skywalker240:
Yeah basically she stood by me,

while technically she was standing there adding no value to my life safe for sex.

we dated for 6 yrs when am broke and i end up not getting married to you when the chips sets in?

and now you playing the victim card, calling me out on social media and telling freinds & all those who cared to listen of how i dumped you now that am made.

but you know those 6yrs when i was broke and i tolorated your sh!ts, and you cheated on me, eventhough you said sorry and i forgave you, and even when you claimed you love me, you stil kept flirting behind my back cos am broke and cant meet ur needs.

this is one of the major reasons long term relationship's crash in Nigeria.

if am broke, i wont be thinking about another woman, i would rather be thinking about how to make money to better the present situation.

but when my instinct keep telling me you may love me but right now you might be fantasizing another niggas dick in your mouth.

sorry am kindda drafting, but am tryina pass a message.

What's this one saying.....don't you have legs to walk away when she was cheating on you....but love of free toto no gree allow you....abegi leave trash for lawma....yen yen yen yen

If you like quote me....I actually do not care

I think the best feeling in the world is when u have someone that genuinely care about you even when u have lost hope In yourself. they might not have the gold and diamond to offer at that point in time but their words can help build you and prepare you for the future.i remember when a girl asked me "do u have a life" I couldn't sleep that night. sometimes those little care, kiss and phuck savaged a lot of stuff. Anybody that stays by you,understands u,made u feel happy even when u had little or nothing to offer deserves an accolade.

Jgoldie:




What's this one saying.....don't you have legs to walk away when she was cheating on you....but love of free toto no gree allow you....abegi leave trash for lawma....yen yen yen yen

If you like quote me....I actually do not care

You always type like a dude!!

Youngjohnosas:
I think the best feeling in the world is when u have someone that genuinely care about you even when u have lost hope In yourself. they might not have the gold and diamond to offer at that point in time but their words can help build you and prepare you for the future.i remember when a girl asked me "do u have a life" I couldn't sleep that night. sometimes those little care, kiss and phuck savaged a lot of stuff. Anybody that stays by you,understands u,made u feel happy deserves an accolade.

*salvaged not savaged
You are absolutely right... Some guys could have committed suicide without their loving girlfriends.. That is more than a Diamond

pocohantas:


I expected your response. When you push the woman who built with you and marry a younger one to make her first lady or controller of your estate. That isn't abandonment ba?

If I abandon my broke bf who contributed nothing but prick and love. He will run to NL to create thread, telling everyone who cares to listen how I dumped him after getting a good job.

The general consensus would be how women can't handle power and/or how they change when they see small money. It will never be how he contributed nothing besides love and no sane woman would abandon a man who helped build her.

Abandonment is abandonment, be it taking additional wives or total cut off. Neither of them was the initial plan when you had nothing.

I get ur point. The guys seem to leaning towards the gal who made him smtn bt if a gal chooses the guy who made her smtn over the guy who only had love it might cause sm backlash. It’s quite tricky. Lol

eni4real:
You always type like a dude!!

I don't understand....

Jgoldie:




What's this one saying.....don't you have legs to walk away when she was cheating on you....but love of free toto no gree allow you....abegi leave trash for lawma....yen yen yen yen

If you like quote me....I actually do not care

Well well well, someone has not been toungue fvcked today,

lady, read again, i said my instinct

if you care or you no care, i wont be rude like you just did,

its called maturity.

apology accepted

Normal me would av jumped on the bandwagon that lady's are gold diggers but I won't do that now after what one stupid guy did..yes I said stupid guy

U dated a girl in school when u had nothing. She didn't av much too but u guys were in the same class reading same course.u dated her for 4 years.she helped u at times to pay your school fees.

Then u guys graduate, get internship in same hospital.next thing u dumped her because u saw another lady.the one that even annoyed me is that this lady told this fool to pay her 100k before she accepts him.this fool paid 90k.

Was now telling me how his babe caught him cheating and he told her to leave if she wants to.

I called him a fool for letting her go and he poured drink on me.I just left and deleted his number from my phone

Some guys are fools I swear

pocohantas:


I expected your response. When you push the woman who built with you and marry a younger one to make her first lady or controller of your estate. That isn't abandonment ba?

If I abandon my broke bf who contributed nothing but prick and love. He will run to NL to create thread, telling everyone who cares to listen how I dumped him after getting a good job.

The general consensus would be how women can't handle power and/or how they change when they see small money. It will never be how he contributed nothing besides love and no sane woman would abandon a man who helped build her.

