Hi to everyone reading this, I have gotten a big problem with my uncle

He recently helped me to get a job in a foreign owned company. He introduced me to most of his colleagues and Co-workers as he is nephew and in the process I get to meet one of his senior manager who said he would take me under his unit once I resume for duty.
The problem is that the senior manager is never in good terms with my uncle and my uncle never told me this. Not until I started working with him and he began to show me hell under his unit.

He always insult me and embarrassed me in front of everyone, he even go as far as harassing me by hitting me with a book on my head.

To him I am not good enough at my job and he pile up the job of 4 people for me all alone to do on daily basis. I have no single day off since I resumed working with him including weekends.

I let my uncle know about my situation, since it is because of him I am going through all this (Note, he later told me that he was never in good terms with him)
I was 100% about quitting the job when I called home and told them that I can't take this punishment anymore, the punishment I never bargained for .
But he persuade my mom to talk me into staying and that the situation is not as bad as I am portraying it to be. He assured my mom that everything will get better in the future if I show endurance and keep working every single day of the week.

My people is this fair? What kinda job is this without a single day of rest? The terrible man they placed me under wouldn't even allow me to do my work properly, everyday he kept threatening me with sack and insult.

THE POINT OF BETRAYAL
With all my situation worsening and no help in sight and my mum threatening me never to return home if I leave the job, what should I do?
I have no choice but to head straight into the office of the executive director to lay down my complaint. And so I did.
I went straight into the executive director office with heavy fear in my heart because he's a person that you can't get easy access to, but in my situation I have to do what I have to do. Luckily for me, he listened to me and provided help by changing my department and taking me out from the terrible manager I am working with.

NOW THE PROBLEM
My uncle have a good working relationship with the executive director and the news spreading around the company is that it is because of my uncle influence that I have the guts to barge into the director office to demand a change of department.
My name has been on everyone lips for the past week. They don't believe that I went all alone in to the office, they are also accusing my uncle of having a hand in it. They also said that I have done what no one has ever done in the company.

Now this whole thing is affecting my uncle negatively, he said all the top management have now set their attention on him. He said that for me a newbie to gain direct access to meet the executive director, while some of the top managers can't even try it shows how arrogant he has become. And they are Saying that I can cause problems for them once any of them make me angry.

MY CONFESSION
To God who made me, I have never had any intention to hurt my uncle negatively at his work place. I only want a safe place to work in peace and free from constant threats and harassment.
My uncle said his job is no longer safe because of my desperate act and that all his colleagues has ganged up on him right now. He said that he regretted employing me.

Please nairaland family help me where did I go wrong, I only want a safe place from my terrible manager and now everything has spiral out of control. Everyone is talking about me and my uncle, even in my new department.

Should I finally quit this job and damned the consequences or should I stay and mind my business with no one talking to me. Please advise.

What a sensitive and tight situation you found yourself.

Firstly: I think your mistake in this case was that you never discussed your plan of meeting the executive director with your uncle. Had been you told him of your plan maybe he would have directed you in best way to do it without affecting him or his image.

Secondly: Don't quit the job. Am sure your action will really help other staff under wicked manager in same firm.

My advise, you continue begging your uncle and if possible let your mother visit him to beg him in person.

Note: At this moment, you have to be very careful because the cabals in the company will be setting many traps for you.

Lastly: You need to be closer to God, pray for yourself and also your uncle.

Say something, I can't sleep Cc Lalasticlala, mynd44

madridguy:
What a sensitive and tight situation you found yourself.

Firstly: I think your mistake in this case was that you never discussed your plan of meeting the executive director with your uncle. Had been you told him of your plan maybe he would have directed you in best way to do it without affecting him or his image.

Secondly: Don't quit the job. Am sure your action will really help other staff under wicked manager in same firm.

My advise, you continue begging your uncle and if possible let your mother visit him to beg him in person.

Note: At this moment, you have to be very careful because the cabals in the company will be setting many traps for you.

Lastly: You need to be closer to God, pray for yourself and also your uncle.

Thank you for this advice. I am really in a tight situation.

