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The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by DaySpringer: 5:11pm On Aug 07, 2019 |
There is this general saying... That you can meet a man in two months and he can have good intentions and marry you and there are men that can pretend for as much as year just to have sex with you and still leave after he has gotten what he wanted. I don't believe in "A man will be loyal for who he wants to be loyal for". That is just a platitude that many ladies use to placate themselves after making poor judgements in character. They also use this to stop themselves from going into more detailed analysis of what they have missed during the relationships and the red flags that they may have ignored. Loyalty is a core character trait that is not turned off or on depending on the person that the man is involved. Loyal men would rather break up than cheat. So How can a lady Identify a Good man that is serious and has good intentions for her. Ladies you are invited to share your opinion based on your experience. What are the red flags that give you advance warning that at the midst of all the pretence that this guy might not be whole he really seems. I have a belief that no matter how someone pretends, they cannot do a 100% perfect pretence game just the same way no football team can maintain 100% possession in a 90 mins football game, that is the same way that a pretended will at one time inadvertently reveal his true intentions. So Ladies, based on experience what are the tell tale signs and Guys, give the ladies a sneak peak in the way we think, what are the ways that a guy might drop the ball in his pretence game , that a lady might be tempted to just ignore as part of relationship issues that she absolutely must not. Don't view and Pass, your comments and posts might just save someone from an even severe heartbreak. |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by HRHQueenPhil(f): 5:26pm On Aug 07, 2019 |
for someone like me fully led by the HOLY SPIRIT, i can assure that 1. that man will call u everyday even its just 2 hear ur voice 2. he will introduce u 2 his family, friends and refer u 2 pple as wife2be 3. he always want to hold ur hand in public and stay near u so even the blind will know ua re a couple 4. he begins 2 ask or seek ur opinions and see ur reactions to issues relating to marriage 5. he will try 2 have sex with u, but if he sees u are a good geh, he wont force. the disciplined ones wont ask at all |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by DaySpringer: 3:54am On Aug 08, 2019 |
HRHQueenPhil: I feel that many guys that are pretending can always fake all of these things you have mentioned above. Yoruba girls are especially known to be good at number 2. Is there anything you can add that will help a lady to determine he is for real that is so uncommon that she must definitely believe it? or conversely what can a lady spot that is a bad sign that his man is not for her, especially when he has otherwise been good so far. |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 5:43am On Aug 08, 2019 |
I believe every individual has their own set of rules, land mines & deal breakers in a relationship. Some more specific than others. I don't know about how other people go about it, but I always state mine very early on, so it is understood from the get go what my values are. Like you said, things like loyalty don't change depending on which direction the wind blows. My core values also remain the same no matter who I choose to be with & I cannot compromise on them. Relationships are a learning curve, so even though I've been in quite a few, I still don't know what the qualities of a 'good man' are supposed be lol. I only know what gels with me. A man is as 'good' as his beliefs vs. my own, I'd say. If we have a lot in common, we're 'good'. Now a subject I'm very certain about is who is not right for me. This one is not as complicated as trying to figure out who's good. It's clear cut & simple. It all goes back to my FIXED & 'NOT ABOUT TO CHANGE ANYTIME SOON' core beliefs. I value things like communication, consistency, honesty & of course, loyalty. Try me on ANY of these things & the end is nigh. I think I'm pretty uncomplicated that way 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 6:54am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: 3 Likes
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Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 6:59am On Aug 08, 2019 |
[quote author=nisai post=81051036][/quote] Oh of course, yes! What are your own views on the subject? |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by Hoodbilonia: 7:02am On Aug 08, 2019 |
Youbsound like a 200level student Abegi Nonsense write up Na yankee dat kind stupid man of yours go dey,den u go turn am to mumu and remote control 2 Likes |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 7:32am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:What else? Couldn't you see me applauding you? I could not have put it better. Simple, a serious man will do his all to keep a woman's love and loyalty to himself. He would try and adapt himself to a woman's principles just to keep her happy and secure. He fervently pursues an everlasting bond of union with the woman (marriage). I love you 2 Likes |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 7:58am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: It's not about one having to adapt to the other though. At least that's not how I want it or expect it to be. Relationships are not by force. You don't have to be in one, for starters. You also don't have to "adjust" or morph yourself into someone's idea of an ideal partner just to be in a relationship with them. Nope, that I don't agree with. That's being disingenuous. A natural flow/fit is much better. Noone has to go through a personality makeover for the other. You just stay true to who you are. They either match up or they don't. SIMPLE. I'm very big on individuality. Like, who I am, my identity, things I believe in etc are all extremely important to me. I will never change them for anyone, just like I don't expect anyone to change who they are for me. Do you get my point? 