franchasng:
Please can you increase the volume more so that people at the back can hear it well

LilMissFavvy:
So you believe that? She's totally wrong, there are good women who earn more than their husbands, but still respect him.

pocohantas:


No. He obviously doesn't want to leave. What will anyone say here that he doesn't know already?

So, he should keep forgiving her.

franchasng:
why are you reducing the volume na, please tune it up so more people can hear it, especially those at the back, DJ increase the volume more please, after party we can discuss further

LilMissFavvy:
........hmm, let me just switch it off.

LilMissFavvy:
Truth is, your children's life will never be the same again if you divorce your wife, that's a clear fact. You have lived a good percentage of your life, while your kids are just starting. What do you think will become of your pre-adolescent/adolescent kids? Hold on to your marriage, work on yourself, because something is definitely wrong somewhere (with you)......so pls work on it, ask your wife, she will tell you. Hardly would a woman of 45 flirt around if she has a loving husband who can play his bedroom game, even if it means using sexual enhancers, no one is perfect, just work on it. Also, report her to your pastor only if he's a good one. Your wife needs prayers, stand in the gap and save your marriage, dont give the devil a chance. Even if you divorce her, I don't know if you will be able to fight for custody of all your kids, especially since she is financially strong.

jimyjames:


1) and what will become of the kids if the wife contacts a deadly disease and infect the man with it, or the man develops high blood pressure and dies eventually cause of having a cheating wife

2) The lady has been flirting around even during the early stage of their marriage

3) using sexual enhancer to satisfy your wife all the time is a bad idea cause the side effects are there, I don't even think she's cheating cause the husband can't satisfy her

Put yourself in the man's shoes I don't think you will do that which you have advised him to do

LilMissFavvy:
I didn't want to type a long message, otherwise I would have included that he should have quit the marriage earlier.

You talk about contracting diseases? I have read somewhere in the post that he cheats as well.

He won't use it all the time, mature couples don't have sex all the time. He is 48, she is 45. Kindly drop your advice, forget mine, okay? I wouldn't want to drop another response on this thread.

GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

hurthubby:


I am 48 while she is 45

rosy1992:
This is absolutely ridiculous, how did you cope all these years, As a Christian I won't suggest divorce, rather you need to have an open minded discussion with her, to tell her how you feel.

Or you both need to see a marriage counselor , it seems there is something wrong somewhere. You both need to find the missing puzzle.

Then concentrate on establishing yourself, and taking care of yourself and your children. If she continues with her immorality, then you can decide to give yourselves some space till you figure out what next to do. Divorce is not an option.

sisisioge:


Wowzerful! She must be super hot to be cheating at 45yrs! Wow!

Safitu:
As a Christian Matthew 19 v 9 states that ‘I tell you, then, that any man who divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, commits adultery if he marries some other woman’

Meaning God permits divorce if one partner is unfaithful as it attracts all manners of spiritual and evil atrocities into your marital home. His wife has been unfaithful for 20 years, so you want him to die before his time? 1,2 or even 4 times can be overlooked. 20 years of constant cheating is a death sentence. As Christians we should to look at situations religiously as well as logically. Do not lead this brother to an early death, pleaseee!!!!!

pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

Safitu:
Men will sleep with anything, trust me lol.

crackhouse:
If I catch my wife cheating I will simply design her with cutlass and push her back to her father's house to nurse her wounds if she survives it.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)
friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Safitu:
That is the reality of life. Women do not respect men that they are taking care of financially. You really need to try and work on yourself and do everything possible to gain that financial power back into your life. From there you will gain that self confidence back and you will have the strength to leave if possible. But you must start making steps today. Start saving money every penny counts, read upon good investments to make. Never give up on your job search. Talk to friends, even here on nairaland they’re millionaires browsing this site every day. Network with people especially in the cars and business section. You never know who might help you and last but not least pray. Just start visualising the life you want for yourself and you will eventully have it. It’s not easy, but you must make a constant effort to see results. Good luck.

CsRockefeller:


An unintelligent comment.

LilMissFavvy:
So you believe that? She's totally wrong, there are good women who earn more than their husbands, but still respect him.