daewoorazer:

You didn’t state what brings you sorrow...we have to know that

Watercarrier:

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calgaryFriend:
Guy you are just dancing around, what is the issue. You have to learn to be able to communicate with people and not your self, we are not in your damn head. And by the way I was in your shoes a couple years ago.

daewoorazer:



Ohhh I get, you lack motivation to do anything, like you feel defeated and seem overwhelmed...

It’s like things are going bad and you can’t do anything to help it...like you are tied down or a heavy weight is on you

Watercarrier:

Seriously, I'm not even my head to start with. Something is just not right currently.
I'm an introvert, calm relaxed and all that.
You were in my shoes couple of years ago, how did you weather the storm?
Maybe you could state some challenges you faced then.
My heart is failing me.

calgaryFriend:

You have still not communicated anything concrete in my own opinion.
And for your information life is a constant battle, right now I have overcome a lot of battles but I still have some battles I am fighting and maybe some battles are still ahead.

It is called life and you have to know that challenges is part of life, if you could be more specific about your challenges maybe I could be more helpful and customised in my response.

Watercarrier:

Yes.

Watercarrier:
My life's a mess right now, I just can't get my act together. I've been contemplating posting this here for sometime now and I feel kinda sad posting this here because some of you guys have one problem or another but this is really serious. For almost two months now, I've been emotionally down, I feel defeated, I'm at the lowest point right now. Something is disturbing me and I don't know where it's coming from, I feel I'm losing in. Every night, I find myself tearing up even as I type this, it's tears all through. I just feel emptiness and I'm just there, time is waning. My life has to change.
I've been through a lot of emotional stuff and I managed to stand.
I'm in my 20s and I'm gonna be graduating soon though, I'm not doing bad academically but this hole I've sunk into is just eating me up bit by bit. It's really painful. I don't know if it's midlife crisis or what.
I feel unfulfilled, I know I've gonna be a force to reckon with at some point.
I just know things are not okay with me. People look at me and think everything is well and I don't have issues but the inside is just an engine of sadness_ I don't have a compass in my life right now.
Maybe I probably want to just forget life itself or get high to a point where I'll just be in another world.
Life is not rosy, it's just full of tears and emotional traumas.
I don't have anyone to talk to right now, I need to free my mind. I don't want to continue like this. What's the need of solving people's problems if you can't solve yours?
My life's like a movie, I'm just watching it, I can't pause, forward or do anything, it's just playing.

Watercarrier:
My life's a mess right now, I just can't get my act together. I've been contemplating posting this here for sometime now and I feel kinda sad posting this here because some of you guys have one problem or another but this is really serious. For almost two months now, I've been emotionally down, I feel defeated, I'm at the lowest point right now. Something is disturbing me and I don't know where it's coming from, I feel I'm losing in. Every night, I find myself tearing up even as I type this, it's tears all through. I just feel emptiness and I'm just there, time is waning. My life has to change.
I've been through a lot of emotional stuff and I managed to stand.
I'm in my 20s and I'm gonna be graduating soon though, I'm not doing bad academically but this hole I've sunk into is just eating me up bit by bit. It's really painful. I don't know if it's midlife crisis or what.
I feel unfulfilled, I know I've gonna be a force to reckon with at some point.
I just know things are not okay with me. People look at me and think everything is well and I don't have issues but the inside is just an engine of sadness_ I don't have a compass in my life right now.
Maybe I probably want to just forget life itself or get high to a point where I'll just be in another world.
Life is not rosy, it's just full of tears and emotional traumas.
I don't have anyone to talk to right now, I need to free my mind. I don't want to continue like this. What's the need of solving people's problems if you can't solve yours?
My life's like a movie, I'm just watching it, I can't pause, forward or do anything, it's just playing.

Watercarrier:
I'm in my 20s and...

blackpanthar:
Lets solve your issues. by addressing them one by one.

1) YOU HAVE NO DIRECTION... this is because you must be very good at many things BUT not fulfilled in ANY ONE THING. You feel indebted to helping others become better rather than helping yourself. This is called SELF VICTIMIZATION. You need serious continuous sessions of counseling and a break... you need to take a break from your life as you know it.

2) YOU HAVE NO REAL FRIENDS.... People around you are very parasitic, they only come around to FEEL GOOD and to get you to satisfy them... WELL, you need to cut off from them till you can have real friends who are there for you, and not for what you can offer.

3) YOU ARE COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS... This affects everyone but to cure this, YOU NEED A MENTOR or GUIDE who can help you with DIRECTION and CAUTION and HELP you focus on one thing at a time till you complete it.

4) YOU HAVE A SOFT WEAK HEART.... you can not make tough decisions to break this endless cycle of frustrating boredom. You need to really be strong. Much of ADULTHOOD is being able to be internally strong and deliberately make your life what you want it to be.

