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Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by amaks: 5:17am On Sep 17, 2019 |
pocohantas: Nice one��� |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Mordecai(m): 5:21am On Sep 17, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO: Lol. That bugger might actually be your friend or colleague whom you hang out with on occasion. They just come online and give terrible, worthless advice to equally stupid questions. Advice they won't even contemplate doing themselves. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Savvywriteprene(f): 5:21am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Oga, your girlfriend wants to be productive. If you can help her secure a job in your office, by all means do . If you are not comfortable with the idea, talk to her about your discomfort. Discuss your fears with her, talk about how you two can work together professionally and peacefully and continue your romance outside the walls of the office environment. No relationship thrives without effective communication. Your girlfriend doesn't even know that it's against your principles to work in the same office. Also, don't be rigid. Be open minded. Be open to ideas. Good luck to you and your girlfriend. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by mercyvivv(f): 5:27am On Sep 17, 2019 |
First and foremost, you're simply naive! When you enter into a relationship, look around, try to find out your partners problems. Is she been pestered to get married, is she broke just finding anything to hold onto as a lifeline, is she just for the fling, sex, etc. These should inform how you relate. Second, you don't say "yes" when you mean to say "no"! It would lead to a fight, quarrel let it be. Stand up and stick to your gun. What you mostly fail to see is that most women don't get spite when you turn them down, especially over a demand you absolutely can't meet, rather they see you as principle, real and rational. Third, you just said your own part of the story and it doesn't sound good even when it came from your mouth, imagine when we have the opportunity to hear the other side of the story from her? My verdict: No one pushed you into a corner, you allowed yourself to be led into it. By the way, forget your principles , cos you have none. And about time you understand too that Heaven won't fall if she works in your establishment. What you feel is unsafe, and somehow you seem to feed on her joblessness, perhaps as a tool to keep her in check and susceptible to your whim and caprices. If you truly have a way and means of helping anyone, please do, ditch the rationality. She doesn't necessarily need to be your wife or pay you back for your generosity, No. Posterity has it in store! Get FREE access to the best compilation of school lesson notes/plans, curriculum and other resource. Check my signature for details. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by MrFly(m): 5:32am On Sep 17, 2019 |
guy nawa o.. Get her CV, put it in a trash can, get back to her and tell her 'I have been directed to inform you that u aint qualified for the only opening in our company'. Shekina! |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by flowx(m): 5:40am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Martinez39: He was running 800m when he promised her the job. Don't you know that Toto can make pesin do the unthinkable ni? After he cummed, he then came back to his senses. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Katier00(f): 5:54am On Sep 17, 2019 |
chrish:I hear you dear 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Tolexander: 6:10am On Sep 17, 2019 |
pocohantas:may God forgive you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Nurumaxy: 6:13am On Sep 17, 2019 |
blackjack21:i was once in your shoes girls nd wahala if e dey your mind you fit run am no be she say make you help am but be careful 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by overlord77: 6:21am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Bonatheripper: Apparently, y'all babies on this platform. Just imagine this reasoning and follow up statements, yet you got 100+ likes for it. Stunning! 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by loswhite(m): 6:24am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Katier00:what if the policy of the company is one must resign after marriage? What will you advise? 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Samakus(m): 6:32am On Sep 17, 2019 |
pocohantas: My God See, from today, you have stolen my e-heart away. I pledge my e-love to you, married or not. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by princetg: 6:34am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Do it for her |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Nobody: 6:45am On Sep 17, 2019 |
overlord77:Fish brain |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by betterpikinn: 6:47am On Sep 17, 2019 |
blackjack21: FOR BEING A LIAR Nothing to do aside FIND HER THE JOB AND BREAKUP WITH HER> LIAR |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Nobody: 6:56am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Katier00:That's because women don't think with their head when in a relationship. Guys are logical and think all the time except the ones people refer to as "pussy nigga" |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by PrimadonnaO(f): 6:57am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Mordecai: Honestly, I think about that a lot. Faceless forum. I'm pretty sure I don't know him, though. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Votukpa(m): 7:02am On Sep 17, 2019 |
blackjack21: Will cut to the chase First, let me ask, are u having sex with her? I'm very sure you are. If I'm correct then don't be surprised at her outrageous request. The female (yours) thinks she has the right to get that from you since she's giving you her body. In her mind, She derserves it. It's a fair exchange since you've not wifed her up. She needs something to fall back on in case u decide you're tired of her body and want to leave- noting that you didn't marry her. My point is, you shouldn't feel the way you do now but u are ignorant of how women work. This is how they work and you should learn. Unfortunately, most men don't understand that sex is for marriage ONLY. Most men don't understand that women on their inside know this is so. However, they are selfish and love things of the world and so they want to get milage out of their bodies while still holding on to the milage for a bigger payoff (marriage). In other words, your girl wants to get a benefit (job) out of you and still be marriageable, should you choose to dump her while having a job. Sweet deal. Most women don't want men to know that this is their mental dispositon. on the flipside, A smart and honest woman would never be your girlfriend. She would insist on