Neddyogu:


Philosopher Socrates, Sophocles and Plato mixed together. Sense wee nor kee u

i see u....u b somebody

1x2x3:


My point is; don't say you stuck by someone while he was poor unless you were rich and assisted. If you are poor and he is poor then tell me who is sticking by who.

then when women say they dont want broke men,ya'll be the first to open a thread like whiny brats to slut shame them.

Men are unsatisfied creatires

I am very happy and free now, I hustled all by myself and GOD elevated me to where I am, no woman can say shiit to me now, in fact my wife is sometimes worried because I pay the bills 100%

She is feeling so redundant.

You can call me old fashioned I don't care, but that's how I like my life, I don't need a penny from any woman.

funmisticqueen:
then when women say they dont want broke men,ya'll be the first to open a thread like whiny brats to slut shame them.

Men are unsatisfied creatires

Nope. I dated a girl who got married under my nose while we were still dating. We still talk today, I was hurt but never made a meal over it as I believed she got married to who she felt was better for her.

That's how I see life. What I wrote in my original post is applicable to either a guy or a girl.

1x2x3:


Like you've never seen women who prefer their husbands being broke out of fear and insecurity? Yes a woman can be that way and you as man won't progress, she won't contribute to make you progress.. She will actually stand with you throughout the remaining poverty stricken days of the person's life.

That's is a completely new direction you are going. Vctimizing those who stood by a man in times of lack. Because they do not have. A broke guy attract no friends. Not even a broke woman. Note a woman can be broke but can still at track rich guys if she is pretty. That means to an extent a woman has one option better off than a man. If she decide to stay put. Judge it from honest intentions of the heart. Not out of the abundance of material offering on the outside.

That way you will be giving all equal playing field as long as both intent are honest. No Class disperities

1x2x3:


Like you've never seen women who prefer their husbands being broke out of fear and insecurity? Yes a woman can be that way and you as man won't progress, she won't contribute to make you progress.. She will actually stand with you throughout the remaining poverty stricken days of the person's life.

That's is a completely new direction you are going. Vctimizing those who stood by a man in times of lack. Because they do not have. A broke guy attract no friends. Not even a broke woman. Note a woman can be broke but can still at track rich guys if she is pretty. That means to an extent a woman has one option better off than a man. If she decide to stay put. Judge it from honest intentions of the heart. Not out of the abundance of material offering on the outside.

That way you will be giving all equal playing field as long as both intent are honest. No Class disperities.

A good sign you understand the term "standing by a man" in the first place.

Adakintroy2:


That's is a completely new direction you are going. Vctimizing those who stood by a man in times of lack. Because they do not have. A broke guy attract no friends. Not even a broke woman. Note a woman can be broke but can still at track rich guys if she is pretty. That means to an extent a woman has one option better off than a man. If she decide to stay put. Judge it from honest intentions of the heart. Not out of the abundance of material offering on the outside.

That way you will be giving all equal playing field as long as both intent are honest. No Class disperities

I agree with you. What works for you may not work for me depending on the core values we seek in a woman.

So going back to the question of who would you choose between those 2, I would like to know your answer.

Jgoldie:


I don't do emotional stuff....I m too complicated for that...it can be so tiring you know....

I have dipped my foot in love waters and it burned quite bad..

Ouch!!
Your emotional juice is dried up!!
I was just wondering...'this moniker sound like a dude'..

You will be alright las las....
Time heals all wound/Burn

1x2x3:


There is exactly my point. The moment you go for such person and fulfil your dreams the one you left will remind you how she suffered with you. If you sit there and watch me develop in the name of you are standing with me while neglecting to assist or build yourself as then OYO is your case.

Let me tell you a lil story. I once dated a girl, we were both struggling and I had this dream of building a business from scratch just with the idea I had. I told her about my idea and the business which she mocked. So many nights I was up writing my ideas and plans and each time she see me writing she will be like "you've started writing this your nonsense again"

I needed her just to come in and provide intellectual support but nothing came forth. I took my idea to a female friend and she was excited, she knew I had no penny, just ideas and plans. She joined me and we started making more research and looked for someone to invest. I need to tell you I started losing interest in the relationship I had with my girlfriend, I was so inclined towards building the business which she felt would never work. Meanwhile the other girl did almost everything with me that we started dating while my girlfriend left.

