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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by cuteboy2: 1:48am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Just one small advice, run a secret DNA test on all those children. They might not even be yours. Share with us the results. Don't mumu yourself by telling your wife before you do it oooo! I can't tell you what to do about your cheating wife. hurthubby: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by InvertedHammer: 1:49am On Aug 16, 2019 |
/ You deserve her. She has a wimp for a husband. Final final, she contacts HIV/AIDS and send you yonder since you are not man enough to take serious decisions. Goodluck! / 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by dalass(f): 1:50am On Aug 16, 2019 |
You're here for advice because of financial difficulty. If he were buoyant, its possible she won't cheat with different men. Its lack of money that makes older women to cheat though that's no excuse. Sorry but its also the abundance of money that makes older men to cheat But @ OP, I pray you get your biz back. Don't sell your house o except you have more than one. You can travel to seek greener pasture and also have fresh air to clear your head . best of luck. Your kind is rare 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Kiezodumah(m): 1:55am On Aug 16, 2019 |
JudgeOGBUNABALI: U said u married yet so immature. Would u jst keep quiet already.. Some1 seeks advice and this is all u had to offer. I can imagine ur marriage already |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 1:58am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Compare the comments here and the comments here https://www.nairaland.com/5360979/husband-boldly-cheating-me I don’t feel sorry for any man who gets cheated on. Most of you are hypocrites and deserve cheating wives. In fact not just that. A lot of you deserve to raise kids that are not yours. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by cuteboy2: 2:01am On Aug 16, 2019 |
What a theory . He definitely is not seeking advice primarily because of financial difficulties. It's the wife's matter that brought him here. Nigerian women and always reducing everything to money. The wife was cheating when the man was financially sound and when both of them were working. His business collapse is a more recent event probably due to the trauma of the wife's philandering ways, and his inability to focus dalass: |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by millionboi2: 2:02am On Aug 16, 2019 |
boban007:marriage na scam 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by DameB(f): 2:03am On Aug 16, 2019 |
OP I know a lot of people have commented, and I know you said you don't like divorce.... The situation you are going through is the ground Jesus gave for divorce. I know you are staying in the marriage cos of the kids, but do think you are giving your kids the best of yourself emotionally being around such toxicity.. Are you saying you don't harbor any bitterness for her? Are you saying you are not emotionally detached from her? Do you still have sex with her? You are living in a toxic situation... If you want to even make it back up financially then you have to forgive her and let her go for your sanity.... You know emotional stress is linked to many chronic illness.. Cos you cannot make it with such huge burden of serial cheating on your mind... You are a victim of domestic abuse ... Read up on how to protect yourself. Don't cheat cos she's cheating... Don't go against who you are because of what you are going through...for you not to have cheated all these while shows that you honor your marital vows and sexual infidelity goes against your values |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by DameB(f): 2:11am On Aug 16, 2019 |
cuteboy2: You are right... it's so sad that a lot of women think in such a foolish way, that loyalty, fidelity and responsibility should be attached to financial availability... Whatever happened to plain old genuine love and integrity There's no way the man can sincerely focus on improving his biz with such emotional burden, it's hurtful and draining... He's even a better man than most , how many men will condone such? The wife will not even focus on working with OP towards improving his biz cos she is not with him in any other except physically 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by themanderon: 2:15am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Run man run!!!....women don't have space for two men in their hearts. For the fact that she has found comfort in the hands of strange men she doesn't have space for you anymore except she is delivered from that whoring spirit, But before then you should consider yourself a "marked man" for she might easily be convinced by those men to delete you. Most women can do the most stupid things when they are in love so thread carefully. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 2:19am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Safitu: I don’t usually comment on post, but this comment is extremely lame and naive. This man in question is insecure and extremely laced with low self esteem. United States probably have a higher divorce rate (male & female) and there’s nothing spiritual about their divorce. It’s just a thing of strong will and mental readiness. I personally can’t take bullshit that comes with marriage hence, I won’t hesitate a divorce if need be!!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:32am On Aug 16, 2019 |
aviato:your bastard father. Idiotic fool |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:33am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Kiezodumah:Shut up ewu ... na una type dey shame men. Go play with your mates. Nkakwu |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:36am On Aug 16, 2019 |
bitingcool:If you don't have boundrues, I have. If you cross mine and got found out, it's hell and drastic actions follows. Stay your confused lane ... I know myself. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:38am On Aug 16, 2019 |
cckalima:I don't even know you and Op who is more stupid. Pls quit my mention or thunder your age will fall on U. Idiot |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by shalomt4321: 2:38am On Aug 16, 2019 |
