I need a candid advice on dis issue bothering my mind..
I and did guy have been together for a while now and he his planning on settling down with me next year.. The issue dia now is ever since we have started dating I don't let him kiss me.. Basically cos of two reasons... One he has bad teeth.. Sort of decayed set of teeth and d sight of it irritates me.. Secondly he has mouth odour... It bothers me alot and he always says I don't like kissing him... I want to tell him why but I just don't knw how to tell him what d problem is.. Dis guy is a very good guy... But d teeth and mouth odour is d issue.. I had wanted to let him go but he his just too perfect for me.. Note: he aint rich ooo cos some of u might think am with him maybe because he has money... He his still hustling but I knw he has a bright future.. So pls house I need una advice on how to tell him reasons why kissing isnt involve in our relationship.. Thanks

Dear Itsjare,


If I may ask, how long have you guys been together?

I believe you were not blind to notice that he has a "Tinubu-like teeth" and "mouth odour" when he first approached you.... You saw and smell all these before you accepted to date him....

Why complaining when it's almost time?

If we decide to check your own flaws, it might not be pleasant to our sense of smell or sight.

Here's my advise; Remain where you're, playfully tell him to brush his mouth 3 times a day if he will stand a chance of feeling your lips and since you know he has a "Bright future" Be rest assured he can also have a "Bright Teeth"

Itsjare:
I need a candid advice on dis issue bothering my mind..
I and did guy have been together for a while now and he his planning on settling down with me next year.. The issue dia now is ever since we have started dating I don't let him kiss me.. Basically cos of two reasons... One he has bad teeth.. Sort of decayed set of teeth and d sight of it irritates me.. Secondly he has mouth odour... It bothers me alot and he always says I don't like kissing him... I want to tell him why but I just don't knw how to tell him what d problem is.. Dis guy is a very good guy... But d teeth and mouth odour is d issue.. I had wanted to let him go but he his just too perfect for me.. Note: he aint rich ooo cos some of u might think am with him maybe because he has money... He his still hustling but I knw he has a bright future.. So pls house I need una advice on how to tell him reasons why kissing isnt involve in our relationship.. Thanks

i dont think there is another way of telling him , you need to sit him down tell him the truth because if you dont what will happen wen the pastor says " YOU MAY KISS THE BRIDE " ? will you give him your cheek to kiss or will you leave him at the altar . the sooner you tell him the better

Let's not talk about the teeth yet but focus on the lack of communication/closeness between you too. Alright , you've being together for a while now, you are good enough to settle down soon but lady you two are not close enough to tell each other your flaws? c'mmon! . Are you two even friends at all? Friends tell each other truth, jokingly, indirectly sometimes bluntly. Please work on that.


Well since you don't have the friendship thingy going on in your relationship, you can take the lovey dovey route. Set him in a romantic mood, then politely let out your plight. Cajole him, tell him how much you love to kiss him, tell him why you aren't doing it, then cry if possible show him you feel the pain more (this will make him sober and balance his ego) believe me, he will do something about it.

Good luck

Lol, gross.

I agree with one of the posters above, tell him. Be frank, but tactful. Make sure to also tell him how much you care about him blah blah blah, to cushion the blow to his ego & so you don't come across too harsh/unloving. This is a big issue that may affect your intimacy, so it should be dealt with before taking the big dive.

If I were you, I'd send him a message instead of telling him face-to-face I can just imagine the embarrassment & awkwardness. Cringey.

MariaLavina:
Let's not talk about the teeth yet but focus on the lack of communication/closeness between you too. Alright , you've being together for a while now, you are good enough to settle down soon but lady you two are not close enough to tell each other your flaws? c'mmon! . Are you two even friends at all? Friends tell each other truth, jokingly, indirectly sometimes bluntly. Please work on that.


Well since you don't have the friendship thingy going on in your relationship, you can take the lovey dovey route. Set him in a romantic mood, then politely let out your plight. Cajole him, tell him how much you love to kiss him, tell him why you aren't doing it, then cry if possible show him you feel the pain more (this will make him sober and balance his ego) believe me, he will do something about it.

Good luck

that's blackmail.

seyigiggle:


that's blackmail.

Lol are you a lady? If yes learn to be one.



That isn't blackmail but subtle manipulation which is needed in dealing with an African man.

nope. male

MariaLavina:
Lol are you a lady?

Itsjare:
...

