Move on, don't marry a lady against the wish of her mother.

Kassidy4luv:
I have been dating her for about 6 months now, last month on her birthday I proposed to her and she said yes. Ever since then the mum have been angry, she invited me to come over to have discussions with me. She is EDO and I am IGBO, the mum said she doesn't want her daughter to marry IGBO because of what an Igbo lady did to her brother.
I was shocked and dumbfounded, while didn't they tell me all this while instead of wasting my time.

OlawaleBammie:

A bn dey tink say na only me reason am,

leave d guy jare, ordinary 6months den tym is wasted, wetin people wey dey go five years go talk oo?

Why didn't they tell me from the onset?

Enemyofpeace:
that's the spirit. If you force yourself on the babe and marry her, the mother will make life very miserable for you. There are lots of girls out there, pray to God to send you the bone if your bones and the flesh of your flesh that is truly yours from heaven, moreover Edo girls no sabi fok sef

Hahaha
Bad man killer, it be like say na true oh.

LiftedMan:
Move on, don't marry a lady against the wish of her mother.

Thanks, done that already.

Kassidy4luv:

Really?
What does dating mean to you?

Getting to know each other. Not an intention to propose to each other

Humility017:


my parents don't even have such damn right to forbid me from marrying someone because of her tribe....

there are good and bad people in every tribe....
what makes people who they're is because of their family upbringing and values and not their tribes.....

I told my mom this some years ago with scriptures from the Bible and since then... she changed the tune she just pray for good wives for her children irrespective of the tribe and God make her children good husbands too

please I sent you an email, I want to chat privately with you about this issue sir

TOPCRUISE:

Getting to know each other. Not an intention to propose to each other

What if is someone you like to spend the rest of your life with.

Dangerousboy:
please I sent you an email, I want to chat privately with you about this issue sir

no problem bro.
I have replied you

If her mother has told you to step back i advice you do cuz no Mata how u try you can never have a peaceful home as long as she's ur mother in-law .that's what happened to one of my aunty she lived in hell until she got a divorced !point is mother in-laws hold d keys to every home .

sacramento1212:


Except your parents are late, you cannot on your own fulfill marital rites. In your previous post, you sounded like you can and they cannot do anything. It's the parents that negotiate the process and without them, marriage won't be complete except they are no more then elders of the family can come in.

As a person, it's not all tribes i can marry from. I've always maintained this position from the onset and only shifted grounds previously. A lady or guy might be good, portray all the excellent qualities but in marriage, you don't only marry the individual but family, culture, tradition.

In every tribe, there are good and bad people and i am in no way disputing that. If the tribe is Okay by me, my parents won't go against it. Even if they show concerns because of their own experiences, i will only do everything within my capacity to make them see reasons to oblige but not to be autocratic about it.

you didn't read my post very well prior you even drew up your response earlier.

anyway I wish you good luck....

I wanna marry God's will for me.... I am tired of doing things my own way...and my Bible tells me that God sees no tribe, race or skin color but the hearts of men...

Christ made us one with God...i am open to any tribe provided we are compatible and she is God's will for me....thank God my mom knows this and my Dad never told me to forbid any tribe prior his dismiss but bluntly told me to make sure I marry a woman I know well and who is a Christian...

even refute tribal sentiments in martial decisions

I still imagine how people say we are in 21 century main while nothing change in this your country since 20BC.... Keep deceiving your self. We are not in any 21century... 100yrs to come the coming generation would still imagined how we survived our jungle days... No he only... .

Pettyprincess:
I still do not believe parent still dictate who their children should get married to in this 21st century,bt anyways her mom told her not to marry someone because of an utterance with an igbo person,like seriously?
At this point i really do not know what to say bt you should hear her decision out first.
I can't imagine my mom telling me me i can't marry my bf because people from his race colonised Nigeria.

Kassidy4luv:
I have been dating her for about 6 months now, last month on her birthday I proposed to her and she said yes. Ever since then the mum have been angry, she invited me to come over to have discussions with me. She is EDO and I am IGBO, the mum said she doesn't want her daughter to marry IGBO because of what an Igbo lady did to her brother.
I was shocked and dumbfounded, while didn't they tell me [b]all this while [/b]instead of wasting my time.

just 6 months.....and you are saying all this while

Stefenijoan002:
If her mother has told you to step back i advice you do cuz no Mata how u try you can never have a peaceful home as long as she's ur mother in-law .that's what happened to one of my aunty she lived in hell until she got a divorced !point is mother in-laws hold d keys to every home .

Thank God I have to quit the relationship immediately.

Don't give up bro, God has a reason for what happened, cheer up and move on.

Sonnobax15:
We ain't talking about emigrants and immigrants here...the question is that why is that there are more landladies than landlords in edo??...

