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Question by Mic96(m): 6:04pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Discuss |
Re: Question by Oyindidi(f): 6:11pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Yen yen yen bla bla bla bla.... Thank you too 1 Like |
Re: Question by MrHistorian: 6:14pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
No balls. 4 Likes |
Re: Question by Oyindidi(f): 6:15pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
MrHistorian:Go give am balls ![]() |
Re: Question by naijabat2001: 6:19pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Bro the only advice I can give is that you should leave the house for a while without telling her. I think she will change just give it a try and watch her change 3 Likes |
Re: Question by PatrickOkunima(m): 6:23pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Most women are like that. Here's a story my uncle told me on the day of my marriage. He said, Once upon a time, a young man went to the village to ask his dad to look for a responsible wife for him, that he's ready to settle down. The father said no problem. After a while, the father paid him a visit in the city, bringing along a small puppy (baby dog). His father asked him to take very good care of the puppy and returned to the village the next day. Not long after, the young man returned from work one day to see that the puppy had messed up the apartment. He re-positioned it and tidied up the place. The next day, the puppy did the same thing, the guy returned from work and was very mad. He picked up a stick and struck the puppy to death. A few weeks later, the father paid him another visit. He noticed the puppy's absence and asked the son about it. The young man replied that he had killed the puppy. He said he could no longer cope with it. And the father replied, "My son, you've just confirmed to me that you're not ready for marriage. Women can be very annoying, they'll do worse to you than the puppy. You need a lot of patience to live with a woman, which you presently have not developed." Ask 90% of married men, and they'll tell you what you're experiencing is not new. You can abandon this one and end up paying the bride price of someone with worse characters. My advice: Do whatever you think is good for you. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Question by Oyindidi(f): 6:23pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
No be first to report case dey win case, till I hear the babymama side of this sweet story. I dey the fence 2 Likes |
Re: Question by Apination(m): 6:25pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Mic96:It's in your favour that you are yet to marry that woman. Your kids are your priority right now and should remain so, don't leave that house for her or your kids with her because she's likely to bring men into it. For your peace of mind and mental development of your kids, let that old hag go ![]() |
Re: Question by Nobody: 6:27pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
The worst thing i can do is never go to a pastor for an advise.They are bad advisers. 6 Likes |
Re: Question by ShyWhale: 6:29pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Bla Bla Bla Bla.......... All I see is someone looking for validation. She does not cook, doesn't greet me, she is three years older than me. I'm sure you didn't see all these when you impregnated her 7 years ago. Okay, let's agree the first one was a one night stand gone wrong. Okay, the second was what? And you even had to say "A girl living with me of which I haven't paid her bride price" . How disgusting. Someone needs to advice "that girl" to stop cooking for you, opening her legs for you, stop taking care of the house, you or whoever that came to visit and treat you like who you truly are, a roommate ; "Just another boy living with her" 6 Likes |
Re: Question by donbachi(m): 6:38pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
"not convinced yet"...but u dey chuuku chuuku. 4 Likes |
Re: Question by Nobody: 6:40pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Bt dnt tell me you didn't see all these signs b4 impregnating her nd turning her to a babmama,i just feel pity for the kids you will b dragging into this. 1 Like |
Re: Question by Larryfest(m): 6:44pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
The first paragraph of this your story really made me laugh "a girl am living with presently" ....Dude seems both of you are not compatible even after 2kids in 6years and you guys are still experiencing this kind of stuff, don't force it man!! 1 Like |
Re: Question by iPrevail(m): 6:45pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
You are not into each other yet you are still living together, fvckin and making babies. You don't need advice, you need a very hot slap... They both of you! 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Question by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:45pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Bro, as much as you may not want to be honest with us, you gotta be honest to your own damn self: A) before we go any further: tell us what is good about this woman that you would even want to marry her. B) if this babe doesn't work, how do you expect her to cook soup (if you don't leave any money)? Or are you saying that she doesn't want to go to the market to buy food, even when you drop money? C) since you guys are not good together, why do you think marrying her will change anything?! D) as much as you hate it, you must get rid of this woman from your life as you guys would be better parents (co parenting away from one another) E) this babe had the same age difference today as the day you met her or when you fell in love with her, so don't bring this BS to the table now. FINALLY so she has money to spend on bag clothes and shoes, yet don't want to pay for food at home?! Bro the problem is not this woman.... IT'S YOU, who allowed this nonsense to go for so long. 2 Likes |
Re: Question by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:50pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
naijabat2001: That's what the babe is hoping all along.... she will be better/happier without him.thats why she has absolutely no respect for the dude. |
Re: Question by 2special(m): 6:55pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
most of the stories on Nairaland now shows guys are now on the receiving end.
