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Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by capitalzero: 7:16am On Aug 07, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999: Why Don’t Girls Like Me? I’m really impressing her. I’ve told her all about myself—the things I own, the places I’ve been, the people I know. She must be dying to date me! I wish the ground would open and swallow me up! Can’t he take a hint? How can I end this conversation without being rude? YOU’RE old enough to date. You’d like to find someone who is attractive and who shares your religious beliefs. ( 1 Corinthians 7:39 ) In the past, though, each time you tried to start a relationship, you felt as though you crashed and burned. If you’d like to get to know a girl better, what factors do you need to consider? And what Bible principles would you do well to remember? What to Do First Before you decide to pursue a particular girl, there are some basic skills you need to master, and these will help you to be friends with anyone. Consider the following. ▪ Cultivate good manners. The Bible says that “love is not ill-mannered.” ( 1 Corinthians 13:5 , Today’s English Version ) Good manners show that you respect others and that you’re developing a mature, Christlike personality. However, good manners aren’t like a suit you wear to impress others but take off when you get home. Ask yourself, ‘Do I display good manners when dealing with my family members?’ If not, then it will seem forced when you do so while interacting with others outside your home. Remember, to find out the type of person you really are, a discerning girl will look at the way you treat members of your family.— Ephesians 6:1, 2. What girls say: “I definitely find it attractive if a boy displays good manners both in small things, like opening the door for me, and larger things, like being kind and considerate not only to me but also to my family.”— Tina, 20 .* “I am put off when I’ve just met someone but he asks questions that are too personal, such as ‘Are you dating?’ and ‘What are your goals?’ It’s rude and makes me squirm!”— Kathy, 19. ▪ Maintain your personal hygiene. Good hygiene shows respect not only for others but also for yourself. ( Matthew 7:12 ) If you respect yourself, others are more likely to respect you. On the other hand, if you let your hygiene slide, you’ll sabotage your efforts to impress a girl. What girls say: “One boy who was interested in me had really bad breath. I just couldn’t get past that.”—Kelly, 24. ▪ Cultivate conversation skills. The basis of a lasting relationship is good communication. This involves discussing not only your interests but also the interests of your friend.—Philippians 2:3, 4 . What girls say: “I’m impressed when a boy can converse with me naturally, when he can remember things I told him and can ask questions that keep the conversation moving.”— Christine, 20. “I think that boys are attracted to what they see, but girls are more attracted to what they hear.”— Laura, 22. “Gifts are great. But if a boy can hold a good conversation, if he can comfort and encourage you with his words . . . Wow! That’s attractive.”— Amy, 21. “I would definitely want to get to know someone better if he had a sense of humor but could also talk about more serious things without sounding fake.”— Kelly, 24. Applying the above suggestions will help you to enjoy good friendships. However, once you feel that you are ready to start a serious relationship with a particular girl, what should you do? The Next Step ▪ Take the initiative. If you think a friend whom you admire might make a good marriage mate, let her know you are interested in her. Be clear and forthright in declaring your feelings. Yes, it can be nerve-racking. You fear rejection. But your being willing to take the initiative is a sign that you have grown up. What girls say: “I can’t read minds. So if someone wanted to get to know me better, he would have to be honest and straightforward and just tell me.”— Nina, 23. “It could be an awkward transition if you’ve been friends for a while. But I’d respect someone if he simply said that he would like to get to know me as more than just a friend.”— Helen, 25. ▪ Respect the girl’s decision. What if your friend says that she doesn’t want a more serious relationship with you? Dignify her by believing that she knows her own heart and that her no means no. It betrays a lack of maturity if you make a pest of yourself. Really, if you ignore a girl’s explicit rejection of your attention—even becoming provoked by her rebuff—are you really thinking of her interests or your own?— 1 Corinthians 13:11 . What girls say: “It irritates me when I say a definite no to a boy but he keeps on trying.”— Colleen, 20. “I explained to one boy that I wasn’t interested in him, but he kept pressuring me for my phone number. I wanted to be nice. After all, it probably wasn’t easy for him to work up the nerve to express his feelings. But eventually I had to be very firm with him.”