jnrbayano:
After writing rubbish you put a wink in it as if you made sense making the write up more dumb

Lol

Children need good mentors as fathers mothers , aunt and uncles

[quote author=pocohantas post=79801218]I always wonder how men have so much to write and say about women,

With so much certainty, you will think they are women themselves.

Yet in another breathe, they say they don't understand women.

How can you speak so much of something you do not understand? How?[/quote
don't kill me with laughter.

Lol...
This ur comment dey make my bella roll ooo

pocohantas:
I always wonder how men have so much to write and say about women,

With so much certainty, you will think they are women themselves.

Yet in another breathe, they say they don't understand women.

How can you speak so much of something you do not understand? How?

franchasng:
I will tell you why later, so stay close

Hmmm girls don do u something. But in all honesty u should be telling yourself this.

Safitu:
So then what is it? Can you kindly explain it to me then? If a woman has standards, that are realistic and substantial to her life, what is the issue?

No issue at all, but most times women don't set realistic goals in life. They set unrealistic plans and goals, they live by ferry tales instead of facing reality.

Most men, not all, most men are realistic with life when they want to choose a life partner; they consider realistic qualities but ladies will be blabbing: I want a tall, dark, fair, short, rich, educated, God fearing, faithful, romantic, adventurous, intelligent man who is very endowed down stairs and good in bed, how

You must decide the qualities that matters most to you; is it his financial worth or his looks or his commitment to God or his intelligence or his fidelity to you or what exactly do u want Prioritize them and stop wishing to have everything in one man. You are searching for 5 different types of men in one man, how

A handsome rich guy will most likely not be faithful to you and may not be committed to religious activities.

A highly religious man maybe faithful but will most likely not be romantic and good in bed.

But men always prioritize the qualities they need most in their would be wife; some want good cook and home keeper and they go for it not minding her financial status or her looks or her family or educational background.

Some men want sexy hot working class ladies, they go for it and forget her cooking and home keeping skills.

Ladies should also be realistic with life so they can be more happy and enjoy life, that's my point okay

Safitu:
aka How dare a woman have standards, she better just accept any and anything that comes her way. Even if he’s wretched, no purpose and empty, you better accept him like that because he might just be your husband.

Can you go into a brothel and marry an ashewo? Men always accept women for they can offer them NOW, they don’t look into future prospects, so why can’t women do the same? What absolute rubbish.

nobody is telling you to marry such a man you mentioned....but don't you think is foolish for a lady to have a standard of she must marry a medical doctor while she herself is a secondary school drop out.
ur mother got married to ur father without a car....but you are saying any guy you date must have a ride.
Such a guy now date and dump you after a while ..... you now cursing him.....do you think such a guy is a fool to no if he loose his car one day she might dump him becos dat wat attracted her.
alot of ladies makes foolish mistakes all the in the name of desiring wat good....your desires must have limit.
you are broke and you saying you can't date broke guys.
which rich guy also want to date a broke lady...he can do dat just to bang and after he is tired of it ....he move to the next fool who is broke and also want a rich guy.

jnrbayano:


The 3 As in your moniker seems to be the only 3 As you had in all your academic studying

No?

I laff

My bro, you are right. Am an Igbo guy, but i ended up with an Edo girl. All the Igbo girls I ever liked and desired exhibited 99percent of the above.

My bro, this Edo girl never asked me for a dime.. infact she loved me first which was the only thing I wanted. On the first date I wasn't ready but she sponsored with the little amount of money she had and it was fun... My pretty Igbo girls were busy asking me for 10k,6k,80k..etc....and I will be like ...is this love thing all about money or what? According to them, it is to check if I could take care of her in future...And my question is do I look hungry?...No....The money to me is not an issue,but this means am only buying your love with money....that means you don't love me for whom I am,but for what I own....this drama lasted for years.... little wonder why most of these girls have the mind to cheat their husbands even after several kids,because they never loved him....they only loved his money...(which is the major determinant of love for today's girls)

Last last Edo girl relaxed with me( mind you,she loved me without sex).... One day she summoned the courage to ask me how much I earn monthly... I told her with evidence... She was so surprised saying that I never looked that rich... I smiled.. today she has a beautiful baby boy for me..... And by GOD'S grace... The story has become a beautiful love story between the Edo tribe and the Igbo tribe. .. Did I mention she is also a virgin?? ... .Yes, bro she is...

My advice for guys is to go for what you want... I needed true love I waited for it... If it's beauty you want( mind you My Edo wife is damn pretty)... Just make sure you are happy.

As for me I can't stand the domineering and money mongering attitude of some girls...love is not salary work.... It is a life time commitment....

Pls, be patient, search for what you want.. do not let any girl intimidate you... Look her in the eyes and make known you conviction.... If she compares you with other guys... Compare her with better girls... But, by and large.. the special one is actually around you... She is not far from you... You just need to look carefully.

