Good morning everyone on this platform.

Please I want to know why most catholic families and parents don't allow their children marry anyone outside catholic church.

I'm a young guy in my late 20s,a graduate of accounting. I'm a public servant and I work in a federal government organization and earn well via my salary.

I meet this young pretty lady during my nysc dayz and since then we have been in love with each other.

Ever since my ex girlfriend whom I love so much left me and got married to someone else probably because I was not financially buoyant enough to take care of her and she couldn't wait for me to acquire more wealth before we settle down. I decided to take my time to look for someone else I can end up with in terms of marriage.

Yesterday been Sunday I was discussing with this pretty diva (my new girlfriend) I told her my intentions that I'm getting ready for our marriage maybe by on or before Xmas this year.

To my utmost surprise she told me that we should have our wedding in catholic church.. but I was born and brought up in Angelica church. She told me she can't marry me if I will not Wed her in catholic church. We start having a very big misunderstanding about that.i ask her the reason why it must be catholic church, she said her parents died when she was 5years old and her mothers family(grand parents) took her and her other siblings, and saw them through school. My girlfriend just started her PhD program recently cause she is through with her masters and she is just 24years old. She told me that her uncle that took care of her education till this stage whom is a catholic church Rev father warned her that if she gets married or plan getting married to anyone outside catholic. That he will cut all ties with her and she don't want to go against them.

I told her what if I agree to do the wedding in catholic church and after the wedding we go back to Anglican church. She said it not going to happen, that if she can't continue with going to catholic church, maybe we shouldn't marry at all.

She just told me on phone that it's better we end our relationship and move if I can't allow her to wed and be a catholic forever...

I asked what if my own parents object to her own opinion about wedding in catholic church since we are born Anglican, her answer is that my parents should understand that am doing it for love.


But she will never and nothing will ever make her compromise to her decision of marrying outside catholic church.. And that it's better for her to be single than to marry outside catholic.

Please what is it about catholic church.?
Are we not serving the same God?
Why is religion a problem to humanity?



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If you are groomed from birth as a Catholic, it will be difficult to leave the faith.

The church is very encompassing and has activities for every stage of your life. If you visit other churches, you will find out it's only a society activity from the Catholic Church they emulated. The church is full and complete with all the Sacraments and teachings available to you.

I know some peeps will come here and start lamenting about the bad eggs there, we are aware and the Pope is taking care of that and will not spare anyone after investigations.

My dear, I will advise you join her in the Catholic faith and raise your children there (even non-catholics populate the Cathoilc schools a lot. They know what they see there) but if that will be a problem as I sense, pls kill it.

Wed your girl in her church, most weddings are usually conducted in the bride's church. After wedding you can go back to your church, meaning she should become Anglican. Or better still, if she refuses to leave Catholic, then you let her be. You attend your church, she attends her own. I have seen it work. Some couples attend different churches and it works. It does not matter as long as it's same Christianity. If she possesses all the characteristics you want, why should church be an issue? This is the time both of you should make agreement on the church which your children will attend in church, to avoid future arguments.

Brother, thanks so much for you advise but I can't do that, if her family detect our wedding choice and of church. their can still make her go against my own wish in marriage maybe tomorrow she may prefer her Rev uncle words more than my.


And she want me now to be a catholic against my wish. Cause I love her

I feel you should understand her feelings towards those who paid for her to be desirable enough for you to marry her (I'm assuming her education is a desirable of yours), especially since they are not her parents. They paid the piper in this instance so they ought to be allowed to chose the tune. Marry in a Catholic Church and continue going to your own church. If she loves you as much as she seems to do she'll get over it.

I got to say though that my position was the opposite in a thread where someone was going to take a job without marrying the girl who's family got it him. There, I said it was deceptive but here to hell with it.

