Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Daguccizgreat(m): 7:23am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby: My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)
I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).
I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.
In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).
Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.
My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.
I almost wept reading your write up. My advice is divorce her asap if you don't want to die untimely 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by ednut1(m): 7:23am On Aug 16, 2019 |
pocohantas: Forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature.
Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.
Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...
Always remember, God hates divorce. I wish you strength.
![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) hahahaaahahahah |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by ashawopikin(m): 7:25am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Your wife is a hoe ,divorce her a.ss |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by alexsoftwork(m): 7:29am On Aug 16, 2019 |
pocohantas: Forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature.
Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.
Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...
Always remember, God hates divorce. I wish you strength.
![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) Ur sacasm enter wella |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by gemini35(m): 7:32am On Aug 16, 2019 |
oga if ur manhood is walking kakraka,divorce her,get another faithful wife?let me tell u,what she is doing will be affecting u financially,is when you go broke before u wake up like a man?u are even lucky u are alive,some wife infidelity use to make man die early.wake up and be a man, |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by emmahardgun(m): 7:35am On Aug 16, 2019 |
what are you waiting for get another woman before she kill you |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by MiddleDimension: 7:36am On Aug 16, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Ikem11(m): 7:39am On Aug 16, 2019 |
I just weak reading this story.
How can a woman you married fully confessed to you severally that she cheats and you forgave and she continue doing same and u here asking questions?
Chai! This woman will kill you my brother am sorry to say that but that's the simple truth.
If you still alive reading this am typing please hurry and pack her bags and call your Inlaws and take your stand as a man.
Secondly, like first commenter rightfully said, go run a DNA on all your kids (I pray they are yours)
Good luck may God guide you safely |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Duggedised12(f): 7:39am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Your children already know whats going on or you think a 17 year old is dumb, if you have no spine to look out for yourself atleast think of how this will affect your children. Imagine them knowing their mum is a wh0re and their daddy is wimp to do anything about it. ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Kendrick80(m): 7:48am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Pocohantas don kill me with laff 4 here.....WTF is war room ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Kingosytex(m): 7:48am On Aug 16, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by sleekier(m): 7:50am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby: My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)
I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).
I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.
In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).
Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.
My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.
OP.. Your wife is cheating on you and u want your business to be moving well. How are you sure yahoo boys have not used her pants self. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 7:52am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Oga is your head still on your neck... check well.
Before u met that woman u de chop ... u go still chop if she dies today. Why not take the bull by the horn and save your life. You can stop this calamity but DON'T commit murder in doing it.... meaning don't go physical with her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by bamidelekay89: 7:53am On Aug 16, 2019 |
I don't believe this story.... If it's actually true den Mr op it's either u v bin locked up sumwea inside a thick forest or u re just plain stupid. I see that woman ending ur life soonest if u don't take ur stand and call the rubbish u called marriage off |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by duduade: 7:54am On Aug 16, 2019 |
fykes: This guy u are lucky u are not dead yet. A woman who can do all these either has u caged diabolically or thinks she has u caged... How do u even manage to stay alive End her or she ends u ASAP End him with HIV or Thunderbolt |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Kingosytex(m): 7:57am On Aug 16, 2019 |
ednut1: She is the bread winner so he has to endure So bread winners are permitted to cheat abi? |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by ednut1(m): 8:02am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Kingosytex:
So bread winners are permitted to cheat abi? no. Thats why he cant do anything. He has 4 kids to feed |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by maxiuc(m): 8:11am On Aug 16, 2019 |
OP you be mumu.... In that man's voice
So dem never show u sey you be mumu
That 1st time you should have discarded her sharply
If you cheat on me once, that very moment you are moving out I will tell you to go and tell your family what you did
You can't come back anymore
How dare you cheat on me when I am not even considering cheating on you
Op na you cause yourself you mean after all this things you still allowed her into your life oga you are a weakling oooo thank God sey you never die, better go for medical check up this your wife won kill you
Las Las Mr OP you be mumu |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Abeos(m): 8:13am On Aug 16, 2019 |
pocohantas: Forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature.
Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.
Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...
Always remember, God hates divorce. I wish you strength.
![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) Can see what you did there ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Sectis(m): 8:13am On Aug 16, 2019 |
Op.... Or whoever is facing this challenge at home, kindly note that adultery is a curse. You have covered up her deadly sins for too long and I can tell you that God is not happy about it. Take her to your village elders they know what to do. She needs both spiritual and physical cleansing. If you happen to come from Esan, you would be long dead because of your wife adulterous act. Take action now or you die in no time to from now. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 8:16am On Aug 16, 2019 |
please tell me this is sacarsm pocohantas: Forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature.
Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.
Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...
Always remember, God hates divorce. I wish you strength.
![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by maxiuc(m): 8:19am On Aug 16, 2019 |
sleekier:
OP.. Your wife is cheating on you and u want your business to be moving well. How are you sure yahoo boys have not used her pants self. his wife is the cause of his misfortune have you seen a man whose wife sleeps around and he knows about it but has nothing to do have you seen such man progress in life before Most dangerous your wife taking care of the family with her olosho runs money e no go work for him to have a 17yrs old child means that he is old enough, why can't him just send this woman packing and move on freely with his life Oh God help us that are yet to marry ooooo |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Blackbelly(m): 8:26am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby:
I have always hated a broken home. I just felt that things will be alright Hello, I can understand that you are really hurt and to be frank, your experience is a very painful one. I must however commend you for the fact that you do love your wife and family and that's good. Truth is that divorce is not the option, and many of the advices up there will not do you any good. My first question for you is that are you a Christian? And the second is do you believe God can do the impossible and transform your wife into someone who'll regret all her past actions and turn a new leaf? I have seen countless cases of spouses bedeviled with the spirit of infidelity get delivered by Prophet T.B. Joshua at the synagogue church of all nations. I'll counsel you to go there with your spouse, because the truth is that she can't help herself and only Christ can change this story. Grace! |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by maxiuc(m): 8:28am On Aug 16, 2019 |
pocohantas: Forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature.
Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.
Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...
Always remember, God hates divorce. I wish you strength.
![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) wetin musa no go see for gate Adultery is the main reason for divorce go and study your Bible very well
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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Mikefem(m): 8:40am On Aug 16, 2019 |
JudgeOGBUNABALI:
Well, this is my 7th yr of marriage. My main problem with man and woman is not cheating but disrespect. And cheating even comes under disrespect. I don't play with respect. I give it to people and demand 110% reciprocation. Dude here has no respect for himself. So am sure nothing, not even his children will respect him. Not to talk of the so called wife and her bonobo friends. You see, my wife, my inlaws, my siblings knows I can kill demanding respect. So nobody crosses that line. You want to mess around? First quit the marriage. Otherwise the day I find you out. There'd be double funeral and nobody will know who is responsible. My respect is more important than any blood! That's why I wish to encounter this louse called Op. The wimp seriously need some whip You are nothing but a wild bully. You earn respect bro. |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Obason22(m): 8:41am On Aug 16, 2019 |
I hope the same woman have blind folded u, and secondly u are just making unnecessarily noise seeking for advice, even without been told I already no that ur wife is Yoruba and cheating is part of them, and since u have been forgiven her I'll not be the one to tell u to quit, rather forgive her once again life goes on, and pls don't bring this dirty matter here again its well with u. Up Liverpool. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 8:44am On Aug 16, 2019 |
hurthubby: My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)
I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).
I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.
In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).
Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.
My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.
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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Djmeme: 8:47am On Aug 16, 2019 |
U are still waiting for us to Advice you?
Isshhh okay, take and Loan and buy her Range Rover |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Dholyboy(m): 8:49am On Aug 16, 2019 |
And what do you want me to tell you... Stay in the marriage?.... Oppssss.... Sorry man but you have to run for your life before you die of poison... A cheating wife is a bad investment and can't be kept to continue running hurthubby: My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)
I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).
I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.
In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).
Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.
My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.
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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by djoey89: 8:58am On Aug 16, 2019 |
If this story is true ehn... infact i couldn't bear reading till the end. You are the biggest omukpe i have ever seen.. i can't even waste my advice on you... i need that spit meme now. *spits* |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Bestlily(f): 9:00am On Aug 16, 2019 |
OP follow Pocahontas's advice ..Go down on your knees and pray for your wife okay. You can't leave your marriage because of mere cheating. You are the one she's married to so don't fret.
Remember it rains everywhere...don't lose her to other guys because of this. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Nobody: 9:01am On Aug 16, 2019 |
pocohantas: Forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature.
Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.
Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...
Always remember, God hates divorce. I wish you strength.
![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) Is it not your fellow women that give those sorts of stupid advice? ![](/faces/huh.png) BTW you forgot to add the " It's up to you to save your marriage. Fight for your marriage. Go down on your knees and pray hard. Sister don't allow the devil to come into your home" part... ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |