To get straight to the point. I met this girl some time ago and we instantly zinged. We've been at it for a long time now, talking about how we'd like to get married and stuff. Though I'm financially incapable of that at the moment. Of the things I like about her, her honesty takes home the cake. She's freaking honest but not at a hundred percent though. She's 24, comes from a poor background and is in her second year in the university. And to add to it, she's given me four years to get my shit together as she feels we'd both be fully ready for it by then; financially and otherwise. I on the other hand is 26 with little going. But she inspires me a lot. So much so that she's become the fuel of my ambition for wanting to get rich as I've made her so many promises that I intend to keep. We've been going at it smoothly with no issues until recently when she told me that some guy came home to ask for her hand in marriage which I can't say if she truly refused. She told me herself that she did but I doubt. And according to her he's an uneducated trader who imports and exports goods but she's willing to go out with him as per say the guy get money to spend and I have little to give but that I'm her pick any time, any day. I'm so uncomfortable with the idea because she doesn't want me jealous or seeing other girls for that matter and I just dey pity the guy join. At the same time I can't find it me to walk away cause it feels like I've known her forever. So pls guys what should I do?

Musa don see another one for gate this morning.

You dey pity person wey I sure say your babe don dey open nyansh for already for money sake.


How naive....

You suppose dey pity yourself o because na you dey center of pitch wey dem dey play about like football.

Awwww, this is so touching. Why didn't she stick to the original plan of waiting 4 years for you to get your ducks in a row? Wasn't that what you pinky swore on?
I also don't even get why she seems in a hurry to get married at her age. If she insists on marrying this other guy, then let it be & bid her adieu. I mean, this is going to put more pressure on you if you're now going to have to compete for her affections with a love rival far wealthier than you. It shouldn't be that way. If she really cares about you she's going to wait for you, not add unnecessary triangles & tension.

she is willing to go out because he is rich


Its Game over Bro

Find you another girlfriend

XhosaNostra:
Awwww, this is so touching. Why didn't she stick to the original plan of waiting 4 years for you to get your ducks in a row? Wasn't that what you pinky swore on?
I also don't even get why she seems in a hurry to get married at her age. If she insists on marrying this other guy, then let it be & bid her adieu. I mean, this is going to put more pressure on you if you're now going to have to compete for her affections with a love rival far wealthier than you. It shouldn't be that way. If she really cares about you she's going to wait for you, not add unnecessary triangles & tension.

Do you think I should move on? It is interesting to note that she still texts and calls me on a steady and we get intimate still

2dice01:
she is willing to go out because he is rich


Its Game over Bro

Find you another girlfriend

Aptly put, because I don't have much to give ATM. She's got fees to pay, rent and a host of other things. She told me he's uninteresting as a person and she's only using him because I'm broke but she loves me still

Guyman make you no go do pass yourself.
And I think the person you should pity more at this time is yourself and not the guy coming to take over.
He's got the means you know? Ask yourself what you've got. I will say you got; Ambitions, Dreams you intend to realize but you are not there yet.
Now she wants to start going out or at least CHOP the guy's money for now, but what do you think is going to happen in the long run especially when she starts feeling too comfortable? Don't tell me you haven't thought about that.

In case you haven't... That should teach you how to think!

Last piece: Why put yourself in the middle when you and I know you will hurt most?
Let yourself be free of her so as not to lose your sanity.

Allow her to marry him . Don’t allow a lady to make you chase money in an illegal fashion.

Michaeljnr225:
To get straight to the point. I met this girl some time ago and we instantly zinged. We've been at it for a long time now, talking about how we'd like to get married and stuff. Though I'm financially incapable of that at the moment. Of the things I like about her, her honesty takes home the cake. She's freaking honest but not at a hundred percent though. She's 24, comes from a poor background and is in her second year in the university. And to add to it, she's given me four years to get my shit together as she feels we'd both be fully ready for it by then; financially and otherwise. I on the other hand is 26 with little going. But she inspires me a lot. So much so that she's become the fuel of my ambition for wanting to get rich as I've made her so many promises that I intend to keep. We've been going at it smoothly with no issues until recently when she told me that some guy came home to ask for her hand in marriage which I can't say if she truly refused. She told me herself that she did but I doubt. And according to her he's an uneducated trader who imports and exports goods but she's willing to go out with him as per say the guy get money to spend and I have little to give but that I'm her pick any time, any day. I'm so uncomfortable with the idea because she doesn't want me jealous or seeing other girls for that matter and I just dey pity the guy join. At the same time I can't find it me to walk away cause it feels like I've known her forever. So pls guys what should I do?

guy let her go. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on ur self cus of her. Since u said the babe is from a poor background, thats the more reason you should let her marry a rich guy. Sometimes you have to let go of something you love not bcus you want to, but because you need to. More so, what’s even the guarantee that after that four years now you would marry her? If you leave her then she begins to blame you for her not being marry cus u didn’t allow her marry the guy. My guy stylishly tell her to go with the rich dude. Forget all this promises. People change bro

You see a problem.

I see an Opportunity..

Be wise bro. Make wise decisions.

Michaeljnr225:


Aptly put, because I don't have much to give ATM. She's got fees to pay, rent and a host of other things. She told me he's uninteresting as a person and she's only using him because I'm broke but she loves me still

Lol... Iti abaranba you go dey alright laslas

Michaeljnr225:


Aptly put, because I don't have much to give ATM. She's got fees to pay, rent and a host of other things. She told me he's uninteresting as a person and she's only using him because I'm broke but she loves me still

Well she will only tell you what you need to here

She is only telling you so as to clear her mind

So you think the other guy is Mr.Money miss road


Well you can play along if you cant quit the relationship then find you a new Girlfriend cus when she brings the shocker or start acting weird you wont be disappointed

Michaeljnr225:


Do you think I should move on? It is interesting to note that she still texts and calls me on a steady and we get intimate still

Well imo, it means nothing if her bread gets buttered both sides while you get crumbs. The decision is yours to make.

