Raysleek:
I have one thing to tell you.
You have your life ahead of you and you already are an adult or will soon be one ( I guess)
You have a very good advantage being exposed to managing a business.. And you must have known the in and out of your mum's business.
Instead of focusing on your mum's mistake I think you should try and build your business. You can't be dependent on your mum forever.. There was a time I stopped praying God bless my parents I started praying God bless me so I can take care of my parents you can only learn from your parents mistakes, you might not be able to force them to change.. But one thing you can do is decide not to make the same mistake yourself.. Your mum has made her choices and you have more years ahead of you. Try to grow similar to your mum's business for yourself dear.
I hope this helps

greatme2good:
Your mum is the cause of her problems and she learnt her lesson the hard way. If you have your way, start a business and not depend on your mum. Still keep encouraging her before she will become depressed, since you are in school always keep in touch with her.

blackboy:
No charm. Your mum wont be the first nor the last. Women when they think they cannot be loved and finally find love they can do anything for the man. They dont want to loose the love in fear of never finding love again or being alone again.

The man is a gold digger. There is really nothing you could do. Work on yourself and save your mum by continued talking to her

Venusman:
None

Enchantaurl:
. I was doing something small in school, which I was able to use in feeding and buying materials but now we are on break. I'm in Port Harcourt tho job hunting before we resume, left the village I'm staying with a course mate at her parent's.

Raysleek:

Try to start up something similar to your mum's business.. If possible use her contact to continue from where she stopped.. And pls don't have a wrong perception about men. There are more fantastic men and women in this world and the good people outnumber the bad. Don't let your past experience make you resentful.

Enchantaurl:
I'm beginning to resent her, can't help it.
Thanks for your advice

Enchantaurl:
Good morning,nlders.

This is going to be a very lengthy post but please read to the end.

Sometime last year my widowed mother met this man who's into oil bunkering who said he was interested in learning about poultry farming and she in turn will learn his. As at then she was doing well she had a poultry business, mobile banking business, and she supplies things to companies.

Now this man is a divorcee with 3boys from his ex-wife and 3kids from two different women, all this children he doesn't train them.

In the guise of learning each other's business they both started dating and somehow he stopped her from staying with we her kids that were at home ( I,17 being the eldest at home then and a jambite, elder ones are in school)
She started living with him, hardly attends to her business because he always wants her home when he returns. He controlled every aspect of her life.

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.

generationz:



How about the loan?/
Has she been able to pay it back?

yomi007k:
From the man's history alone there were multiple Red flags-divorcee who doesn't train his kids.
I wish your mum had listened to you.

Paying the loan back. I hope the collateral are not your real estate properties because they will end up taking it.

The deed has been done.

I will just advice you to try and hustle and be supportive as she needs you very much during this trying times.

greatme2good:

It's normal to feel that way coz you are human but still don't go too extreme. She needs you now like never before...forgive her, comfort her and never judge her. If you loose her to death then you will know what it means not to have a parent especially a mother.

seunmohmoh:
She was charmed.. Forgive her.

But how are you guys gonna pay the loan back?

Enchantaurl:
We don't have a property,we were paying rent in Port Harcourt as my dad's people took all he had.

Thanks I'll try.

theButterfly:
If you're a spiritual person, you should understand that he was obviously sent to cause destruction in her once successful life. This should be a lesson to you as you get older - be prayerful and vigilant of who you allow into your life b|c it's not everyone who comes into it that means well. You can tell if you pay attention to what they say and do from the get-go, and bounce right away. Him telling her he wanted to learn her poultry business while she learn his was a huge red flag and I'm glad you called this a "guise" b|c that's what it was, but your mom didn't see it. She didn't need him for anything, as her businesses were thriving then; he was the one who obviously wanted to rip her off. Threatening to kill her and trying to break your family apart also shows he was the devil in disguise. Again, there were warnings but your mom didn't see them.


Ephesians 6:12
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Enchantaurl:
No, I just knew about the loan this month as I came back home from school. She's not started paying.

yomi007k:


What about the POS shops and the poultry? U can't go back and open it.

If u had not gotten admission, I think u wud have managed the business well.

generationz:



Sorry dear.

I feel your pain. Wish I could help

Just stay strong. Everything will be fine.