AntiBrutus:
Male boss right?

Opinions will be objective.

Hahahahahahaha

I have always said good/bad bosses have no gender.

sisisioge:


Its a new month, the better half of 2019...may you receive immeasurable sense going forward! Whew!

Mrs Boss... Amen!

bukatyne:


Hahahahahahaha

I have always said good/bad bosses have no gender.

If the boss was a woman, I am sure the comments would have tilted to how female bosses are wicked and women abuse power.
Now everyone (males to be specific) are commenting objectively.

My former boss, a woman- I miss her everyday. My current boss, a man- I wouldn't wish him on my worst enemy.

I am the next in line to him, majority of my surbodinates would rather call/approach me than him, even when they have questions over the weekend. He is exactly like OP's boss. Kept threatening me with query. One day I looked him in the eye and told him to go ahead with the query. In fact, he should copy everybody...MD, ED...everybody. I will reply.

I asked him, "do you want me to resign? Will my salary be added to yours? Everyday you keep stating what you want and what you don't want. Chill and ask what others want. You are not the only one in this unit. You come into the office and everyone goes dumb. You think it is normal?"

He was shocked!

Guest007:


HR? In a system where they make people work for 7 days a week without a break?

The HR Did not make him... Don't let the HR professionals here in Nairaland give you a dirty look...

The guy jumped protocol... That's not how things were done... He should have gone to those 'kind hearted' HRs in his establishment so that it will be on record that he has made a complaint about hostile environment and bullying... Instead he abandoned them and went to the top.. and how did he get such temerity?... and if u were one of his colleagues what would you think... I might be wrong but how did it become a public knowledge about his discussion with the OGA at the TOP? Probably he may have boasted about how he went there and the coworkers spread it like wide fire..

Guest007:


Mrs Boss... Amen!

You go marry him kind!

Richy4:


The HR Did not make him... Don't let the HR professionals here in Nairaland give you a dirty look...

The guy jumped protocol... That's not how things were done... He should have gone to those 'kind hearted' HRs in his establishment so that it will be on record that he has made a complaint about hostile environment and bullying... Instead he abandoned them and went to the top.. and how did he get such temerity?... and if u were one of his colleagues what would you think... I might be wrong but how did it become a public knowledge about his discussion with the OGA at the TOP? Probably he may have boasted about how he went there and the coworkers spread it like wide fire..

Very true.

OP needs to learn to calm down.

Richy4:


The HR Did not make him... Don't let the HR professionals here in Nairaland give you a dirty look...

The guy jumped protocol... That's not how things were done... He should have gone to those 'kind hearted' HRs in his establishment so that it will be on record that he has made a complaint about hostile environment and bullying... Instead he abandoned them and went to the top.. and how did he get such temerity?... and if u were one of his colleagues what would you think... I might be wrong but how did it become a public knowledge about his discussion with the OGA at the TOP? Probably he may have boasted about how he went there and the coworkers spread it like wide fire..

HR in most naija companies na wash...just record and nothing will be done

sisisioge:




You go marry him kind!

Him kind dey like you

Guest007:


Him kind dey like you

Be guided if you no wan make I drop him your number

sisisioge:


Be guided if you no wan make I drop him your number

Just put it all in prayers.

Oga take better wine or a good manly gift and go and apologize to your uncle, alone or with your mom, wicked ppl are already telling him how you are maybe growing wings and trying to steal the favor of the MD from him, they are poisoning his mind against you, cut their stronghold now, a man that helped you find a "good" job likes you to an extent. Show him you are still his boy and you still gat 100% respect for him, it would put the haters to shame, i have learnt from experience to pacify ppl, humans love respect and servitude, give it to him it would take nothing from you but instead give you room to become a closer ally to him.

sisisioge:
Well, the deed has been done...you too should have started with HR instead of the ED. Anyways, at this point, eat a humble pie, be extra humble with everyone, find the source of the grapevine and let it slip that you acted alone and that your uncle is angry with you and let things slide. BBNaija or Fatoyinbo will soon sweep your matter off their lips. Cheers.

Lol, OP doesn't know yet that her Uncle is an Idiot. She will soon know.

One sole reason why i would never work where i have a family member. So when i decide to throw someone off the building for making me angry. I will be sure i am alone in this.

Selah

Guest007:


HR? In a system where they make people work for 7 days a week without a break?

