other women that you are interested in... It's like you're consoling yourself with the women who are interested in you.

Whoever you are or however you look they'll still be people that'd warm up to you. And the number increases with looks and other attributes and/or virtues.

Toast woman or no toast woman, women dey wey go draw near you. No come use as excuse not to toast woman or come dey feel super because news flash, it happens to everyone!

stop this brainwashing. no one was born to be rejected or to get used to rejection. you're talking trash now.

why don't you girls approach men yourselves? it's because you're scared of rejection. all you girls just wanna enjoy turning guys down. it builds your ego. well that needs to end.
No green lights, no approaching!!!

Kingsteve:
OP, I don't mean to rain on your parade, but no amount of miseducation will change the dating status quo.
It is what it is!
Yes...there might be improvements when the miseducation is applied on the right candidate, but it will never change the status quo.

Some things never change...ever!

I know:

ubunja:
very true.

Our destinies as genders are set. Individual men here and there can Cross over the floor and become champions but a gender-wide shift is not going to happen

delectablegyal modestbrowser

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ubunja:
stop this brainwashing. no one was born to be rejected or to get used to rejection. you're talking trash now.

why don't you girls approach men yourselves? it's because you're scared of rejection. all you girls just wanna enjoy turning guys down. it builds your ego. well that needs to end.
No green lights, no approaching!!!

Ogbanje! Pack well

I'm not here to sugar coat things to you lot.

Rejection is part of life. Yes! No one was born to be rejected but it happens!

It's one of life's numerous ways of building us. It's like saying no one is born to be wealthy **rolling my eyeballs**

Having said that.... All of your write-ups are your perspective, your opinion, your experience and isn't the standardized way of living and so you should stop brain washing people!

You all are so little livered these days it's pathetic. Can you imagine it scares you to walk up to a woman? It's hilarious

I pray we don't have any wars because they'll be no men to fight

I will and I have effortlessly wooed a man. He's rejection meant he wasn't feeling it and not that there is something wrong with me

ubunja:
you girls are stingy with sex that's why you stay away from sex threads

Bro This is a real eye opener..if only niggas cud pick some points from this writeup and enjoy the benefits of being chased by a soft doll (Lady) Lol..It even douses the tension from ur own side and she would mostly likely do anything to make you happy and always wanna impress you...I've been in several shoes and I know what it feels like to enjoy a lady's chase...But still those wimps will never listen and they will still come back here to lament how they spent fortune on a lady and she Rejected them "Like Wtf"

@Ubunja.. Thanks for this Piece Gee.Comtinue to emancipate balls of men..I had to go read all the miseducation from the first Lol

Thoniameek:


Dude please!...

You're just scared of rejection and maybe a lack of confidence in some areas too...


Simply because some women show interest in you does not mean you cannot go for other women that you are interested in... It's like you're consoling yourself with the women who are interested in you.

Whoever you are or however you look they'll still be people that'd warm up to you. And the number increases with looks and other attributes and/or virtues.

Toast woman or no toast woman, women dey wey go draw near you. No come use as excuse not to toast woman or come dey feel super because news flash, it happens to everyone!

This woman sef.

Why would I want to go through the stress of hitting on an average naija babe, try to impress her,make her laugh, and spend on her, when I've got those same naija babes and even better ones flocking around me and showing me love?

Does it even make sense to you?

No denying, I see women I like and would like to have but then I immediately compare them to the ones I already have and the attraction evaporates instantly. Like wetin she get wey I no dey see everyday? shuuu!! Dem dey use am beg me sef.

It doesn't mean I'm not confident enough to woo them. I meet a lot of women every week and I talk with them comfortably. In most cases I could tell they're expecting me to take it further but I was only having an innocent conversation.

Very few people can make me feel less confident and women aren't one. Damn!

pansophist:


You should be ashamed of yourself. You that have something important to do, why are you here shaming him? Cant you see that it clearly doesnt work? Can you point out one sentence in his post that is not correct? Do you still have any cell in your brain that is capable of processing logic instead of adhominem? Agbaya

Next time, move on, dont write rubbish. No one is interested in your shaming tactics. It is possible for someone to have an amazing life offline, and enjoying writing online, helping and engaging people. At the end, no statue or appreciation is ever awarded to a critic, but to heroes. Mumu

Stop ranting. Why is he shaming women& is always so pained when he gets hit back by his own stones? How can any one without a mental disorder call his own mother, sisters and daughters hoes and goal diggers.

Why call me agbaya when you are way older.

Tell the loser to stop dreaming. His essays are nonsensical and hold no meaning at all.

All we read is all women are hoes all women are gold diggers. Thats blatant lunacy coming from a confirmed homosexual without a life on and off line.