LilMissFavvy:
Wed your girl in her church, most weddings are usually conducted in the bride's church. After wedding you can go back to your church, meaning she should become Anglican. Or better still, if she refuses to leave Catholic, then you let her be. You attend your church, she attends her own. I have seen it work. Some couples attend different churches and it works. It does not matter as long as it's same Christianity. If she possesses all the characteristics you want, why should church be an issue? This is the time both of you should make agreement on the church which your children will attend in church, to avoid future arguments.

can you see what religion have done to us ! sometimes I wonder if we have different Jesus Christ maybe each denomination have their own Jesus ! true love I mean genuine love have no religion, race, tribe or limitation. some ladies remain stranded because of religion differences or denominations! catholic church have the highest spinsters in Nigeria! very bad fanaticism is not born of Christ.

Bro just marry her in her church and go back to urs. I would have said you should ditch her but after careful analysing the chat,its clear she loves u

Kelvinsaint:
Good morning everyone on this platform.

Please I want to know why most catholic families and parents don't allow their children marry anyone outside catholic church.

I'm a young guy in my late 20s,a graduate of accounting. I'm a public servant and I work in a federal government organization and earn well via my salary.

I meet this young pretty lady during my nysc dayz and since then we have been in love with each other.

Ever since my ex girlfriend whom I love so much left me and got married to someone else probably because I was not financially buoyant enough to take care of her and she couldn't wait for me to acquire more wealth before we settle down. I decided to take my time to look for someone else I can end up with in terms of marriage.

Yesterday been Sunday I was discussing with this pretty diva (my new girlfriend) I told her my intentions that I'm getting ready for our marriage maybe by on or before Xmas this year.

To my utmost surprise she told me that we should have our wedding in catholic church.. but I was born and brought up in Angelica church. She told me she can't marry me if I will not Wed her in catholic church. We start having a very big misunderstanding about that.i ask her the reason why it must be catholic church, she said her parents died when she was 5years old and her mothers family(grand parents) took her and her other siblings, and saw them through school. My girlfriend just started her PhD program recently cause she is through with her masters and she is just 24years old. She told me that her uncle that took care of her education till this stage whom is a catholic church Rev father warned her that if she gets married or plan getting married to anyone outside catholic. That he will cut all ties with her and she don't want to go against them.

I told her what if I agree to do the wedding in catholic church and after the wedding we go back to Anglican church. She said it not going to happen, that if she can't continue with going to catholic church, maybe we shouldn't marry at all.

She just told me on phone that it's better we end our relationship and move if I can't allow her to wed and be a catholic forever...

I asked what if my own parents object to her own opinion about wedding in catholic church since we are born Anglican, her answer is that my parents should understand that am doing it for love.


But she will never and nothing will ever make her compromise to her decision of marrying outside catholic church.. And that it's better for her to be single than to marry outside catholic.

Please what is it about catholic church.?
Are we not serving the same God?
Why is religion a problem to humanity?



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It is even in the cathechesim book and marriage study of Catholics...they are advised to marry Catholics and in the event of marrying non Catholic the person Wil have to switch over to Catholic.
Bro she is very right but your own case now get k leg because of the Rev Father involvement
Truly the Father will cut ties with her.
My mother younger broda is a Rev Father and ever since I join white garment church like ...he changed towards me....he said wby do I like mammy water church

If I call him right now after greetings he will ask me if I still attend mammy water church
He stop sending money and gives excuses
I love with it and we arw fine
Bro no spoil the girl life ....listen even if you deceive ursef bu marrying her in Catholic church and later change church
The church will grant her divorce
Do you also know that marrying in Catholic church needs no further court weeding
Yes the Nigeria govt Grant the church such right and marriage certificate issued in any Catholic church is acceptable world wide
Just go and buy rosary abeg...if you love the girl
If this one go again hmm na river we go wash your head las las if na my cele church