Wow

Your uncle packaged insults, bullying and maltreatment and gave it to you as a job. Bro, he was aware of the pit he drove you into thus I see no wrong in what you did.

Do you know such a toxic working environment actually drove countless others to depression and then sucide?

And when you came crying, he did nothing...
At that point your only choice was to fight or leave?

So don't entertain the thought you betrayed your uncle.

You didn't. You only made a bold move and now it made you appear larger and more powerful than you are. Bro, I can only applaud you. Please don't quit your job!!

Going forward, assume formlessness at work. Don't offend anyone. Just keep trying to make peace with him.

You will all be in fine in few years from now.

Me77:
Say something, I can't sleep
Cc Lalasticlala, mynd44

You were brave enough to do all that... don't start doubting yourself now. Whats done is done so keep your head down, work hard and stay silent! Don't entertain anyone. You did the right thing... it feels bad because you are around negative people. In a sane environment what you did is the norm and it's expected and encouraged.

SageMK:
Your uncle packaged insults, bullying and maltreatment and gave it to you as a job. Bro, he was aware of the pit he drove you into.

Thank you. Your comment really lift my mood. He's trying to put all blames on me while he's fully aware of the whole situation he got me into.
He was very much aware and refused to do anything.

Your Uncle wants to feel important that's why he's upset that you went over him to fight for yourself.

I advise that you keep your head down and deliver on the job but make it clear to your colleagues that you will defend yourself if they make the work place uncomfortable for you, this includes your Uncle.

Just face your work and don't be found wanting. Let your work speak for you, and you will earn the respect of everyone if you do a good job.
Your uncle will be fine eventually as he's not a newbie on the job.

Me77:

Thank you. Your comment really lift my mood. He's trying to put all blames on me while he's fully aware of the whole situation he got me into.
He was very much aware and refused to do anything.

He didn't put you in any situation. He just got you a job, so don't blame him for the challenges you face.

You did the right thing by reporting your abusive senior manager to a higher authority. Your colleagues/co-workers are petty for complaining and gossiping about that and if your Uncle, who should be encouraging you, is siding with them, then he's just as petty and cruel as they are. Focus on your job and act unbothered. They will soon get tired of talking.

If things don't improve, then start looking for another job that would be more conducive to your mental health. No one should endure any form of workplace abuse or bullying.

U did not carry him along

Well, the deed has been done...you too should have started with HR instead of the ED. Anyways, at this point, eat a humble pie, be extra humble with everyone, find the source of the grapevine and let it slip that you acted alone and that your uncle is angry with you and let things slide. BBNaija or Fatoyinbo will soon sweep your matter off their lips. Cheers.

Human resources is where you should have channelled your grievances to first so that it will be on record...

that's what anyone who doesn't know anyone in a place of work would have done (I believe u have heard of due processes ) ... I understand your colleague's sentiments too because if it wasn't your uncle's influences, tell me where you would have gotten such guts to go direct to the top to demand for a better working conditions except if u were indeed determined to resign...

Since it was your uncle that helped secured that job for u, when u heard that you will be working with so and so, what every reasonable person should have done was to call your said uncle and ask.. Uncle I heard I will be working with so and so in his unit, what is it like working with him or under him ?..

Dear, throw your energy into your job.. when u were confused and encountered problems, Ask for guidance from collegues and take that job as a challenge... a lot of people love challenges to prove their worth in a place of work.. quit dwelling under your uncle's influences.. show that uncle or no uncle, no one can pull you down based on your job ethics or have a reason to complain..

I must also say that your Uncle made a very big mistake by introducing you as family.. That doesn't help anyone... Even when u were promoted people will feel it was due to your uncle's influences... even when u are working so hard to make it to the top... he was wrong for doing that...

sisisioge:
Well, the deed has been done...you too should have started with HR instead of the ED. Anyways, at this point, eat a humble pie, be extra humble with everyone, find the source of the grapevine and let it slip that your acted alone and that your uncle is angry with you and let things slide. BBNaija or Fatoyinbo will soon sweet your matter of their lips. Cheers.