If I were you, I would just move on.
Money buys almost everything. Forget all the rubbish you guys had, without fuel, motor no go start.

it's end of the road for ur love life brah! find you another spec and move on already so u don't get hurt at the end

#las las u go dey alright bro

XhosaNostra:
Awwww, this is so touching. Why didn't she stick to the original plan of waiting 4 years for you to get your ducks in a row? Wasn't that what you pinky swore on?
I also don't even get why she seems in a hurry to get married at her age. If she insists on marrying this other guy, then let it be & bid her adieu. I mean, this is going to put more pressure on you if you're now going to have to compete for her affections with a love rival far wealthier than you. It shouldn't be that way. If she really cares about you she's going to wait for you, not add unnecessary triangles & tension.

BS. From my experience if a woman wants to be with U she will. She wont be giving u terms and conditions. Im very poor with that shît. Once you start giving me terms Im out tha do'

XhosaNostra:
Awwww, this is so touching. Why didn't she stick to the original plan of waiting 4 years for you to get your ducks in a row? Wasn't that what you pinky swore on?
I also don't even get why she seems in a hurry to get married at her age. If she insists on marrying this other guy, then let it be & bid her adieu. I mean, this is going to put more pressure on you if you're now going to have to compete for her affections with a love rival far wealthier than you. It shouldn't be that way. If she really cares about you she's going to wait for you, not add unnecessary triangles & tension.

Your such a box of wisdom

I have a cousins who'se girlfriend left him for a weathy man but two years into the marriage she back crying woo as we speak she's in my cousins house begging to return

Michaeljnr225:
To get straight to the point. I met this girl some time ago and we instantly zinged. We've been at it for a long time now, talking about how we'd like to get married and stuff. Though I'm financially incapable of that at the moment. Of the things I like about her, her honesty takes home the cake. She's freaking honest but not at a hundred percent though. She's 24, comes from a poor background and is in her second year in the university. And to add to it, she's given me four years to get my shit together as she feels we'd both be fully ready for it by then; financially and otherwise. I on the other hand is 26 with little going. But she inspires me a lot. So much so that she's become the fuel of my ambition for wanting to get rich as I've made her so many promises that I intend to keep. We've been going at it smoothly with no issues until recently when she told me that some guy came home to ask for her hand in marriage which I can't say if she truly refused. She told me herself that she did but I doubt. And according to her he's an uneducated trader who imports and exports goods but she's willing to go out with him as per say the guy get money to spend and I have little to give but that I'm her pick any time, any day. I'm so uncomfortable with the idea because she doesn't want me jealous or seeing other girls for that matter and I just dey pity the guy join. At the same time I can't find it me to walk away cause it feels like I've known her forever. So pls guys what should I do?

Guy, if you ask me, she shouldn't be your priority for any reason for now.

Push and strive first to get your footing financially as a man, then, better ladies shall be added unto you. Do this and be a man of your own else, you will live a life of a conquered man and no woman respects a broke man.
Remember, beside every successful man, there is a good woman and no woman is proud to que beside a below the line man. My thought tho.

Jaqenhghar:

BS. From my experience if a woman wants to be with U she will. She wont be giving u terms and conditions. Im very poor with that shît. Once you start giving me terms Im out tha do'

Absolutely!

Login12:



Your such a box of wisdom

I have a cousins who'se girlfriend left him for a weathy man but two years into the marriage she back crying woo as we speak she's in my cousins house begging to return

Yeah, all that glitters isn't gold. She might end up with an abusive, controlling man.

o.p i can bet my life that babe will leave you soon.

its jst a matter of time, how and when but she's going to leave you soon!

i swear..!

jst prepare for your heart break..from now till February next year..

funny enough, you are pitying someone that has already won

a girl will cheat on you with the guy she always complain about to you.

Michaeljnr225:


Do you think I should move on? It is interesting to note that she still texts and calls me on a steady and we get intimate still

nigga trust me, its just a matter of time before you see her change..it will even shock you..

e be like film trick..

its not dat she dnt love you, she loves you but soon ,she's going to start having a double mind

dude i knw what am saying..okay..

Michaeljnr225:


Aptly put, because I don't have much to give ATM. She's got fees to pay, rent and a host of other things. She told me he's uninteresting as a person and she's only using him because I'm broke but she loves me still

BIG TIME SCAMMMM!

op na so them do me ooo

"make i chop e moni, make i chop e money", before you know, VOOOOM!

Hmmmmm. Make i chop his money, before you know, pregnancy go enter, before you know she done marry the importer and exporter. Too much money!, before you know it she done born pikin. This is the end of Micheal grundy love journey!

XhosaNostra:


Yeah, all that glitters isn't gold. She might end up with an abusive, controlling man.

As if you know very abusive fellow

Login12:


As if you know very abusive fellow

Well, why did the other lady you were talking about come crawling back?

XhosaNostra:


Well, why did the other lady you were talking about come crawling back?

Her man became abusive and not so sweet as my cousin "her words "

Login12:



Her man became abusive and not so sweet as my cousin "her words "

It's not rocket science then, in the end they bite more than they could chew.

Login12:



Her man became abusive and not so sweet as my cousin "her words "

Did he take her back?

XhosaNostra:


It's not rocket science then, in the end they bite more than they could chew.

I swear down

Do you do private chart

XhosaNostra:


Did he take her back?

She came as a result of abuse

And I'm sure you don't chase her if you where in his shoes

Login12:


I swear down

Do you do private chart

I'd rather not lol.