Facts bro.
Nothing buh facts.
It pains me that yoy keep spilling the truths to them.
Left for me, let them do wht suits them, a prudent man knows a good woman when he see one.
Besides, the existence of the bad eggs will make you cherish the good ones.
Nice thread dude.
Im a fan on a low

franchasng:
The topic is; some reasons majority of single or married ladies ended up with the wrong guys as boyfriends and husbands

So its not about the single ladies alone but married ladies are also included because most married ladies you see today are not happily married, some are suffering and smiling, some are enduring because of their kids and because of what people will say, some are still married for the goodies they are getting from their supposed husband, but deep down their hearts, they are not happy; they wished they married someone better and I tell you, at one point in their life they met wonderful guy(s) who would have made them so proud and happy but some of the reasons I am about to share made them lose those great guys.

I am not writing this to abuse ladies but to help guide the younger ones who still have the opportunity to make amendment, remember, I have nothing to lose now because I am a guy, guyman and by the grace of God I am doing well for myself and will marry any day I make up my mind that its time, so I am not searching and I am not bashing, just correcting based on my little versed experiences with different class of ladies in the course of my little years on earth

So gather here and learn and also feel free to air your view.

I repeat, I have nothing to gain or lose from here, I am forever thankful to maker of life for being kind to me despite my shortcomings, so reserve your insults oh abeg before I lose my temper and break bottle on somebody's head

LMAO. You made alot of points bro, but you need to understand that there is a cause to every effect. The effect will continue to persist until there is a cut in the supply of cause.

From my own side of experience, ladies (Nigerians especially) are the way they are for two main reasons:

1. Excess in demand over supply: Alot of guys are sexual animals and cannot control their natural biological urges. They don't mind disrespecting themselves for as long as it will afford them the opportunity to have a taste of the sweet agony of s*x. A person is treated according to how he/she presents him/herself. Guys beg and pester girls to the point that it becomes natural for the girls to become so annoyed. Aside s*x, how do you as a person treat importunateness? There is excessive demand for sex from the guys side and so the suppliers (i.e girls who have more discipline to control s*xual urges compared to guys) become incharge and exploitative in most cases.

2. Poverty in Nigeria: Nigerians/people in general are becoming more selfish and exploitative. It gets worse with increase in poverty levels. An average nigerian seeks to use their position of power/office for monetry gains due to the advanced level of poverty in Nigeria. For example in the nigerian airports, alot of workers there are looking for how to get money especially those at the baggage check-in points. Same could be said about public officers. Nigerian ladies are in position of authority in sexual issues as long as Nigeria is concerned because guys have not disciplined themselves to control their urges. They become exploitative and arrogant sometimes in a bid to drive a way annoying and persistent guys.

I am not taking sides here but according to the transitive property of the above logic, girls choose bad husbands/boyfriends because majority of men are desperate and annoyingly importunate in their approach. By deductive logic, it may be concluded that both parties need to correct their flaws for things to flow well.

How can a broke lady look for a rich guy?

Oga tell me

How can a man who is a terrible cook look for a chef?

How can a loose man look for a modest lady?
How can a lukewarm Christian man look for an extreme God fearing lady?
How can an ugly man look for a woman who is beautiful?
How can a street guy look for a homely lady?
How?

Must you possess all the qualities that you look for in someone else? The whole purpose of a relationship is to add purpose and benefits to your life. Who is fooling who? You better stop deceiving yourself, who no like better tin? Shiorrr

Godoverevery:

nobody is telling you to marry such a man you mentioned....but don't you think is foolish for a lady to have a standard of she must marry a medical doctor while she herself is a secondary school drop out.
ur mother got married to ur father without a car....but you are saying any guy you date must have a ride.
Such a guy now date and dump you after a while ..... you now cursing him.....do you think such a guy is a fool to no if he loose his car one day she might dump him becos dat wat attracted her.
alot of ladies makes foolish mistakes all the in the name of desiring wat good....your desires must have limit.
you are broke and you saying you can't date broke guys.
which rich guy also want to date a broke lady...he can do dat just to bang and after he is tired of it ....he move to the next fool who is broke and also want a rich guy.

ornicus:



The internet is wonderful.small boys who may not even be dating forming authority on marriage. And some other fools will be looking to then for advice.

The matter tire me o

franchasng:
The topic is; some reasons majority of single or married ladies ended up with the wrong guys as boyfriends and husbands

So its not about the single ladies alone but married ladies are also included because most married ladies you see today are not happily married, some are suffering and smiling, some are enduring because of their kids and because of what people will say, some are still married for the goodies they are getting from their supposed husband, but deep down their hearts, they are not happy; they wished they married someone better and I tell you, at one point in their life they met wonderful guy(s) who would have made them so proud and happy but some of the reasons I am about to share made them lose those great guys.

I am not writing this to abuse ladies but to help guide the younger ones who still have the opportunity to make amendment, remember, I have nothing to lose now because I am a guy, guyman and by the grace of God I am doing well for myself and will marry any day I make up my mind that its time, so I am not searching and I am not bashing, just correcting based on my little versed experiences with different class of ladies in the course of my little years on earth

So gather here and learn and also feel free to air your view.