Hmmmm!!!! This is a sensitive topic I must say but coming from me who has tasted both churches ( born Anglican and presently married into the Catholic Church), huhhh!!! I must say, I would have loved to remain Anglican for life!!!! Our hymms are wonderful!!!!
It isn't easy coming into the Catholic Church as a convert, up till now, despite being married for a decade now, I still finds it difficult going for confessions, hence my abstinence from holy Communion despite being wedded in the Catholic Church. It isn't easy but love conquers all. Love pushed me to forfeit been wedded in my sweet Anglican, so love can still settle this issue. We are brothers in the faith, being that there are only few disparities in our mode of worship hence, my advice is that you guys shouldn't let religion create problems in your relationship. Marry her in Catholic, let her attend her catholic church even after marriage then watch how things flows. She might give in someday and join you in Anglican but if you can't stand it, then do what is best for you too.
One thing I love Catholic marriage for and which made me forfeit being wedded in my sweet Anglican is that "There is no room for Divorce" Na we die here together mata and that is my vision of a marriage. I hate divorce with passion. So think about it my friend and let God guide you. This is just my opinion though..

Na wa o religion sha

Simple stuvs. You both should keep attending your separate churches after marriage abeg. But if ordinary church will create a problem, better you guys drop whatever you have.

Go to d east and see many spinsters just because of this church disparity... Quite sad

jcross19:
can you see what religion have done to us ! sometimes I wonder if we have different Jesus Christ maybe each denomination have their own Jesus ! true love I mean genuine love have no religion, race, tribe or limitation. some ladies remain stranded because of religion differences or denominations! catholic church have the highest spinsters in Nigeria! very bad fanaticism is not born of Christ.

My brother today Church have divided Christ into pieces one Catholic, one Anglican, Methodist, Dunamis, living faith all these is not salvation but to gather members for fat offering and tithe but Catholic is still better.

Kelvinsaint, from the chats between both of you, I can conclude that your girl is manipulative.
All those "baby help me fight this" she is saying, as well as the crying emoji she used, are ploy to make you feel pity for her. She is assertive in her position, but appearing weak to you.
What more do you want to hear, after a lady boldly told you that she rather remain single than leave her church for the sake of marriage.
From what she has said so far, it appears her uncle who trained her, will have serious control over her till he dies, even in marriage. Or maybe she is just using the man as an excuse, whereas the uncle might not be the cause.
Just act based on what will work for you.

Hello Guy, don't get confused. Wedding In her church doesn't stop you going to your church after the wedding, if that is the last respect to give her uncle please honor it. To me bringing the chat on the platform is childish. Take note.

I would have said church is not a big deal. But you asked the girl a good question, she failed already and portrayed herself a narcissistic person. She said you will tell your parents you're doing it for love. What is she ready to do for love too? This kinda girls are manipulative. Run away from narcissistic people, it doesn't make sense living with them, they are used to having their ways, and their ways only. They are only concerned about themselves. Good people suffer heavily in the hands of narcissistic people no matter the goods you show and do for them. If you can withstand her, go ahead.

Someone said "From the chat, I can see she truly loves you" what nonsense.. Even Our regular oloshos can beg us not to leave too (Op I'm not referring to your girlfriend, I'm talking to the commenter up there.)


Op, if you can't have a say and a stand now you can't have it in marriage either.
If her foster father says "Chi no sex on Sundays with your hubby", then there'll be no sex on Sundays for you bro... if you'll try to protest she'll still give you the same lines "Baby so you can't sacrifice Sunday sex for love?, you know what my father mean to me bla bla bla.. "

Be a man, take your stand. Don't be emotionally manipulated into doing things that will end up eating you up forever.

Wedding can be conducted anywhere, and after that you can choose to worship in Church of Satan and she Church of Sango.. no problem with that, saying you must be a Catholic shouldn't be tolerated or even considered.


... raising someone doesn't gives you control over their lives.
If the hands that fed me tries to poke me in the eye I'll gladly bite it off, make pepper soup out of it and wash it down with cold bottle of orijin with no remorse.

If you really want to help someone, there should be no condition attached to it.

Stand your ground and reject it. I did it once, and I don't regret it one bit. I once had a fiancee, already did knocking at the door as they called it but along the line this issue of wedding in catholic church started causing trouble.
Simply because their revered Father threatened the family with sanctions, her parents became shaky about the marriage that had been already planned. When I single handedly built a new home for them, the catholic church was no where close oo.
I paid them in their own coin though. By the time they got their senses back and stood firm against the priest, I had already canceled everything and moved on. They should enjoy the house after all I did it as charity without expecting anything in return.