Is that ur research? Well it means majority of men still travel out and usually their wives re here in Nigeria. Secondly the idea of men dying b4 women is universal. Talk about struggles..men do it more than women. I may understand Urhobo men tend to live long cos their women hussle to feed men

Humility017:


you didn't read my post very well prior you even drew up your response earlier.

anyway I wish you good luck....

I wanna marry God's will for me.... I am tired of doing things my own way...and my Bible tells me that God sees no tribe, race or skin color but the hearts of men...

Christ made us one with God...i am open to any tribe provided we are compatible and she is God's will for me....thank God my mom knows this and my Dad never told me to forbid any tribe prior his dismiss but bluntly told me to make sure I marry a woman I know well and who is a Christian...

even refute tribal sentiments in martial decisions

God will only guide us for those that are Spiritually inclined. We are to choose our potential wives and pray for God's revelation and confirmation.

Good luck to you too bro

JONNYSPUTE:
I don't see any problem there. If she doesn't want you to marry her daughter, let her be and look for another person to marry,simpe.Most of you guys always see problems where there's non.Don't start telling me its love because there's always a time in every marriage that both will start asking themselves if they truly love each other before getting married.(Only the married peeps will understand this)And by that time,it takes only grace,tolerance and understanding to scale thru.Forget what you ve spent and move on.Na fly weeh no dey hear word dey follow dead body enter grave.

You made no sense.
None whatsoever.
The big issue is staring you the face, yet you are avoiding it like it doesn't exist.
Read the post again if you didn't see the absurdity.

Stevecovey:


@ the bolded. Your girlfriends mother is WISE. Your girlfriend better listens to her mother.

The mother is the most foolish woman on earth.
We all know the real reason why she objected.
Don't tell me you fell for the scam reason.

mercyviv:
I don't believe you're in love with the lady either ... listen to yourself; " why didnt they tell me this before instead..." It simply means you would have walked even in the face of a simple challenge that may have been resolved with dialogue, or do you imagine marriage to be a bed of roses all through and through?! I doubt if you'll be a better husband sir!!
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Why do you feel he must fight for marriage? Fighting will not ensure that it will be well. What if he fights for it but the mother will be a thorn in their flesh? It's not always by fighting. Love isn't always a war

cyrilamx:
Is that ur research? Well it means majority of men still travel out and usually their wives re here in Nigeria. Secondly the idea of men dying b4 women is universal. Talk about struggles..men do it more than women. I may understand Urhobo men tend to live long cos their women hussle to feed men

Yet the number of oloshos edo keep exporting is more equivalent to the number of landladies it has..it's an obvious fact that your women tend to kill your when he's being successful..

Kassidy4luv:

Why didn't they tell me from the onset?

Did u tell dem from d onset as well??

it would b a wrong accusation if dey just tell u "hey! u cant marry our daughter' wen u hav nt even told dem ur intention.

Anyways, sorry my bro, God wil provide the best for u. just keep searching and keep praying.

I will say this with no apolgy, its ONLY POOR PEOPLE WHO DRAG THIS TRIBE THING IN NIGERIA RICH PEOPLE DO NOT*** If not Davido wont be marrying chioma!Young Men hustle hard

Offpoint:

Lol e dey come and go ni... I wouldn't want to tell where I am right now, the madness will be too much for today.

imagine I had my head upside-down in my street guitar cuz that's where Glo relocate their 3G to...

And must u use 3G? sogunlaye ni??

Anyways, offpoint u wil stil teach me dat ur hustle pattern sha

Kassidy4luv:

She said she can't go against her mum decision.
I have broken up with her

Since you have broken up with her, why creating this post?

mechanics:
Don't give up bro, God has a reason for what happened, cheer up and move on.

Thanks

Xisnin:

The mother is the most foolish woman on earth.
We all know the real reason why she objected.
Don't tell me you fell for the scam reason.

I thought as much, maybe her mum thinks I dont have enough Money.
Chai
Chai

venus4cupid:


Since you have broken up with her, why creating this post?

To seek people's opinions and advice.

erico2k2:
I will say this with no apolgy, its ONLY POOR PEOPLE WHO DRAG THIS TRIBE THING IN NIGERIA RICH PEOPLE DO NOT*** If not Davido wont be marrying chioma!Young Men hustle hard

Hahaha
If for say I be celebrity now, the woman for no drag my TRIBE

OlawaleBammie:


Did u tell dem from d onset as well??

it would b a wrong accusation if dey just tell u "hey! u cant marry our daughter' wen u hav nt even told dem ur intention.

Anyways, sorry my bro, God wil provide the best for u. just keep searching and keep praying.

But I can be spending money on their daughter?

Stefenijoan002:
If her mother has told you to step back i advice you do cuz no Mata how u try you can never have a peaceful home as long as she's ur mother in-law .that's what happened to one of my aunty she lived in hell until she got a divorced !point is mother in-laws hold d keys to every home .

No God does

Kassidy4luv:
But I can be spending money on their daughter?

did dey knw why u were doin father xmas??

ovieneekperemo:

Fake

too fake