blackjack21:
I will be as simple as possible.

So me and this girl is dating and she needs a job. She's stylishly asking me to help get her a job where I work, the asking is starting to turn into nagging.
I admire and respect that she wants to work and earn, that's one thing I'll always love in any woman. But the idea of working is the Same company as me is just not comfortable with me, because, I don't date colleagues.
It's one rule I cannot scrap in my life.
No office Romance.

The trick here is I've already said 'Yes' because I thought she was joking, now it turns out she's serious, I. Don't like being pushed into a corner.

What to-do?

It is either you are in a friendzone or a means to get a good job

R u seriously for real here

Did u just say ''DO NOT LIFT A WOMAN UP''

I guess u see y u r where u still are...its solely bcoz of diz mindset.
Keep posing as a barrier, d God of Women will forever be lifting them UP

condemn:


Best post. Op, make you take this post when I quote seriously oh. Do not lift a woman up. They are all ingrates.

blackjack21:
I will be as simple as possible.

So me and this girl is dating and she needs a job. She's stylishly asking me to help get her a job where I work, the asking is starting to turn into nagging.
I admire and respect that she wants to work and earn, that's one thing I'll always love in any woman. But the idea of working is the Same company as me is just not comfortable with me, because, I don't date colleagues.
It's one rule I cannot scrap in my life.
No office Romance.

The trick here is I've already said 'Yes' because I thought she was joking, now it turns out she's serious, I. Don't like being pushed into a corner.

What to-do?

Tell her your "Yes" means NO

blackjack21:
I will be as simple as possible.

So me and this girl is dating and she needs a job. She's stylishly asking me to help get her a job where I work, the asking is starting to turn into nagging.
I admire and respect that she wants to work and earn, that's one thing I'll always love in any woman. But the idea of working is the Same company as me is just not comfortable with me, because, I don't date colleagues.
It's one rule I cannot scrap in my life.
No office Romance.

The trick here is I've already said 'Yes' because I thought she was joking, now it turns out she's serious, I. Don't like being pushed into a corner.

What to-do?

You'd tell her there's no vacancy noni... That you will help her check elsewhere... You will push her forward...

nabegibeg:


This woman you still dey this nairaland

Na you wan pursue me?

I dont think diz is a big deal OP. Tell her straight up y u cant do it at ur work place, But assure her u are working on it fr different other organisations. den get her CV nd dont fail to pass it to pple u might be opportuned to meet who can get her a job.
Ur gf is a hardworking bae, coz there r numerous others who wont care abt a job as long as u give em some monthly quota...dem lazy ones.

*DONOT WITHHOLD GOOD FROM SOMEONE IF ITS IN UR HAND TO DO SO*

blackjack21:
I will be as simple as possible.

So me and this girl is dating and she needs a job. She's stylishly asking me to help get her a job where I work, the asking is starting to turn into nagging.
I admire and respect that she wants to work and earn, that's one thing I'll always love in any woman. But the idea of working is the Same company as me is just not comfortable with me, because, I don't date colleagues.
It's one rule I cannot scrap in my life.
No office Romance.

The trick here is I've already said 'Yes' because I thought she was joking, now it turns out she's serious, I. Don't like being pushed into a corner.

What to-do?

Larryfest:
Guy get her the job if you can abeg and if along the line she misbehaves to you while on the job just move on with your life,you are just scared she might change towards you later but then don't forget about karma she will surely get if she does..

A guy with a pretty heart.

Ishilove:

Na you wan pursue me?

I say make I hail you ooo

loswhite:
what if the policy of the company is one must resign after marriage? What will you advise?

the guy has not propose sef. If that was the case, after a formal marriage contract either of them can resign and look for something better

Datazone:

That's because women don't think with their head when in a relationship. Guys are logical and think all the time except the ones people refer to as "pussy nigga"

I don't understand think with their head

Pocohantas & Ishilove the two of u are not well

Ishilove:

Don't start what you can't finish. Tell her there is no vacancy, or the available slots have been given out. You're a grown ass adult. Be creative.

I love this reply.

Fvcking! "Be creative".

Ishilove:

Don't start what you can't finish. Tell her there is no vacancy, or the available slots have been given out. You're a grown ass adult. Be creative.

maybe no lying in a relationship is also one of this rules

pocohantas:


Biko, pussy is strong- German engineering. E no easy to withstand vigorous knacking, yet bottom plate never fall. OP na prick, can't make up his mind to be soft or hard

mercyvivv:
First and foremost, you're simply naive! When you enter into a relationship, look around, try to find out your partners problems. Is she been pestered to get married, is she broke just finding anything to hold onto as a lifeline, is she just for the fling, sex, etc. These should inform how you relate.
Second, you don't say "yes" when you mean to say "no"! It would lead to a fight, quarrel let it be. Stand up and stick to your gun. What you mostly fail to see is that most women don't get spite when you turn them down, especially over a demand you absolutely can't meet, rather they see you as principle, real and rational.
Third, you just said your own part of the story and it doesn't sound good even when it came from your mouth, imagine when we have the opportunity to hear the other side of the story from her?
My verdict: No one pushed you into a corner, you allowed yourself to be led into it. By the way, forget your principles , cos you have none. And about time you understand too that Heaven won't fall if she works in your establishment. What you feel is unsafe, and somehow you seem to feed on her joblessness, perhaps as a tool to keep her in check and susceptible to your whim and caprices. If you truly have a way and means of helping anyone, please do, ditch the rationality. She doesn't necessarily need to be your wife or pay you back for your generosity, No. Posterity has it in store!