I repeat, I have nothing to gain or lose from here, I am forever thankful to maker of life for being kind to me despite my shortcomings, so reserve your insults oh abeg before I lose my temper and break bottle on somebody's head

You that not even married yet,you claimed you have experienced about women,your experienced is a complete fallacy.abeg sit down joor,let happy married men like me gather here and advice upcoming ladies to be.

Simple,long throat

Samyj247:
abeg no reveal our secrets to fish brains o. ur thread make sense jor

. Who are fish brains? Mr fowl brain.

Before i follow, since humans are not perfect, perfect dealings should not be expected.

But mutual understanding of one flaws with promising attitude toward changing is the key to a good relationship.

Now am listening

Safitu:
How can a broke lady look for a rich guy?

Oga tell me

How can a man who is a terrible cook look for a chef?

How can a loose man look for a modest lady?
How can a lukewarm Christian man look for an extreme God fearing lady?
How can an ugly man look for a woman who is beautiful?
How can a street guy look for a homely lady?
How?

Must you possess all the qualities that you look for in someone else? The whole purpose of a relationship is to add purpose and benefits to your life. Who is fooling who? You better stop deceiving yourself, who no like better tin? Shiorrr

what you wrote up am very disappointed because been a good cook is not something negotiable every sensible lady must be able to cook that not a favour...even ur parent will ashamed if she can't cook .... well we are different but one thing life av taught me ..the more we get older the more we see things clearly.......non of us can really get our choices and tastes partner relationship wise.... becos we want it all which is not possible....that why most people cheat...... you have to be satisfy with what you have knowing ur status.

I don't see it as settlings for less.....but for me I will rather marry an illiterate dat will make me happy than marry a medical doctor that will make my life a hell.

Godoverevery:

what you wrote up am very disappointed because been a good cook is not something negotiable every sensible lady must be able to cook that not a favour .... well we are different but one thing life av taught me ..the more we get older the more we see things clearly.......non of us can really get our choices and tastes partner relationship wise.... becos we want it all which is not possible....that why most people cheat...... you have to be satisfy with what you have knowing ur status.

I don't see it as settlings for less.....but for me I will rather marry an illiterate dat will make me happy than marry a medical doctor that will make my life a hell.

True talk

Joromi12:
Always blaming the ladies. Are the men any better
Many married men today have plenty side chicks
Some dont help out financially they women now do
I blame both parties for not being able to free themselves from societal demands of you must marry. Women be wise or you suffer. And no society go help u

You are very correct, so many men are not worthy to be husbands and that was why I put up this thread to help discerning ladies flee from such disaster of men, nice contribution from you

[quote author=franchasng post=79799628]The topic is; some reasons majority of single or married ladies ended up with the wrong guys as boyfriends and husbands

I have never read something on women so apt and accurate

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Safitu:
How can a broke lady look for a rich guy?

Oga tell me

How can a man who is a terrible cook look for a chef?

How can a loose man look for a modest lady?
How can a lukewarm Christian man look for an extreme God fearing lady?
How can an ugly man look for a woman who is beautiful?
How can a street guy look for a homely lady?
How?

Must you possess all the qualities that you look for in someone else? The whole purpose of a relationship is to add purpose and benefits to your life. Who is fooling who? You better stop deceiving yourself, who no like better tin? Shiorrr

Life is not like 1 + 2 = 3, sometimes in life 1 + 2 = 12.

A good mannered broke lady with respect, humility and focus can get married to a rich guy, it happens everyday.

At least I know 2 or 3 friends who are doing very well financially married to ladies from very broke family without a job, and they turned those ladies life around for good.

A rich guy can marry any Lady he wants that meets his most desired quality.

Every man have one or two or three topmost qualities he is looking for in a lady before he asks her the question.

It mustn't work like this: good guy marry good lady, poor Lady marry broke guy.

What matters is being with your true partner and even if u guys are not rich, u still live a happy, fulfilled life together

most marriages these days na SCAM.....

You are justifying my point. So what is the problem here? If a woman desires a rich man and she is broke, what is the issue? Let everybody set their own standards and stick to it if that makes them happy. Do not crucify women for choosing the life they wish to life. Because men do the same so you are being hypocritical.

franchasng:
Life is not like 1 + 2 = 3, sometimes in life 1 + 2 = 12.

A good mannered broke lady with respect, humility and focus can get married to a rich guy, it happens everyday.

At least I know 2 or 3 friends who are doing very well financially married to ladies from very broke family without a job, and they turned those ladies life around for good.

A rich guy can marry any Lady he wants that meets his most desired quality.

Every man have one or two or there topmost qualities he is looking for in a lady before he asks her the question.

It mustn't work like this: good guy marry good lady, poor Lady marry broke guy.

What matters is being with your true partner and even if u guys are not rich, u still live a happy, fulfilled life together

Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.

Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.

As I grew up and began identifying myself as a feminist, there were plenty of issues that continued to make me question marriage: the father 'giving' the bride away, women taking their husband's last name, the white dress, the vows promising to 'obey' the groom. And that only covers the wedding.

In a happy marriage it is the wife who provides the climate, the husband the landscape.