Not to derail the thread but how many chanel fragrances are in that table

cococandy:
I wish someone in real life would actually say something along the lines of what I read on this forum and say it to my face.

I’ll hang him out to dry. They only come here to express their perverted thoughts under the cover of anonymity.

Hypocrites

I’m Bitter and emotional. Classic. You’re logical and reasonable.

Who made the different rules?
Dimwits like you?

Your ancestors had more satisfying marriages? According to whom? Don’t bother replying.

The rest of your post doesn’t even deserve a response. Sounds like something a hormonal teenage boy who’s thinking with his pennis would write.

Pass.

calgaryFriend:


You sound very bitter and emotional.
You have to learn to differentiate between realities and fantasies.

The reality is what I have painted for you, regardless of what you think, thats the way Africa works.

And yes, our ancestors were not always wise, but they had a much more stable and satisfying family life than we have today , so much for our emancipation and egalitarianism.

Its just like you waking up and saying , why do women have to go through menstruation every month and men dont, or why do women have to be the one to carry pregnancy.

Do you see how stupid that would be ? Is that fair no ? But still if you asked that question that would be very stupid of you.

Thats exactly how you sound now, again. Men and women in Africa operates with different rules.

Let me give you an example, if your sister brought home a guy now as a partner, the first question you would ask her is what kind of job does he do.
In your mind you already believe he will be the one to provide for the home, your sister may not even have a job, that does not matter.

Do men come out and scream blue murder ? It is just the way it is... I hope you get my point. .

Lexusgs430:


When his wife asked him, did you marinate her snail with your mayonnaise?

Asssuming he answered yes, this story would be different........

He denied responsibility, the best way forward is to extract the truth.....

Why wait for DNA result, to proof paternity? If he refuses to provide sample for the DNA test, this denial sequence continues..........

You can get his hair or his toothbrush for a dna sample, he does not need to agree first.

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Madam,you would have done better than this now, you did not monitor that lady well, in life there is nothing like trust, may be your husband was admiring the succulent,fresh breast one day and lost control,shits happen you know, so the worst have happened. Let her give birth to the baby, it's your husband that planted that seed from the look of things, for him saying that nothing was wrong with the lady was a big sign that he was responsible. Just take heart and be more watchful next time. Am a woman ,but won't take the risk of keeping any girl in my huz

[Wise words.
quote author=Omojudy post=82602628]As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.[/quote]

Gosh. You Nigerian men are so senseless. I hope you'll accept the same if your wife gets pregnant for your nephew.

mrwonlasewonie:
why would you put yam close to a goat when you know that phenese is so uncontrollable for these men?

Lol who’s this? What do you know about me? I feel exposed

That’s like a 10th of my perfume collection but for now I only have four Chanel fragrances. Coco mademoiselle, Chanel no5, Chance Chanel eau tendre and coco noir.

I store the rest in drawers. I have issues

BarrElChapo:
Not to derail the thread but how many chanel fragrances are in that table

He does not need to agree. Even his hair comb is enough.

deltateam:


To do DNA test, her husband has to agree because they will need to collect somethings from him.

cococandy:
I wish someone in real life would actually say something along the lines of what I read on this forum and say it to my face.

I’ll hang him out to dry. They only come here to express their perverted thoughts under the cover of anonymity.

Hypocrites

lafmaoooo

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loveymom:


The fact your husband is denying it is nauseating

Please call a family meeting and invite both your niece and her family, your family and your husband's family. So that the both parties will face themselves and you will find out the truth.

Without the truth you won't be able to know how to handle this matter.

If I hear!!!!!!
No family meeting is needed,the truth is out already.
The issue is,sometimes this little girls will attract you with their naked nipples.

But all you need to do,is just imagine if she is your daughter,staying with someone else...

Then the stupid hard dick,go relax back .


Madam fire don burn finish,call the man to order,tell him how shameful you feel right now for him. For acting like a he-goat.

Also him how he feels,if your sister husband get his daughter pregnant?

Don’t leave him oh,all of us Na same same.... if we face the same situation.