Love has nothing to do with religion, marry her in her church allow her be a Catholic, while you be an Anglican, it's not bad, some Yoruba Muslims have Christian wife's

J111333:
Stand your ground and reject it. I did it once, and I don't regret it one bit. I once had a fiancee, already did knocking at the door as they called it but along the line this issue of wedding in catholic church started causing trouble.
Simply because their revered Father threatened the family with sanctions, her parents became shaky about the marriage that had been already planned. When I single handedly built a new home for them, the catholic church was no where close oo.
I paid them in their own coin though. By the time they got their senses back and stood firm against the priest, I had already canceled everything and moved on. They should enjoy the house after all I did it as charity without expecting anything in return.

Nice one sir.

The only condition I can take from a woman I'm in a relationship with or planning marriage with is if she tells me no sex till marriage, and that's because it has to do with her body and she owns it. And my own condition to that is she must be a virgin and also faithful, which I must confirm.

I hate conditions, especially from a woman.

I will never succumb to such a condition.
Catholic church for that matter, that boring place! You'll be in church and it will feel as if you're mourning the dead. Catholics and Anglican even get any major difference sef?

OP, the way that girl will manipulate you in marriage ehn (that is if you marry her), you'll know that love alone is not enough.
Already, you're not compatible spiritually, which is very important.
Even if you marry her and you agree that everybody should attend his church, which one will your children attend?
Again, marriage is beyond love. While love is the key thing, it's not the ultimate.
So, because her uncle paid her fees, he owns her life and her decisions? Na wa.

Meanwhile......
Hope you're doing your PhD too? Because if you're not, I advice you to start, because a woman is a woman. By the time she becomes a Dr and you're not, that's when the marriage will start properly. She'll always remind you that she has every degree in the world. She won't do that verbally, she'll do that with her actions. And like they say, action speaks louder than words.

Finally.....
While I don't like Catholics, I like this their approach. If churches had been doing it, it would have reduced or even prevented all these new generation/end time churches everywhere. I would have mention such churches but their sheeples are here, they will explode with anger wherever they are.

Any church not older than my old man is a fake church.

Don't quote me

supportnija:

My brother today Church have divided Christ into pieces one Catholic, one Anglican, Methodist, Dunamis, living faith all these is not salvation but to gather members for fat offering and tithe but Catholic is still better.

no church is better than each other what matter is where salvation is been preached, taught, nurtured and maintained! period!!!!. Jesus brought salvation not denomination.

budaatum:
I feel you should understand her feelings towards those who paid for her to be desirable enough for you to marry her (I'm assuming her education is a desirable of yours), especially since they are not her parents. They paid the piper in this instance so they ought to be allowed to chose the tune. Marry in a Catholic Church and continue going to your own church. If she loves you as much as she seems to do she'll get over it.

I got to say though that my position was the opposite in a thread where someone was going to take a job without marrying the girl who's family got it him. There, I said it was deceptive but here to hell with it.

I don't believe they own her because they paid or contributed towards her life.

She still has the right as a human being and an adult to make decisions especially on matters that concerns a man that she will spend the rest of her life with.

I don't like when someone has to be forever liable or indebted to another person because of help that was rendered. The helper should not put the helped in a difficult position. It is still her life.

I don't get this ooo.


wedding takes place in the bride's church nah.

The wedding is usually done in the bride's church and afterwards, she starts attending your church.

But it's always better for Catholics to marry each other to avoids issues like this because they hardly ever leave their church.

Kelvinsaint:
Good morning everyone on this platform.

Please I want to know why most catholic families and parents don't allow their children marry anyone outside catholic church.

I'm a young guy in my late 20s,a graduate of accounting. I'm a public servant and I work in a federal government organization and earn well via my salary.

I meet this young pretty lady during my nysc dayz and since then we have been in love with each other.

