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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by friendl: 9:14am On Sep 27, 2019
I am dating an mbaise girl ,they have spiritual problems ,
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by bobkezel(m): 9:17am On Sep 27, 2019
bluediesel03:
Terrible Things has happened, happening and will still happened I have not heard anyone coming from mbaise.Just like the names you mentioned.Very notorious names coming from South East non is from mbaise. Terrible things will still happen and it will surprise you,it will come from the so good towns.How can a town be bad when terrible things that shake Nigerians and the world at large hardly comes from the town.South East has produced a very notorious criminals of international standard non come from mbaise.I have been in this nairaland for some years,I have read terrible news from South East but non from this so call bad town.if you doubt me henceforth monitor towns in South East that habour and dish out terrible things.
"mbaise people are bad"
Tell the person that said that to tell you his/her personal encounter...
He/she will start with "the ones I've met are good o, but my brother's cousin's girlfriend's boss's grandma told her bla bla bla"
No town has a monopoly of being bad.
Personally I've met a few mbaise people, what I can say about the ones I have met is don't try to cheat them or play games, don't ever start. Cos they will bring the game back to ur doorsteps and still beat you to it.

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by qawiyy(m): 9:23am On Sep 27, 2019
hamid6249:
I can allow my children to marry from any tribe or community as long as the suitor is not from IBADAN

I have my reasons ,my eyes don see wem for thier hands ..useless bunch of people


Bros why na?? Am frm IB and dats where u can find d best ppl frm
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by hamid6249: 9:28am On Sep 27, 2019
Tribalistic ?
TemmyT002:


This is tribalistic
Nawa for you o
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by kemjoe: 9:35am On Sep 27, 2019
I would advise that you do not take the advice of most of the contributors to this post because they say what they say out of ignorance.
There are so many stories about Mbaise as they are so many stories of all tribes. They have the good, the bad, and the ugly. I can assure you that there is no tribe that does not have bad people and there is no tribe that does not have good people.
The question should be;
Do I love him?
Does he love me?
Does he have the qualities I am looking for in a husband?
Am I willing to spend the rest of my life with him?

These are the kind of questions you should be asking yourself. And if you are satisfied, then find a way of convincing your parents to accept him.
Do not just break up with him because your parents say so. It is you that is getting married and not them. If you don't resolve this issue critically, you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
Remember that marriage is a lifelong journey unless you don't mind having divorce in your own. I am sure that you would not want that.
Goodluck.

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Chuksgeo: 9:50am On Sep 27, 2019
Better to mary an Mbaise woman than an Mbaise man

My two cents
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Clinghton: 10:08am On Sep 27, 2019
I think you should forget about tribe, and put his character into consideration.

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by centboy123456(m): 10:14am On Sep 27, 2019
okokkk:
cry

You have awesome parents. But you must be an ungrateful girl to question their wise counsel. Listen, there are no good men worthy of a deltan kpekus in Mbaise. Do not fall for their gimmicks. I once dated an mbaise girl. I loved her so well that I could kill for her. One day, her friend called me and said my babe was dying and in need of blood. I am O+. I donated blood at the clinic. The next day, I went back to the clinic only to see a guy lying beside her with a blood bag hanging over the metal hanger. I got mad. It was my blood that this Mbaise girl "donated" to her boyfriend.

Later, I found that she faked her admission at the clinic to make the guy feel she got ill from losing a lot of blood. The mad girl was also O+. Fear Mbaise people!


did she really did that oh but After all what did she Saudis she beg you
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by centboy123456(m): 10:19am On Sep 27, 2019
ngwababe:



I wasn't talking to you.


how can you say does he give u money does he take care of u d way u want can you imagine pls go and work for your own money and stop depending on men pls girls need to stand up for them self and stop depending on men get a job and get a life please
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by centboy123456(m): 10:23am On Sep 27, 2019
midnighter:

Yes na
So what then is his job

get a life before they use you for blood money useless tin
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Emmanuelcann: 10:24am On Sep 27, 2019
keepingmum:
The famous proverb " if you see a snake and an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person first as they are more dangerous ".

The mbaise tribe is like what the ijebus are to yorubas or the igbirra's to Kogi.

