I dated my wife for over five years without sex before venturing into marriage and we now have a kid so its possible with you too

Lmao....
I need to know what I'm getting married to.
I cannot comman start regretting what I would have avoided

destinyy23:
Exactly. People saying so many nonsense to justify fornication. What is wrong is wrong no matter how hard you try to justify it.

Virginity gives a sense of innocence.

The hard fact is this: No matter how good you are in life, there will always be some people better than you . So no matter how good a man or woman is sexually, there will always be a better one.

The dangers of premarital coitus is far reaching. Na woman or man wey don taste several vagina and phalluses go dey compare upandan. Its just natural to do so. God help them if they eventually end up with someone who performs lesser than their past coital partners. The temptation na im go eventually kill that marriage. Later u go hear, she calls her ex, she collects money frm her ex, she had coiyltus with her ex etc and vice versa.

We need to correct this false narrative that supports promiscuity in the form of premarital coitus. People just focus on the wrong thing and this may affect the conviction of some of those who hv chosen to remain chaste to the best of their abilities.

Keep the flag of chastity flying high brothers and sisters. Nothing do una. Make una chop knuckle jor.

Some people are saying if such men exist. YES dey exist. Not all men are sex freak.

EduTechTainMent:


Virginity gives a sense of innocence.

The hard fact is this: No matter how good you are in life, there will always be some people better than you . So no matter how good a man or woman is sexually, there will always be a better one.

The dangers of premarital coitus is far reaching. Na woman or man wey don taste several vagina and phalluses go dey compare upandan. Its just natural to do so. God help them if they eventually end up with someone who performs lesser than their past coital partners. The temptation na im go eventually kill that marriage. Later u go hear, she calls her ex, she collects money frm her ex, she had coiyltus with her ex etc and vice versa.

We need to correct this false narrative that supports promiscuity in the form of premarital coitus. People just focus on the wrong thing and this may affect the conviction of some of those who hv chosen to remain chaste to the best of their abilities.

Keep the flag of chastity flying high brothers and sisters. Nothing do una. Make una chop knuckle jor.

Preach!

PrimadonnaO:


Nahh. The point isn't to provoke his sexual desire. The point is to know that he is alright down there... and that he finds me attractive.

If you know, what assurances do you hv that this won't change even after getting married to such a man or woman?

Let's not be penny wise, pound foolish. There is surely some wisdom behind every commandment given by the creator.

Humility017:


thanks bro....
what you said is absolutely true...
it has not been easy though but God has been helpful.
I don't believe most of this ladies...the truth Is Many can't stay in a relationship without sex...

my ex left and start to go relate with another guy...she wanted keep us both...and I am so sure she was having an affair with that guy.... she started give me attitude...I had to find out myself and respectfully walk away....

it's just that I wanna live God's way...I know I have come too far to Give up.

my prayer now is to get someone who is really ready for a serious Godly relationship.... where we not just have the goal to get married soon but also set up and pursue spiritual goals...too.

You're depriving yourself of glad tidings

Humility017:


congrats bro...
it has not been easy bro....

I almost compromised last year...because it was getting frustrating and disappointing. keep getting heart breaks....but I am still hopefully....

thank God for His Word

I think you can only achieve this with a virgin girl.... Not all those sexually active ones be prayerful it will come to pass

EduTechTainMent:


If you know, what assurances do you hv that this won't change even after getting married to such a man or woman?

Let's not be penny wise, pound foolish. There is surely some wisdom behind every commandment given by the creator.

There are really no guarantees about anything, yes. But we can carry out due diligence for ourselves and trust God to perfect the rest.

During counselling, couples are advised to discuss sex... go for medical checkups and all. Would you say that is foolishness? Knowing that the situation could change in the blink of an eye in marriage.

I still stand that a healthy man who finds his woman attractive would nurse an erection now and again... he would proposition for sex knowing that he wouldn't get it. That's being human. I didn't say we would have the sex.

Excel70:

I think you can only achieve this with a virgin girl.... Not all those sexually active ones be prayerful it will come to pass

I think you're right....
but I was just willing to ignore any lady's past and love them regardless.
but it has not been working

Those wey don masturbate their life finish too dey claim say they never have sex before, they're waiting until marriage, and so on...
Is okay o...

God is watching.

My own opinion tho, no sex before marriage relationship is the best even tho it may not be easy for both parties; especially when they are sexually compatible, worse when one has a high libido for it. From my little experience, I was a virgin until 29yrs of age and till today, it still pains me I gave it out cheaply despite the moral standards I uphold.

Pascopele:
Ladies be sincere,
Would you date a guy that won't ask you for sex until marriage

Yes I will
Why should there be intimacy before marriage in the first place

Mustiboy:
You're depriving yourself of glad tidings

Lol...not at all
I tell people about Jesus.
I write and share tracts since my secondary school days....
so why should I be doing something that I preach against...and encourage others to walk out from...

it gives me peace and Joy

aoofbeautifulme:

Yes I will Why should there be intimacy before marriage in the first place

wish you were in Abuja

lollybizzu:
Those wey don masturbate their life finish too dey claim say they never have sex before, they're waiting until marriage, and so on...
Is okay o...

God is watching.