5) YOU ARE SEEKING FOR BALANCE.... and this is good BUT sadly.... no one has achieved balance yet... not even the wealthy peeps... Its a lifelong quest. So this is where you need God in your life... so you surrender your stress and psychological pressures to him via prayer and worship... The solution to the ENDLESS DESPERATE SEARCH FOR BALANCE issss....... PEACE. You need to be at peace even in the midst of the STORM... ITS OKAY IF SOMETHING ARE NOT YET WORKING... ITS OKAY... They will work later.

6) YOU NEED LOVE.... At your age, you should have a girlfriend for emotional succor and support... not just for sex. Someone you can just allow yourself to relax with. kindly consider this.

7) ASIDES A MENTOR OR GUIDE, You need to REWARD YOURSELF at every point where you achieve some level of success... it can be a vacation or even a treat....



I WISH YOU WELL BRO, DEPRESSION IS TOO WEAK TO CLAIM YOU. You are strong.

czarina:
It happens op, beginning from your 23/mid twenties. Social media only helped to worsen it.


If you sit down and think (count your blessings) you'll realize that you've not done bad for yourself, you're just under unnecessary pressure from the "successes" others flaunt.

Believe me, you're doing well for yourself, it only appears insignificant.

Don't let anyone rush you, least of all, a faker.


As long as you're putting in the hard work in your dealings, then relax, you're going at the right pace for the stage you're in.


Cc: Invictus and the "fake it till you make it crew", you're needed here.

calgaryFriend:

You have still not communicated anything concrete in my own opinion.
And for your information life is a constant battle, right now I have overcome a lot of battles but I still have some battles I am fighting and maybe some battles are still ahead.

It is called life and you have to know that challenges is part of life, if you could be more specific about your challenges maybe I could be more helpful and customised in my response.

czarina:
It happens op, beginning from your 23/mid twenties. Social media only helped to worsen it.


If you sit down and think (count your blessings) you'll realize that you've not done bad for yourself, you're just under unnecessary pressure from the "successes" others flaunt.

Believe me, you're doing well for yourself, it only appears insignificant.

Don't let anyone rush you, least of all, a faker.


As long as you're putting in the hard work in your dealings, then relax, you're going at the right pace for the stage you're in.


Cc: Invictus and the "fake it till you make it crew", you're needed here.

czarina:
He's just under pressure, feeling like an underachiever. No thanks to social media.

He's at that point in his life, it will pass if he doesn't succumb to it and do something stupid.

Logobenz3:
Excuses to make underachievers feel good with their useless selves.
Leave Invictus out of it.
Atleast he is more useful to the FBI and FG more than most self acclaimed HONEST Nigerians.
Yeye dey smell
At 23,a young man must not have a lot of money but should have direction atleast.
Either business, corporate world or labour.one of the 3.
Without any at this point,then I would say the person is heading for destruction seriously.
Nwanne leave your comfort zone and go hustle with your mates.
Whether legit or illegit,you will get your hailings from men own this side.
Chose wisely

Richy4:


I'm not doubting what you have said here but I want to know how you figured out what he wanted... he wasn't talking and was not giving anyone any information to work with... And it is wrong to assume what he wanted without him talking.. at least what we can do is to let him talk some more.. and Nairalanders asking few questions without being aggressive about it..He needs to clear his head and let some air out.. before diagnosis

Logobenz3:
Excuses to make underachievers feel good with their useless selves.
Leave Invictus out of it.
Atleast he is more useful to the FBI and FG more than most self acclaimed HONEST Nigerians.
Yeye dey smell
At 23,a young man must not have a lot of money but should have direction atleast.
Either business, corporate world or labour.one of the 3.
Without any at this point,then I would say the person is heading for destruction seriously.
Nwanne leave your comfort zone and go hustle with your mates.
Whether legit or illegit,you will get your hailings from men on this side.
Chose wisely

Watercarrier:

Somehow, he figured it out

calgaryFriend:
Guy you are just dancing around, what is the issue. You have to learn to be able to communicate with people and not your self, we are not in your damn head. And by the way I was in your shoes a couple years ago.

liberalchick:
Op, you need to see a mental health professional, you are showing signs of depression. There are no major external stressors that should cause you this much sadness yet you are not happy with your life. Most people with your life would be happy and content but for some reason, you are unhappy and unfulfilled. It’s your brain, the hormones responsible for your emotions are getting their signals crossed. You need to see a professional that would help you. Do not think you are weird, strange or ungrateful, it’s more common than you think and you will be fine.

Watercarrier:

Seriously, I'm not even my head to start with. Something is just not right currently.
I'm an introvert, calm relaxed and all that.
You were in my shoes couple of years ago, how did you weather the storm?
Maybe you could state some challenges you faced then.
My heart is failing me.

Watercarrier:

You know, if I ever told anybody that I'm having such a plight, they'd probably think I'm joking so I just forget that option. Some persons would probably not understand the underlying issue but I say there's a problem and it's there.