Very wicked, deceptive, desperately love money, do not treat other tribes well, manipulative and evil.
Just curious please, which Nigerian tribe doesn't exhibit these traits?
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by centboy123456(m): 10:29am On Sep 27, 2019
skyhighweb:
money willingly u no get work ur hand dey pain u?


lol brother d tin vex me see d way she talk self like say na her papa work d money for u
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by centboy123456(m): 10:31am On Sep 27, 2019
ChEkWaSIyKe:
To be honest, haven't read all the comments about Mbaise people here and nobody from Mbaise can be BOLD enough to open up and counter all the comment above, it means people are right about their comment.

Serious this has brought a bad reputation to the people of Mbaise from the way people attest to it. The whole world is watching and listening to this. The government, community leaders, parents, girls and boys should do something about this menace hence, that place will be no go area for marriage.

A friend of mine vow never to marry from IMO state as a whole. That he rather remain single that marry from IMO state.


you are right my dear
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Iykenuwa(m): 10:41am On Sep 27, 2019
The truth is, even your said suitor knows why. Ask him, if he does not tell you he is not sincere so you should dump him;

After that you can come back and ask us why
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Emmanuelcann: 10:50am On Sep 27, 2019
bobkezel:
Hmmm
Mbaise people. All the atrocities committed in Igbo land are committed by mbaise people. They are very wicked and heartless. I heard Buhari's grandmother was from mbaise. The xenophobic attack in SA was started by an mbaise man. Evans the kidnapper is from mbaise. Rev king is from mbaise. Derico nwa mama was from mbaise. Eddy na nawgu was from mbaise. Otokoto was from mbaise. Gracious the serial killer was from mbaise. Adolf Hitler's grandfather was from mbaise. All the bad news u hear in Igbo land is only from mbaise.
The same way all Nigerians abroad are all bad people, all of them.
Bombocrats stereotype.
grin grin grin Too much!
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Essential(m): 10:52am On Sep 27, 2019
keepingmum:
The famous proverb " if you see a snake and an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person first as they are more dangerous ".

The mbaise tribe is like what the ijebus are to yorubas or the igbirra's to Kogi.

Very wicked, deceptive, desperately love money, do not treat other tribes well, manipulative and evil.

Just like the esan people in Edo state they are worst devil himself.
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Emmanuelcann: 10:55am On Sep 27, 2019
Samakus:
I have only met 5 Mbaise persons in my entire life. Hear the analogy!!!

1. My former colleague. A guy who I thought was my good friend but ended knowing the things he said behind me and ifelt like 'killing' him. In your front, he will shine teeth, behind you, you have been murdered.

2. My neighbour. One of the most selfish person alive. He can never inconvenience himself for anyone but when he's in need, he will be very good. He usually comes back home late, so I usually wake at night to open gate for him. The day I went for a night vigil, even though I pre informed him to help me open the gate when I come back around 4am, he switched off his phone and I had to sleep at the gate till morning as there was nobody else around to open the gate for me.

3. My crush. A beautiful, well endowed Mbaise girl. I asked her out, she still dey form Don Jazzy, I kuku japa, pursue other alternatives even though we have hung out a few times. Before I know what's up, babe saw me as her number one enemy. I will see her on the road and greet her, she will hiss and start walking fast. Sometimes, once she see me from afar, she will turn back or change her route. I was like, wetin I do wrong? I didn't even get returns on my investment but I still forego it. Why this girl dey see me as Buhari? cheesy

4. My Guy's friend. A truly handsome, working class, married guy who cannot sit with guys and buy beer and drink but once he sees a woman, he can spend 1m. You only know he has money when there's a girl around. Ask him for a little help no matter the urgency, O.Y.O but bring a girl along, viaaamm! Money shows up.

5. My bet guy-turned friend. A truly wonderful guy. He formerly live in Malay before relocating back to Naija. He's a friend in deed. Unselfish, rational, intelligent, business inclined and a brother. He's a friend any guyman will wish to have.

