crackhouse:
he's not cheating. The fact is she's not making any positive impact in the family. She's just a liability to the man that's all. The man is the only person running around for the family upkeep and it has not been easy for him. Some women are like that, they are just like a log of wood that doesn't make any meaningful contribution in the house and can't help u realise your dream either.

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

crackhouse:
the man might not complain but Let that woman get up and start something and you will see how the Man will start appreciating her every move.

goodgirl2409:


My monthly salary is 300000 and my husband earns more

vision2050:

Do you support him financially?
Man can nag or give silent treatment if support is not coming from partner.
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel, I hope he change.

Spain007:


GV HIM MORE UNDIES TO WASH...

that part sef shock me bro , husband wey dey wash undies..
Wetin person no go see for this life sef

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

Useku:
He might be under a lot of pressure (work and bills)

Get a job if you're not working already and assist with some of the minor bills .

Get busy and reduce the over flooded attention but make sure your respect for him is intact.

If he doesn't change, take sisioge's advice

franchasng:
if the reasons I pointed out happens to be the reasons for the husband's attitude towards her, I doubt there can be a lasting solution, especially if she cheated on the husband and he somehow found out.


This is why I advice ladies, don't try to be like guys, guys can get away with cheating their spouse because women can forgive a cheating spouse more easily than men would forgive a cheating wife. It is not men's fault, it is how nature wired men to be, so don't blame them.


As a married lady, once you have made up your mind to cheat, be prepared for divorce should your man catch you or later find out, so expect the worst whenever you decide to cheat as a woman.

I don't care what feminists would say, the world will remain as it is, men cannot be forced or coerced to change their natural form just to suit some women clamoring for equality.

If as a lady you catch your husband cheating, u are free and entitled to divorce him, it is your decision to make. So if you as a married woman decides to forgive your husband when he cheats, you must not expect him to forgive you too when you cheat nor are you supposed to coerce or force him to forgive you, it is his own decision to forgive you or not, not your right.


Men can never be like women and also women can never be like men, so we must understand our differences as people of different gender to live a happy life.

vingeophysicist:

She didn’t study him well. Love supersede all. I don’t think the man love the lady . I have experience love once and I know how it’s works only seeing my ex babe sweating from work makes me cry.

KanuSE:


Lol

stephnie44:
my dear my opinion thou.simply ignore him.use to b in ur shoes crying wont solve it.telling ppl to talk to him wont solve it.cook eat make urself happy.im 2 yrs in marriage but i i can tell u i wished i didnt marry dis monster.allow him cook nd eat his meal.if u have a child concentrate more on d baby.cos if he would cheat on u if u like d accrobatic style na ur body go suffer am him go still cheat

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

healthserve:



I have things to say


1. Read the book Five love languages by Gary Chapman

jmaxjohn:


that's the only reason i liked your comment. you know your stuff. i'd also suggest 'things i wish i had known before marriage' by same gary chapman. op and husband need to return to basics. their romantic euphoric love which was supposed to last on average 2 years seems to have burned out quickly.

cerpvad:
It takes more than mere communication to resolve sexual incompatibility. Nothing hurts more than to find out after marriage that your partner cannot give you sexual fulfillment. Many men are not that patient to condone sexual laxity from their wife, hence they revert to cheating. If you can't satisfy your husband sexual needs averagely, why blame him for cheating?

spongeisback:
OP just ignore him, do whatever makes you happy. Stop begging him. When he sees that two can play whatever game he's playing he would want to talk.

khatea:
Sorry about this op!
What was courtship wt him like? D u just tell d whole truth here? Do u nag? Ur marriage is too young to start facing this emotional trauma, m sure sumtin is wrong somewhere. Either yes/no, U need a night preferably a midnight to deal with this issue my dear. Wake him, go on ur knees, cry if u want/can, pour out evritin bothering u and let him know how single in marriage u feel wt d way things are. I hope he speaks up

Note: U need to make ursef happy at all times no matter what pls. Remember prayer changes things too

KanuSE:


What rocks your boat may sink Op's boat finally.