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 9:02am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Yea I get you wella. I was not saying one should lose his fundamental tendencies (that's impossible anyway) in other to fit into a woman's appreciation. To make it 'till death do us apart' one has to bend principles, make sacrifices etc. With time, they both blend in. Abi bawo ni ( or how you you see it)? 3 Likes |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 9:05am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: I see what you mean. The bolded is one of the hardest things to do. It creates resentment. |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 9:21am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:OK I agree. How my feelings now? My heart is................. 1 Like
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Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 9:22am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: Lol, why? |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 9:33am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:You know stop pretending. Right now I feel like I feel like oh! I no fit talk am here give me private contact. 1 Like
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Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 9:38am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: Lol & invite a migraine for myself? No thanks. What's the meaning behind your name? |
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Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by Akinbahm(m): 9:56am On Aug 08, 2019 |
HRHQueenPhil:Gurl if a guy does all those fiver rules to you my dear u on ur own oooo Guys of today aren't smiling... First rule: I av a friend (guy) he can use is last kobo intended for food consumption to get recharge card to call a babe he want to get laid with... am giving u my words he can do it continuously for a month. 2nd rule: Is the fastest means to get a lady down thinking she has gotten to her final destination sis all nah scam ( u go hear greet ur baba oko very well whereas all nah fori fori) 3rd rule: ..... 4th rule: ..... 5th rule: this one nah 50/ 50 if He actually want to settle with the gurl he gonna back up and might not even initiate it again till Marriage night but if He is not interested in Marriage my dear he pull off for u to dey relax thinking he's not after sek. Use ur brain when dealing with guys not ur Heart 1 Like |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 9:59am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Migraine kwa? I promise NEVER. 'Nisai', which I dedicated to my mother and all good women in the world, is an arabic lexicon, a plural of 'al-imrahatu' (woman), means women. Tell me yours. 2 Likes |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 10:10am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: Wow, well thought out. Mine is just word play from Cosa Nostra (the mob). Xhosa is obviously my ethnicity. So I guess you can say it's a combination of my identity & my intrigue (the underworld). 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by WORLDPEACE(m): 10:11am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: Hmmn |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 10:13am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Glad you like it. 1 Like
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Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 10:14am On Aug 08, 2019 |
WORLDPEACE: What? |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by WORLDPEACE(m): 10:18am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: I did not know the meaning before. |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 10:43am On Aug 08, 2019 |
WORLDPEACE: Check your mailbox. |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by nisai: 11:05am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: 1 Like
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Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by WORLDPEACE(m): 11:17am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Replied. 1 Like |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by vincentjk(m): 11:20am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: You left the other guy interested in your contact just to give another guy your number via dm Not a good thing to do 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by vincentjk(m): 11:21am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: she likes you bro, she's just forming hard to get 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 11:22am On Aug 08, 2019 |
nisai: Lol, you don't even know what it's about 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 11:25am On Aug 08, 2019 |
vincentjk: Because it's about something more important. |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by vincentjk(m): 11:27am On Aug 08, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: Ok but do listen to him... I think he likes you personally 2 Likes |
Re: The 5 Things You Can Use To Tell A Serious & Good Man by XhosaNostra(f): 11:28am On Aug 08, 2019 |
vincentjk: Noted |
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