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Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by bluskyee: 9:52pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
B franchasng:OK let me say I am a finance person, I turned down 3 offers last year from first bank, stanbic ibtc and Polaris bank. I do not know your yardstick for measuring financial buoyancy, but I am very OK. I am not determined on getting married, I said I am looking forward to meeting that partner I desire and is not coming forth. There are lots of hotties around cos we take turns to organise parties. I am not one saintly fellow, and you wouldn't want a hottie for a partner. You said you see a lot of them, have you approached and they are readily available? I met this damsel a credit analys with a new generation bank and I thought search was over we chatted and hanged out sevrally, when I wanted to start talking sense...babe is already married now sef, and I attended the wedding. Bro I used to see until recently I understood ...seeing is not believing 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by jessysparkles(f): 10:02pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
bluskyee:Your last sentence though! Lol.. Finally its difficult finding the right person just pray to God for direction |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Bossjakande: I have never been in an unhappy relationship. The extent to which I allow them influence me, is what differs. Lol, what makes you think our problem would come from looks and money? Like that was even the basis of starting in the first place. Anyway, we would do the needed when we are ready for it. |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:15pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
pansophist:Don't mind me jare ![]() |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:19pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
bluskyee:anyway I don't know about you oh, but my brother if I decide to marry today, I will fix my wedding next month and I will wed the classiest, homeliest, superb lady. I am not bragging but its the truth. Everyday I meet correct chicks with focus. Today I met one working with nafdac as a top officer, so reserved, intelligent, respectful, jovial, and funny enough she is completely single and even praying for a nice man to settle with. She is not that wowly gorgeous but she is beautiful and sexy with this Bambi eyes and tall legs, did I tell u about her buttocks, ojigbijigbi, that was what even attracted me the most cos I love that stuff in a lady with flat tummy lol My point is, once u are doing well financially (earning steady monthly income of at least 250k and above in Nigeria as a single guy), own a nice, clean car, live in a nice apartment (must not be luxurious but well furnished and neat), you dress well, you are a good talker and jovial, believe me, you will be the one getting confused on which Lady to settle for not the other way round. The greatest battle in any man's life is the financial battle, once u win that battle, it is over, the world is yours. I hate to hear any guy who is financially okay complaining of scarcity of ladies cos if u are honest and cool headed as a guy doing well financially, u will meet all class of ladies even foreigners. The painful truth is guys most times hide under the guise of no good ladies around, no wife materials as reason for being single whereas if u search well, it is financial insufficiency and fear that's holding them back. Every guy have a target income he wishes to have before he settles down, some want to finish their own house in the city or their hometown, some want to establish a moving Biz aside their job before they do, some want to own like 2 or 3 cars and other investments before they do, and until they achieve all or most of those things, they will continue to be scared of settling down. Lastly, where u work doesn't matter, how much u earn matters most nowadays, its no longer about profession or degree or where u live or what you do, but how much u take home counts most now. Bankers, I don't really fancy them sha, you need to reexamine yourself to know the reason u aren't finding great ladies ready to settle with u, that's if u have made up your mind to settle down. Tell yourself the truth, money matters most nowadays, and once u have it and have made up your mind to settle down, u must find great ladies to tie the knot with 8 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:28pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Op, I have friends who used to lie to themselves that they want to marry but can't find good ladies to settle with, I remember always telling them it's a lie, that their problem is money; Owo, but u know guys will never agree that they are broke lol, ego issue na Fast forward to few years later, one got job with a Danish firm that pays him over a million naira monthly, guess what! ![]() The second one got lucky, got one connect to one northern politician, he started getting contract supplies of millions, it was not up to 2yrs he got married. So any guy saying no good ladies to marry that that's why he is not married is lying, he doesn't have money or enough money as he wished to have. If u say u are confused on which lady to choose as a guy doing well financially, then I will agree. If u say u still want to catch fun before u settle, I will agree definitely, but any other flimsy reason, I no gree lol 5 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Iogobenz(m): 10:29pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:where you work matters bro. If you are in corporate Nigeria,you'll keep meeting focused,good to go ladies even with not so good take home money as other guys in the streets. If you have money that you made from "hustle",meeting proper women will be a problem since you aren't in that circle. They tend to value corporate men more,since they see it as the only means of survival. 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:34pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:38pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Franchansg wouldn't mind shooting himself in the foot to make a point. Now there are classy ladies all around Nigeria? ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by bluskyee: 10:39pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:Bro, I am a rough and crazy fellow...crazy in every sense of it.when you say classy girls, I still do not know your yardstick for measuring classy...250k is an entry level salary, for boys...when you say a Nafdac babe is classy now I can see the divergence |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:39pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Iogobenz:anyway that's true, u have a good point. But if u are not in the organized corporate world or career and u are financially buoyant, u ought to have friends spread across all works of life, not just in your informal hustling cycle alone, from there u meet ladies in those other fields. For instance, me I left the corporate world a long time ago now and embarked on my own personal business and development and today, I have created a corporate world for myself that those working for me can pass as people working in a corporate setting and I have friends in almost all sectors aside robbery and ritual sectors oh ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Iogobenz(m): 10:41pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
[quote author=bluskyee post=79854635]Bro, I am a rough and crazy fellow...crazy in every sense of it.when you say classy girls, I still do not know your yardstick for measuring classy...250k is an entry level salary, for boys...when you say a Nafdac babe is classy now I can see the divergence[/quote]lol... Are you trying to say franchasng does not know how to judge class? As I hear 250k,me sef shock o ![]() 1 Like