Abandonment is abandonment, be it taking additional wives or total cut off. Neither of them was the initial plan when you had nothing.

Don't mind them.

Why on earth should they criticize a female who does exactly what the Op is trying to justify on their part?

I first met a girl who had little but not willing to contribute to build me but claim she love me so much and willing to stand and pray for me to get a job after my masters degree and save enough money to rent a house and marry her. She even told me that she sowed a seed in her church for me to get a good job.

Until i met another girl who was willing to immediately contribute to building me. She sacrificed so much to catapult me to the top fast. Would i have been foolish to hang with the first girl

I actually was in this shit some years back....dude was a broke ass...I loved him die...he was working with mr Biggs then...I supported with the little i had and the thing can Bleep ehnnn....i could not leave him because the sex was good and he was so caring....

I got a job...he got a well paid job like 6 figures....guess what ?? He started cheating....I jejely carried my slippers and managed what I have...thank God I I kuku dey recieve my peanut salary but I will not go into a relationship with a broke dude ...never again...I learnt the hard way..

Jgoldie:



I don't understand....

The way you emphasize on fok fok fok in relationship topics. Only guys talk like this... You sound like someone that don't see anything emotional in relationships.. .. My observation tho

NkemChukwudi:
Wonder what one useless oloriburuku abusive bastard blindjustice13 would say about this.

you and the people here are hateful boys who grew up in dysfunctional homes ,so understand your i perception. My own wife is my pillar ,maybe your own mother or even wife or gf is a leech, so you see the world from the peep hole of your small miserable world. Lol.


My wife is my support system,infact my mother is one of the reasons i am where i am today cos she helped my dad build up the finance stability in the house. So you see why me and you are different because we both had different mentors ,your mother was a leech while mine was a financial goal getter. .

eni4real:
The way you emphasize on fok fok fok in relationship topics. Only guys talk like this... You sound like someone that don't see anything emotional in relationships.. .. My observation tho

I don't do emotional stuff....I m too complicated for that...it can be so tiring you know....

I have dipped my foot in love waters and it burned quite bad..

NkemChukwudi:


I rest my case. One abusive idiotic nairalander believes otherwise. BStard child of many unknown men blindjustice13

lol, so different sperm now mix to form one foetus? Lol ,you are such a dimwit ,no common sense in that bigoted brain of yours. Even if you want to insult be smart about it, even science will be shocked at the bolded ,lol

1x2x3:
So last night a female friend of mine posted this question below.

Who would a guy choose between a girl who loved him while he was nothing and a girl who made him what he is today?

Below is my response to such misconstrued thinking of some ladies who play victims.


Okay let me clarify a bit. When a girl says she loved you when you were nothing I tend to wonder what the girl was at that moment. If you look closer she may be nothing financially and intellectually as well. I mean both of them were nothing while loving each other.

On the flip side there are situations a girl with financial and intellectual capability can be in love with a broke guy. She stays because she believes in him and to help him build till he becomes the person of his dreams.

In both examples.... Both girls stood by the guy while he was nothing right?

In first instance, the girl was just there standing in the relationship with nothing to offer as well besides love. The opposite of this is two people who fell in love while they are both rich.

In the second instance, she is in love with you even when she had the opportunity to go for someone better, she put in her effort and all to build the guy till he became who he wants to be.

Every sane person will choose the second girl. The first girl will only play victim and may not be able to pay the sacrifices the second girl paid if she was richer.

What do you guys think?

To me, this is a pure selfish logic from you and anyone supporting your post. It doesnt matter if she added anything to your life, do you know that being loved without money or any hope of getting it soon in this modern era is grace itself? Could you even afford to get the only thing[sex] she contributes to your life if you are dead broke? Besides, why not simply go for someone you feel will elevate your status?

There's nothing like love in Nigeria o. How can u say someone that stood by u for years when u had nothing was simply there because she had nothing also. Everything is not about money so don't give attitude to those who stood by u, prayed for u, loved u even when u were nothing. U won't know how much she also sacrificed for ur sake

Jgoldie:
I actually was in this shit some years back....dude was a broke ass...I loved him die...he was working with mr Biggs then...I supported with the little i had and the thing can Bleep ehnnn....i could not leave him because the sex was good and he was so caring....

I got a job...he got a well paid job like 6 figures....guess what ?? He started cheating....I jejely carried my slippers and managed what I have...thank God I I kuku dey recieve my peanut salary but I will not go into a relationship with a broke dude ...never again...I learnt the hard way..