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I'm so sorry to say. You are self-centered and hypocrite if you can't do that in your case

Is the company yours, I guess you will likely say no? Dont think of it at all, if your saying no will breakup the relationship, so be it. Why is insisting it has to be where are working? If you are able to do that for her, know you are on the way of loosing your job. Tell her pointblank she can't work where you are working because it is now not allowed anymore, even in government, it is no longer in practice. Be very wise so that she does not cause you job loss. Her insistence is not clean. Be wise.

Are you the CEO?
if no, ask for her resume, tell her you'd push it to the bosses. Tell her you are following up, then tell her she was not accepted. You don't own the firm...
If she continues, dump her A**

blackjack21:
I will be as simple as possible.

So me and this girl is dating and she needs a job. She's stylishly asking me to help get her a job where I work, the asking is starting to turn into nagging.
I admire and respect that she wants to work and earn, that's one thing I'll always love in any woman. But the idea of working is the Same company as me is just not comfortable with me, because, I don't date colleagues.
It's one rule I cannot scrap in my life.
No office Romance.

The trick here is I've already said 'Yes' because I thought she was joking, now it turns out she's serious, I. Don't like being pushed into a corner.

What to-do?

Godsplan115:
maybe no lying in a relationship is also one of this rules

Then he should gather liver and bear the consequences.

You might feel incoveniently, but try to get her a job. You can tell her straight, it's not an offence. I will understand you if it me...


I don't even like that parole

First of, it's unethical. I'll advice u not to start it. U won't control it later. She might even have a plan as to why she specifically asked u to help help get a job where u work. Dont let her be the reason u have to resign. Pls be guided. Leave love aside, don't be blinded. I have seen and read many cases similar to urs. It become dirty and out of control. There are many other ways to get a good job pls.

pocohantas:


Biko, pussy is strong- German engineering. E no easy to withstand vigorous knacking, yet bottom plate never fall. OP na prick, can't make up his mind to be soft or hard

Jesus Christ!!!!!!!!!!

Poco, please don't kill us now....

condemn:


Best post. Op, make you take this post when I quote seriously oh. Do not lift a woman up. They are all ingrates.

Your brain obviously functions on sawdust..

Dating someone that you see everyone day chances of relationship surviving is not up to 5%
However i know some people can even date their co-tenant and class mate.

Katier00:
the guy has not propose sef. If that was the case, after a formal marriage contract either of them can resign and look for something better

why must it be in his company? The guy can help to look for job in another company. If the intent is to marry her then there is no need to get a job and start discussing resignation after 6 months to one year.

maasoap:


So, what exactly are your reasons for "no office romance" if we may ask? Tell us. You're hiding something. You didn't come up with that principle without any reason, we all knew that because we're not fools.

@PrimadonnaO, am I correct?

Correct. There's something he's not saying.

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blackjack21:
I will be as simple as possible.

So me and this girl is dating and she needs a job. She's stylishly asking me to help get her a job where I work, the asking is starting to turn into nagging.
I admire and respect that she wants to work and earn, that's one thing I'll always love in any woman. But the idea of working is the Same company as me is just not comfortable with me, because, I don't date colleagues.
It's one rule I cannot scrap in my life.
No office Romance.

The trick here is I've already said 'Yes' because I thought she was joking, now it turns out she's serious, I. Don't like being pushed into a corner.

What to-do?

Proper corporate policy doesn't allow couples to work in the same environment. Probably you have blabbed about your salary package and wouldnt want scraps of what you get every time she asks.
I will tell you a few things that would happen if and when she gets in;
1. She would act as though you guys are just friends or don't know yourselves and then find someone who ranks higher than you to be with or plan your exit (worst case scenario)
2. The moment she gets in and you guys decide to tie the knot(proper) both of you would be served with documents containing your staff handbook, operational policy (extracts about office affairs called amorous relationship) and then the conclusion would be that either or both of you tender your resignations.
3. Except you are the overall boss, you would lose respect from your colleagues and staff members.

Professional and educated suggestion (Don't do it) if she really wants to do something for herself, then fix her up somewhere else using your contacts. My 1 kobo

loswhite:
why must it be in his company? The guy can help to look for job in another company. If the intent is to marry her then there is no need to get a job and start discussing resignation after 6 months to one year.

is not that easy to come by a job you know

I dont know why people are scolding the OP here. He clearly mentioned that he cant date someone in same office which means an automatic end to their relationship. Since he loves her , he would not want to do this. But op, on a more serious note, this kind of favour is too big to do for a lady who is neither your wife nor your sister, aunt or mum. Knowing what I've known for some time now I'll say you shouldn't do it. It is just like pouring water into a basket. It never ends well. I know you have sisters, brothers or relatives that need that opportunity. Give it to them and they'll forever appreciate you