The girl don't love you a hoot she's an initiate and will want you to belong as well, her tell tails of cult guys all hitting on her at random is a calculated attempt at instilling fear in you which will lead you to seeking for a way out, of which she'll eagerly sermonise you into joining them and be free, and once she succeeds that's when you'll know she's a member, she'll eventually desert you to prey on other campus newbies. Her show of affection is to get you entrapped like delilah to samson, she's on a mission and so acting out a well rehearsed script, play safe and don't take a fearful leap into an unknown abyss, end the romance as fast as possibly now. However your best bet at this point is to surrender your life to Jesus AND seek help from some committed christian group on campus, be consistent in your decision and watch her leave you in no time. If you however resort to self help, be sure they'll come after you and once you are found to be defenseless you'll be coerced into joining them. And once this happens be sure your academic life will suffer and your chances of graduating with your head on your neck is 50/50. Jesus is the safe place. PEACE!

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

Okay write your will then and wait for death to come ode

My simple tots and advise to the OP

1. No matter how beautiful and whatever you think you see in her, is not worth it. The kind of girl that only cult guys are interested in suggests to be that she is not "good" girl herself.I don't know how it plays nowadays (I finished my 1st degree in 1999), but back in my days, the odds are that the GFs of cultist are either potential female cultists or female cultists.
2. All ways, you will loose out in this situation. You're either dead already or marked. Even if they will not come after your life, they could maim you (confine you to wheel chair), beat you up in public spaces just to embarrass you and make live miserable for you. At the end of the day, a girl like that you will never be able to satisfy. Please do find yourself a simple and good girl, not a complicated bad-case

simplesearch:
The girl don't love you a hoot she's an initiate and will want you to belong as well, her tell tails of cult guys all hitting on her at random is a calculated attempt at instilling fear in you which will lead you to seeking for a way out, of which she'll eagerly sermonise you into joining them and be free, and once she succeeds that's when you'll know she's a member, she'll eventually desert you to prey on other campus newbies. Her show of affection is to get you entrapped like delilah to samson, she's on a mission and so acting out a well rehearsed script, play safe and don't take a fearful leap into an unknown abyss, end the romance as fast as possibly now. However your best at this point is to surrender your life to Jesus AND seek help from some committed christian group on campus, be consistent in your decision and watch her leave you in no time. If you however resort to self help, be sure they'll come after you and once you are found to be defenseless you'll be coerced into joining them. Once this happens be sure your academic life will suffer and your chances of graduating with your head on your neck is 50/50. Jesus is the safe place. PEACE!

I agree

bigpicture001:


Talk about dreams and reality...I once had a dream where I entered a particular house nd was alone...and there was a t.v..i was bored and decided to switch on the t.v....i noticed it's bad and can't turn on....i den left the room after some tens of min...would you believe that later a big guy came looking for me and accused me of spooling the t.v...nd I was very well beaten for something I didn't do..in fact a mob was involved nd I was publicly beaten for spoiling the new t.v...that wen I woke up....

About the weeks later I was wronglyfully arrested by the DSS..calling me names that were not mine..demanding for my cars..while at never got 300k of my own at once then...they refused to listen nd claimed that I. he a syndicate dt specialise in duping people..

i was detained in their office cell for two weeks flogged fiercely by two huge officers till they broke my femur..they cooked their gun...nd put it in.my head nd threaten to shoot...they said if they mistakenly shot it, they would claim I tried escaping the fence....they dumped me in the hospital, called my people nd apologies for mistaken identity...parents where happy I was alive instead of going to court...I was subdued by their mentally...

Till this day..i hv iron in.my leg..limp nd suffer rheumatic pains....i hate the DSS With passion nd also don't take dreams as joke

Sorry about what you went through in the hands of DSS.

