Is it right for a MIL to bring food for her son (he's an only child) and recently got married.
His wife isn't comfortable with the way Mama comes to their house daily with food and the guy doesn't know how to tell his mum to stop.
This whole thing is causing friction already..

Nothing dey wrong..mind u,she wont do dat forever...if it was to be ur own mum,would u have complained?.

Momma probably misses her son. Just give her time,she'll adjust.

1. This shouldn't prevent the wife from preparing her own meals for her husband. She should just say, "Thank you, mama", set the food aside and cook for hubby as she normally would.

2. To look at it in a positive light, the MIL is saving them time and money. She obviously has the time and money to cook the food she's bringing, so they should allow her and enjoy the free food. On days when they're running late or too hungry to cook, they can eat mama's food.

Where is her father-in-law? When there's no responsible father-in-law in the mix, some mothers misbehave. Real fathers won't allow their wives try this kind of nonsense. She needs to go back to her husband's house and cook for him instead.

Aunty...don't get yourself stressed unnecessarily jare.

Get a bigger fridge/freezer. Cook regardless and serve you meal if that's what you want him to eat that day and refrigerate mama's own. The days you don't feel like cooking, bring out her own for both of you to eat. Issue resolved fa.

sisisioge:
Aunty...don't get yourself stressed unnecessarily jare.

Get a bigger fridge/freezer. Cook regardless and serve you meal if that's what you want him to eat that day and refrigerate mama's own. The days you don't feel like cooking, bring out her own for both of you to eat. Issue resolved fa.

Makes sense.

But you know what they say about little foxes.

Or a stitch in time.

LewsTherin:


Makes sense.

But you know what they say about little foxes.

Or a stitch in time.

Hmmmm...the fight shouldn't be her own. Let mama and her son deal with it. I'm sure mama will get tired pretty soon if she never receives more than a thank you for the meals and their body language is not very welcoming, she would stop. Imagine her son consistently complaining that he doesn't want Egusi today or saying the saki is too hard without dropping any money for groceries... No one will tell her to stop.

you should have envisage this.
tell your hubby to inform his mother to bring the food on 2 days rotation.

You have time. Stop cooking and enjoy the free food while it lasts.

Key points

He is an only child..
Who Married Recently..

Many parents that got an only child will be conversant with this.. Some will be tempted to do this, Others will be calling on phone nonstop just to hear their voice... because the house looks deserted.. too many echoes around the house etc.. She's just being a mother.. She will adjust with time .. It is not easy for any parent that got an only daughter.. especially on her wedding day.. sons are a little bearable when they got married and were out of the house..

It's unfortunate the son married a possessive brat who thinks the mother inlaw got an ulterior motives.. This sh!t is not even supposed to be a problem in a situation where the wife takes the mother inlaw as her own mother

Look at what I am looking for in my life, someone is rejecting.

I go just relax, enjoy free delicious food.

My mom and mother-in-law will work for me oh. I want them to cook us food, watch the kids, e.t.c. They are always happy to help.

I plan to have child-free summer holidays as long as our parents are able to watch the kids. Ship them off to grand-parents and enjoy my life.

she can bring food as much as she wants as long as she brings enough for the two of us
I'd like that

elektra:
Look at what I am looking for in my life, someone is rejecting.

I go just relax, enjoy free delicious food.

My mom and mother-in-law will work for me oh. I want them to cook us food, watch the kids, e.t.c. They are are always happy to help.

I plan to have child-free summer holidays as long as our parents are able to watch the kids. Ship them off to grand-parents and enjoy my life.

exactly

Hmmm...the lady should have seen that attachment with the mother in law and the son during their courtship days,she can't separate a mother and her only son,she should start seeing the mother in law as her mother if she wants to last in that marriage.Because if it were to be the Lady's mother bringing food to the house, she won't be complaining, everyone would have been enjoying the free dish.

Someone is bringing free food and you're whining.

ireneidiva:
You have time. Stop cooking and enjoy the free food while it lasts.