A year later the business started flourishing real good and my ex started reaching me to remind me how we both suffered. How we stayed days without eating anything meaningful, that we can still come back together now that things are better......... I felt pity and did send her some funds to put in whatever she was doing.

I can't drop this other girl who built who I am today with me for someone who stood by me yet never believed in me or gave any support.

Why not ignore her and do your thing, this is not only women thing, some friends can discourage you too if they dont have interest in what you are doing. I personally sees any man who is expecting a woman to advise him on his future or helping him built one as weak. Just dont marry a lazy,troublesome,dirty and extravagant lady.

1x2x3:


Nope. I dated a girl who got married under my nose while we were still dating. We still talk today, I was hurt but never made a meal over it as I believed she got married to who she felt was better for her.

That's how I see life. What I wrote in my original post is applicable to either a guy or a girl.

was she building up with you? You seem like an exception to the rule

Can someone help a brother, please.
I need a chat group for matured minds. I mean an extremely naughty platform of every every.
Please inbox me the link or the admin's number.
God bless you good

pocohantas:


I expected your response. When you push aside the woman who built with you and marry a younger one to make her first lady or controller of your estate. That isn't abandonment ba?

If I abandon my broke bf who contributed nothing but prick and love. He will run to NL to create thread, telling everyone who cares to listen how I dumped him after getting a good job.

The general consensus would be how women can't handle power and/or how they change when they see small money. It will never be how he contributed nothing besides love and no sane woman would abandon a man who helped build her.

Abandonment is abandonment, be it taking additional wives or total cut off. Neither of them was the initial plan when you had nothing.

I don't believe this

Fountainofyouth:
There is nothing like any misconception about it, sticking to someone should be sticking with someone regardless of when the outcome changes, for a lady to stick to a guy when he had nothing doesn't mean she didn't have other options, she chose to stay because she believed in both of them not just the man same with a man sticking with his woman,

We have cases of people who have been together from a very tender age till adulthood, and at the end, they got married regardless of how rich or poor or stagnant things turned out to be, deep real LOVE supercedes money, appreciate a loved one who stayed despite all else, if you both didn't end up together, compensate him/her to show the person how important he/she was to you.

This mmadu5 guy should see this post....�

yemmit90:


Why not ignore her and do your thing, this is not only women thing, some friends can discourage you too if they dont have interest in what you are doing. I personally sees any man who is expecting a woman to advise him on his future or helping him built one as weak. Just dont marry a lazy,troublesome,dirty and extravagant lady.

Don't you think this is wrong? Your mother or any woman can be your mentor. Well for me I wasn't seeking her validation else I would have stopped I simply needed that support since it is a woman related product.......So now that it is successful you agree she should feed off it and enjoy the benefits?

1x2x3:


I agree with you. What works for you may not work for me depending on the core values we seek in a woman.

So going back to the question of who would you choose between those 2, I would like to know your answer.

Like you rightly pointed, it comes down to each and everyone's subjective core values.

Who would a guy choose between a girl who love him while he had nothing v a girl who made him what he is today.

It's not an intellect thing. Conviction expecially strong convictions exist deep down in the spirit. Some may not have but are playfull, humbles, kind..will give from the little they have and know you indept. That's is not to say the one that have does not share these qualities as well.

But if your site is limited to the material you will see only what you wish. I will pick a person that loves me for a true and honest reason. And that is a heart decision. Not material informed for me.

yemmit90:


May God bless you for this post. This is why i will never blame girls that dont date broke guys. some of them have very poor logic especially when they start getting money. They forgot that they didnt contribute to their lives too by being broke.

Let us all appreciate ladies that stayed with us during our struggle days, dont ever talk down on them even if you are not going to marry them.

yea even though u r going to leave such persons be sincere enough to do it the right way. sometimes some persons say I am weak but I just don't see it as weakness.when people have good intentions towards you,its humane to reciprocate.

Tessae:

This mmadu5 guy should see this post....�

This post doesn't change anything

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

No! There are many instances of a poor girl standing by and encouraging a poor dude, turning down offers from rich guys. I have seen such loyalty. You may argue that it is not common, but it sure happens.

did she contribute anytin to beta the guy's life?

