midnighter:


If he's innocent, why wouldnt he agree...

That's the point. He's not innocent but he might use another excuse/tactics to dodge or influence it

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Your husband dishonoured your family


Did you not say you observed closeness. What further proof do you need?

I was 16 in 2009 when my Aunt's husband almost try this shit with me. Had to lie to my sis and leave the place. That was the last time I stepped my foot in their house.

Women needs to be careful, infact don't allow your sister to live with you if you are married.

The temptation might come from the sister or your husband.

I was scared to stay in my aunt's house because I was scared that he might later rape me. My sis is a banker, she comes back late at night coupled with Lagos traffic. Anything could have happened within that time without her knowledge.

I think women should be careful be it sis or no sister.

Oh damn... This obviously hurts.... There are two things involved if it's true... Leave him or stay and forgive him

Gobe ooo

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SUPOL:
Madam take care of the girl and the child, children are blessing, and u must stand by ur husband. Don’t put him to shame but let him not repeat the error. May God help u with Wisdom, Amen

Lol.The idiot already put himself to disgrace.After 4 kids,you think his children will grow up knowing Dad was poking his dick at their cousin in same house and still respect the old manFor the lady too,it's disgrace growing up around cousins that will make smear remarks concerning the illegitimate child she had with her aunt's husband.O boy!this disgrace na till everlasting o.

Had to cancel some perverted words up there.Crackhead.

calgaryFriend:

Yeah if the husband impregnated the girl, will you get her a new husband ?
Are you even married ?

You think people just jump out of their marriages ?

Or you think marriage is the same as boyfriend/girlfriend ?

How many people have you seen jump out of their marriages cos the husband impregnated somebody ? I think you are watching too much nollywood or hollywood.

This is not movie o, it is real life. So yes she still has to use wisdom to keep her home.

Absolutely insane.

First of all, a husband is not a necessity. Especially if it’s one that sleeps with other people and even worse your relations. A good husband is a great thing to have. Anything less than that is not beneficial to any woman.

I don’t know who’s filling y’alls heads with nonsense but a single woman is better than one with a bad husband.

Your post is actually very disgusting in case you don’t know. Marriage is definitely not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. That’s why people who intend to keep their homes should not be sleeping with their spouses relatives.

You would not be very enthusiastic to advice your fellow man to keep his marriage if his wife gets impregnated by his family member.
You use people’s family issues that they bring on NL to further your evil agenda. Please stop.

cococandy:


Absolutely insane.

First of all a husband is not a necessity. Especially it one that sleeps with other people and even worse your relations

I don’t know who’s filling y’alls heads with nonsense but a single woman is better than one with a bad husband.

Your post is actually very disgusting in case you don’t know. Marriage is definitely not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. That’s why people who intend to keep their homes should not be sleeping with their spouses relatives.

You would not be very enthusiastic to advice your fellow man to keep his marriage if his wife gets impregnated by his family member.
You use people’s family issues that they bring on NL to further your evil agenda. Please stop.

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midnighter:


She has already gone back to her mother

To stop the truth from emerging, the niece would have aborted without saying anything and then quietly and peacefully packed out. For her to come out and accuse at 19 (she was not a minor) she must want everything to come out, for whatever reason

Do you think this has never happened to anybody before whilst staying with their Auntie?

The cat is already out of the bag...

Indeed, but don't forget. They might want her back under the guise of looking after her..... Then the deed would just happen or she mysteriously has a miscarriage..... What a miscarriage of justice......

The matter will escalate and bring more shame to the woman's face. I will advice she don't do that

loveymom:


The fact your husband is denying it is nauseating

Please call a family meeting and invite both your niece and her family, your family and your husband's family. So that the both parties will face themselves and you will find out the truth.

Without the truth you won't be able to know how to handle this matter.

healthserve:

A husband is not a necessity. I didn't read any other thing you wrote after seeing that. Divorce yours. Oniranu rada rada

It’s not my fault your brain is on strike

deltateam:


That's the point. He's not innocent but he might use another excuse/tactics to dodge or influence it

Ok i understand you now

This is a really delicate and difficult situation you are in.


Woman pls your brain! Your husband is most likely responsible for the pregnancy or he must have been having sex with the girl but is only denying it thinking someone else got her pregnant.

Except your niece is a wayworld and bad girl, she wouldn't be that bold to accuse your husband if truely he hasn't been sleeping with her.


If you don't handle this mess properly, it can mar your marriage, your children's future and disorganize your life and cause problem in your family.

Take your niece to a good hospital and confirm if she is truely pregnant.

Ask the doctor to check how many months she is gone and the weigh the risk of an abortion.
Abortion is not really a good option but it is the easiest option to clear this mess if done properly.

If doctor says it is possible to have an abortion, inform other family members and let them be aware of what you wanna do.

According to your post... I have 3 questions for you so that the fact can be established and the truth will be encountered.

1. Your husband volunteered to take her to the hospital.......The girl upon her arrival from the hospital gave you her testimony that nothing is wrong with her .. ..what was the testimony of your husband ?