marriage or nothing. Men are stupid when they think with their penis. They become susseptible to opportunistic women and their trickery. Men who want and pursue sex without first being married to the woman, open themselves to this kind of disgrace. Stop being this kind of man. Funny enough, they get upset and vent on nairaland, thinking that they are right when their girlfriends or sex partners "fall out of line". They, like you, simply lack this knowledge. You need an education. God doesn't make mistakes. Sex is for married people only. Those who do it outside the boundaries of this system, always get punished for breaking the law, one way or the other. I've been there. Stop wasting your strength on women. CONTROL YOUR BODY. Repeat after me.... I HAVE A BODY... IT DOESN'T HAVE ME... First, repent of your law breaking and then find a young woman (18 - 24) who wants to marry and marry her. Women above that age range are on hunting and trapping mode. They will give you sex and pretend to be angels to trick you into marriage if they see that they can get huge benefits out of you. Beware. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by WildChild00(m): 7:05am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Votukpa: Best advice so far...... |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Nobody: 7:12am On Sep 17, 2019 |
This thread is the real difference between Husband material and boyfriend Women will help no questions asked But a man done already assumed the worst she will sleep with my boss his fellow men join because that’s how you roll sometimes You have trust issues clearly it’s a company there are departments you don’t have to be in the same department or even project your insecurities on her talk to her to see the level of your relationship if your not going to interact while at work or leave separately do it. Letting a woman earn her own pay can really help you in the end and take that pressure off In a marriage it means everyone brings something to the table. Women can do it without making noise. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Nobody: 7:22am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Naughtysite: Yes I've been betrayed by Yoruba men and Edo men that I used to help in the last. But that doesn't dispute the fact that majority of women are ingrates. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by logan2(m): 7:25am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Bonatheripper:infact, the bolded is her grand plan. I'm so sure of it, my problem is what gave her the nerve to be asking op for such Favour, it seems Op is a sissie |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Votukpa(m): 7:25am On Sep 17, 2019 |
mercyvivv: Men, men... Please read this post. Again and again. She is speaking the truth but in womanese. You will NEVER understand what she is saying until you crack the female thinking process. What this woman is saying to the OP is very simple. Try to decipher. She is essentially saying that the OP owes his girlfriend the help she is asking for, seeing that he won't marry her. She is shamming the OP for not being a man and refusing to pay for enjoying his girlfriend's body. She thinks the girlfriend should benefit somehow from the OP since he won't marry. She knows the rules quite well. She sad part is that begining of her post communicates clearly that she knows that some women are out to get milage from their bodies from men who want to have sex with them, with hopes of getting the ultimate milage (marriage) from the best man they can get. Also sad is the fact that this post isn't advising women to withhold sex before getting commitment from the man. Neither is she advising young women not to present themselves in sexual terms to men so as not to be objectified as well. This confirms the hypergamous imperative of the female. She is like all women out there. Hypergamous. That's the nature of a woman. Spirit filled (rare and hard to find) women want to marry and not want to get milage (benefits) from many men, using their bodies. They are valuable and a joy to soul of a man. Stupid men who chase vegina will never see this kind of women, even if they are married to one. Men. Stop chasing pusssy. Stop trying to bang and go. Become the best version of yourself and you will have your pick of the best woman and wife. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Nobody: 7:26am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Naughtysite:You have a point but don’t generalize not all men are ungrateful It’s the circumstance nothing more painful than giving a man your last and when he hammers he sends you pictures of his big cash But na God dey change story though so no worries |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by sylve11: 7:27am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Judybash93(m): 7:37am On Sep 17, 2019 |
At least she wants to work....lol.... |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by SirGod: 7:55am On Sep 17, 2019 |
blackjack21:When you know is against your ownself rule according to yourself, then why did you promise her in the first place? Now what you will have to do is to tell her; there is no vacant, no slot -because it has been taking. Ok! 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by jaxxy(m): 8:12am On Sep 17, 2019 |
If guys are serious let he know that wudnt be ideal and help her get a job elsewhere bt if Ure whiling away time together u can get her the job so she atleast benefits smtn from you while it lasted since it’s gonna end anyways. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by Fallenhunter: 8:15am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Op you are not compelled to help her, you do not owe her a job at your place of employment. Ideally, you should help her get a good job at some other firm. If she insists on it being your firm then be clear about why you do not want to work together. If she still insists then she does not value your choices and in that case you should just refuse to help her and that's that. I don't think lying or telling her the vacancies are filled is a good long term strategy. Even if she doesn't find out you're lying, it's a bad long term strategy |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by nabegibeg: 8:27am On Sep 17, 2019 |
Ishilove: This woman you still dey this nairaland |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by maasoap(m): 8:28am On Sep 17, 2019 |
J111333: Wrong advice |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Asking For Something That's Against My Rules. by maasoap(m): 8:35am On Sep 17, 2019 |
blackjack21: So, what exactly are your reasons for "no office romance" if we may ask? Tell us. You're hiding something. You didn't come up with that principle without any reason, we all knew that because we're not fools. @PrimadonnaO, am I correct? 1 Like |
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