Okay mrs jakande

hringbraut:


Okay mrs jakande

Its a new month, the better half of 2019...may you receive immeasurable sense going forward! Whew!

This is the kind of Insults I rejected at Fanmilk , which prompted me to start my own farm

You did the RIGHT thing.

Back biting aside , Personal hate aside , office gossip aside , do not fall into the temptation of keeping malice with anyone in that office and make haste to understand the office politics, as for your uncle; I will advise you get him a bottle of Aromantic Schnap, ask your mum to escort you to his house, The gods needs appeasing, after all blood is thicker than water shey?....Yuu have done well, but the battle just started. Don’t lose ...

bro u didn't do anything wrong. only that u need to make amends to your uncle by apologizing. after that face your work. do not involve yourself with office gossips and politics. just mind your own business.
in future if u have any issues just go to HR and talk informally first, it's from thier reaction that u know if your issues should be made in writing. PS. also ensure that HR are your friends .

A bold spirit that refuses to be broken is one to be admired and coveted. Make peace with your uncle and keep your head down going forward.

Also go in your knees and commit the entire situation into the hands of God for with God on your side, you shall not be afraid of tens of thousands who rise up against you. He is already on your side because He went ahead of you to the Executive Director and caused the man to favour you, so continue in faith, wisdom and prayer.

Dude, you got balls.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Exploit it and keep to yourself. Do not tell anybody how you did it, let your uncle and his " colleagues" shit themselves.
Greet the ED well whenever you see him or her ...let their tongue wag more. You have done what has never been done, bank on it, create the mystery and let them stew.

Stay silent and do your work efficiently, things will fall into place soon

Guest007:


You were brave enough to do all that... don't start doubting yourself now. Whats done is done so keep your head down, work hard and stay silent! Don't entertain anyone. You did the right thing... it feels bad because you are around negative people. In a sane environment what you did is the norm and it's expected and encouraged.

good woman.

weak45:
good woman.

my lovely, how are you and our ill brother?

Richy4:
Human resources is where you should have channelled your grievances to first so that it will be on record...

that's what anyone who doesn't know anyone in a place of work would have done (I believe u have heard of due processes ) ... I understand your colleague's sentiments too because if it wasn't your uncle's influences, tell me where you would have gotten such guts to go direct to the top to demand for a better working conditions except if u were indeed determined to resign...

Since it was your uncle that helped secured that job for u, when u heard that you will be working with so and so, what every reasonable person should have done was to call your said uncle and ask.. Uncle I heard I will be working with so and so in his unit, what is it like working with him or under him ?..

Dear, throw your energy into your job.. when u were confused and encountered problems, Ask for guidance from collegues and take that job as a challenge... a lot of people love challenges to prove their worth in a place of work.. quit dwelling under your uncle's influences.. show that uncle or no uncle, no one can pull you down based on your job ethics or have a reason to complain..

I must also say that your Uncle made a very big mistake by introducing you as family.. That doesn't help anyone... Even when u were promoted people will feel it was due to your uncle's influences... even when u are working so hard to make it to the top... he was wrong for doing that...

read again.. The uncle knew and he never informed the lad that this man has issues with him, the uncle. The uncle then refused to help the lad and told the lad to work 7 days a week, 4 people's workload because in time it Will get easier...

The lad is a gangster and he will go far in life as long as he respects himself and never doubts himself. @OP... Well done, again

Guest007:


read again.. The uncle knew and he never informed the lad that this man has issues with him, the uncle. The uncle then refused to help the lad and told the lad to work 7 days a week, 4 people's workload because in time it Will get easier...

The lad is a gangster and he will go far in life as long as he respects himself and never doubts himself. @OP... Well done, again

I don't think that you have ever worked in a corporate environment , Please kindly google Human resources and their Job descriptions

Male boss right?

Opinions will be objective.

you didn't tell inform him before going to the executive manager, I don't blame you though

he sees it as insults that's why

next you have a problem you meet hr

well start searching for a new job

Richy4:


I don't think that you have ever worked in a corporate environment , Please kindly google Human resources and their Job descriptions

HR? In a system where they make people work for 7 days a week without a break?