— Sarah, 23. What Not to Do Some young men feel that they have little trouble getting girls to like them. They may even compete with their peers to show who can grab the attention of the most girls. However, such competition is cruel and will earn you a bad reputation. ( Proverbs 20:11 ) You can avoid that outcome if you do the following. ▪ Don’t flirt. A flirt uses flattering speech and provocative body language. He has no intention of pursuing an honorable romantic relationship. Such actions and attitudes ignore the Bible’s counsel to treat “younger women as sisters with all chasteness.” ( 1 Timothy 5:2 ) Flirts make poor friends and worse marriage mates. Discerning girls know that. What girls say: “I think it’s very unattractive when someone flatters you but you know that he has said the same things to your friend just last month.”— Helen, 25. “This cute boy once started flirting with me, talking mainly about himself. When another girl joined our group, he did the same with her. Then a third girl joined our group, and he used the same lines on her. It was ugly!”— Tina, 20. ▪ Don’t toy with a girl’s feelings. Don’t expect that friendship with a member of the opposite sex will operate according to the same rules as friendship with a member of the same sex. Why? Consider: If you remarked that a male friend looked good in his new suit or you regularly talked to that friend and confided in him, it is unlikely that he would think that you are romantically attracted to him. But if you compliment a girl on her appearance or you regularly talk to her and confide in her, she may well think that you have a romantic interest in her. What girls say: “I just don’t think boys understand that they can’t treat girls the same way that they treat their male friends.”— Sheryl, 26. “A boy will get my phone number, and then I get a text message from him. So, . . . what does that mean? Sometimes you can have a text-messaging relationship and get emotionally attached, but how much can you say in a text message?”— Mallory, 19. “I don’t think a boy realizes how quickly a girl can become emotionally involved, especially if he is caring and easy to talk to. It’s not that she’s desperate. I just think that most girls want to fall in love and that they always have an eye out for ‘Mr. Right.’”— Alison, 25. Be Realistic It’s unrealistic, even egotistical, to think that all girls will like you. But some will if you remember this: How you look on the outside is less important than what you are on the inside. It’s hardly surprising that the Bible emphasizes the need to cultivate “the new personality.”— Ephesians 4:24 . Kate, 21, sums up the matter this way: “Boys think that to attract girls they have to dress a certain way or have a certain look. While this is true to some degree, I think that many girls are more attracted to positive personality traits.”* https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102009170 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Goalnaldo(m): 7:17am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Dizzyrascal:yeah my name is a fusion of goal and Ronaldo. |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Juban(m): 7:18am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Are you you are not mistaking sex with dating?? |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Izprince(m): 7:18am On Aug 07, 2019 |
One thing any girl likes his power, it can be in form of money but just show the girl you can protect her and I'm telling you even though she has numerous boy friends you will be the highest shareholder.✌ |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by jorez: 7:18am On Aug 07, 2019 |
My Friend go make money and see them rushing you,they see you too young but even at that show ambition to make money step into things that will make you great in the future and trust me they will flock to you in droves. |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Dizzyrascal(m): 7:22am On Aug 07, 2019 |
frozen70:Miss, if you indeed paid any attention to this post you would see clearly where the Op stated that he has never had sex. So what's all this talk about hookers? Clean up your mindset, please 2 Likes |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Dizzyrascal(m): 7:25am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Goalnaldo:it think it is better I follow you now and get it over with. You know why? Because it takes a cool guy to notice another cool guy. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by quadraheem(m): 7:27am On Aug 07, 2019 |
You better go and face your studies, an girls make you dey find up and down. 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by quadraheem(m): 7:27am On Aug 07, 2019 |
You better go and face your studies, na girls make you dey find up and down. 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by yetunsbay(m): 7:30am On Aug 07, 2019 |
proficienc:Thks bro |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Kenneth10110(m): 7:32am On Aug 07, 2019 |
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Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by omoadeleye(m): 7:37am On Aug 07, 2019 |
you are like me though, cause i do get lots of turn down from girls, so i decided to change my game, i started asking but the skinny and thicky girls around until i discovered that thick girls always give in to me than ordinary normal girls, so these days i don't disturb myself or weigh myself down again cause those big yanch and big boobies girls are the one that always say yes to me... just change your scope and don't give a Bleep about a girl again. 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by gentlegenius(m): 7:39am On Aug 07, 2019 |