So be the judge


Verdict: Mbaise, like all other people elsewhere, have both the good, and the bad! NB, I'm not from igboland.
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by skyhighweb(m): 11:09am On Sep 27, 2019
centboy123456:



lol brother d tin vex me see d way she talk self like say na her papa work d money for u
no mind her dey find sex in exchange for comfortable life
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by jojooo: 11:10am On Sep 27, 2019
I have encountered people from mbaisa my observation they cool but very manipulating and cant trusted
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by olabrinks(f): 11:11am On Sep 27, 2019
God bless youuuu

I thought I was going mad going through the tribalistic foolish comments until I met yours. There’s still sanity in the world. To God be all glory.
franchasng:
Don't listen to your parents in this situation because they are old and out of touch with life, they are still holding on to some past traditional beliefs and myths that Mbaise people are cunning, that ancient Mbaise people do eat human being, that Mbaise people killed a white missionary and hung his bicycle on a tree to avoid the bicycle from running back to whiteman's land to inform the whitemen....


And there is a popular phrase that says: if you see an Mbaise man and a snake, that you should kill Mbaise man first before the snake, and that phrase was culled from a hate or let me say revenge song sang by an aggrieved member Dansach of Owerri based highlife music band: Oriental Brothers when the main singer and founder of the highlife band, Dr. Sir Warrior cheated him by sidelining him in money sharing which is common among musicians and their managers all over the world.

You know songs travel farther than any other thing, so that song traveled so far and made people became so conscious of Mbaise people and whatever they do...such that any little crime or bad behavior an Mbaise person commits, people tend to overblow and magnify it because they are already on censor.

Just like Ijebu, Ibadan, Ilesa, Ngwa, Fulani, etc people....these are all stereotypes based on past myths and believes of the past.


Judge people individually based on their actions, their attitudes towards you, and how they treat you, not based on what people say or what you hear.

Have your own experience....there are bad people in all communities, tribes and races.....don't let fallacies of hasty generalization based on mythological beliefs and unfounded scares to scare you away from people.


That your parents had a bad encounter with an Mbaise person is not enough reason for them to refuse you marrying an Mbaise man that loves and treats you right, open your eyes, this is 21st century.....I am sure you are not financially independent, you still depend a lot on your parents to allow their unfounded reasons to deter you from being with someone who treats you right.


Besides majority of people all over the world now no longer carry the traits of their tribe or community because most people now spend most of their lives in other cities and communities, hence, they will exhibit more of the traits of people around where they reside or live......so tell your parents you aren't marrying the man to go and live in the village with him to be farming and be dragging issues with the community people.

Or are you telling me that an Mbaise man who has lived in Canada for 20 years and gave birth in Canada, that his children born and raised in Canada will be exhibiting the over-generalized Mbaise people character

Please enlighten your parents and make them understand why they should stop reasoning like people of 1935 undecided undecided

Poor people and their irrational decisions and assumptions. Rich people and families don't have tribe or community when it comes to marriage, business or social issues, it can only exist during politics and its for their political gains. Rich families marry to grow their wealth & political dynasty without considering tribe, community, etc while the poor marry to please their ancestors & communities, and to remain in their clan & to retain their tribal heritage, which is why your parents are so fixated on past beliefs and false stereotypes about Mbaise people angry


If your parents were rich, I am sure what they will be asking u is who are his parents, what does the guy do for a living and not this; 'don't marry from Ibadan, don't marry from Ijebu'. Its only poor, unexposed families that live on these stupid assumptions/stereotypes that keep them poor and stagnant instead of thinking economically forward and capitalist, they will be focusing on stupid stereotypes that only keep them economically stagnant.


Go and marry your village palm wine tapper na angry

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by jojooo: 11:12am On Sep 27, 2019
They r cool but cant be trusted very manipulating also absolutely self centered
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by vinceobe: 11:18am On Sep 27, 2019
keepingmum:
The famous proverb " if you see a snake and an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person first as they are more dangerous ".

The mbaise tribe is like what the ijebus are to yorubas or the igbirra's to Kogi.

Very wicked, deceptive, desperately love money, do not treat other tribes well, manipulative and evil.



This is the same impression, too.
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by franchasng: 11:19am On Sep 27, 2019
olabrinks:
God bless youuuu

I thought I was going mad going through the tribalistic foolish comments until I met yours. There’s still sanity in the world. To God be all glory.
Poverty is a deadly disease, more deadly than HIV.