Often times if God wants to reveal something to His people, whether good or bad, He does through the dream. Unfortunately some people don't pay attention to dreams.

stay and die

Deepfeel:

Have this in mind Jay if those cultists eventually comes after you kill you or disfigure you in one way or the other this particular girl will move on with her life, but anyway you know what they say something must kill a man, if you are distend to die for that p*ssy continue with her, your destiny is in your hands

...and you call urself a man? He should help her out. Purifies her and settle down forever.

godofuck231:
see it called hard society so harden up , get a glock 26 , and learn how to hold your own , associate with the right people who will stand up strong and check up or watch ur back, while I had my degree in gwags if you bully me ill show you a bull in real life if u Touch me ill send dss operative to visit your house including your family house

Cultists be looking at u like:
"Ah ah! Can't we just threaten u small"?

Stupid post... nairaland can do better.

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

Think of your mum and other family members.. .You are more useful to them alive.. .life has no part two and nobody is irreplaceable.. ..leave her and focus on the reason you are in school.. ..you will always find love.. .a word is enough for the wise

Timil:
Good day Nairalanders I'm Jay (psuedonym) by name and I need your candid advice please bear with me if my writeup is long.

Several thoughts have been running through my mind all day and I've been trying to get an answer within but none is forthcoming. Flash back to some few months ago there's this girl I met in school, she's sweet, lovely and she's got everything I want in a woman, we started talking and we got to know each other.

During one of our conversations she told me about a particular guy of the Aiye confraternity who has been hitting on her but she claimed its nothing to be worried about so I waved it aside.

Few months later she gave in and gave me a yes, precisely six weeks ago but on the 7th of this month (Sunday). She told me a friend of hers decided to take her out only to discover that its a gathering organised by some gang members to celebrate their annual anniversary (7/7).

She said she met some other gang members who has been hitting on her there, according to her claim she said nothing transpired between her and the members of the secret society but during the convo I got to know that apart from the other guy in Aiye there are also two other cult guys from different gang who are also after her.

I didnt take it as much of a big issue I just told her to be careful of friends and people she moves with. Sunday went by and today (Wednesday) after lectures while hanging around the school premises she showed me two other gang members who had approached her and who still holds an interest in her making it 4/5 or more cult guys who are hitting on her.

From that moment I wasn't at ease but she didn't seem bothered or disturbed like I do infact she was still getting cosy and all loved up with the PDA despite the fact that I was trying not to draw attention at that very moment.

When I got back to my hostel while thinking of what to do I remembered that two-three weeks before we started dating I had a nightmare in which some gang members were after my life.

I thought of the nightmare and the current circumstance I am and I can see some sort of relation I've been thinking whether to continue the relationship or end it even though its still young, fresh and filled with love.

Please Nairalanders I need your advice on this, thanks for your help.

You are a fool I swr , we when dey killed u finish last last dey go still Bleep DAT ur bitch u called a girlfriend. U better use that ur brain not ur heart

Kalashnikov102:
1- Avoid PDA

2- Stay Sharp

3- Don't move around isolated areas around the school alone

4- Don't keep late nights

5- Pray to God about the relationship and your life

6- Cult guys are scared too!! exhibit confidence when walking

7- Watch the body movements of the guys hitting on her whenever you spot them

8- Have some friends who are cultists too.. Especially those in your area or class.. Jus learn to Crack jokes with dem and move on.

9- Always have an update from her about the guys hitting on her

10- Do you plan on settling with this girl or you jus want relationship wey go end for school gate



Note!!! I ain't a cultist.. I did same while in school and it paid off!

Kudos to all the graduates on Nairaland.. E no easy especially when you school for South

It's all good until someone confuses you for one of them and kills you for nothing.. ..

I think the lady is even kind to you by letting you know the cult guys interested in her. Pls use your brain and run fast.

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

use your brain boy,she has an alliance with them how else can she seem to identify them easily? Better shift go one side with your life.

op ur girl is probably the one encouraging them.take it from me that a girl who respects herself hardly get chased by cultists.if ur girl is getting catcalls from cult guys then u better check d type of girl u moving with.aint worth it fighting cultists just because of a woman.do away with her and get urself a decent girl.she could be d one even trying to set u up against them for all u know.u never know women.