My own opinion tho, no sex before marriage relationship is the best even tho it may not be easy for both parties; especially when they are sexually compatible, worse when one has a high libido for it. From my little experience, I was a virgin until 29yrs of age and till today, it still pains me I gave it out cheaply despite the moral standards I uphold.

it doesn't Matter if you lost your virginity...
God forgives you ... you can still choose to live a sexual pure life by submitting your desires to the Holy Spirit

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romenna:
u hav assumed a condescending posture to midwife an infant entity.
Answer the damn question girl or STFU
Ur nagging is uneccesary cos some monikers with (m) sign actually belong to ladies, vice versa

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A clear conscience fears no accusation.
Are you one of them retards? Did that hit close to home? Then go fix yourself and stop vomitting on my post

Adeebiwa09:



Yes we exist and we are okay. You expect and allow him sleep with you and then be faithful in marriage meanwhile he has been sleeping around. Long story short we love God and he has helping us keep ourselves in spite of the overwhelming challenges that is to say we are perfectly okay down there

God bless you bro...
I have always told ladies close to me...
that I am okay...I do have erections like every other normal guy...
I am fine and God creates me well down there...

but I choose by the Grace of God at work in me to abstain till marriage....

Toluobaeko11:


Oga just speak for yourself oo! I'm 29 plus, and I've never had sex in my life. I'm not an impotent. I've really learned to control myself. I've had countless opportunities to have sex, but I've learned to control myself from teen age.
It's a pity we live in a world where we don't value simple law/rule again because of peer pressure and people will quickly come and attack you if you say you've not had sex before but I'm a proud product of myself. It doesn't matter if a girl sees me as impotent or not.
Men who don't ask for sex and keeping themselves exist, but they don't shout all about to people that I'm a virgin oo

29 and never had sex before? damn..

better marry on time.

Yes, I am dating one and I am cool with that,we want to honor God’s word and I am very grateful for him because he is different.#we both love God.

ubunja:
I'm here to read lies.

Me too...

And the first few comments have been overbearing

nelsonoba:


I hope you will maintain this boldness to explain to God when you stand before him in judgement at the end of your life

here they come again hypocritical beings...

A sinner who sins differently summoning me to God to judge for sinning differently..

pocohantas:
The question is for ladies and there are more men trying to answer and derail the thread.

There is definitely something wrong with the mental condition of most guys in this section.

If it is something that comes with their current age, I wouldn't know. But I hope that is the case, because it would be disastrous if they do not outgrow such condition.


Then they keep yapping about intelligence. Say what? Coming from blokes who are totally non-existent in sections that require brain power? Lol. The delusion is real...

You talk a good talk but you still didn't answer the question

I was hoping to get some insight about this because I'm kinda in a similar situation.

My guy has not asked me for se.x and I don't know if I should be happy he might be the one or worried he is getting it from someone else

our youth really have poor mindset.

From the comments here, you can tell what and who they are. And also their likely friends.

They assume life from their head because of few experiences and also their likes they are always with. And this is different from what is really attainable.

The error of generalization is the most common error in the world but popularized in Africa. And this is due to our poor education and very low level of research and experiments.

aoofbeautifulme:


Yes I will
Why should there be intimacy before marriage in the first place

Me I yam scared o because my guy has not asked me for se.x yet and I don't know if I should be happy he might be the one or worried he is getting it from someone else

Oiza131:
Lmao....
I need to know what I'm getting married to.
I cannot comman start regretting what I would have avoided

What about the fact that if he is not getting it from you then it's possible he is getting it from someone else

SyberKate:


You talk a good talk but you still didn't answer the question

I was hoping to get some insight about this because I'm kinda in a similar situation.

My guy has not asked me for se.x and I don't know if I should be happy he might be the one or worried he is getting it from someone else

So if I tell you I fck my own everyday and won't stop fcking- you will go on a fcking spree?

My answer isn't what you need babe, because the dynamics of my relationship is very different from yours.

As for the question, I owe no group of younglings an answer, definitely not a thread overflowing with testosterone.

Blackivy27:
Yes.
but finding a guy like that is like passing a camel through thek eye of a needle. Impossible.

They are many out there, of which I am one by God's Grace.
U just have to know that a man is only attracted to his kind of female.

Oiza131:
Lmao....
I need to know what I'm getting married to.
I cannot comman start regretting what I would have avoided

Benin galz and sex are like 5 $ 6

only if you knew how ladies love sex. You won't be asking such question

I just want to use this medium to make a report that someone has been posting some pornographic pics on this platform recently.I was so embarrassed today while in the bus reading some news on nairaland.I suddenly came across this pornographic pics while people sitting beside me saw this.I was really embarrassed cause it makes me look as if I was watching porn pictures deliberately making me look like a perv.Pls I want the mod and seun to take serious note on this.Have been recommending this site to responsible men and women in the society and such disdained behaviours are uncalled for.I believe nairaland has a standard and that standard should be maintained at all cost.And shouldn't allow unscrupulous elements destroy that.thks

internationalman:
Does a guy like that exist?

Even if he did, ladies would assume he's not OK down there...

That's how one impotent pastor imprisoned one girl like that for life all in the name of I'M A PASTOR, SO NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

We still have men who won't demand for sex. It's just about the circle we keep has individuals.