Play iLast Game with him and in the game, address the issues. It's as simple as ABC. That game has been saving lives.

It's a text game you can have with him on WhatsApp.

seyigiggle:
nope. male

I see. Okay be truthful.

How will you feel as a Man if your girlfriend tells you bluntly the reason I don't want you to kiss me is because your mouth stinks and you have a tooth decay.

I would recognize that she has my best interests at heart and would tell me something that is necessary even if I may temporarily feel hurt.

I would be happy that we are open and honest with each other.

WE will try to fix the problem whether by diet, drinks, doctor, toothpaste, chewing stick, etc.

MariaLavina:
I see. Okay be truthful.

How will you feel as a Man if your girlfriend tells you bluntly the reason I don't want you to kiss me is because your mouth stinks and you have a tooth decay.

Land for sale!!!

cooooooks:
I would recognize that she has my best interests at heart and would tell me something that is necessary even if I may temporarily feel hurt.


I would be happy that we are open and honest with each other.

WE will try to fix the problem whether by diet, drinks, doctor, toothpaste, chewing stick, etc.

Very well scripted!

BTW the bolded can lead to lot of issues that can be avoided if the situation is handled tactfully. Believe me, questions like so you've been avoiding me because of that? Do you even love me? how deep? can you even accept my flaws? oh what other things have you seen in me miss perfection? etc will begin to flow if care isn't taken.

Sometimes it's better going that way.(my suggested way out)

MariaLavina:
Let's not talk about the teeth yet but focus on the lack of communication/closeness between you too. Alright , you've being together for a while now, you are good enough to settle down soon but lady you two are not close enough to tell each other your flaws? c'mmon! . Are you two even friends at all? Friends tell each other truth, jokingly, indirectly sometimes bluntly. Please work on that.


Well since you don't have the friendship thingy going on in your relationship, you can take the lovey dovey route. Set him in a romantic mood, then politely let out your plight. Cajole him, tell him how much you love to kiss him, tell him why you aren't doing it, then cry if possible show him you feel the pain more (this will make him sober and balance his ego) believe me, he will do something about it.

Good luck

OP just follow this, and dont just complain find a solution show you care.

tanks for standing by him anyway

no big deal if said. i believe the guy already knows his flaw in that regards. so saying it may not be an offence.

now, if i was the one, i may feel bad depending on my mood and how it was presented, but would definitely work on myself.no one is perfect, but self improvement is normal.

By the way, hope the gf too has not got smelly p

MariaLavina:
I see. Okay be truthful.

How will you feel as a Man if your girlfriend tells you bluntly the reason I don't want you to kiss me is because your mouth stinks and you have a tooth decay.

seyigiggle:
no big deal if said. i believe the guy already knows his flaw in that regards. so saying it may not be an offence.

now, if i was the one, i may feel bad depending on my mood and how it was presented, but would definitely work on myself.no one is perfect, but self improvement is normal.

By the way, hope the gf too has not got smelly p

Need I say more?




BTW only op can answer that question.

In my experience, honesty is the best policy. If you avoid saying something because you're scared of the reaction, you will regret it later. I don't mean insults, I mean things for their own good. It's not a girl or guy thing sef.

MariaLavina:
Very well scripted!

BTW the bolded can lead to lot of issues that can be avoided if the situation is handled tactfully. Believe me, questions like so you've been avoiding me because of that? Do you even love me? how deep? can you even accept my flaws? oh what other things have you seen in me miss perfection? etc will begin to flow if care isn't taken.

Sometimes it's better going that way.(my suggested way out)

MariaLavina:
Very well scripted!

BTW the bolded can lead to lot of issues that can be avoided if the situation is handled tactfully. Believe me, questions like so you've been avoiding me because of that? Do you even love me? how deep? can you even accept my flaws? oh what other things have you seen in me miss perfection? etc will begin to flow if care isn't taken.

