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How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by NwanyiOkpa(f): 9:53pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Hello, I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp. I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room. I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all. Please advise me. 55 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Climax07(m): 10:33pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
run o 49 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by NwanyiOkpa(f): 10:40pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Climax07: Where to? 35 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Heartbender: 11:06pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Quit. Get a new job. Report to your boss and leave assumption. Get the police involved. Talk to your colleague that you don't like it either before other colleagues or personally or both...because when e happen, you go know say advice no be curse and options borkoo NwanyiOkpa: 36 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by NwanyiOkpa(f): 11:13pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
carzola: So you mean i should share my body like rice to every man that comes knocking? Can you give same advice to your daughter? 451 Likes 32 Shares |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by ESSOHEngineers: 11:53pm On Sep 25, 2019 |
Work Place Sexual Harassment is common and both ways, however women are statistically more on the receiving end than the giving end. Consequently, even as common as it is, it places a lot of emotional and psychological stress on the Victim. This is because it is just a step away from rape/sexual assault. Do not assume you are overreacting. Report him immediately to your boss. Escalate it. He is already stalking you by coming to your door. Perhaps creeping and peeping and listening. Tell him you will report him to your boss. Tell your boss that you are doing so because it is the right thing to do in such a circumstance. The reason for reporting to your boss is not only because you want him cautioned. It is also because from an Occupational Health,Safety and Well-being perspective, it is simply the procedure to follow and the thing to do. Tell your boss to call a chat with you both and complain further. I am assuming it is a small company,hence no strong HR Team. Also, where possible report him to other male folk within the apartment. This is so that you have witnesses to show you have complained. If you want, also write a formal report of complaints to your boss and keep a copy. And if he doesn't stop, tell him you will file a complaint to the police. Where possible avoid all manner of mundane and trivial gist with him. Keep your conversations and association formal. Keep evidence of all his behaviors. You might need it. Where possible send him warnings via text messages and keep those too. Next time he does that put your phone camera on video record and make a video. Don't worry about if it is clear or if you got a perfect shot. Just make a video/videos of you warning him sternly about his harrasament and how you don't fancy it. Harassers usually feel victims are playing hard to get. Generally for women they are usually harrassed by their Seniors. For men they are harassed both by their bosses and juniors as a matter of fact. Where it is not conducive you might need to leave the job. It is better than living with the horrors and trauma of rape. The Nigerian hypocritical and patriarchal society is unforgiving to women assaulted. If you follow the trend, it is common for Nigerian men to lie and say the lady agreed to have sex for a specified amount and that when they didn't pay the woman decided to claim rape. He will even claim he has been dating you. Finally it moves to cognitive dissonance where they blame "the Devil" or blame the "thing that came over them" and how "they usually don't act like this" and how they don't know what came over them and how it seems it is a spirit. Shameful cognitive dissonance where we commit a crime due to LUST, HATRED, GREED, ANGER, ENVY, JEALOUSY etc. and then we blame an evil spirit. At the end people will say why didn't you speak up. Why didn't you leave. Etc. So, be careful and speak out. Don't ever assume you are overreacting. Put a stop to it otherwise he will get bolder. Eventually if it gets bad, you may have to decide if it is worth your continued stay of if you should leave. No one can make that decision for you. One of Many Examples of Workplace Rape and Assault. https://www.nairaland.com/5437096/man-rapes-co-worker-death-ogun 187 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by NwanyiOkpa(f): 12:39am On Sep 26, 2019 |
ESSOHEngineers: Thank you for taking out time to delineate everything for me. God bless you. 104 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by questuionf: 7:53pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by slawomir: 7:53pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Madam go report to your boss The fact say your boss like women nor mean say he nor go frown at it But i swear office romance sweet ehnnnn But you nor go fit handle office romance So just report to your boss So that las last every body go dey alright 12 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by fourhayz: 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Try sitting him down,Ask him series of questions like:Does he have interest in you after that ask him why does he harass you sexually -Can you ever befriend someone like him...i.e Can you give him a chance. -You didn't tell us your age in your write ups which is very important. Try studying him also and know his motives. Some Guys are always like that each time they see a Lady they are truly in love with. But if you see that he's just being stupid...Try scare him away with you reporting to any nearest police station with severe warning. Thank You 10 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by GeneralPula: 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Muyiwaipere(m): 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
The way you dress is the way you are addressed You can not dress like an innocent and decent girl and a man would be doing that... Fear go catch am sef So.... Change your mode of dressing and restrict your relationship with them .gaskia? 35 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Kemibabi(f): 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Nobody: 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
![]() Tell them you have hiv and watch them disperse from you. 28 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by SendAbroad: 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Report to HR |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Olu1000: 7:55pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
[quote author=carzola post=82567778]Madam Bleep is cheap Give it to him let's hear word? ? U are not Beyonce or queen Elizabeth If we check ur picture sef u no even reach to be harassed Stop creating a false narrative to deceive ur self. [/quote U r senseless 29 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by lyriclekidd(m): 7:56pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Its everywhere |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by philtea: 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
LEMME WAIT FOR ELDERS[size=15pt][/size] |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Asetime: 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
carzola:Just imagine 14 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Tableshaker007(m): 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
NwanyiOkpa:Leave him it's Bleep Bleep that full his big head 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by 9gerian: 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
This is apt! Hear him! ESSOHEngineers: 7 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by pyrex23(m): 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
carzola: You alright? 21 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by philtea: 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
LEMME WAIT FOR ELDERS |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Kendumazy(m): 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Ok |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Idsoft: 7:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Hmm |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by bilms(m): 7:58pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Very simple. Tell him that the next time he does anything like that, you will get him arrested for sexual harrasement. Walk away 6 Likes |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by MrOwonikoko: 7:58pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
NwanyiOkpa: Your English though, how did they employ you in the first place?� 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Deal With Sexual Harassment From A Colleague? by Tableshaker007(m): 7:58pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
carzola:Guy just change your mentality ooooo.... Because it's Bleep that full your head 17 Likes |
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