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Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:42pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Iogobenz: Lol, kinda true. Not because they see it as the only means of survival but because they know your struggle better. Business men tend to trivialize corporate work (9-5). So, imagine going home to tell your hustler bf that you are having this and that challenge at work. He will tell you to resign and come join him in his business ![]() Also, corporate guys have this refined look and approach. Not all, but most. If you see men in suits and brogues everyday, it kinda becomes your standard for goodlooking men. Business guys love the fast life, not their fault. The street is military, they have to adapt. 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:42pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:of course plenty of them oh. Don't always take all we say here to heart oh, sometimes it's to make trouble, sometimes to pass a message, sometimes for fun, sometimes for no reason. We are still the same guys u roll with offline na, lol, those lovey dovey guys u laugh with at bars and rests and cafes, we no be masquerades that hate women oh, in fact I love sexy ladies a lot WO ![]() |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:43pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:with all these physical qualities yet she says she's single? I believe she's not being honest with u ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:45pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
[quote author=Iogobenz post=79854687][/quote]Hahahahahaha, bros 250k monthly salary in Buhari's Nigeria na President the guy be oh ![]() |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by gift3d(f): 10:46pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
jackals:The thought alone scares the hell out of me. I wish Africans don't place much importance on marriage, I swear I would have loved to be single, probably have one or two kids and hustle to train them. |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:47pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
lefulefu:my brother, she might have one time waster married or engaged guy wasting her time na, every fine lady have one or two time wasters who usually are rich or successful, so deep down they know they are single ![]() |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:49pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
gift3d:only useless, classless tout of a man beat a lady. Me that can't even kill fly beat ke, my own beating na to disappear from the house for days or weeks na ![]() |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:49pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
bluskyee: I do not like when people trivialise money on this NL o. How many percentage of boys are earning 250k? What percentage of Nigerians earn that much? Lets not forget this is still Nigeria. Most graduates dream of that 6digit job and it isn't even 250k they are dreaming of, just 150k... ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Iogobenz(m): 10:49pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:Friends? You really think it matters? Getting a first date won't be a problem from friends but continuing or moving on from that date is the problem. Corporate Nigeria women like structure and stability.Even if it isn't bringing in as much money. Perhaps they like to say I am going to check up on my sweetheart at his office lol... I did not say it's impossible but what are the odds?very rare! A businessman is a volatile man.he can be very rich today and broke tomorrow(personal experiences though) He can be here today and there tomorrow. Happy now but turns to a beast in 10mins...etc So 9-5 ladies fit in properly with 9-5 men.hard to admit but true. Businessmen role with women in business too.harsh reality. 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 10:52pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:ahhha! Now u talking ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:55pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:Hahahahahaha, that's me oh, sometimes when a lady says she works in a bank or some sort of work, I just smile cos I imagine how much they earn for the stress and seriousness lol I had this doctor female friend, she use to tell me that staying around me is discouraging that I make her job look useless with the way I look down on doctors lol. Don't blame me though cos they form too much for the meagre they earn, which is funny to me. But I have inspired her towards seeking for relocation to Australia to practice, she said she will make millions and I will see lol, I pray she succeeds in her final screening lol |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by bluskyee: 10:55pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:I am not trivialising money...I don't like talking about payslip too. This has been my moniker since Adam, you will also see that I attended interviews years and roamed job sections years back...but when my pre wedding photos go show, na new monicker. Babe fit divorce me if she sabi this moniker |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 10:57pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
lefulefu:its mostly time waster that they get cos seriously searching young men don't approach them out of fear that they wil turn them down or that they will cheat or will be expensive, so its usually experienced playboys and rich married men that they usually get easily lol 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 11:01pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng: Sometimes it isn't always about money. I have had people trivilaise my work too, but I have met just one "average" Nigerian man that can give me my monthly pay without a fuss. Surprisingly, he remains one of the most supportive man I have been with. So, you see, small money isn't that much small money. Some of us do not work because of the pay, yes we need to pay our bills. But, career growth is important. We want to grow in a particular sector and we have to start from the bottom. I am not going to be an Ibukun Awosika by having a shop somewhere in Idumota. I expect my man to understand that and support me. This is something MOST business guys lack. All they see is money...Life isn't always about money. 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by gift3d(f): 11:02pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:Hmmm, nice, keep it up. I hope your character won't be worse than beating 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Iogobenz(m): 11:02pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
franchasng:depending on the guy's dreams and expenses. |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 11:05pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Iogobenz:hehe, which financially buoyant guy that made money from hustling today that doesn't have a cool office; except yahoo boys which to me aren't hustlers but armed robbers ![]() If u come my office, it can pass a normal Nigerian bank. The corporate world u are talking about, someone owns it, someone created it, they started it one day and from somewhere na. My personal company even have a branch now; mini branch ![]() From next year by God's grace, I want to expand to a bigger office and then start hiring corpers (2 or 3) for some reasons. If u are a business guy now, organize your business, brand it well, draw an organizational structure and with time it will turn to a corporate world too. So it depends on individual, your taste and vision in life 3 Likes |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by Nobody: 11:06pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
bluskyee: Almost sounded like you were. Why wouldn't you want her to know your moniker na? So, what is your definition of classy? Since you think a NAFDAC lady isn't classy. Is it about where one works or? |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by bluskyee: 11:07pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
gift3d:why do you ladies like talking trash, I try not respond to this type of comment but I just can't help ignoring cos I started the thread. Who loves family like an African? Who loves marriage like an African? Can you compare the rate of divorce between west and Africa? Pls with due respect you must not comment biko 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Partner Is More Difficult Than I Assume by franchasng: 11:08pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
gift3d:the only flaws I am suspecting I may have when I marry is admiring other ladies with big bootyy ![]() This is the only part I am praying to God for help cos I don't even trust myself in this aspect ![]() Other areas, I think I am every lady's dream husband ![]() ![]() |
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