Cocotrendz:
Op what exactly is your question?

Davash222:
Your school fees is 6 figures. What's 6 figures

RickyE:
I created this account just for this purpose and I might have to deactivate it and follow this thread with with my main account just for privacy reasons. Thanks for your understanding.

I actually like this girl, we've been together for almost 4 years now, I'm in 400 level currently, I'm from a poor family to be honest and this girl's family is far worse than mine financially. She is in this university too, since she didn't have her own place to stay, we were staying together. Our school fees here is 6 figures, since my family is not good financially, I had to do some online stuffs that bring money so that I can pay my bills and assist my family.

I was completely broke when we met she used to give me little little support financially, if she had until I had my own money. I actually didn't know she didn't have anybody to support her because she lied her uncle was the one supporting her until I found out that it was her ex boyfriend who was helping her. She confessed everything and the situation with her family when I discovered they met (that happened last year) I cancelled everything but later reconsidered after thinking it through.

The major problem is that I'm paying my own fees which is in 6 figures as well as hers ( which is also 6 figures), support my family, any money I give her she sends straight to her mother, sometimes I also have to assist her mother.
I know this is not her fault but I don't think I can move forward like this, taking full care of her, supporting my family, and having to also assist her mother. So I told her to go.
I just don't understand why everybody just has to depend on me I'm not even 25 yet.
Somehow I feel really bad because we together when things started going well small small but most of my guys have really gone far but I just keep moving up and down. It's not that I'm doing badly but I just feel there's too much weight on my head, the worst part of it is that all these people are very good people I just don't know what to do.
I don't know if I should just let her go
I don't know if it's a good idea to put this on front page but I'd like it to be more visible.

Seun, Mynd44, lalasticlala

RickyE:
if I should just let her go or accept her like that

Davash222:
Your school fees is 6 figures. What's 6 figures

RickyE:
100k plus

Davash222:
Your school fees is 6 figures. What's 6 figures

Kingosytex:



Millions...The Op is paying millions as tuition fees for both himself and his gf despite the fact that their families are poor...isn't that a miracle?

RickyE:
if I should just let her go or accept her like that

RickyE:
millions is 7 figures actually.
100k plus is the fees
I already said I went into online stuffs coz of it. I wouldn't want to go into details

pcguru1:


Hmmm tricky, I can understand how poverty will make you take some certain decisions if theres no help, but mehn if you were to for some reason not be able to help out financially what do you think her alternative would be ?

jovialswag:
whst type of online stuff if its legitbi will like to learn

Kingosytex:



Millions...The Op is paying millions as tuition fees for both himself and his gf despite the fact that their families are poor...isn't that a miracle?

DateMynd44:
the girl should change the guy's name in her contact to Saviour or benefactor.

Kingosytex:



Millions...The Op is paying millions as tuition fees for both himself and his gf despite the fact that their families are poor...isn't that a miracle?

DateMynd44:



I wonder how people reason, he said it himself that he's from a humble background, instead of him to go for a federal university that's affordable and sponsor himself in school, the excesses left from his online business he could save it for future use and then invest in himself by setting up a business that will fetch him income, or rather set up something for his parents but
he's Rather investing in a girl that might ditch him tomorrow.
I don't know the kind of guys we have nowadays despite luvyaself95 truthsbitter and ubunja's efforts to school these guys they're Still getting weak day by day.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Hope you won't drink sniper if she dumps u tomorrow Sha.

Why she no go oau wey school fee na 6k? That was the highest I paid during my time there o

DateMynd44:



I wonder how people reason, he said it himself that he's from a humble background, instead of him to go for a federal university that's affordable and sponsor himself in school, the excesses left from his online business he could save it for future use and then invest in himself by setting up a business that will fetch him income, or rather set up something for his parents but
he's Rather investing in a girl that might ditch him tomorrow.
I don't know the kind of guys we have nowadays despite luvyaself95 truthsbitter and ubunja's efforts to school these guys they're Still getting weak day by day.

RickyE:
I really appreciate your advice but the thing is that you don't get the full picture because I didn't go into details. The school fees was increased when we were already in school. I did not want to go to another school and start from scratch because I really don't believe in school I was begged and persuaded by my family, including her to go to university because my jamb score was insanely high that time. The thing is that all the people who stood by me then and supported me are all completely dependent on me now and I feel I'm too young for that kind of weight so I'm having a serious conflict between my conscience and common sense. I can't leave my family so that's completely out of the question.

Kingosytex:


That was why i told him not to allow emotions and feelings cloud his sense of rational thinking.

RickyE:
I'm the one thinking of leaving her. The school fees was increased when we already got inside.
What I don't understand is why everybody just depends on me. I even assist most of the guys here in my hostel when they are unable to do things. I don't know if I should shut out my conscience and focus only on my life. My mother is completely my responsibility because she is old and can't work anymore. I don't want to regret these things later in future.
I don't see the assistance I render her as investment I see it as just help