Ever since my ex girlfriend whom I love so much left me and got married to someone else probably because I was not financially buoyant enough to take care of her and she couldn't wait for me to acquire more wealth before we settle down. I decided to take my time to look for someone else I can end up with in terms of marriage.

Yesterday been Sunday I was discussing with this pretty diva (my new girlfriend) I told her my intentions that I'm getting ready for our marriage maybe by on or before Xmas this year.

To my utmost surprise she told me that we should have our wedding in catholic church.. but I was born and brought up in Angelica church. She told me she can't marry me if I will not Wed her in catholic church. We start having a very big misunderstanding about that.i ask her the reason why it must be catholic church, she said her parents died when she was 5years old and her mothers family(grand parents) took her and her other siblings, and saw them through school. My girlfriend just started her PhD program recently cause she is through with her masters and she is just 24years old. She told me that her uncle that took care of her education till this stage whom is a catholic church Rev father warned her that if she gets married or plan getting married to anyone outside catholic. That he will cut all ties with her and she don't want to go against them.

I told her what if I agree to do the wedding in catholic church and after the wedding we go back to Anglican church. She said it not going to happen, that if she can't continue with going to catholic church, maybe we shouldn't marry at all.

She just told me on phone that it's better we end our relationship and move if I can't allow her to wed and be a catholic forever...

I asked what if my own parents object to her own opinion about wedding in catholic church since we are born Anglican, her answer is that my parents should understand that am doing it for love.


But she will never and nothing will ever make her compromise to her decision of marrying outside catholic church.. And that it's better for her to be single than to marry outside catholic.

Please what is it about catholic church.?
Are we not serving the same God?
Why is religion a problem to humanity?



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Anglican or Roman Catholic, there's no difference, it's the same sacrament and creed. The Anglican church is still Catholic in nature just the name.

broken heart is better than broken home.
abi na una first love for dis life?
how much prayer and fasting have you both done?
I suggest you both go to each of your pastors before reaching a final decision.
in d end, pray for God's will.
God bless.

Kelvinsaint:
Brother, thanks so much for you advise but I can't do that, if her family detect our wedding choice and of church. their can still make her go against my own wish in marriage maybe tomorrow she may prefer her Rev uncle words more than my.


And she want me now to be a catholic against my wish. Cause I love her

yes, religion has caused a lot of havoc because of fallible human beings.
if ur versed in d new testament, u recall all d battles d apostles had with Christians who were spreading false teachings.
division don dey from day one, hence Christ's prayer for the church.

jcross19:
can you see what religion have done to us ! sometimes I wonder if we have different Jesus Christ maybe each denomination have their own Jesus ! true love I mean genuine love have no religion, race, tribe or limitation. some ladies remain stranded because of religion differences or denominations! catholic church have the highest spinsters in Nigeria! very bad fanaticism is not born of Christ.

lol.
ur funi.
d head of d Anglican church is d ruler (king or queen) of England.
Google is ur friend.

Apination:

Anglican or Roman Catholic, there's no difference, it's the same sacrament and creed. The Anglican church is still Catholic in nature just the name.

aloeman15:
broken heart is better than broken home.
abi na una first love for dis life?
how much prayer and fasting have you both done?
I suggest you both go to each of your pastors before reaching a final decision.
in d end, pray for God's will.
God bless.


yes, religion has caused a lot of havoc because of fallible human beings.
if ur versed in d new testament, u recall all d battles d apostles had with Christians who were spreading false teachings.
division don dey from day one, hence Christ's prayer for the church.


lol.
ur funi.
d head of d Anglican church is d ruler (king or queen) of England.
Google is ur friend.

I pardon your lack of understanding. It's obvious you know nothing about what I'm saying

is it a must for you to go to same church after marriage?