I wonder o. I see more trouble for him if a member of staff stumble on this thread. He made a mistake taking this matter public.

Me77:
Hi to everyone reading this, I have gotten a big problem with my uncle

He recently helped me to get a job in a foreign owned company. He introduced me to most of his colleagues and Co-workers as he is nephew and in the process I get to meet one of his senior manager who said he would take me under his unit once I resume for duty.
The problem is that the senior manager is never in good terms with my uncle and my uncle never told me this. Not until I started working with him and he began to show me hell under his unit.

He always insult me and embarrassed me in front of everyone, he even go as far as harassing me by hitting me with a book on my head.

To him I am not good enough at my job and he pile up the job of 4 people for me all alone to do on daily basis. I have no single day off since I resumed working with him including weekends.

I let my uncle know about my situation, since it is because of him I am going through all this (Note, he later told me that he was never in good terms with him)
I was 100% about quitting the job when I called home and told them that I can't take this punishment anymore, the punishment I never bargained for .
But he persuade my mom to talk me into staying and that the situation is not as bad as I am portraying it to be. He assured my mom that everything will get better in the future if I show endurance and keep working every single day of the week.

My people is this fair? What kinda job is this without a single day of rest? The terrible man they placed me under wouldn't even allow me to do my work properly, everyday he kept threatening me with sack and insult.

THE POINT OF BETRAYAL
With all my situation worsening and no help in sight and my mum threatening me never to return home if I leave the job, what should I do?
I have no choice but to head straight into the office of the executive director to lay down my complaint. And so I did.
I went straight into the executive director office with heavy fear in my heart because he's a person that you can't get easy access to, but in my situation I have to do what I have to do. Luckily for me, he listened to me and provided help by changing my department and taking me out from the terrible manager I am working with.

NOW THE PROBLEM
My uncle have a good working relationship with the executive director and the news spreading around the company is that it is because of my uncle influence that I have the guts to barge into the director office to demand a change of department.
My name has been on everyone lips for the past week. They don't believe that I went all alone in to the office, they are also accusing my uncle of having a hand in it. They also said that I have done what no one has ever done in the company.

Now this whole thing is affecting my uncle negatively, he said all the top management have now set their attention on him. He said that for me a newbie to gain direct access to meet the executive director, while some of the top managers can't even try it shows how arrogant he has become. And they are Saying that I can cause problems for them once any of them make me angry.

MY CONFESSION
To God who made me, I have never had any intention to hurt my uncle negatively at his work place. I only want a safe place to work in peace and free from constant threats and harassment.
My uncle said his job is no longer safe because of my desperate act and that all his colleagues has ganged up on him right now. He said that he regretted employing me.

Please nairaland family help me where did I go wrong, I only want a safe place from my terrible manager and now everything has spiral out of control. Everyone is talking about me and my uncle, even in my new department.

Should I finally quit this job and damned the consequences or should I stay and mind my business with no one talking to me. Please advise.

Don't quit .
Just be patient, it's only a matter of time before things are restored to normal .

How old are you
You act too immature
You have no job sense

Love this advice in general

SageMK:
Your uncle packaged insults, bullying and maltreatment and gave it to you as a job. Bro, he was aware of the pit he drove you into thus I see no wrong in what you did.

Do you know such a toxic working environment actually drove countless others to depression and then sucide?

And when you came crying, he did nothing...
At that point your only choice was to fight or leave?

So don't entertain the thought you betrayed your uncle.

You didn't. You only made a bold move and now it made you appear larger and more powerful than you are. Bro, I can only applaud you. Please don't quit your job!!

Going forward, assume formlessness at work. Don't offend anyone. Just keep trying to make peace with him.

You didnot do anything wrong except if your uncle has a hand in your ordeal ...that is the only time he should be angry with you. All you need do is to focus on your job...pray always and don't accept anything good from anyone of them...I believe whatever goes up must come down. ...one day both your uncle and the man punishing you before will realised that an innocent man is not suppose to be used as scape goat.

Your uncle and all the staffs, including manager and directors are all COZA.

truthsayer009:


Lol, OP doesn't know yet that her Uncle is an Idiot. She will soon know.

One sole reason why i would never work where i have a family member. So when i decide to throw someone off the building for making me angry. I will be sure i am alone in this.

Selah

Angry kid...

Lmao.