If he could divert his energy to something meaningful instead of essays relieving him of no pain, he wont be here shaming ALL women including his own mother.

I mean how will this dude ever get out of poverty wasting energy on watery fantasies? As all i see as his problem is POVERTY. No money to spend on them lassies. Money makes it all happen. With it he will stop whining like a wounded dog and get any woman.

He needs some wise men like us to jolt him back to reality. I am glad people are beginning to realise he is in pain and cant hancle it hence the nuisancical shallow write ups.

Ubunja misedications is TOTAL CRAP!

BLUEJAYY:
This woman sef.

Why would I want to go through the stress of hitting on an average naija babe, try to impress her,make her laugh, and spend on her, when I've got those same naija babes and even better ones flocking around me and showing me love?

Does it even make sense to you?

No denying, I see women I like and would like to have but then I immediately compare them to the ones I already have and the attraction evaporates instantly. Like wetin she get wey I no dey see everyday? shuuu!! Dem dey use am beg me sef.

It doesn't mean I'm not confident enough to woo them. I meet a lot of women every week and I talk with them comfortably. In most cases I could tell they're expecting me to take it further but I was only having an innocent conversation.

Very few people can make me feel less confident and women aren't one. Damn!

Oh I see...

It's your excuse to live the play boy life eh

So you can be like "woman, I didn't come after you, you did" if she tries to throw a tantrum about your lifestyle

You can't/don't woo women because you don't want to commit and so don't want to make promises you can't keep

Well done!

In other words you're scared of having your heart broken by someone you've put in so much effort to get

Thoniameek:


Oh I see...

It's your excuse to live the play boy life eh

So you can be like "woman, I didn't come after you, you did" if she tries to throw a tantrum about your lifestyle

You can't/don't woo women because you don't want to commit and so don't want to make promises you can't keep

Well done!

In other words you're scared of having your heart broken by someone you've put in so much effort to get

Yeah I don't want to commit. I'm not the romantic relationship type. It would interest you to know that I don't even love so the fear of having my heart broken isn't even a thing to me. I do only FWBs.

Call me a playboy, your opinion. What I know is, all my life I haven't broken a sweat on getting women. Not just women, but good, smart, enlightened and beautiful women.

I let them know I'm not a committed kind of person so they know what they're getting into upfront. So I'm not playing any games.

Problem is, they totally ignore my warning and take it up as a kind of challenge to try to change me.
Too bad they don't succeed.

MariaLavina:
Wao! finally read it! I must confess it isn't a waste of time and it is 90% true. Kudos Ubunja!

However, I will advice guys reading this to be cautious in applying this write up, Please before you apply this know who you are dealing with. Does that lady fit all the description up there? What is her love language? what if her's is words of affirmation and you are busy following your 'I don't say I love you' principle. Please be wise and ensure balance in your reasoning, Nothing hurt more than losing a loved one by your mistakes.

That said, How does one love who loves him/her? I want to know because by experience that's like mission impossible.




BTW Pansophist, you will like this.

Common Maria, don't let us act as if most nigerian ladies are marrying because of love, who nigerian love help sef?
Alot of ladies marry because they are growing old and running out of good options, money etc. That is why there is so much married women fvcking around today because the guys love them more than they do.
Also, most ladies date guys they don't love much, it is due to constant gifts, persuasion, rigorius effort from the guy that will convince the lady and make her love back.
So if guys are doing that back there is no prob.

BLUEJAYY:
Yeah I don't want to commit. I'm not the romantic relationship type. It would interest you to know that I don't even love so the fear of having my heart broken isn't even a thing to me. I do only FWBs.

Call me a playboy, your opinion. What I know is, all my life I haven't broken a sweat on getting women. Not just women, but good, smart, enlightened and beautiful women.

I let them know I'm not a committed kind of person so they know what they're getting into upfront. So I'm not playing any games.

Problem is, they totally ignore my warning and take it up as a kind of challenge to try to change me.
Too bad they don't succeed.

Cut the crap about not breaking a sweat to get a woman

Aside your God given looks (you might look like a chimpanzee for all I care), you try to look good

You use cologne, have sense of fashion just enticing enough to attract the women.

Now, you've successfully switch roles with the women. Why do you think women bother so much to look good and they would go as far getting surgeries for that purpose...

As far as I'm concerned you spend more time grooming yourself than the average guy and that's if you're not too financially buoyant or wealthy or a fine boy.

Either one of the above would work in getting you plenty of women

It's established that there are still people of the opposite sex who would naturally warm up to you. And that is nothing to boast about. Shikina

MariaLavina:
You have a point, but our perception of love differs. You are talking about the superficial love, I meant the natural unconditional love. And my question remain how can one suddenly start loving a person because he or she is the available one (the one that loves you). No matter how much I've read or heard about that, I can't seem to understand or even try it. The one I love is whom I love not whom I learn to love. Focusing on a person will only allow you get to know the person more but does not automatically make you love him or her.