Sometimes it's better going that way.(my suggested way out)

... Reason why am scared to tell him

Itsjare:
I need a candid advice on dis issue bothering my mind..
I and did guy have been together for a while now and he his planning on settling down with me next year.. The issue dia now is ever since we have started dating I don't let him kiss me.. Basically cos of two reasons... One he has bad teeth.. Sort of decayed set of teeth and d sight of it irritates me.. Secondly he has mouth odour... It bothers me alot and he always says I don't like kissing him... I want to tell him why but I just don't knw how to tell him what d problem is.. Dis guy is a very good guy... But d teeth and mouth odour is d issue.. I had wanted to let him go but he his just too perfect for me.. Note: he aint rich ooo cos some of u might think am with him maybe because he has money... He his still hustling but I knw he has a bright future.. So pls house I need una advice on how to tell him reasons why kissing isnt involve in our relationship.. Thanks

I recommend sensodyne toothpaste and a hard brush
Pls take this seriously

Itsjare:
... Reason why am scared to tell him

I get you my sister, no be men? just go about it the way ladies have advised, help him seek solutions too and please create a bond/ friendship in your relationship it goes a long way.

Celestial777:



I recommend sensodyne toothpaste and a hard brush
Pls take this seriously

Sensodyne is for sensitive teeth, not for a smelly mouth full of rotting teeth. What he needs is a dentist. It's going to be costly, but a small sacrifice to a happy marriage.

Erediauwa:
Dear Itsjare,


If I may ask, how long have you guys been together?

I believe you were not blind to notice that he has a "Tinubu-like teeth" and "mouth odour" when he first approached you.... You saw and smell all these before you accepted to date him....

Why complaining when it's almost time?

If we decide to check your own flaws, it might not be pleasant to our sense of smell or sight.

Here's my advise; Remain where you're, playfully tell him to brush his mouth 3 times a day if he will stand a chance of feeling your lips and since you know he has a "Bright future" Be rest assured he can also have a "Bright Teeth"

... Going to a year and half... Note: I didn't notice d teeth and odour earlier cos am still schooling and we hardly see... We met on one of my holiday home... and he his also busy.. We operate on a long distance relationship... While we were on strike I got to noticed all DAT.. Reason why am bothered

cooooooks:
In my experience, honesty is the best policy. If you avoid saying something because you're scared of the reaction, you will regret it later. I don't mean insults, I mean things for their own good. It's not a girl or guy thing sef.

I understand you and I agree but I have to let you know that presentation matters a lot. You want to correct something in a person go about it in a way it won't hurt the fellow. Agitated being hardly see reasons.

MariaLavina:
I get you my sister, no be men? just go about it the way ladies have advised, help him seek solutions too and please create a bond/ friendship in your relationship it goes a long way.

.. Thanks sis... God bless

Itsjare:
... Going to a year and half... Note: I didn't notice d teeth and odour earlier cos am still schooling and we hardly see... We met on one of my holiday home... and he his also busy.. We operate on a long distance relationship... While we were on strike I got to noticed all DAT.. Reason why am bothered

Fair enough,

Well, your next visit should be;

1. Tackle this issue in a matured and playful manner....

2. Planning(s) for the marriage.


I wish you guys the very best.

XhosaNostra:


Sensodyne is for sensitive teeth, not for a smelly mouth full of rotting teeth. What he needs is a dentist. It's going to be costly, but a small sacrifice to a happy marriage.

There is sensodyne daily use.
That is the variant i am talking about

Celestial777:



There is sensodyne daily use.
That is the variant i am talking about

Yes, but it's still not going to fix his teeth. That's to prevent plaque buildup, not to repair a damaged enamel.

XhosaNostra:


Yes, but it's still not going to fix his teeth. That's to prevent plaque buildup, not to repair a damaged enamel.

Oh okay

And you're confused?

Confused about what exactly?


Meanwhile......

I can bet my balls that this is coming from a Yoruba girl. It's evident in her write up. Her Yoruba accent is written all over the post.

Itsjare:
I need a candid advice on dis issue bothering my mind..
I and did guy have been together for a while now and he his planning on settling down with me next year.. The issue dia now is ever since we have started dating I don't let him kiss me.. Basically cos of two reasons... One he has bad teeth.. Sort of decayed set of teeth and d sight of it irritates me.. Secondly he has mouth odour... It bothers me alot and he always says I don't like kissing him... I want to tell him why but I just don't knw how to tell him what d problem is.. Dis guy is a very good guy... But d teeth and mouth odour is d issue.. I had wanted to let him go but he his just too perfect for me.. Note: he aint rich ooo cos some of u might think am with him maybe because he has money... He his still hustling but I knw he has a bright future.. So pls house I need una advice on how to tell him reasons why kissing isnt involve in our relationship.. Thanks

That's not an issue at all. Just try to get him longrich toothpaste and the mouth freshener, all the decaying or stinkiness will sure be an history. Thank me later