You don get chance now to blast am well wel and show am say,you be dey notice oh. But looking back at the kind of man you have,you never for once thought he could go that low.


Then ........
Then ......
then...........
make sure say you dey supply daddy well well.
Go buy hot pants .... and go back to the slay mama overload .......

Stop crying..... some man case pass your own.

Some Na to secretly poison the girl .....

cococandy:
I’m Bitter and emotional. Classic. You’re logical and reasonable.

Who made the different rules?
Dimwits like you?

Your ancestors had more satisfying marriages? According to whom? Don’t bother replying.

The rest of your post doesn’t even deserve a response. Sounds like something a hormonal teenage boy who’s thinking with his pennis would write.

Pass.

For guys like that, it is satisfying so far they remain men and therefore not at the receiving end.

Ever wondered why they want women who can endure like their mothers, but would never marry men like their fathers- if they were women?

They are that wicked.

No boundaries what so ever. Cover his tracks and forgive your husband, and physically you stay alive. Mentally and internally you are dead, which in the long run causes so much damage. It’s like putting a bandage to cover a fatal stab wound. It might stop the bleeding partially but eventually the extreme blood loss along with complications will lead to death. Well as they say ‘till death do us part’ and I guess some women are willing to die for their marriage. It is well and I will not judge them.

GrabHisBalls:
Nigerian men with their double standard and hypocrisy. They tell you, "I won't like it if you cheat" only to realize they have a degree in sleeping around. I am not surprised most of those who have commented think op has a marriage to keep. It takes two to keep a marriage. Questions are; what if she wasn't pregnant and what if she had agreed to get it aborted, would your husband have stopped sleeping with her?

Instead of having this type as a husband, let me die single. Imagine the humiliation. Your wife's niece. He knows no boundaries and you're saying he's respected. Respected by people who have no idea of the kind of man he is.

I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t feel sorry for guys that such happens to.

Because many of them do deserve to be treated the way they treat others.

AntiBrutus:


That is why they train other men's kids na.

Divorce is not an option o...

Hahahahahaha.

[quote author=Lexusgs430 post=82605460]

Get him arrested....... If you have daughters, he might turn to them soonest........

The public defender would get the truth out......... [/quot]

Arrested for what
She is 19
Oh its incest right

midnighter:


Sorry but calling a family meeting at this early stage just brings more embarrassment to the woman and her kids. This should be kept a total secret. Cant believe the nieces mother is the one blasting it, unless the girl is saying the man raped her

Pregnancy is not a secret.Them no dey hide belle.If you like use wrapper cover am,the pikin go still jump out finally for all to see.

There's absolutely nothing too early or too late when it comes to shame and disgrace.This embarrassment has come to stay....Forever trust me.As a mother you should blast it loud, especially in an Igbo community where news travel faster than wind.A serious family meeting is urgent at this time,the wife should remain mute and make her children her only source of strength at this trying times.Both the husband and niece betrayed her, but the bulk of it comes from her husband.He should know better,you don't cheat with people close to your wife.There are millions of lose women in Nigeria,not a teen under your care.Inugo

Chiefochiefo:

You're still a bachelor naw. What do u know divorce ur husband naw, only you will live. Then watch that ur cousin get married and enjoy her marriage. Apply common sense.

I never even said anything about divorce. I'm only shocked by the suggestion to uphold the mans denial even if he did it.

If anything at all, the lady shld try to establish the truth first. And whatever move she makes next is entirely up to her.

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Madam, your husband fuccked your niece and got her pregnant... Let me point out here that he is a liar too. You're not good enough for him that's why he had to bang the sexxy 19 year old sweetheart.

I have nothing to say for now, only time will help you

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Madam so sorry about your predicament, but is the time you need the wisdom of a thousand oldies to come to you in one place. Don't be rash in any decision you take as either party could be lying about the current situation. Take a cue from a piece of things i would do and see if it works with you.

1. Question your niece - get details of where the deed happened, the number of times and ask the sexual advances, preferences, and demands your husband made to her while the deed was going on. Match it what your husband would normally do to you, or has once told you he would like to try sometime. [ note: your husband sexual preference will not change if he is with another woman ... he might try a couple of new things but somethings must be what you know and you are used to about him ]

2. Question your husband in solitude - This is the most important for you as a wife! you will never get the truth out of him if you dont do this. Take him to a place where both of you can have a heart to heart. Don't shout at him but express your grievances to him and tell to open up to you. He will talk, sure it will bring some tears but the cool and calm to handle the situation. Some men are still devils they won't admit their wrongdoing, I pray your husband is not that type. If your husband still insists is not responsible, go for the third option to clear your doubts

3. Sperm test or early pregnancy paternal test / non-invasive prenatal paternity (NIPP).

I hope you get to the root of this

calgaryFriend:


This does not sound like a wise thing to do, how will she call the whole village on her husband based on an accusation that has not been verified.
And even if she eventually verifies it she does not have to expose her dirty laundry in the open, she has a marriage to keep nonetheless.

When tree falls on tree you remove the uppermost one first.

The first thing she needs to do is to use wisdom to establish if her husband is the one responsible or not.

Have you though about the damage your suggestion would make if her husband is been wrongly accused ?
Or do you think it is not possible that the husband may be wrongly accused ?

This is not the time to betray emotions , this is the time to use wisdom.

From the write up sir, the man is as guilty as fûck.

If he wasn't guilty he should have told her about the result when they returned from the hospital.

Someone can get pregnant under my roof, I found out without reacting.

The man is guilty, you don't need extra chromosome to figure that out.
He lied cuz he need time to figure out his next plot while you're seeking for the truth.

midnighter:


Accusing the in-law of what? If this is a rape accusation then I can see where the accusation is coming from but otherwise, i dont really grab what the girls mothers point is,

a virgin can be deflowered at any point and lie about it, the virginity is not the point.

Are you not a woman?Do you know the value mother's place on their daughter to marry as virgins?If she must lose her virgnity,not to a married in law or anyone who can't take full responsibility as a husband.You get it now?

Omojudy:
As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.

You're indeed a wise and emotionally strong woman.
Though as hurtful and betraying as it is... You've taken a stand. I salute your bravery.

Gosh! Is common sense that scarce?
Bringing the wife's attitude into question in a matter that clearly has nothing to do with her.

Oga, you're a big senseless hypocrite if you can't condemn evil. Wait till your wife gets pregnant for your nephew so you can take your own advice and forgive her.

fykes:

My dear u can't say that. We make mistakes and have crisis atimes. U have no idea if the wife has been a model wife herself, u don't know how long the man has held up his head and just one moment of indiscretion or bad decision can ruin it all. This may be just his one bad moment of weaknes

loveymom:


You are only condemning the man because he went skin diving not because he had sex with the woman's niece?

I shudder at the rubbish that some of you boy-men comment here.

Smh

Are you the culprit ,seems you are 100% in support of this type of nonsense ..where is your moral ?

GrabHisBalls:
Nigerian men with their double standard and hypocrisy. They tell you, "I won't like it if you cheat" only to realize they have a degree in sleeping around. I am not surprised most of those who have commented think op has a marriage to keep. It takes two to keep a marriage. Questions are; what if she wasn't pregnant and what if she had agreed to get it aborted, would your husband have stopped sleeping with her?

Instead of having this type as a husband, let me die single. Imagine the humiliation. Your wife's niece. He knows no boundaries and you're saying he's respected. Respected by people who have no idea of the kind of man he is.

Even the Egyptians experienced just 10 plagues.

I don't know who Nigerian women offended to be plagued million times in/by her men. These foolish ones are louder than the sensible ones sef. Which kind wahala be this?

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EmekaBlue:
Ur husband sef....he went skin diving instead of using a condom.

