justine94:
My Gf of Almost 3 years, her Ex still calls her anytime he likes even though not Frequently, she once told me she felt bad about him that he did nothing to her,she so much believe him to an extent he calls her to tell her things that he Dreamt about her life,she says most of his Dreams comes to Past while they were Dating then..When she went back to school ,she told me he called her to come see him but she declined..i know she loves me very much,she's has proven it to me beyond any reasonable doubt.but she still have a Soft Spots for her Ex.its making us have issues most times..of recent i saw a dialled log of her ex on her phone..she said wanted to check on him..it weaked me alot.but she said it was nothing..even though the ex is actually helping her kid bro for his admission .she claim she only called to tell him that the brother has written his pume exams...when i look at her .i have this feeling she still have a soft spot for her ex..i told her can she see her ex call and not pick it up..she could not ansa,i asked her if she still loves him,she could not ansa,she only tell me she cant go back to him,that she loves me..i know she wont go back to him ..but i know this to be sure she still have a Soft spots for her ex..and her ex knows this very well..so he calls her anytime he likes knowing fully well he knows how to talk to her for her to listen..anything he tells her she believes him,notwithstanding,anytime he calls her ,she tells me that he called her,am just confused..i have already told her i cant continue again.becuase i cant continue to hurt my self....please i need advice

justine94:
My Gf of Almost 3 years, her Ex still calls her anytime he likes even though not Frequently, she once told me she felt bad about him that he did nothing to her,she so much believe him to an extent he calls her to tell her things that he Dreamt about her life,she says most of his Dreams comes to Past while they were Dating then..When she went back to school ,she told me he called her to come see him but she declined..i know she loves me very much,she's has proven it to me beyond any reasonable doubt.but she still have a Soft Spots for her Ex.its making us have issues most times..of recent i saw a dialled log of her ex on her phone..she said wanted to check on him..it weaked me alot.but she said it was nothing..even though the ex is actually helping her kid bro for his admission .she claim she only called to tell him that the brother has written his pume exams...when i look at her .i have this feeling she still have a soft spot for her ex..i told her can she see her ex call and not pick it up..she could not ansa,i asked her if she still loves him,she could not ansa,she only tell me she cant go back to him,that she loves me..i know she wont go back to him ..but i know this to be sure she still have a Soft spots for her ex..and her ex knows this very well..so he calls her anytime he likes knowing fully well he knows how to talk to her for her to listen..anything he tells her she believes him,notwithstanding,anytime he calls her ,she tells me that he called her,am just confused..i have already told her i cant continue again.becuase i cant continue to hurt my self....please i need advice

justine94:
My Gf of Almost 3 years, her Ex still calls her anytime he likes even though not Frequently, she once told me she felt bad about him that he did nothing to her,she so much believe him to an extent he calls her to tell her things that he Dreamt about her life,she says most of his Dreams comes to Past while they were Dating then..When she went back to school ,she told me he called her to come see him but she declined..i know she loves me very much,she's has proven it to me beyond any reasonable doubt.but she still have a Soft Spots for her Ex.its making us have issues most times..of recent i saw a dialled log of her ex on her phone..she said wanted to check on him..it weaked me alot.but she said it was nothing..even though the ex is actually helping her kid bro for his admission .she claim she only called to tell him that the brother has written his pume exams...when i look at her .i have this feeling she still have a soft spot for her ex..i told her can she see her ex call and not pick it up..she could not ansa,i asked her if she still loves him,she could not ansa,she only tell me she cant go back to him,that she loves me..i know she wont go back to him ..but i know this to be sure she still have a Soft spots for her ex..and her ex knows this very well..so he calls her anytime he likes knowing fully well he knows how to talk to her for her to listen..anything he tells her she believes him,notwithstanding,anytime he calls her ,she tells me that he called her,am just confused..i have already told her i cant continue again.becuase i cant continue to hurt my self....please i need advice

drips8:
You should quit the relationship if you feel insecure

Your peace of mind is very important

IneedSugarMumy1:

I dont like imposing myself on a woman..i cant tell to change her number am not yet married to her..

Do you want to help her kid brother get tjr admission?