Adakintroy2:


Like you rightly pointed, it comes down to each and everyone's subjective core values.

Who would a guy choose between a girl who love him while he had nothing v a girl who made him what he is today.

It's not an intellect thing. Conviction expecially strong convictions exist deep down in the spirit. Some may not have but are playfull, humbles, kind..will give from the little they have and know you indept. That's is not to say the one that have does not share these qualities as well.

But if your site is limited to the material you will see only what you wish. I will pick a person that loves me for a true and honest reason. And that is a heart decision. Not material informed for me.

Bingo!!! That inner conviction is my key point. Thanks man.

1x2x3:


Bingo!!! That inner conviction is my key point. Thanks man.

You welcome. Have a nice day.

that is why no matter wat i become,i cant forget my mother because of 'sacrifice' she has made for me. i will dump any ladies that dont contribute to my success straightup. because aside sex, i no no ur importance

robinsoncrosoe:
Normal me would av jumped on the bandwagon that lady's are gold diggers but I won't do that now after what one stupid guy did..yes I said stupid guy

U dated a girl in school when u had nothing. She didn't av much too but u guys were in the same class reading same course.u dated her for 4 years.she helped u at times to pay your school fees.

Then u guys graduate, get internship in same hospital.next thing u dumped her because u saw another lady.the one that even annoyed me is that this lady told this fool to pay her 100k before she accepts him.this fool paid 90k.

Was now telling me how his babe caught him cheating and he told her to leave if she wants to.

I called him a fool for letting her go and he poured drink on me.I just left and deleted his number from my phone

Some guys are fools I swear

Logged in to give you a thumbs up for this!

This is the primary reason why I don't take sides on this and similar matters.

The major problem is that people know they're inherently selfish and that it's a natural trait (sometimes understandable), but like to make up excuses or reasons to somehow feel good about themselves or deflect judgement.

Your ex-friend would defo not find it funny if he'd been at the receiving end of same treatment; but he has no problem dishing it out because he's selfish. Most people are: Both genders. Now, if folks owned up to their selfish and self-centered misgivings, it'd be swell; but they wouldn't.

I mean look at the OP's question! What logical explanation does he have for not helping out the first lady if he has the means to do so? How hard could it f*cking be to do sth tangible for the individuals who in one way or the other had your back when the going was tough? Not because they're entitled to it, but because you're a decent human being.

But it's unsurprising. I mean there's a good reason there's a saying, you only know your real friends when things are rough. And that power intoxicates.

-Lord

abeg abeg if u no get money do you love yourself talkless of loving someone else

1x2x3:


Don't you think this is wrong? Your mother or any woman can be your mentor. Well for me I wasn't seeking her validation else I would have stopped I simply needed that support since it is a woman related product.......So now that it is successful you agree she should feed off it and enjoy the benefits?

Yes, but there is limit to the advice a woman can give you before she got tired of you. An average woman created by God is expected her man to be head and not the tail or manipulated tool in her hands. They want a man who can always protect them both financially and intellectually even if they possessed the same quality.

To your question sir, the only situation i will think/feel she wont enjoy the benefit is if she had tried with every wicked means to stop me and not just her non supportive attitude. Some people are like that,but once you get what you want and be successful in that particular thing, they will start respecting and supporting your ideas the next time.

Let me tell you this brief story about myself, i dated a lot before i got married [both intimate and platonic relationship], then i came to realization that women are virtually the same. They only reacts to what you throw at them and what you want them to become. Some can be easily molded into your taste,but to mold some, you will need more time and patient. In marriage, even the angel you think she is good for you can do some unimaginable thing that you will feel you made mistake by marrying her. That is women for you, all of them are unique and good in their respective ways, it depends on how intelligent you are in handling a relationship with them.

PoliticalChinex:

I first met a girl who had little but not willing to contribute to build me but claim she love me so much and willing to stand and pray for me to get a job after my masters degree and save enough money to rent a house and marry her. She even told me that she sowed a seed in her church for me to get a good job.

Until i met another girl who was willing to immediately contribute to building me. She sacrificed so much to catapult me to the top fast. Would i have been foolish to hang with the first girl

You are materialistic!!