Sorry madam...life is a bitch, shit happens. I think ur niece should mayb wash d pregnancy away since its still at d early stage

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make use of your upstairs


Op you must be one funny being, your husband is respectful bla bla but do you know the meaning of respectful at all? your husband has no regards for you if not he won't mess with another Lady not to talk of your own little niece



what happened to your own pvssy that he left and chooses to destroy another person's child life. hope you don't have female child yet, you better take them far away from him



it's quite unfortunate you're still living in denial, you've not report him to his people in the course of I want to safe my marriage, wait till he impregnated all your girls families

nkwuocha1:


Are you not a woman?Do you know the value mother's place on their daughter to marry as virgins?If she must lose her virgnity,not to a married in law or anyone who can't take full responsibility as a husband.You get it now?

Of course I get it, nobody would tag their own daughter as loose but I find it a naive thing to say when somebody is pregnant already. Ok if they get the dna test and the man is not even the father, what would the mum say again? virginity is not the be-all and end all of raising a morally upright and responsible daughter, even though remaining chaste has a spiritual advantage.

all the mum could say is "she was not pregnant when she left this house, now how come she is pregnant"

Thats all a mum can vouch for if she is not watching the daughter 24/7

Hahaha..You definitely own the best of chanel though I think no5 is the best among them and I like chance too but you tell me.. No woman who knows her onions won't wear Chanel..

cococandy:
Lol who’s this? What do you know about me? I feel exposed

That’s like a 10th of my perfume collection but for now I only have four Chanel fragrances. Coco mademoiselle, Chanel no5, Chance Chanel eau tendre and coco noir.

I store the rest in drawers. I have issues

cococandy:
I’m Bitter and emotional. Classic. You’re logical and reasonable.

Who made the different rules?
Dimwits like you?

Your ancestors had more satisfying marriages? According to whom? Don’t bother replying.

The rest of your post doesn’t even deserve a response. Sounds like something a hormonal teenage boy who’s thinking with his pennis would write.

Pass.

You see what I was saying, you put too much emotion and bitterness into everything.
I have raised valid points that you could have chosen to provide an intelligent rebuttal, but you chose to be disrespectful with your response.

You damn know deep down I am right, I understand you dont like that things work that way.

Look at Davido, after impregnating 3 ladies, I hope you know there are plenty ladies on this platform that would not hesitate to join his harem.

Thats simply the reality, Africa is a patriarchal society .

Trust me,your husband did it. Why do you think the girl left your house before breaking the news? She understand the shame and embarrassment. And why will an innocent man try to appease you? He is as guity as hell. Please forget respectable man story. One of my cousins,my blood tried to rape me,he tried same with my sister and he was seen as a respectable man esp in church. I do not support abortion,let the girl have the baby. That baby in the womb is not different from the 4 you already had. Don't kill an innocent baby because of your personal gain. You can do a DNA after the baby is born to clear all doubts. Eventually families will be involved because the girl's family will not agree. Prepare my dear it's going to be a long walk from here. The earlier your man say the truth for both of you to face this reality the better for you all.

nkwuocha1:


Pregnancy is not a secret.Them no dey hide belle.If you like use wrapper cover am,the pikin go still jump out finally for all to see.

There's absolutely nothing too early or too late when it comes to shame and disgrace.This embarrassment has come to stay....Forever trust me.As a mother you should blast it loud, especially in an Igbo community where news travel faster than wind.A serious family meeting is urgent at this time,the wife should remain mute and make her children her only source of strength at this trying times.Both the husband and niece betrayed her, but the bulk of it comes from her husband.He should know better,you don't cheat with people close to your wife.There are millions of lose women in Nigeria,not a teenager under your care.Inugo

Okay

calgaryFriend:

You see what I was saying, you put too much emotion and bitterness into everything.
I have raised valid points that you could have chosen to provide an intelligent rebuttal, but you chose to be disrespectful with your response.

You damn know deep down I am right, I understand you dont like that things work that way.

Look at Davido, after impregnating 3 ladies, I hope you know there are plenty ladies on this platform that would not hesitate to join his harem.

Thats simply the reality, Africa is a patriarchal society .

Did Davido impregnate his WIFE's niece?

Oga use your head na.

Africa is a patriarchal society, until another patriarchal man knacks your wife toto.

Omojudy:
As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.

This is wise!
Op this is the best way for you. Good luck