Now , This is why I sounded a note of warning the other time. You lots make a mistake of generalizing your ideas, opinions and views. You think all women are the same and so should be handled same way. In your minds, what works for Stella will definitely work for Sandra and that's where you get it all wrong. Some women can not learn to love.

Then you focus on the ones that loves.
See I don't agree with a lot of Ubunjas articles and his views but this particular one is spot on, it is very practical experience in my life.

How can a man waste his time pursuing a woman that has no time for him? You leave precious time you should focus on business and adding value to your life, wasting it on pursuing a woman.

That is why we hear stories of men committing suicide because of woman. Total rubbish.

And the part he said about being a better you is right. Add great value to your self. Dress well. Speak well. Expand your world view and you will see you won't even have time for low lives.

ubunja:

hate. on EVERY thread.

get well soon.

You seem to recognise hate only when its extended to you not when you extend it to others. Lucifer is all you need.

drLammy:
Bro This is a real eye opener..if only niggas cud pick some points from this writeup and enjoy the benefits of being chased by a soft doll (Lady) Lol..It even douses the tension from ur own side and she would mostly likely do anything to make you happy and always wanna impress you...I've been in several shoes and I know what it feels like to enjoy a lady's chase...But still those wimps will never listen and they will still come back here to lament how they spent fortune on a lady and she Rejected them "Like Wtf"

@Ubunja.. Thanks for this Piece Gee.Comtinue to emancipate balls of men..I had to go read all the miseducation from the first Lol

dating is easy when you do it right my g. and being chased is a feeling second to none. for the first time you feel valuable. you feel your worth as a man.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qqGKxyVcJZE

Thoniameek:


Ogbanje! Pack well

I'm not here to sugar coat things to you lot.

Rejection is part of life. Yes! No one was born to be rejected but it happens!

It's one of life's numerous ways of building us. It's like saying no one is born to be wealthy **rolling my eyeballs**

Having said that.... All of your write-ups are your perspective, your opinion, your experience and isn't the standardized way of living and so you should stop brain washing people!

You all are so little livered these days it's pathetic. Can you imagine it scares you to walk up to a woman? It's hilarious

I pray we don't have any wars because they'll be no men to fight

I will and I have effortlessly wooed a man. He's rejection meant he wasn't feeling it and not that there is something wrong with me

you approached 1 man got rejected once now you want all men to follow your example?

only fools will do that. I'm glad so many guys see my view and agree.

NO GREEN LIGHTS, NO APPROACH.

Thats the motto here on The Miseducations.

MariaLavina:
You have a point, but our perception of love differs. You are talking about the superficial love, I meant the natural unconditional love. And my question remain how can one suddenly start loving a person because he or she is the available one (the one that loves you). No matter how much I've read or heard about that, I can't seem to understand or even try it. The one I love is whom I love not whom I learn to love. Focusing on a person will only allow you get to know the person more but does not automatically make you love him or her.


Now , This is why I sounded a note of warning the other time. You lots make a mistake of generalizing your ideas, opinions and views. You think all women are the same and so should be handled same way. In your minds, what works for Stella will definitely work for Sandra and that's where you get it all wrong. Some women can not learn to love.

Hi,
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, but when something is above average it's okay to use a general statement.
Bye

BLUEJAYY:
This woman sef.

Why would I want to go through the stress of hitting on an average naija babe, try to impress her,make her laugh, and spend on her, when I've got those same naija babes and even better ones flocking around me and showing me love?

Does it even make sense to you?

No denying, I see women I like and would like to have but then I immediately compare them to the ones I already have and the attraction evaporates instantly. Like wetin she get wey I no dey see everyday? shuuu!! Dem dey use am beg me sef.

It doesn't mean I'm not confident enough to woo them. I meet a lot of women every week and I talk with them comfortably. In most cases I could tell they're expecting me to take it further but I was only having an innocent conversation.

Very few people can make me feel less confident and women aren't one. Damn!

don't mind her my Gee.
just listen to how women talk about Davido, Wiz Kid and all the other celebs. they don't mind chasing those. but when it's an average guy he must not be chased. they just want an upper hand in dating not to see sense and admit it.

typical talk from a typical woman.

Thoniameek:


Oh I see...

It's your excuse to live the play boy life eh

So you can be like "woman, I didn't come after you, you did" if she tries to throw a tantrum about your lifestyle

You can't/don't woo women because you don't want to commit and so don't want to make promises you can't keep

Well done!