ubunja:OP, pls ignore this. |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Haderonke20(f): 7:41am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Dizzyrascal:lol,he seems depressed and most of the comments are just of hate,I said that to light up his mood,but I'm still being sincere |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Haderonke20(f): 7:42am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Dizzyrascal:lol,no I'm not.the op seems depressed,and most if the comments doesn't make sense to me.I'm being sincere th0 |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Goalnaldo(m): 7:43am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Dizzyrascal:and am following back asap. ![]() |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Ohomem: 7:45am On Aug 07, 2019 |
This one weak me ....not everyone had the opportunity to be in the University. Leave girls matter alone 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ALEXANDER51: 7:45am On Aug 07, 2019 |
instead of looking for a girlfriend or you feel you are love starved and ladies dont say yes to you Just face something else build your future,develop yourself at the right time that right will be seen. 2 Likes |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by 1daboi: 7:46am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Start smacking their asses, don't take them serious and see how they'll start taking you serious. Don't forget that girls love bad boys. Shalom |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by 1daboi: 7:48am On Aug 07, 2019 |
ALEXANDER51:guy shut up. Did he tell you he's not building his life? Dude is talking about girls and you're here writing poo. You're the one who needs to go get a life |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Shotoyinbo29: 7:48am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Haderonke20:lol, Anty ronke so u are already falling for the guy 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by satowind(m): 7:48am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Jgoldie:I just found my matter of the heart ❤️.. op stop asking girls out is embarrassing, just get them to ur place try kissing her , the touch her and try to finger her, she will ask u what are u doing , tell her ' u know I like you , I mean like like I'm while still touching her, some will insist on letting u explain , some will ask u after sex , just tell them u like them after 3 times wey una do this nah she go come dey ask u if u wan date her , if u have a gf or not etc. Is not as simple as this oh takes practice. But never read books for naija girls they are from another planet the package u need suppose come from another planet too. Then never verbally ask them to date u especially when u never lamuzia and protozua her womanlies they will tell u they want to be friends. 5 Likes |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 7:48am On Aug 07, 2019 |
gentlegenius:he ignores that at his own peril 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Dizzyrascal(m): 7:48am On Aug 07, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:I agree completely with you on this one. I remember the last person that started coming close to me, I had to pull away for similar reasons. Sometimes it better to pull out than to regret everything. TRUE TALK 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Logobenz0: 7:52am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Nigeria girls Na Mumu I swear. All they know is money money money money ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by djoe21(m): 7:53am On Aug 07, 2019 |
ubunja: *yimu* |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by mudiana(m): 7:54am On Aug 07, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:learn from a former virgin who spent years chasing one particular gal. Go develop urself bro, be a money magnet. Pursue ur dreams in life cos disturbing urself about gals would only make u slow in achieving what matters to you which is a successful life. When u re successful, gals will come and you will choose like you are buying a fine suit from a store. Go and be successful my G. 3 Likes |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by CaptainFM1: 7:58am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Ask yourself these simple questions and genuinely provide answers by yourself. 1. If "I" am a lady, would I date a guy like me? 2. If "yes"....why? 3. If " no"....why? I don't know you, but the answer to your query lies between question 2 or 3. If you can truly imagine yourself as one of those ladies...,then you will be able to answer the above questions. And hey, don't worry about it. Sometimes, a bit luck may just be all you need. |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Dizzyrascal(m): 8:00am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Haderonke20:hmmm! Who knows he might just fall in love with you. Take care of his heart in advance. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by DavidEsq(m): 8:03am On Aug 07, 2019 |
OmoAlata1:Kuku kee him na
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Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by CsRockefeller(m): 8:10am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Promiseval: Lovely |
Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by abbatoir(m): 8:13am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Hmmm |
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