You can only hear all these I will never marry from Yoruba land, I will never marry an Mbaise person, I will never marry from Ibira tribe, I will never marry a Bini girl, my children will never marry Ibadan person, etc from poor people and their family members shocked shocked


Rich and successful people don't care about tribe, race or community, they care more about strengthening their financial growth and political dynasty through marriage and business ties, but poor people marry to satisfy their emotion, their ancestors, and to please their community and tribesmen who don't even care about them, and reason they remain poor for too long cry cry



God bless you sweetie kiss kiss

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by alphaNomega: 11:21am On Sep 27, 2019
franchasng:
Poverty is a deadly disease, more deadly than HIV.


You can only here all these I will never marry from Yoruba land, I will never marry an Mbaise person, I will never marry from Ibira tribe, I will never marry a Bini girl, my children will never marry Ibadan person, etc from poor people and their family members shocked shocked


Rich and successful people don't care about tribe, race or community, they care more about strengthening their financial growth and political dynasty through marriage and business ties, but poor people marry to satisfy their emotion, their ancestors, and to please their community and tribesmen who don't even care about them, and reason they remain poor for too long cry cry



God bless you sweetie kiss kiss

One of the few sensible folks on nairaland.

Update: A lot of people have had unpleasant experiences with Mbaise people that does not make them all bad. It is up to you to have your own experience and make your own decision in this only life you have.

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by vinceobe: 11:22am On Sep 27, 2019
franchasng:
Poverty is a deadly disease, more deadly than HIV.


You can only here all these I will never marry from Yoruba land, I will never marry an Mbaise person, I will never marry from Ibira tribe, I will never marry a Bini girl, my children will never marry Ibadan person, etc from poor people and their family members shocked shocked


Rich and successful people don't care about tribe, race or community, they care more about strengthening their financial growth and political dynasty through marriage and business ties, but poor people marry to satisfy their emotion, their ancestors, and to please their community and tribesmen who don't even care about them, and reason they remain poor for too long cry cry

Do not listen to this type of diatribe. Very deceptive. How many of those marriage lasts?
My dear girl, listen to your parents, else you will regret later in life. "What a elder sees why lying down, a youngster will not see, whilst on top of a tree.



God bless you sweetie kiss kiss
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Lilimax(f): 11:26am On Sep 27, 2019
keepingmum:
The famous proverb " if you see a snake and an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person first as they are more dangerous ".

The mbaise tribe is like what the ijebus are to yorubas or the igbirra's to Kogi.

Very wicked, deceptive, desperately love money, do not treat other tribes well, manipulative and evil.
Lol
Mbaise people aka COUNTRY 5 grin
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by frozen70(f): 11:29am On Sep 27, 2019
Kcee14:
I am a girl of 26 years from Delta state. I have a guy I have been dating for close to 3years now and he is from mbaise. My guy told me that he is coming for introduction and I told my parents about it and they said over their dead body will they allow me marry from mbaise. Please,is anything wrong with Mbaise? Are there ladies here that are married to mbaise men and living happily. Please, I am really sad now. I need advice and answers

They use to say

"if you see snake and see an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person before killing the snake"

Well people from there are canny and not straight forward, am sorry no insult intended

But then not all of them are like that

You should be able to explain to your self if your man is straight forward or canny

If he is really a good person or he is always playing smart on you

Put love aside and reassess him if he is not having any of the above traits

Though love covers everything but consider when the love that covers the faults are no longer there, can you cope ❓
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Meta4element(m): 11:34am On Sep 27, 2019
okokkk:
cry

You have awesome parents. But you must be an ungrateful girl to question their wise counsel. Listen, there are no good men worthy of a deltan kpekus in Mbaise. Do not fall for their gimmicks. I once dated an mbaise girl. I loved her so well that I could kill for her. One day, her friend called me and said my babe was dying and in need of blood. I am O+. I donated blood at the clinic. The next day, I went back to the clinic only to see a guy lying beside her with a blood bag hanging over the metal hanger. I got mad. It was my blood that this Mbaise girl "donated" to her boyfriend.

Later, I found that she faked her admission at the clinic to make the guy feel she got ill from losing a lot of blood. The mad girl was also O+. Fear Mbaise people!