If you're not comfortable about her talking to her ex then change her number, but please before you subject her to this kind of rules make sure you're ready to marry her

justine94:
Its not that i feel insecure..she has no plans of going back to him..but she listens to him Nd i dont like it

clive2u:
Give her an ultimatum. Frequent talking to ur ex or me. Don't just tell her to stop kpata kpata or she'll do it In ur back. Let her reduce it.


I hate it wen a girl keeps praising her ex in my presence, when I use to date sha

Gpopsicle:
the earlier she stopped giving her ex attention, the better for the both of you. however if this should continue, be ready to lose her...

AwkaetitiBabe:
The op was the one pumping her for information. He know she cannot go back to the said ex so why get worked up? Some men think because you dating them, they should be your alpha and omega, things don't work like that. This Op girlfriend might simply be on contact with d said ex because of her brother's admission. And if she cut ties now, I know say this Op no go fit run d admission thing for her brother o.
The op should guard his insecurities.

RuggedArab:
Law of Mr OKAFOR is a strong thing. Its either you cut off from your ex or I cut you off. “Choose ye whom you will serve”.

justine94:
I undastand. I love her very much..like she undastand me well..i plan to marry her ...i know she loves me very she has proven that to me which i know..but this ex thing is jst giving us issues..she only tells me the only reason she still relates with him it because of her brothers admission..and he is also using it as a meduim to still contact her..

RuggedArab:


Bro, a man in love is superstitious. You can’t be in love and still use your senses to decide properly. Sit her down and discuss with her. Tell her you are not comfortable and you DO NOT like her relating with the loser (ex). Play chess mind game on her, intimidate her with actions, keep emotions and love aside for now. Act fast before the nigga gets into her pants again (that’s if he hasn’t started digging the rabbit hole he left).

lilpage14:
just tell her you want a short time break up for her to figure out who she wants, either you or her ex. if she agrees then look for another girlfriend. if she disagrees and still keep in touch with her ex ( just break up with her ).

if she loves you she will do anything to save the relationship

justine94:
My Gf cant continue to hurt my self....please i need advice

uniqueflash:
but you just said u can't continue again,what do you want me to tell you now?maybe you should try sniper......it works magic.

Trizyd:
Have had this experience also. My advice is you should try and do better.. Study her ex and at least copy what he does, or you do much better than her ex. Call at times her ex will call, engage her till there is no time the ex can fit into.. Or better still, if situation doesn't change, burn your relationship bridge with her and never look back.. Just leave, it gonna hurt buh I'm telling you it would be much better to know her ex is bonking her, because it will always get worse, and worse. It's a dream to think she will suddenly loose interest in her ex.. I have a ex like that, she literally swore to me, that she will always cheat on her husband with me. Some guys have created a special bond with their girls when they where dating, breaking that bond is always impossible, the emotional attachment will always be there.

Sundrus:
No come dey disturb us here over woman way u no ready to marry

justine94:
My Gf of Almost 3 years, her Ex still calls her anytime he likes even though not Frequently, she once told me she felt bad about him that he did nothing to her,she so much believe him to an extent he calls her to tell her things that he Dreamt about her life,she says most of his Dreams comes to Past while they were Dating then..When she went back to school ,she told me he called her to come see him but she declined..i know she loves me very much,she's has proven it to me beyond any reasonable doubt.but she still have a Soft Spots for her Ex.its making us have issues most times..of recent i saw a dialled log of her ex on her phone..she said wanted to check on him..it weaked me alot.but she said it was nothing..even though the ex is actually helping her kid bro for his admission .she claim she only called to tell him that the brother has written his pume exams...when i look at her .i have this feeling she still have a soft spot for her ex..i told her can she see her ex call and not pick it up..she could not ansa,i asked her if she still loves him,she could not ansa,she only tell me she cant go back to him,that she loves me..i know she wont go back to him ..but i know this to be sure she still have a Soft spots for her ex..and her ex knows this very well..so he calls her anytime he likes knowing fully well he knows how to talk to her for her to listen..anything he tells her she believes him,notwithstanding,anytime he calls her ,she tells me that he called her,am just confused..i have already told her i cant continue again.becuase i cant continue to hurt my self....please i need advice

justine94:
Bro you just said exactly the way it is...but the last tin i wd do is copy the ex over anytin..the tin is that it was the ex who deflowered her..dey stayed togeda for a long time lik close to 2 years...she said the call she made to him was just nothing..but we all knw u dont call an ex for just notin..especially and ex of such levels