2. The girl pack her laugage and left....? What was your husband reaction?

I don't want to say anything until the truth is established

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Considering the fact that there are 4 Kids, i think you should solve this issue amicably to save your marriage for the sake of those innocent Kids, cos the deed has already been done.

loveymom:


You are only condemning the man because he went skin diving not because he had sex with the woman's niece?

I shudder at the rubbish that some of you boy-men comment here.

Smh

It won't be bad if you reason with your brain and not your hormones. Instead of addressing the main issue of what to do about the situation or how to manage the pregnancy as well as the marriage... you are more concerned about berating the man.

cococandy:

It’s not my fault your brain is on strike

...

This one is off his meds

healthserve:



Shiny skull. You foolish human being. I'll recoomebd you send me your address so I can send your information to mental health care services there. Oode

calgaryFriend:

Yeah if the husband impregnated the girl, will you get her a new husband ?
Are you even married ?

You think people just jump out of their marriages ?

Or you think marriage is the same as boyfriend/girlfriend ?

How many people have you seen jump out of their marriages cos the husband impregnated somebody ? I think you are watching too much nollywood or hollywood.

This is not movie o, it is real life. So yes she still has to use wisdom to keep her home.

M

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cococandy:
This one is off his meds

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cococandy:


Absolutely insane.

First of all, a husband is not a necessity. Especially if it’s one that sleeps with other people and even worse your relations. A good husband is a great thing to have. Anything less than that is not beneficial to any woman.

I don’t know who’s filling y’alls heads with nonsense but a single woman is better than one with a bad husband.

Your post is actually very disgusting in case you don’t know. Marriage is definitely not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. That’s why people who intend to keep their homes should not be sleeping with their spouses relatives.

You would not be very enthusiastic to advice your fellow man to keep his marriage if his wife gets impregnated by his family member.
You use people’s family issues that they bring on NL to further your evil agenda. Please stop.

You need to understand that there is something called polygammy.
That is what your ancestors practiced so trying to pretend as if Africans have always been monogamous is something very stupid.

A lady with multiple partners is not the same thing as a man with multiple partners.

And for a lady in Africa, husband is an absolute necessity, I dont know where you live but you sound like you have been watching too much hollywood.

Dont you see how many threads single ladies in their 30s make everyday complaining of not seeing a spouse ?

If the wife leaves the man today, there are hundreds of ladies that will be glad to jump into that position and do you have another spouse for the woman ?

Stop saying husband is not a necessity , as long as you live in Africa it is.

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years, and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him. then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her I should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back, she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work, she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

https://www.nairaland.com/3068172/mr-dickson-needs I wrote the story when I was faced with similar situation a few years back.......I now have learned my lesson in a hard way

Obiworld2020:
Did you read the post at all?? She said the girl is 19yrs Oga.
ote author=Tobinrobin post=82602517]Unless it’s rape, there’s absolutely no mistake in having sex. Your husband might be innocent & it’s quite possible that he’s the one that impregnated her. It’s her word against his. But forget about how respectable your husband is, if he truly respected himself , he wouldn’t have done such & he really messed up. Seems she will have to give birth to the baby. How old is she? You failed to point that out.. This is quite a tackling issue. Abortion is very dangerous. What a mess smh

She only just modified it. It wasn’t there as at when I replied.

calgaryFriend:


You need to understand that there is something called polygammy.
That is what your ancestors practiced so trying to pretend as if Africans have always been monogamous is something very stupid.

A lady with multiple partners is not the same thing as a man with multiple partners.

And for a lady in Africa, husband is an absolute necessity, I dont know where you live but you sound like you have been watching too much hollywood.

Dont you see how many threads single ladies in their 30s make everyday complaining of not seeing a spouse ?

If the wife leaves the man today, there are hundreds of ladies that will be glad to jump into that position and do you have another spouse for the woman ?

Stop saying husband is not a necessity , as long as you live in Africa it is.

Any nation on earth, saying husband is a luxury is a total write off. Why not ask her why she's still in a marriage

sexiestharam:

What are you saying? Are there no prostitutes outside? How you reason is shocking. What moment of weakness? Really? If your daughter goes to stay with your sister in future and her husband gets her pregnant, I hope you would take this advice you gave yourself.

I don't know what u roving about, it's not every man that patronises prostitutes and while I don't make no excuses for the man, my assertions is simply that u can't say there's nothing honourable about a man u know nothing about just bcoz of one indiscretion.

Lexusgs430:



Indeed, but don't forget. They might want her back under the guise of looking after her..... Then the deed would just happen or she mysteriously has a miscarriage..... What a miscarriage of justice......

Lol "looking after her" ke? So what were they supposed to be doing when she came to stay with them

Hm. The niece doesnt even sound too smart or she has an agenda, if shes going to fight them with fire then she shouldnt be so stupid as to go back there

Some men self can't cage their local government

Born2Breed:
What makes you think the girl is not lying?

Assuming its true,what makes you think this was not planned from the onset by the girl mother?

You made a mistake by bringing a full grown girl into your home,the day you did was the very day you brought in a second wife.

No matter what,you must stand by your husband,you need each other now than ever cos if its true,what has happened has happened,start making plans for the girl and her baby outside your home.

..people likeu re the problem of this country

deltateam:


To do DNA test, her husband has to agree because they will need to collect somethings from him.

If he refuses then surely he is culpable