JudgeOGBUNABALI: You need to be feared Na your kind dey beat woman to death |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by AuroraB(f): 2:41am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby:Oga, you are lying. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:41am On Aug 16, 2019 |
shalomt4321:You are wrong. I don't forgive clear eyed disrespect like in this situation. Op should have chased out that woman with the initial adultery. Or at least gotten a 2nd wife. His failure to do that emboldened the prostitute he calls wife. Men should be men pls. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by AuroraB(f): 2:43am On Aug 16, 2019 |
shalomt4321:Na woman wry get him time I go blame. Mtcheeeeeeeeeews |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:44am On Aug 16, 2019 |
AuroraB:More likely this guy is toying with people's emotion here. Cos he seems to sit back and be enjoying the expected reaction. I don't believe him one bit. Even if he condoned all this over the years ... Where was his family members |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by emkz: 2:44am On Aug 16, 2019 |
You are in a state of limbo, unsure of the next line of action. This is common among those heavily mentally invested in a relationship when they are receiving the wrong end of the stick. Do you still wish to put your life in the hands of someone who does not see any value in you or in your own life? We have read the story of a woman who had her husband murdered and transferred his money to her lover who was younger than her in Benin. I know a woman, whom three men she married died through mysterious circumstances. Do you want this to be your fate? You were even liked enough to be told by people. Some men are not told, some died of shock when they found out. How can a man survive when he finds out that his children he trained are not his? My observation: your wife was only peripherally married to you. She was never mentally invested in the marriage. She saw you as a mugu who would tolerate her recklessness after you forgave the first act of infidelity. She was convinced you are nothing without her. How do I know? A lady I wanted to marry cheated and gave me an ultimatum to get over it. I got over it...and got over her. You can do it. Your children would be the worst hit (if they are yours); how you deal with the aftermath, I cannot say. I speak in the past tence because what you had was not a marriage but a union of two persons who did not understand the stakes in marriage. For example, why you cannot think straight now is because for your survival, the union is transactionary in the economic sense. This is how the union was to her. Many men who stay with cheating wives don't live long, except the man is cheating too and doesn't care about her escapades. PS: I do not wish to question the veracity of your story, but from personal experiences and observing close people's lives, these things happen a lot. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by bitingcool: 2:46am On Aug 16, 2019 |
JudgeOGBUNABALI: na U dey confused....inua |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by JudgeOGBUNABALI(m): 2:47am On Aug 16, 2019 |
bitingcool:Get lost pls. Quit my mention while at it. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Elzakzaky: 2:47am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby:I admire you, sir. This is my advice. Satisfy yourself oitside and determine never to open her cloth again 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Baselm: 2:49am On Aug 16, 2019 |
She has done this too many times and I don't think she will ever stop. As a matter of fact, her infidelity might be the cause of your financial problems. Go and do a DNA test for your children, then call her parents and explain everything to them, I hope all your evidences are intact, always screenshot and send to your phone, then delete the screenshot from her phone. GET READY FOR A DIVORCE because you are not safe, she's having multiple partners not just one fling. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by plenitude(m): 2:51am On Aug 16, 2019 |
pocohantas:you're aren't serious.are you? |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 2:54am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Hope you have tested yourself for STDs |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by omaigala12(m): 2:56am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby:u beta stop taking care of another man's children 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by crisycent: 3:10am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Do a DNA test to find out if you’re not raising another man’s children. After that, divorce her and move on. You don’t need her financial support to live your life. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Kiezodumah(m): 3:12am On Aug 16, 2019 |
JudgeOGBUNABALI: Pls u can go on and on and on.. It only solidifies my point abt u. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by obekediamondfuto(m): 3:13am On Aug 16, 2019 |
well You were given one of Life's simplest exams....... The answer to the exam was written on your answer sheet..... All you had to do was write your name on the answer sheet and submit..... unfortunately, u have carried over this course for 19years.... at this point there is nothing else to do than to be the chief priest of that course..... my point? You shouldn't leave that marriage now, you have been able to forgive all these while.... now you have 4 kids..... keep forgiving my brother, with time you will get used to it! Whatever you do, make sure ur children do not suffer for your inability to coordinate yourself and make spontaneous decisions. and to think you have been on NL for that long, with the likes of nwaamaikpe, lefulefu and some good ol' fellas that do community service periodically.... informing the community of the recent vices and how to overcome them..... truly, ur post is actually provoking! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by favour32(m): 3:13am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Please,call her our wife Until she gives you a "serious" sexually transmitted disease,you will call her my wife. Your relationship with her is already past the elastic limit,so advise yourself. For me personally,I only forgive once(infidelity related matter)! |
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