Just take it easy. Easy does it better

If you want to love someone love him/her ...
whether you spend or you no spend ...you are not entitled to hold anyone captive for leaving a relationship as long as you were not forced to do what you did ...right girls ?

Let him/her face what will come around after him/her has gone around. ...."golden rule; do to others what you would have them do unto you"

My advice is simple is better you build yourself to a reasonable standard before any serious relationship. Women building you or helping you, in future if things don't go as planned it could spell dome for the man.
I may be wrong though

What if the broke lady had a rich dude disturbing her,yet she stood by you.. OP don't underestimate the power of love,cos when u fall in love,a million dollar from someone professing love to you wouldn't matter anymore.

eni4real:
*salvaged not savaged
You are absolutely right... Some guys could have committed suicide without their loving girlfriends.. That is more than a Diamond

that's true...i remember what my ex girl used to tell when I am passing through some unpleasant situations."John u are a big man don't b intimidated by what u see now. God will bless you beyond ur expectations. those words uplifted me at that moment.

pocohantas:

I expected your response. When you push the woman who built with you and marry a younger one to make her first lady or controller of your estate. That isn't abandonment ba?

If I abandon my broke bf who contributed nothing but prick and love. He will run to NL to create thread, telling everyone who cares to listen how I dumped him after getting a good job.

The general consensus would be how women can't handle power and/or how they change when they see small money. It will never be how he contributed nothing besides love and no sane woman would abandon a man who helped build her.

Abandonment is abandonment, be it taking additional wives or total cut off. Neither of them was the initial plan when you had nothing.

OBJ might not be a good example.

His issue with Moji is beyond "stood by you"

Meanwhile there are women as well as men who will abandon someone who built with them. Gratitude has little to do with gender.

1x2x3:
So last night a female friend of mine posted this question below.

Who would a guy choose between a girl who loved him while he was nothing and a girl who made him what he is today?

Below is my response to such misconstrued thinking of some ladies who play victims.


Okay let me clarify a bit. When a girl says she loved you when you were nothing I tend to wonder what the girl was at that moment. If you look closer she may be nothing financially and intellectually as well. I mean both of them were nothing while loving each other.

On the flip side there are situations a girl with financial and intellectual capability can be in love with a broke guy. She stays because she believes in him and to help him build till he becomes the person of his dreams.

In both examples.... Both girls stood by the guy while he was nothing right?

In first instance, the girl was just there standing in the relationship with nothing to offer as well besides love. The opposite of this is two people who fell in love while they are both rich.

In the second instance, she is in love with you even when she had the opportunity to go for someone better, she put in her effort and all to build the guy till he became who he wants to be.

Every sane person will choose the second girl. The first girl will only play victim and may not be able to pay the sacrifices the second girl paid if she was richer.

What do you guys think?

Guy stop interpreting everything from angle of money fame aND intellect. It will slow you down rationally. Mold you into a more or ess one directional thinker.

Every loyalty deserves reward. If you already know the reason he or she stays around. He or she may not have money or intellect. But may have faith, patience, love hope. In other words they invest time. In a volatile world as ours now where you do not even know how long your good fortune will last. You stand a better guarantee with someone who has stood by you however you may think of them in the now.

If they can stay if you have nothing, then rest in the knowledge that they will always be around. Tried and trusted. That's all the stand bying you need.

Aside, true love absorb the future in the moment.

While some invest in you as a rational pursuit. That is take your educating and potentials into considerations. Some just love in the now and are caught up in it. They are not calculations what you may even become. They are happy spending there time here and now with you. Which in my view is the purest form of love. You becoming something may just be a light bonus for them.

Very senseless question
Everything now is all about money money.

See there are good people and bad people on the earth. In all your doing, if you avoid bad people, your life go better.

There are good women out there although few
Try to avoid evil, wicked, toxic and bad women which are many.

Ensure you are with a good woman
And you will never need to ask this senseless question.



The answer to this equation is a good woman!!!!

And

monex:


OBJ might not be a good example.

His issue with Moji is beyond "stood by you"

Meanwhile there are women as well as men who will abandon someone who built with them. Gratitude has little to do with gender.

Strike out OBJ and put any other name.

I never said it has to do with gender, more reason I gave him an example of me dumping my broke bf. My point is, people do it every other day and "these guys" would never support this logic from a female.

1x2x3:
So last night a female friend of mine posted this question below.

Who would a guy choose between a girl who loved him while he was nothing and a girl who made him what he is today?