Wanted to say this fa, free food and she's complaining, it's for both of them to eat na, infact when they start having little ones the mother should continue bringing food, na she go tire.

I am highly sensitive, but there are things I won't bother reading meanings to and this is one. My MIL is family, so why should I be pained?

It is not right but yhe mother is yet to accept the reality that her only child is now a husband and she is having issues with transitioning.

There's nothing stopping this from going to the promise land

Oko mama. The husband is the mother's husband hence the closeness. You don't expect mama to stop feeding her husband because he is now married. Some wives Sha. What stops her from appreciating the food, collecting it and dishing part of it, or making a deal with her Co-wife(MIL), on bringing food during the week and allowing her to feed her husband weekends. With time when kids come she will appreciate all the help Mama is giving her.

No offense to all you guys here but any mother who refuses to realise her married son now has his own family and life to live, who is "just missing him" and to show how much she loves him is bringing food to him DAILY, has chosen to bring issues into said son's life.

Thank you jare. I need some free delish food in my life right away.

elektra:
Look at what I am looking for in my life, someone is rejecting.

I go just relax, enjoy free delicious food.

My mom and mother-in-law will work for me oh. I want them to cook us food, watch the kids, e.t.c. They are always happy to help.

I plan to have child-free summer holidays as long as our parents are able to watch the kids. Ship them off to grand-parents and enjoy my life.

Thank you.

Acidosis:

Where is her father-in-law? When there's no responsible father-in-law in the mix, some mothers misbehave. Real fathers won't allow their wives try this kind of nonsense. She needs to go back to her husband's house and cook for him instead.

Thank you very much.

sisisioge:
Aunty...don't get yourself stressed unnecessarily jare.

Get a bigger fridge/freezer. Cook regardless and serve you meal if that's what you want him to eat that day and refrigerate mama's own. The days you don't feel like cooking, bring out her own for both of you to eat. Issue resolved fa.

Richy4:
Key points

He is an only child..
Who Married Recently..

Many parents that got an only child will be conversant with this.. Some will be tempted to do this, Others will be calling on phone nonstop just to hear their voice... because the house looks deserted.. too many echoes around the house etc.. She's just being a mother.. She will adjust with time .. It is not easy for any parent that got an only daughter.. especially on her wedding day.. sons are a little bearable when they got married and were out of the house..

It's unfortunate the son married a possessive brat who thinks the mother inlaw got an ulterior motives.. This sh!t is not even supposed to be a problem in a situation where the wife takes the mother inlaw as her own mother

She is not being possessive, it her duty as the wife to cook na. Mama don live her life let her allow the couple to live in peace. I thst too much to ask.

chii8:
Hmmm...the lady should have seen that attachment with the woman and the son during their courtship days,she can't separate a mother and her only son,she should start seeing the mother in law as her mother if she wants to last in that marriage.Because if it were to be the Lady's mother bringing food to the house, she won't be complaining, everyone would have been enjoying the free dish.

Someone is bringing free food and you're whining.

Please, his a man.

As i lazy reach i will thank mama with my whole heart,i will even remind her that her son is hungry.

yazga:
She is not being possessive, it her duty as the wife to cook na. Mama don live her life let her allow the couple to live in peace. I thst too much to ask.

Haha.. The wife is insensitive. .. It was just a harmless gesture from the mother... He is just an only child.. she was trying to adjust to the fact that the home is empty.. Assuming she had other children and was doing that, trust me I would have ignored this thread..

I hope this will not be the case but I foresee an entitled couple that will take an advantage of the woman when the kids starts rolling out..

They will dump their kids @ her house and go on their various business.. She will be happy to look after them.. but the day she didn't, the daughter inlaw will feel she has altered her well planned business and there will be coldwar.. That's how some insensitive people act.. and the daughter inlaw already got the 'insensitive virus'

She can bring na but I won't eat out of it

If she brings the food once in a while no problem but bringing it everyday get as e be. Haba!

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Mizwisdom:
She can bring na but I won't eat out of it