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What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by DateMynd44(m): 11:31am On Aug 22, 2019 |
When a girl says she's in a platonic friendship with you, what does she really mean? Is it just Casual friends with no relationship attached or Closed and deep friends to confide in with no emotions or affections or love relationship that you both are dating but absence of sex? well I got a friend I asked her to define our friendship and she said we are just in a platonic friendship that's all. Though I like it that way cos I don't want any distractions as I don dey near to finish school so I'm battling how I'll shoot from this boundary 2:1 to first class which seems to be a Herculean task so dating and engaging on all those stuff may dampen my goal now. Okay straight to the point, so this girl that told me we are nothing but platonic friends has some financial issues as she hasn't paid her fees as her parents are financially drained (dad got sacked, mom's business isn't flowing) so she risked suspending her studies cos she couldn't register her courses and the school fees is 50k (Course registration inclusive) and she had to struggle and hustle during the holidays and earned 20k and now needs 30k to complete an pay her fees and register her courses. I long paid mine and there's this work that entered for me an I had 50k gain and tho I don't have any pressing needs except to boost my wardrobe and save the cash or by my mumsy a present.... But my mind and conscience is irking me that I should send her the 30k and help her out but that money is too much to give out to a platonic friend that I'm not sure I'll marry, so I should just start taking care of someone's future wife Due to the issues she's passing thru she may not be able to pay back. so guys what's your advice in this? what's the extent of help u can give a platonic friend? Had it been u were in my shoes would you lease out such amount of money to a platonic friend without refund cc ubunja truthsbitter luvyaself95 dairrykid 20 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ubunja(m): 11:38am On Aug 22, 2019 |
I don't give a girl money who has never given me pussy. Unless it's a relative. Unless she gave me money first. That's just me. Better the platonic friendship die. If konji was killing you would the platonic friend rescue you and open her legs?? Ask yourself that. If she'll never open her legs for you, there's no reason for you to open your wallet for her. Again. That's just me. 221 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Truthsbitter: 12:52pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
look, i am a mixed personality (spiritual and logical). if you find it hard to understand something I wrote, call me back on the lines that are complex. Okay let's consider these questions with sincerity before I say the truth. Would your platonic friend do the same for you if the positions were reversed ? Would you help any other friend with that amount if you find them in same position as your platonic friend? If the answers to these questions are negative then consider yourself manipulated by your emotions and by the force of attraction within her personality. And if this is true then you are about to give wrongly. (Giving in itself isn't bad but most male are too weak to see that emotional manipulation is draining them off everything. Their resources, affections, time, compassion , care...etc. they waste almost everything for unrighteous emotions). Proverbs 25:28 KJV He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. Women most times don't attach conscience to their judgement, that's why they can dump any relationship coldly at any point in time(If you like kneel down in public to propose marriage or in the presence of your father, they will decline once their heart isn't there but if you find out about the matter you would come to the findings that all the time while they remained in such relationship they would make the man feel so good that he would have spent his life and resources on them not knowing he is being played all along. foolish men). men are the ones who consider these things and so it is easy to manipulate these men by their conscience. But if your conscience aligns with the unsentimental truth within you, then you may offer help irrespective of any manipulation (it would sure backfire against the guilty in the end "the one who manipulates to extort the other. if there is", for you have cleared your conscience rightly). If you decide to help her, help her because you are aware of her problems and you have DECIDED to help, not because you FEEL you should help. your help won't be a blessing if it was controlled by just your emotions and not by the truth of the matter. it is better to give your cash to a beggar than to give your cash to a platonic (girl)friend, if truly the beggar needs the cash more. Lastly I will tell you this. a girl who wants a platonic relationship with you is probably a manipulative girl than a truthful girl. Here is how it goes; If she has something intellectual to add to you, it's good. If she has a good character to imbibe in you, it's good. if she can support you financially , it's good. if she can ease your stress by sex or romance it's good (Any one of the above benefit is good , if at least she can tender any, but unfortunately most Nigerian girls don't have any to give except for sex, which is why most guys who know them insist on sex before they tender any form of help to a Nigerian girl). otherwise she wants you around cause she wants to manipulate you into being her maga whom will not only spend his cash but his emotions, intellect, time and so much more on her and then she dumps you as soon as she grows past your value . Love seems to have proved over time to be the strongest emotional force because it seems to create more than it destroys, and all other emotions are mainly viewed as destructive, but when one grows into higher level of awareness one finds that all emotional forces could be rightly channeled and to do so is to become emotionally balanced. Balance is the key. Proverbs 16:32 KJV He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. truthsbitter 187 Likes 30 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by psalmuelwater(m): 1:01pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
If you cannot help her without wanting something in return, please don't. The truth is, you'll feel you can control her after giving her this money, and you'll expect she shows more care towards you, then from there you'll develop one "konji feelings" , las las you'll smash and forget the 30k. She's in a vulnerable state now, can you see her as your sister? If you can't, then watch how God will raise an helper for that young lady. 97 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by DateMynd44(m): 1:10pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
Truthsbitter: 35 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