Below is my response to such misconstrued thinking of some ladies who play victims.


Okay let me clarify a bit. When a girl says she loved you when you were nothing I tend to wonder what the girl was at that moment. If you look closer she may be nothing financially and intellectually as well. I mean both of them were nothing while loving each other.

On the flip side there are situations a girl with financial and intellectual capability can be in love with a broke guy. She stays because she believes in him and to help him build till he becomes the person of his dreams.

In both examples.... Both girls stood by the guy while he was nothing right?

In first instance, the girl was just there standing in the relationship with nothing to offer as well besides love. The opposite of this is two people who fell in love while they are both rich.

In the second instance, she is in love with you even when she had the opportunity to go for someone better, she put in her effort and all to build the guy till he became who he wants to be.

Every sane person will choose the second girl. The first girl will only play victim and may not be able to pay the sacrifices the second girl paid if she was richer.

What do you guys think?

I totally disagree with ur story or explanation
Consider a brok student situation whom his girlfriend helped wit foodstuff n stipends for handouts so he cud manage n graduate wit gud grads n at d rit time
Now d guy has graduated bt d girlfriend can't give home job n anoda girl has helped
Now wh shud he b grateful to

yemmit90:


To me, this is a pure selfish logic from you and anyone supporting your post. It doesnt matter if she added anything to your life, do you know that being loved without money or any hope of getting it soon in this modern era is grace itself? Could you even afford to get the only thing[sex] she contributes to your life if you are dead broke? Besides, why not simply go for someone you feel will elevate your status?

There is exactly my point. The moment you go for such person and fulfil your dreams the one you left will remind you how she suffered with you. If you sit there and watch me develop in the name of you are standing with me while neglecting to assist or build yourself as then OYO is your case.

Let me tell you a lil story. I once dated a girl, we were both struggling and I had this dream of building a business from scratch just with the idea I had. I told her about my idea and the business which she mocked. So many nights I was up writing my ideas and plans and each time she see me writing she will be like "you've started writing this your nonsense again"

I needed her just to come in and provide intellectual support but nothing came forth. I took my idea to a female friend and she was excited, she knew I had no penny, just ideas and plans. She joined me and we started making more research and looked for someone to invest. I need to tell you I started losing interest in the relationship I had with my girlfriend, I was so inclined towards building the business which she felt would never work. Meanwhile the other girl did almost everything with me that we started dating while my girlfriend left.

A year later the business started flourishing real good and my ex started reaching me to remind me how we both suffered. How we stayed days without eating anything meaningful, that we can still come back together now that things are better......... I felt pity and did send her some funds to put in whatever she was doing.

I can't drop this other girl who built who I am today with me for someone who stood by me yet never believed in me or gave any support.

Youngjohnosas:
I think the best feeling in the world is when u have someone that genuinely care about you even when u have lost hope In yourself. they might not have the gold and diamond to offer at that point in time but their words can help build you and prepare you for the future.i remember when a girl asked me "do u have a life" I couldn't sleep that night. sometimes those little care, kiss and phuck savaged a lot of stuff. Anybody that stays by you,understands u,made u feel happy even when u had little or nothing to offer deserves an accolade.

May God bless you for this post. This is why i will never blame girls that dont date broke guys. some of them have very poor logic especially when they start getting money. They forgot that they didnt contribute to their lives too by being broke.

Let us all appreciate ladies that stayed with us during our struggle days, dont ever talk down on them even if you are not going to marry them.

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The fact that this is the category of all the girls you've dated doesn't mean there are no females that are independent and hardworking but things still don't work out for them....you need to change your mentality

Adakintroy2:



Guy stop interpreting everything from angle of money fame aND intellect. It will slow you down rationally. Mold you into a more or ess one directional thinker.

Every loyalty deserves reward. If you already know the reason he or she stays around. He or she may not have money or intellect. But may have faith, patience, love hope. In other words they invest time. In a volatile world as ours now where you do not even know how long your good fortune will last. You stand a better guarantee with someone who has stood by you however you may think of them.

If they can stay if you have nothing, then rest in the knowledge that they will always be around. Tried and trusted. That's all the input you need.

Like you've never seen women who prefer their husbands being broke out of fear and insecurity? Yes a woman can be that way and you as man won't progress, she won't contribute to make you progress.. She will actually stand with you throughout the remaining poverty stricken days of the person's life.

Harddiskng:


Paul planted, Apollos watered but it was God who made it grow.......... Lmao ma mahn

God bless u,u b somebody.