Diamond23:
Exactly my thoughts, nd d OP z still blind to smell d DANGER handwriting on d wall.U just summarized it all

My Colleagues in the Office had to ask me if everything was alright, seeing the way I was laughing after viewing your profile pic.

issylarry:

Stay outta d relationshp ,girls dont know how to think?she might b enjoying d show off while ur life is at risk.

Hmmmm..... trivial but very very deep!
Only d wise can comprehend.

Baba, please leave that girl, not because her admirers are cultists but because she knows he is a cultist and an admirer and still decided to go out with him thats putting you in danger cos now she has led him on, what was she expecting, she will put you in trouble...back in school i was friends will many many kush guys cos i spend alot but e no mean say we go follow girl wey n dey use her head..bro look for another girl, you will still see everything you ever wanted in a woman and more...

Bro... stand up too then... tell their capon say u no Dey fear am

Ziel20:
Be a hero bro. Stand up and show them that u don't take shit from nobody.

Bad advice.

Wen them kill am now and im enta news update nah so you go just read the update come say Nawa oh...and get on...

I can bet my 20k that this girl already belong she is a cultist someone who can vividly identify cult members and be comfortable in their gathering only a witch know a witch if you don't value your life please i beg you in the name of God think of your parents; your siblings; and loved family members at least don't let your mother know your grave

nuelyoyo:
can you please share more details about your 23 years old friend and her husband? Maybe I can learn from thier story.

Hmm ok

She's a student dating an older guy who didn't know she has a school boyfriend ,same school in one of the higher institutions. She has done several abortions for the school bf, because she claimed she was in love. Immediately she graduate her older boyfriend who is very comfortable and rich married her in lavish marriage ceremony.

He doesn't want her to work, let her just focus of getting pregnant and having children.

Everybody was happy except the school boyfriend who still loves her and wished he was the one marrying her even though she had aborted for him.

Oya, take in for your husband, became a herculean task. She has gone to hospitals, they told her point blank she has tampered with her womb and it's only a miracle will make her pregnant at this level. She went with her mum. Her mum was heartbroken, dissapointed but the deed is done already.
They went back home, telling her husband she is fine but it's just some hormonal imbalance , which drugs can solve and in a month time she will be pregnant , Doctor said she will be placed on drugs and injections. The husband doled out money, gave her. She paid for fertility drugs, took injections for months, but nothing.

The mother of the girl came again and said they can go into herbal and there is a man somewhere who is perfect with helping women have children. The husband gave out money, she and her daughter went, the herbal doctor too said the same thing, her womb has been badly tampered with, he said maybe the massages will work. After series of massages and herbs to drink, nothing.

The husband no longer comes home as he used to. Always travelling and claiming late at work. He's getting impatient with his young wife. She is on a hot seat in her marriage as I type. When she told me everything , I was like but for God sakes! Why commit all those abortions? Ha! She said she was naive with youthful exuberance and didn't know it will be like this. And she loves her school bf so much, so they are always having sex. And moreover babes in school are doing it. It's a normal thing.

I said normal ke! She said so I have not done abortion before? With shock in her eyes.. I replied nope. My mum will kill me and moreover I didn't stay in hostel all through my school days, I go from home to school, no night parties, my mum is always on my neck! As per her only female child. She is always on my case. So I had to calm down listen to mum. She sighed and said ha! I'm lucky o. I said eeyah.

I then said anyways the deed is done. Na prayer remain. Be hopeful God will do it. But my concern is if your husband will be patient because he's not a Young man, he looks advance and no child. Hmm babe na WA o. Such men will be desperate o, cos of his age. Assuming you marry a young man, he for patient small but with your husband look and age, hmmmmm e get as e be o!

She started crying, I was like look crying will not solve your problem, because this is a huge problem on ground. Babe, na miracle remain and it's only God that can give such miracle. Ha! Babes na WA o.

The husband knew her elder sisters, who are married with children, when he was dating her . Those ones got married late but before 3months into their marriage, they were already pregnant , within three years, her elder ones have kids littering in their husbands house, so the older man felt, the same will be my friend's case. But unfortunately she ruined such luck with I'm in love.