Abeg OP no later come here con open one yeye thread dey tell us say one Girl break ur Heart yenyenyenyenyen......!!!! If u try am, I go knack u 2by4..!! Despite all d efforts of Ubunja to open ur Brains and minds to Female Manipulation, Sense is still far from most Guys. Its a pity d@ d same sense d@ wants to finish Ubunja is what most of u have in little quantity. 39 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Toroso: 5:01pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
The smart thing to do is give her 10K or 15K as your widows might. You are not her father n owe her no responsibility only friendship which doesn’t cost a thing. Giving her half of what she need will discourage further request of financial assistance from you & it gives you room to understand if she’s appreciative or playing on your intelligence. Whichever way that panes out you can now decide on your own at a later date to dash her the balance but once she start acting strange cos u can not meet her need my brother na OYO you de. 90 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by luvyaself95(m): 5:04pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
DateMynd44:why do you think you have to help her... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Auladimeji2: 5:16pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
Can you give your male friend(s) the 30k if they are need it like her,if you can't then na Ogun go pornish you 113 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ArticleBeast: 5:40pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
ubunja:Everything is not about sex. I hope one day you grow up to learn this truth. I recently secured a contract with a big firm through a female friend I assisted with 20k. If I was thinking like you then I wouldnt have gotten it. 122 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ubunja(m): 5:44pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
ArticleBeast:Everything is not about money. 79 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ArticleBeast: 5:45pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
ubunja:Money answereth all things, I can't say the same thing about sex. 38 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ubunja(m): 5:50pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
ArticleBeast:if I want money I get a woman with money. To me, a woman is always part of the equation. 18 Likes |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
Would he/she do the same. some friends are a$sholes. some i'll give any amount to. Though they are rare. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Truthsbitter: 6:33pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
ubunja: you no dey slow down.... You're becoming more unrighteous than I am. |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ubunja(m): 6:39pm On Aug 22, 2019 |
Truthsbitter:the next level of Miseducations in the future will be about chasing women's cash more than their coochie. That's where game really comes alive. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by DateMynd44(m): 5:11am On Aug 23, 2019 |
Budex40:bro abeg u get link to that ubunja thread on female manipulation abeg Link me up I need to be schooled seriously 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by DateMynd44(m): 5:13am On Aug 23, 2019 |
Auladimeji2:why I go give them |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by DateMynd44(m): 5:15am On Aug 23, 2019 |
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Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Useku(m): 5:45am On Aug 23, 2019 |
If it's school fees ,go ahead and assist . This life is somehow, there's something called life after school. Let her owe you one. 45 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by BBBmall25: 10:14am On Aug 23, 2019 |
High Chief Ubunja & Truthsbitter I Dey Throway Salute O 5 Likes |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by SKhanmi: 11:02am On Aug 23, 2019 |
If you want to help, do it without any thoughts of payback. Personally, I Know all those around me, I won't help if you've added no value to my life. And even when I do,I've a threshold for the cash I fit dash you. Most won't reciprocate if you need their help in future. I'm cool with that 24 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by sheDD(m): 10:50pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Toroso:Op No doubts,truthbitter and as well ubunja wrote perfectly and logically from their perspective Intelligence was so glaring in their analysis But believe you me, this advice is the top notch to follow!! I adjure just as every conscientious person would!! Follow this dictates!! Thanks 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by seunak2016: 11:09pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
x 5 of whatever they can do for me |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ednut1(m): 11:09pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Lion no dey keep goat as friend. Ji je ni 4 Likes |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by AmazingELixir: 11:10pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Op help her out but not with the full balance...N20k is in order let her go hussle the balance...who knows you might surprise her enough to change the platonic narrative to something more spontaneous you-know- wha-amin. Op meanwhile drop that crap line about you not been interested in romantic relationship with her...I can bet on those your saggy balls that you wouldn't hesitate to date that babe if presented with the opportunity. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by OzziOhinoyi(m): 11:10pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
I follow Ubunja's post and those of wise men on this platform and respect their views especially taking into cognizance the primordial cold war between the sexes and how most weak men are losing out. But inasmuch as there is no pact between lions and men, I personally believe in HUMANITY. Since you and your friend have agreed on platonic friendship with no strings attached and you are sure she needs it for her education assist her with the sum you can conveniently and safely path with, but make sure you can offer a brother that same assistance. 35 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by bikefab(m): 11:10pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
You are on your own o |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Teejayphillip(m): 11:10pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Ere kini aja ba ekun shey? (which Kai play Tiger dey follow Dog play)? Wetin concern me and platonic abi MALTONIC friend I go too unscrew ur kitten nuts . I go too scatter ur palace,e mi EKUN 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Nobody: 11:11pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Give without expectation 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by ReeLoaDead(m): 11:12pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Chai, there is one broke guy that is collecting the goodies from this lady while this poor dude just the pay money from the other end 14 Likes |
Re: What Is The Extent Of Financial Help You Can Offer A Platonic Friend? by Kelvinto(m): 11:12pm On Aug 23, 2019 |
Ok |
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