Celestial777:



It is even in the cathechesim book and marriage study of Catholics...they are advised to marry Catholics and in the event of marrying non Catholic the person Wil have to switch over to Catholic.
Bro she is very right but your own case now get k leg because of the Rev Father involvement
Truly the Father will cut ties with her.
My mother younger broda is a Rev Father and ever since I join white garment church like ...he changed towards me....he said wby do I like mammy water church

If I call him right now after greetings he will ask me if I still attend mammy water church
He stop sending money and gives excuses
I love with it and we arw fine
Bro no spoil the girl life ....listen even if you deceive ursef bu marrying her in Catholic church and later change church
The church will grant her divorce
Do you also know that marrying in Catholic church needs no further court weeding
Yes the Nigeria govt Grant the church such right and marriage certificate issued in any Catholic church is acceptable world wide
Just go and buy rosary abeg...if you love the girl
If this one go again hmm na river we go wash your head las las if na my cele church

Where did you get your fact from @bolded
As a former catechism teacher and parish secretary, I want to bring to your knowledge that the bolded lines is not true. There is what we call mixed marriage, I.e a marriage between a Catholic and a non Catholic

Kelvinsaint:
Good morning everyone on this platform.

Please I want to know why most catholic families and parents don't allow their children marry anyone outside catholic church.

I'm a young guy in my late 20s,a graduate of accounting. I'm a public servant and I work in a federal government organization and earn well via my salary.

I meet this young pretty lady during my nysc dayz and since then we have been in love with each other.

Ever since my ex girlfriend whom I love so much left me and got married to someone else probably because I was not financially buoyant enough to take care of her and she couldn't wait for me to acquire more wealth before we settle down. I decided to take my time to look for someone else I can end up with in terms of marriage.

Yesterday been Sunday I was discussing with this pretty diva (my new girlfriend) I told her my intentions that I'm getting ready for our marriage maybe by on or before Xmas this year.

To my utmost surprise she told me that we should have our wedding in catholic church.. but I was born and brought up in Angelica church. She told me she can't marry me if I will not Wed her in catholic church. We start having a very big misunderstanding about that.i ask her the reason why it must be catholic church, she said her parents died when she was 5years old and her mothers family(grand parents) took her and her other siblings, and saw them through school. My girlfriend just started her PhD program recently cause she is through with her masters and she is just 24years old. She told me that her uncle that took care of her education till this stage whom is a catholic church Rev father warned her that if she gets married or plan getting married to anyone outside catholic. That he will cut all ties with her and she don't want to go against them.

I told her what if I agree to do the wedding in catholic church and after the wedding we go back to Anglican church. She said it not going to happen, that if she can't continue with going to catholic church, maybe we shouldn't marry at all.

She just told me on phone that it's better we end our relationship and move if I can't allow her to wed and be a catholic forever...

I asked what if my own parents object to her own opinion about wedding in catholic church since we are born Anglican, her answer is that my parents should understand that am doing it for love.


But she will never and nothing will ever make her compromise to her decision of marrying outside catholic church.. And that it's better for her to be single than to marry outside catholic.

Please what is it about catholic church.?
Are we not serving the same God?
Why is religion a problem to humanity?



Below is our chat attachment.

Let me give you an insight of the Roman Catholic church if you marry her.




Truth be told some Catholics are too sentimental. I hate them to a point that I abstain from going to that church. They have contradicted religion and Christianity that's why we have so many churches loitered around. The believe in stupid things and it really angers me especially purgatory. They tell you that eating bread and drinking wine at a Communion service is wrong because you bread alone is enough cos there's blood in the flesh. please don't marry her ooo except she changes her church.

Kelvinsaint:
Good morning everyone on this platform.

Please I want to know why most catholic families and parents don't allow their children marry anyone outside catholic church.

I'm a young guy in my late 20s,a graduate of accounting. I'm a public servant and I work in a federal government organization and earn well via my salary.

I meet this young pretty lady during my nysc dayz and since then we have been in love with each other.

Ever since my ex girlfriend whom I love so much left me and got married to someone else probably because I was not financially buoyant enough to take care of her and she couldn't wait for me to acquire more wealth before we settle down. I decided to take my time to look for someone else I can end up with in terms of marriage.