In other words you're scared of having your heart broken by someone you've put in so much effort to get

no green lights, no approach


dating according to The Miseducations

Thoniameek:


Cut the crap about not breaking a sweat to get a woman

Aside your God given looks (you might look like a chimpanzee for all I care), you try to look good

You use cologne, have sense of fashion just enticing enough to attract the women.

Now, you've successfully switch roles with the women. Why do you think women bother so much to look good and they would go as far getting surgeries for that purpose...

As far as I'm concerned you spend more time grooming yourself than the average guy and that's if you're not too financially buoyant or wealthy or a fine boy.

Either one of the above would work in getting you plenty of women

It's established that there are still people of the opposite sex who would naturally warm up to you. And that is nothing to boast about. Shikina

okay?? why does him not approaching and chasing women bother you so much? what's your beef really??

djon78:



Then you focus on the ones that loves.
See I don't agree with a lot of Ubunjas articles and his views but this particular one is spot on, it is very practical experience in my life.

How can a man waste his time pursuing a woman that has no time for him? You leave precious time you should focus on business and adding value to your life, wasting it on pursuing a woman.

That is why we hear stories of men committing suicide because of woman. Total rubbish.

And the part he said about being a better you is right. Add great value to your self. Dress well. Speak well. Expand your world view and you will see you won't even have time for low lives.

exactly, be the best YOU that you can be and the girl who notices is the girl you only give your time.

this thing of men going around approaching 100 random girls everyday needs to end. that's how girl's egos have run out of control for nothing.

girls feel good turning down men in the most atrocious manner. don't give them that satisfaction. No Green Lights, No Approach.

ubunja:
all the posts are coming in order Bros.

Just that they're many and I select randomly what to post.

PLS WE REALLY NEED THE APPROACH ARTICLE. THANKS

ubunja:
stop this brainwashing. no one was born to be rejected or to get used to rejection. you're talking trash now.

why don't you girls approach men yourselves? it's because you're scared of rejection. all you girls just wanna enjoy turning guys down. it builds your ego. well that needs to end.
No green lights, no approaching!!!

Quit whining and say something different please

No one is begging or forcing you to woo any woman. The fact that this is even an issue to you lots means something is seriously wrong with you all.

I thought they said men are hunters and enjoy the trill

Oh well the world is shifting and nature always have a way to deal with anomalies. I'm sure they are plenty of women that would comfortable come and woo you lots but don't just forget to give green lights sha

Thoniameek:



Quit whining and say something different please

No one is begging or forcing you to woo any woman. The fact that this is even an issue to you lots means something is seriously wrong with you all.

I thought they said men are hunters and enjoy the trill

Oh well the world is shifting and nature always have a way to deal with anomalies. I'm sure they are plenty of women that would comfortable come and woo you lots but don't just forget to give green lights sha

well you thought wrong. men are telling you now.

accept it Or continue living in delusion.

ubunja:
okay?? why does him not approaching and chasing women bother you so much? what's your beef really??

Beef?! I like snails instead

I'm not bothered, why does it have to be a thing to boast about?

It's of no significance who does the wooing if you all are free minded like you're claiming to be

But it's rather about taking whatever power you feel a woman has. You like them being hoes, it makes you feel good about yourself

The more powerless a woman is the stronger you lots feel but you're forgetting what giving us the lead means... In no time you would want a place in the kitchen too and would fight for us to go to work and see how difficult it is to earn money

I cannot just wait

Thoniameek:


Beef?! I like snails instead

I'm not bothered, why does it have to be a thing to boast about?

It's of no significance who does the wooing if you all are free minded like you're claiming to be

But it's rather about taking whatever power you feel a woman has. You like them being hoes, it makes you feel good about yourself

The more powerless a woman is the stronger you lots feel but you're forgetting what giving us the lead means... In no time you would want a place in the kitchen too and would fight for us to go to work and see how difficult it is to earn money

I cannot just wait

so you're OK that men must stop chasing women?

ubunja:
so you're OK that men must stop chasing women?

Smh....

It's not important

I have the power to make you chase me if I have what you want, whether you decide to chase me or not is not important. But it's different if I like you too, I'd give the green lights. Some women will tell you

It has always been like this and I don't know why it's something to argue about

Thoniameek:


Smh....

It's not important

I have the power to make you chase me if I have what you want, whether you decide to chase me or not is not important. But it's different if I like you too, I'd give the green lights. Some women will tell you

It has always been like this and I don't know why it's something to argue about

you miss what this all about. once you show interest first, you're already chasing. because if he ignores you then you get hurt. you see??

When you come down to reality you let me know

Every no is a rejection

When your first job application turned you down did you say oh wait! I'm just going to sit at home and let the companies come looking for me instead. This applies to every area of life too

Please find another excuse to be chickens