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Re: Question by Mic96(m): 7:18pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Qestion |
Re: Question by Nobody: 7:25pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
She uses the kids you love so much to blackmail you emotionally and that my friend has no solution. If you have a trusted blood blood sister or mother, then you may consider an option. |
Re: Question by seanwilliam(m): 7:28pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
GOD abeg i no want this kind tin for my life o.@op, take the kids to ur parent and desert the lady for 6mnth straight( until she comes with her family to beg and genuinely promise to change for beta)if nt, divorce her and luk before u leap again. sorry 2 Likes |
Re: Question by Mic96(m): 7:50pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
seanwilliam: Hmm |
Re: Question by Tajbol4splend(m): 8:25pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
It's easy to cut ties with someone who doesn't have children with you, I really pity your situation, I really think you got to be rid of her but in a way it's not going to affect your children, if she's really saying she will poison you, she may do it, I suggest you stop living together, you stop eating foods she prepares as you never know what is coming. Part ways with her in a calm manner so because of your children, so she will not make it difficult for you to see them without living with them. |
Re: Question by Kendumazy(m): 8:36pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Hmm. Only God knows where u na dey jam all these kind of women. May God help you with a lasting solution. 2 Likes |
Re: Question by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:55pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Mic96: Are you saying that the only good.thing about this woman (that you can think of) is the above you wrote?! She works. Our first child wasn't planned it just came three month while we were dating and weren't leaving together then. Even after the child was born she was still leaving with her parents. 2 years ago I decided to settle down with her she refused but I begged her to consider our child that I don't want the child to grow without the parents living together. Despite the fact that we weren't together then i was fully responsible for the child up keep and schooling. I went to the mother but never really liked me while we were planning the marriage rite she took in for our second child brought them to my apartment. While then she was pregnant I never wanted her to do the house work so I ended up going to market for her to buy the food stuffs and other items needed and leaving her with monthly allowance. If i may ask: - What excuse did she give you for refusing to move in with you? - why didn't you allow her to do house chores? - now that you have accustomed this woman to do nothing, why suddenly expect her to do anything? - what was the monthly allowance for? She often says her mother is always picking at her that I haven't paid her bride Price and that her mother advised her not to accept me but she disobeyed. The deed has been done... if you think that her parents will suddenly love you as soon as you pay bride price then, you sir, is on a long thing. The mother has no respect for you and that is partly due to your woman and how she has little respect for you or your union. I came up from a broken home I know what I went through never wanted my child to experience same. Well bro, you should have thought about that before having unprotected sex wirh this stranger. The only way peace can reign is if I allow her be without correcting and accepting all her nonsense. She always want to be incontrol and her decision stands over the kids That woman is living AS A SINGLE WOMAN, while being taking care by a man who thinks they are in a r/ship. Get rid of her and.let her be single, while co-parenting |
Re: Question by Airtimex(m): 9:59pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Wahala up and down ![]() Assuming you are married, I would have given you a solution...but in this case, only you can sort it out. Your sense bin travel when you dey born full house, even as the attitude no pure for you...your decision bro. |
Re: Question by 24kmagic: 10:05pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
How on earth did you get yourself into this mess? Everything is just wrong with this relationship. 1 Like |
Re: Question by 24kmagic: 10:15pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
seanwilliam: Divorce her? How can he divorce someone he's not married to? Abi na how you take read your own |
Re: Question by Nobody: 10:37pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
She is this, that, and all sorts of evil, but you did not admit to any flaws of your own or are you a perfect man? 1. Zip up your pants / stop sleeping with her and producing more children together. 2. Co-parent the two you already have. 3. You go <----- that way, while she goes this way -----> |
Re: Question by Mic96(m): 11:39pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
Qest |
Re: Question by Mic96(m): 11:40pm On Sep 29, 2019 |
theButterfly: For over one year now we haven't had sex and we cool with it. |
Re: Question by Jombom: 1:55am On Sep 30, 2019 |
Go n pay her bride price, as for me I have stopped advising foolish people.⁵ Mic96: |
Re: Question by obo389(m): 5:54am On Sep 30, 2019 |
Jombom:Dont mind him. Hes engaging in Bamijoko style. |
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