You see this your Story bro?..I believe am Die..Am currently Serving in Imo state(In Owerri Municipal) and Mbaise couple are my neighbour.. I can Confirm that what you said here is nothing but the Truth..Unless I meet an Mbaise person Later in the future that proves me Wrong..Then I might change my narrative towards them...
These people will always try to outsmart you no matter what...Everything about them is "What am I going to gain from this" without even minding whether you are dying or Not..I remember when My Posting Letter came out..My parents were saying How Imo people are Bad..Imo people are this..But believe me Imo people are very loving and caring..But you see Mbaise people?.. I will rather ask devil to give me a self-con apartment in hell than stay with an Mbaise person...Na this people dey make Other Igbos talk bad about Imo people..Wetin my Eye don see for this 1yr..If I write am here?...Seun go ban me for 100yrs..
To even think am an Igbo guy..An Anambra person and this people are treating me like this..I do imagine what they will do to Outsiders...
My dear Kcee..My mum is from Agbor while my Dad is from anambra...My sister.. Run for your life..Don't let Relationship deceive you..Marriage is a different ball Game..The day that Loving guy will show you his true character?.. You will understand what your patents is telling you..Las las POP is nextweek Thursday.. I don Pack my Load Finish..Once I collect my NYSC cert..am Running away from here...Mbaise people no be am at all

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Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Phonix1234: 11:36am On Sep 27, 2019
Kcee14:
I am a girl of 26 years from Delta state. I have a guy I have been dating for close to 3years now and he is from mbaise. My guy told me that he is coming for introduction and I told my parents about it and they said over their dead body will they allow me marry from mbaise. Please,is anything wrong with Mbaise? Are there ladies here that are married to mbaise men and living happily. Please, I am really sad now. I need advice and answers

The only truth is that dey can mold Brain here,,,, ut Dad go don encounter their Brain Molding, its something dey cant hide, even for bride prize if dem Mold brain for ur Papa, he go give u for free....


Nothing really serious apart from Brain Molding
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Phonix1234: 11:40am On Sep 27, 2019
Kcee14:
I am a girl of 26 years from Delta state. I have a guy I have been dating for close to 3years now and he is from mbaise. My guy told me that he is coming for introduction and I told my parents about it and they said over their dead body will they allow me marry from mbaise. Please,is anything wrong with Mbaise? Are there ladies here that are married to mbaise men and living happily. Please, I am really sad now. I need advice and answers



We call Dem Snake
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Bahddo(m): 12:19pm On Sep 27, 2019
Samakus:
I have only met 5 Mbaise persons in my entire life. Hear the analogy!!!

1. My former colleague. A guy who I thought was my good friend but ended knowing the things he said behind me and ifelt like 'killing' him. In your front, he will shine teeth, behind you, you have been murdered.

2. My neighbour. One of the most selfish person alive. He can never inconvenience himself for anyone but when he's in need, he will be very good. He usually comes back home late, so I usually wake at night to open gate for him. The day I went for a night vigil, even though I pre informed him to help me open the gate when I come back around 4am, he switched off his phone and I had to sleep at the gate till morning as there was nobody else around to open the gate for me.

3. My crush. A beautiful, well endowed Mbaise girl. I asked her out, she still dey form Don Jazzy, I kuku japa, pursue other alternatives even though we have hung out a few times. Before I know what's up, babe saw me as her number one enemy. I will see her on the road and greet her, she will hiss and start walking fast. Sometimes, once she see me from afar, she will turn back or change her route. I was like, wetin I do wrong? I didn't even get returns on my investment but I still forego it. Why this girl dey see me as Buhari? cheesy

4. My Guy's friend. A truly handsome, working class, married guy who cannot sit with guys and buy beer and drink but once he sees a woman, he can spend 1m. You only know he has money when there's a girl around. Ask him for a little help no matter the urgency, O.Y.O but bring a girl along, viaaamm! Money shows up.

5. My bet guy-turned friend. A truly wonderful guy. He formerly live in Malay before relocating back to Naija. He's a friend in deed. Unselfish, rational, intelligent, business inclined and a brother. He's a friend any guyman will wish to have.

So be the judge


these 5 categories of people exist in every tribe/community.
Re: My Parents Refused To Accept My Suitor by Bahddo(m): 12:24pm On Sep 27, 2019
Enemyofpeace:
All I know is that if I see snake and I see mbaise man, I go kill the mbaise man and allow the snake to escape. If you know you know
you are a wicked blood thirsty soul. See the way you are talking about killing a human being.

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