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Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 9:19pm On Jul 19, 2019 |
Apparently, they do it all the time! But yeah that makes no sense. Which is why the USA has the marriage laws that they have. And yes I know feminism has allowed women to abuse those laws, but they were designed for women not to loose out on wealth if she help "Make" her husband. 1x2x3: |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 9:40pm On Jul 19, 2019 |
Trust This, Women are only submissive for 2 reasons: 1. Because she want to be. 2. Based on her options. mezarddinny: |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 9:59pm On Jul 19, 2019 |
A Big Amen to this! Fountainofyouth: 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 1:12am On Jul 20, 2019 |
skywalker240: OMG! That was just tooo funny!!! |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by skywalker240(m): 1:21am On Jul 20, 2019 |
MarjieJ98354:well i dont find her Funny anyways. |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 2:33am On Jul 20, 2019 |
nairalandposter:This is romance section, tell me what are they suppose to discuss? 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by BabbanBura(m): 9:40am On Aug 27, 2019 |
Jgoldie: Awwww! 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by rumenase(m): 11:57am On Sep 16, 2019 |
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Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by princfred(m): 12:18pm On Sep 16, 2019 |
Ryan03:This must be a lady behind the moniker. Which uneducated girl supports a man through school? The educated ones never mentally develop such orientation talk less the uneducated ones. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by princfred(m): 12:20pm On Sep 16, 2019 |
pocohantas:Making all these sense. Must be a great day. |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by princfred(m): 12:41pm On Sep 16, 2019 |
Ugosample:Feminism happened. Feminists need to hear this. 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by princfred(m): 12:51pm On Sep 16, 2019 |
Jgoldie:Sorry maybe you should have married him when the iron was hot. Sometimes you girls waste too much time for God knows what until....... The lesson should be you gals should stop waiting till the man has the world before settling down with him because if/when he finds out you are only willing to now settle down with him that he has made it, he won't trust you. 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by DSHADOWWALKER: 8:46pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
robinsoncrosoe: Calm down,sir,maybe d guy is an idiot sha,but what if he never really loved the lady?? Because they struggled together doesnt have to mean marriage must be d reward,marriage sud never be a reward |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Blissbath(f): 9:20pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
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Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 9:42pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: You made some salient points. Although the answer to this are very subjective, people tend to pick examples from Men who left their first wives and picked new ones as examples but there lots more women who stick to their first loves. Using Ahmed Musa as an example, he married his wife and she bore kids for him. She became fat after childbirth. He was happy with it until he became famous and travels to Russia to play Football. He became exposed and he started dating a slim beautiful igbo lady. Then married her as she now fit his new status. This is very unfair and cruel. Now let's look a story of Ada, who was sponsored by an illiterate trader at Alaba from 100 level in Covenant university to 400 level. While in school she became exposed and met a better exposed guy than a mere trader. She dated and then married the new guy after graduation because she couldn't stand getting married to a Man who cannot even communicate in English. This is also cruel. But the Moral of the story is, In life when people are improving their lives and getting better. Such as: Education, looks, exposure, business etc. You need to move with them as a spouse. This is the Sole reason why i don't encourage any woman to be a stay at home wife. Life is very unfair by default. 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by pansophist(m): 9:55pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
To accurately understand this scenario, it is necessary to dive in a bit into the female psyche why some felt indebted for staying with you because you have ''nothing''. When it comes to romance, women play to win, while men play not to lose. I will repeat and think about it deeply. MEN PLAY TO WIN, WOMEN PLAY NOT TO LOSE. If you understand the depth of the above statement, then it won't be difficult to see it from her perspective. In the romantic marketplace, women are highly sorted after. It is common for a girl to give out her number ten times in a day to random men. She is blessed with the currency (interpret as beauty and youthfulness) to trade-up and date other guys, a currency other men want to cash-out from, but she ignored them all to be with you. By being with you, she is playing not to lose her natural currency (beauty, youthfulness, and in some cases, fertility) which is steadily on the decline as she ages, with the hope that she will prove her loyalty and win your commitment. It is also why women generally do not like the age question, just as a rich man would not like you asking him how much he has in his bank account. Such a question is prying in nature and signifies that you are trying to judge their worth and value. She is above him in rank in the sexual marketplace, and to be her equal, the guy must be successful in the real world. It is not news that women are attracted, and prefer quality men (not just by being a male). It the natural league of things. A pretty girl and a rich dude is the norm, not with a poor one. This is all that is playing in her head, even if many are not aware of it, it is subconscious, instinctive, and hierarchical nature of how humans mating have evolved into. As a man, you might probably see it differently from her, like judging what she brings to the table from a material perspective (money, etc), but men and women from time immemorial, bring different value to relationships. To give up all the sexual advances from other men, free gifts, weekend night out fully paid, with a depreciating currency (approaching 30), which reduces her values in society just to be with you, then it is reasonable, understandable, and contextually right for her to feel that she stayed with you when you have nothing. Pansophist 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by DSHADOWWALKER: 10:15pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
pansophist: Relationship sud not be like u have a stated,it sud never be a transaction,what you are stating is prostitution,sex(beauty) for gratification and compensation.And you expect the same man not to run after a more sexy lady he can "afford" after he becomes rich?? 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by pansophist(m): 10:24pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
DSHADOWWALKER: it shouldn't be, but it is what it is. Human relationships from time immemorial are symbiotic (mostly mutualistic, parasitic, commensalistic). The new girl the sane man runs to still didn't deny the notion that the relationship is a transaction. Running to a new girl he can upgrade to with his money, for her beauty or what she has to offer, again, symbiotic in nature. 1 Like |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by lyndaway(f): 11:36pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
If you don't love or like someone don't eat anything (money) from him or her it an Hausa adage |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
It's you guys that will say, gals don't like dating guys that are still hustling. I know of a woman, a nurse. She and her husband, a doctor, worked together to build his hospital. Guess what... When the money started flowing, he started marrying more wives. Today he has 5 wives. The most painful thing is that non of these other wives are educated. So what I learnt from their story is never date a broke guy, hustling or not. |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by BigJoe19: 11:55pm On Sep 19, 2019 |
Tela101:What you stated is the problem and cause of women being 5th wives or more, so in a country like Nigeria that there are many broke men how will the women be evenly distributed with the men, that is why you will see a rich man marrying 5wives, do you know the cause of this? Answer= the women don't want to marry broke men. |
Re: Misconception Of "I Stood By You When You Were Nothing". by Nobody: 12:04am On Sep 20, 2019 |
BigJoe19: I stated that because, he said a woman that made you rich and the one that was with you when you were broke, who will you be with. This woman was not a leech like you guys are fond of saying. What am saying is, stick with who was there for you, financially or otherwise. |
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