AntiBrutus:


If the boss was a woman, I am sure the comments would have tilted to how female bosses are wicked and women abuse power.
Now everyone (males to be specific) are commenting objectively.

My former boss, a woman- I miss her everyday. My current boss, a man- I wouldn't wish him on my worst enemy.

I am the next in line to him, majority of my surbodinates would rather call/approach me than him, even when they have questions over the weekend. He is exactly like OP's boss. Kept threatening me with query. One day I looked him in the eye and told him to go ahead with the query. In fact, he should copy everybody...MD, ED...everybody. I will reply.

I asked him, "do you want me to resign? Will my salary be added to yours? Everyday you keep stating what you want and what you don't want. Chill and ask what others want. You are not the only one in this unit. You come into the office and everyone goes dumb. You think it is normal?"

He was shocked!

Your monicker should be Ladycruelos instead

SageMK:
Your uncle packaged insults, bullying and maltreatment and gave it to you as a job. Bro, he was aware of the pit he drove you into thus I see no wrong in what you did.

Do you know such a toxic working environment actually drove countless others to depression and then sucide?

And when you came crying, he did nothing...
At that point your only choice was to fight or leave?

So don't entertain the thought you betrayed your uncle.

You didn't. You only made a bold move and now it made you appear larger and more powerful than you are. Bro, I can only applaud you. Please don't quit your job!!

Going forward, assume formlessness at work. Don't offend anyone. Just keep trying to make peace with him.

In addition to this advice, OP should start looking for another job. It is easier to get a bigger job when you already have a job.

That place is not sustainable.

Uncle , Uncle's arch enemy and Uncle 's colleagues have a lot to hide and not enough to do.

Uncle himself is unserious and petty.


Enjoy your job and famousness but don't get too comfortable on the job . Look for another .


If you don't find a condition enabling, you find a way to make it enabling .

You did absolutely nothing wrong . You had an opportunity to see the Oga patapata and you did.


Pleaae , grow a thick skin and ignore uncle but with respect .

What do they do in the company for them to be a jobless and petty lot?

Your uncle couldn't save you from a slavish boss but he's angry that you saved yourself. The stupid cowardly boss you had, why couldn't he defend his cruel actions in front of the ED?

You uncle has become afraid of you as you have done what eye service couldn't allow him and others to do.

Everyone in your establishment fears you, and their hatred is borne out of fear. The day they're going to steal and cut corners, they sure won't let you know.

I suggest you improve yourself on the job and get out of that MNC possibly into another. It's easier to cross from one to another. Pls, don't stay long there.

Your uncle messed up rule number 2 ..Never bring another family member into place you are employed because they will mess U up

You and your Uncle have to become men and not boys, especially you. And you have to be the convener of the meeting because you are the major actor in your own life. Call up a meeting and buy the man a drink and talk things out. Be man enough to call for a drink together. That is what grown ups do.

Now that you have gotten a job and recognition, albeit with a little unwelcomed jealousy against your Uncle, you better make it up with him so both of you can enjoy the mystique.

The Executive Director now knows your Uncle is a dare-devil workaholic and you are his example of operational capability, then you cant but wait for the next news.

You all see doom and gloom, but I see from the eyes of the Executive Directors, you all see from the perspective of employees which is not what matters now.

What matters is that you are blessed.

iammiracle1:
Oga take better wine or a good manly gift and go and apologize to your uncle, alone or with your mom, wicked are already telling him how you are maybe growing wings and trying to steal the favor of the MD from him, they are poisoning his mind against you, cut their stronghold now, a man that helped you find a "good" job likes you to an extent. Show him you are still his boy and you still gat 100& respect for him, it would put the haters to shame, i have learn from experience to pacify ppl, humans love respect and servitude, give it to him it would take nothing from you but instead give you room to become a closer ally to him.

Op I'm quoting this again so that u see it.
This answer solves everything. This is how the man is seeing things.

All you have to do is to do your work well and prove that you are capable. I have issues with those that always go and complain to the boss when things don’t go their way. However, since you have done it already and people have the impression that you are not good enough and are saying that you got the job because of connection, you have no other choice than to do your job well.

Also, in whatever you do, don’t go and complain again. In fact, try as much as possible to avoid the Executive Director. You have a boss now, everything relating to your job should go through him first. You also need to stop taking official matters out of the office.