Honestly I feel for her. I pray God helps her marriage and give her lots of children starting from this year in Jesus name. Amen

That's her story.

Ziel20:
Be a hero bro. Stand up and show them that u don't take shit from nobody.

na waoh so u want op to be forming bruce willis cos of ordinary campus girlfriend

I actually wished it could be summarized for e but one thing in life i hate is this: boyfriend and girlfriend i see it as a childish stuff that leads to immorality and all the sorts

That's why most people fall into trouble commit suicide and the rest just focus on God, your studies come out of school and marry your best friend if it God's will...

That's my advice..i prefer having a bestfriend who i can see as my Elder brother than a boyfriend

Timil:
Good day Nairalanders I'm Jay (psuedonym) by name and I need your candid advice please bear with me if my writeup is long.

Several thoughts have been running through my mind all day and I've been trying to get an answer within but none is forthcoming. Flash back to some few months ago there's this girl I met in school, she's sweet, lovely and she's got everything I want in a woman, we started talking and we got to know each other.

During one of our conversations she told me about a particular guy of the Aiye confraternity who has been hitting on her but she claimed its nothing to be worried about so I waved it aside.

Few months later she gave in and gave me a yes, precisely six weeks ago but on the 7th of this month (Sunday). She told me a friend of hers decided to take her out only to discover that its a gathering organised by some gang members to celebrate their annual anniversary (7/7).

She said she met some other gang members who has been hitting on her there, according to her claim she said nothing transpired between her and the members of the secret society but during the convo I got to know that apart from the other guy in Aiye there are also two other cult guys from different gang who are also after her.

I didnt take it as much of a big issue I just told her to be careful of friends and people she moves with. Sunday went by and today (Wednesday) after lectures while hanging around the school premises she showed me two other gang members who had approached her and who still holds an interest in her making it 4/5 or more cult guys who are hitting on her.

From that moment I wasn't at ease but she didn't seem bothered or disturbed like I do infact she was still getting cosy and all loved up with the PDA despite the fact that I was trying not to draw attention at that very moment.

When I got back to my hostel while thinking of what to do I remembered that two-three weeks before we started dating I had a nightmare in which some gang members were after my life.

I thought of the nightmare and the current circumstance I am and I can see some sort of relation I've been thinking whether to continue the relationship or end it even though its still young, fresh and filled with love.

Please Nairalanders I need your advice on this, thanks for your help.

Please I beg you , for the sake of your mother and those who love you , END IT !
IT'S NOT WORTH IT !
The reason she's at ease is because they won't come after her life but yours .

JAPA JAPA... JAPA LO STATION...(in naira marley's voice)

Timil:
I've asked her on multiple times the reason why numerous cult guys could be hitting on her but she doesn't seem to have an answer and I've this feeling those cult guys may be seeing what cool guys like us who dont do voodoo aint seeing.
Thanks anyways!

that girl must be in black bra.....

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

tell Her About The Dream

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

Love or whatever you call that ephemeral feeling between both of you, is for the living.

My advice:
1. Run while you still can, and go find another lover elsewhere. Beauty abounds everywhere.
2. If you so much love her and you are capable, you both should transfer studentship to a far away school, like in the farthermost part of the country from where you are, or Ghana.

FINALLY, please pity your parents and siblings. Those ones would go down to their graves with grieve should any unfortunate thing happen to you. Meanwhile, the girl will find a new and better love soon after the unfortunate incident.

Take a clue from Afrika, the SUG sec gen who was killed by cultists in OAU 20 years ago. If he had a girlfriend, I'm sure she's since found a new love and she should by now have stopped childbearing. Meanwhile, Afrika's parents will go down to their graves with grief of the loss of a star child.

#myonekobo

There will not be a better time than now to call it quits. Your so called girl is already giving in to pressure. She had a hint about the gathering she attended, yet she did. Better steer clear.

CArt:


...and you call urself a man? He should help her out. Purifies her and settle down forever.

Help how out how? Multiple cultists wants the same girl , he should fight them or what? Do you know how dangerous these cult guys are?

oya repeat after me..........Run for your life.