The first is better, provided that she is also developing herself tho!!

babakb:
I am very happy and free now, I hustled all by myself and GOD elevated me to where I am, no woman can say shiit to me now, in fact my wife is sometimes worried because I pay the bills 100%

She is feeling so redundant.

You can call me old fashioned I don't care, but that's how I like my life, I don't need a penny from any woman.

In this "Next level"?? You dey try oo..
Bills are not smiling oo especially Tuition fees of Kids..

Ryan03:
Why should a girl sit down doing nothing while her man builds himself up? I blame uneducated girls who are willing to support a man through school with their little trade, why not do it for yourself? How can you be so foolish? To the guys saying she had nothing to offer while he was broke apart from love and sex, why couldnt you stay without a girlfriend when you were broke? You are now claiming we both enjoyed it, did she ask you for sex? You were even having an erection when you were broke Girls, you better go and hustle with that your two hands and legs, you wont die if you work

I didnt feel like airing any view today but lemme just chip in this .

Any broke guy out there , who has a girl friend fucvking him daily is very very very very and i mean extremely lucky .

Such men should thank their stars , all women in nigeria are not like me

I will simply tell you guy! Having sex is the least of my problems as we are like this .

Instead of you to be fasting ,.praying and keep yourself holy for blessings to locate you. You are talking of u need sex to keep the brain and body intact.

First, have u given your life to Christ?

If not ? U better be a born again christain. Shelve sex aside and focus on making it .

For me , i dont get turned on , if im broke and a broke guy is wooing me.

Biko please stay your lane, dont add to my stress . Lemme make it first , then u can come back and talk about sex in a relationship, all in the guise of boyfriend.and girlfriend .

Well broke guys are lucky sha, having sex with their babes . For me , i dont get turned on in poverty , thats the plain truth . Mutual success and comfort is like an adrenaline that turns me to a very high climax

While my greatest fear is poverty and lack. I dont joke with making it or being comfortable. Its a Must ! In my dictionary. So Sex! Swerve!

1x2x3:


My point is; don't say you stuck by someone while he was poor unless you were rich and assisted. If you are poor and he is poor then tell me who is sticking by who.

so what if she is poor and a richer guy is coming for her and she decides to leave you, why do you ppl come and cry afterall who is sticking with who? Your point is very wrong. A beautiful girl that is wise can use her beauty to climb up the ladder.

Fountainofyouth:
There is nothing like any misconception about it, sticking to someone should be sticking with someone regardless of when the outcome changes, for a lady to stick to a guy when he had nothing doesn't mean she didn't have other options, she chose to stay because she believed in both of them not just the man same with a man sticking with his woman,

We have cases of people who have been together from a very tender age till adulthood, and at the end, they got married regardless of how rich or poor or stagnant things turned out to be, deep real LOVE supercedes money, appreciate a loved one who stayed despite all else, if you both didn't end up together, compensate him/her to show the person how important he/she was to you.

Apt!!!

Jgoldie:
I actually was in this shit some years back....dude was a broke ass...I loved him die...he was working with mr Biggs then...I supported with the little i had and the thing can Bleep ehnnn....i could not leave him because the sex was good and he was so caring....

I got a job...he got a well paid job like 6 figures....guess what ?? He started cheating....I jejely carried my slippers and managed what I have...thank God I I kuku dey recieve my peanut salary but I will not go into a relationship with a broke dude ...never again...I learnt the hard way..

Honestly ehn, if we should dwell on all the heart breaks we get for staying loyal to a man regardless of not been boxed up, some of us would never love again, we'd just go for guys strictly for money, and if you notice all the type of guys that are ungrateful, it's the ones that has never tasted real money before.

eni4real:
You are materialistic!!

The first is better, provided that she is also developing herself tho!!

She is not developing herself. Her only contribution to my life is the promise to wait and pray for me as if i have not been praying for myself.

Meanwhile, i am not poor myself coz i have been working hard to work myself to full-time masters degree in a top university with top grades. So get the gist beta b4 u judge wrongly

pocohantas:


So many great men went ahead to pick a second wife after years with women who helped them build. OBJ married Stella and she was his First Lady. Eleganza man married Sade who wasn't even half his age, now she controls everything. Ned just married Regina.

Sometimes, men just want a woman that fits the current status. Has nothing to do with sanity.

When OBJ was in prison, it was only Stella that visited him through out that period