Yesterday been Sunday I was discussing with this pretty diva (my new girlfriend) I told her my intentions that I'm getting ready for our marriage maybe by on or before Xmas this year.

To my utmost surprise she told me that we should have our wedding in catholic church.. but I was born and brought up in Angelica church. She told me she can't marry me if I will not Wed her in catholic church. We start having a very big misunderstanding about that.i ask her the reason why it must be catholic church, she said her parents died when she was 5years old and her mothers family(grand parents) took her and her other siblings, and saw them through school. My girlfriend just started her PhD program recently cause she is through with her masters and she is just 24years old. She told me that her uncle that took care of her education till this stage whom is a catholic church Rev father warned her that if she gets married or plan getting married to anyone outside catholic. That he will cut all ties with her and she don't want to go against them.

I told her what if I agree to do the wedding in catholic church and after the wedding we go back to Anglican church. She said it not going to happen, that if she can't continue with going to catholic church, maybe we shouldn't marry at all.

She just told me on phone that it's better we end our relationship and move if I can't allow her to wed and be a catholic forever...

I asked what if my own parents object to her own opinion about wedding in catholic church since we are born Anglican, her answer is that my parents should understand that am doing it for love.


But she will never and nothing will ever make her compromise to her decision of marrying outside catholic church.. And that it's better for her to be single than to marry outside catholic.

Please what is it about catholic church.?
Are we not serving the same God?
Why is religion a problem to humanity?



Below is our chat attachment.

Kindly remove the chat screenshots, it’s not necessary bro.

Kelvinsaint:
Good morning everyone on this platform.

Please I want to know why most catholic families and parents don't allow their children marry anyone outside catholic church.

I'm a young guy in my late 20s,a graduate of accounting. I'm a public servant and I work in a federal government organization and earn well via my salary.

I meet this young pretty lady during my nysc dayz and since then we have been in love with each other.

Ever since my ex girlfriend whom I love so much left me and got married to someone else probably because I was not financially buoyant enough to take care of her and she couldn't wait for me to acquire more wealth before we settle down. I decided to take my time to look for someone else I can end up with in terms of marriage.

Yesterday been Sunday I was discussing with this pretty diva (my new girlfriend) I told her my intentions that I'm getting ready for our marriage maybe by on or before Xmas this year.

To my utmost surprise she told me that we should have our wedding in catholic church.. but I was born and brought up in Angelica church. She told me she can't marry me if I will not Wed her in catholic church. We start having a very big misunderstanding about that.i ask her the reason why it must be catholic church, she said her parents died when she was 5years old and her mothers family(grand parents) took her and her other siblings, and saw them through school. My girlfriend just started her PhD program recently cause she is through with her masters and she is just 24years old. She told me that her uncle that took care of her education till this stage whom is a catholic church Rev father warned her that if she gets married or plan getting married to anyone outside catholic. That he will cut all ties with her and she don't want to go against them.

I told her what if I agree to do the wedding in catholic church and after the wedding we go back to Anglican church. She said it not going to happen, that if she can't continue with going to catholic church, maybe we shouldn't marry at all.

She just told me on phone that it's better we end our relationship and move if I can't allow her to wed and be a catholic forever...

I asked what if my own parents object to her own opinion about wedding in catholic church since we are born Anglican, her answer is that my parents should understand that am doing it for love.


But she will never and nothing will ever make her compromise to her decision of marrying outside catholic church.. And that it's better for her to be single than to marry outside catholic.

Please what is it about catholic church.?
Are we not serving the same God?
Why is religion a problem to humanity?



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If you love her and you know this is the woman you want to spend the rest if your life with,marry her. You can continue your faith after being married. But she must also promise to attend your church often after marriage.
Good girls are scarce to find. Anglican vs Catholic union is more common because of their similar doctrines. But you also have to consider another thing.
Your children will be Catholics until they reach the age of 18 or so where they can decide if they want to change their faith or not?.
Are you ready for that?
I don't know but just follow your heart. You guys can reach a couple of agreements or something.