The heart of man is the seat of his conscience and feelings. It is where he decides what is right and wrong, his seat of emotions. it competes with his seat of reasoning his brain for dominance. At birth boys and girls have similar hearts. Girls are quickly thought to guide their hearts as they grow up. Boys sadly are not.

It is at this very early stage of boyhood that true (primary) alpha males are born. Nature comes to play and selects those to forever lead the beta males. Instinctively alpha male boys close their hearts while still intact and tuck away, using fully their brains. They observe the world fully and start to understand slowly but steadily how the world works. So primary alpha males and girls share an intact heart at childhood leading to adolescence.

Beta male boys on the other hand, learn to toy with their hearts pretty early.They are grown untamed, doing all their hearts pleases. They soon learn the hard way that too much heart has its pit falls. It makes them weak, it makes them soft, it makes them vulnerable. So they learn the hard way to conceal their emotions, not to cry when they are bitten, scolded or when they fall etc. Through trial and error they learn to master the act of suppressing their hearts ( but a little too late as by now it must have been scarred and no longer whole) until when the get to puberty.

The alpha male boys have slowly but surely at this point learnt how to navigate life effectively using only their brains and so have their female counterparts, their most precious possessions, their hearts still intact within them.

At puberty again beta boys are dealt another blow. They are met with new flirting stimuli, many experience the feeling of LOVE and once again their brains lacking good judgement from underuse convinces them it is a good time to once again open their hearts.

The alpha male boys experience this new flirting feeling but once again their better developed brains kicks in urging them to observe first hand from beta boys or older ones how this feeling plays out.

The subject of their love feelings, the females have up to this point been groomed to protect their hearts by their moms and society but they know not the reasons. At this point the reasons are made known to them and they too suddenly become over protective about their hearts. (the media, molestation, older siblings etc may exposes kids to these feelings sooner than their parents may have allowed, so slight variations will exist as so when boys and girls are exposed to feelings of love).

The beta boys are in for some rude awakening, the attention of their love, the females reject the advances of their open hearts, as the females chooses to still close theirs. It is at the critical moment that beta boys start to lose their hearts as a whole entity. Their need to experiment early leads to an early and unexpected heart break. Beta boys find out that they are ill prepared to deal with such emotional trauma like their female counterparts. They can't mourn openly as the females can, and they can't communicate their feelings easily either. They once again learn the hard way that the heart has its pit falls. It makes them weak, it makes them soft, it makes them vulnerable. And they remember what they did the last time to feel relief, but this time they hope never to feel this unbearable pain again so they try as much as possible to scar their hearts beyond repair. Those who are successful at the LEAST ATTEMPTS become secondary alpha male boys but with the cost of losing their hearts . But those who fail time and time again become condemned to the faith of beta boys, for they lack the courage to completely sever their hearts. They are cursed to forever move with bleeding hearts.

So at puberty you have the primary alpha male boys with whole unexploited hearts but with a highly developed reasoning by observing their environment and the pitfalls of the beta boys.

You have females who still have their hearts whole and guarded and are similar to alpha males but are limited greatly by fear unlike alpha male boys that are limited by reason.

You have secondary alpha males who have successfully severed their hearts and are quickly playing catch up with the real alpha males in terms of reasoning

At the bottom of the food chain are beta boys, who have a severely bleeding heart, poor judgement, reasoning and low self esteem.


This basically is the transition with which each category of people go into adulthood. And which shapes their love chemistry and dynamics.

Stay tuned for parts 2 and 3 later today.

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kindlyheart:

What's wrong love, talk to me

Is that so?

Sandra8:

What's wrong love, talk to me

Everything.

I have never seen any guy that just wake up to be tough without experencing some form of troubles

so the illusion that some boys from childhood just became tough aka alpha without some kind of personal experience is false.

The article is trash, you need to learn how men develop mentally and emotionally.

Every damn gender were untamed when growing up, it was bad experience that toughen the heart

kindlyheart:


Everything.

Sorry dear can I help

Sandra8, you have invaded Nairaland to deal with us. Barely an hour into the new day and we've got to deal with the first wave of attack.

SNizar:
Sandra8, you have invaded Nairaland to deal with us. Barely an hour into the new day and we've got to deal with the first wave of attack.

Sorry boo. Don't be offended ok

Sandra8:


Sorry boo. Don't be offended ok

The post's like an emotional story. And i agree with pretty much everything in it...but, one thing leads to another. You could explain more how some boys just become "alpha males" since you are so versed in this topic.

SNizar:


The post's like an emotional story. And i agree with pretty much everything in it...but, one thing leads to another. You could explain more how some boys just become "alpha males" since you are so versed in this topic.

I could actually dear, but that would do the opposite of why I'm here babe . I'm primarily after educating the ladies dear .

Sandra8:

I could actually dear, but that would do the opposite of why I'm here babe . I'm primarily after educating the ladies dear .

I also don't see anything that any lady could be educated about here Ma'am. Us don't even know how to identify and differentiate the alpha and beta from each other. It would be sad to read that your posts are meant exclusively for females.

Sandra8:

Sorry dear can I help

no thanks. I will be fine.

kindlyheart:


no thanks. I will be fine.

OK dear, at least I tried

Very apt babe,keep it coming.

Funmmyastic:
Very apt babe,keep it coming.

Thank you

OP, the point is no human being wants to be used.

Alphas will dump whoever presents constant negative reinforcements and move on to other options with ease as a result of their genetic endowments. Betas however do not have this luxury so would try to beta provide hoping that it would be enough to keep their prized possessions.

Betas are the less fortunate men and women who are not so much endowed with good looks. They are the needy and clingy people who will do anything to please a partner in a relationship because of their insecurities and vulnerabilities.

When alphas post on Facebook for instance, they get hundreds of likes. but Its a lot different when a beta sticks up his or her little head for some validations. T

So, the betas learn over time that they are not the hot shiit that mummy and daddy may have gotten them to think they were. they also realize that Alphas will not place anybody's feelings or interest above theirs.

Some may understand that they are not genetically designed to receive love from those they desire and
will adjust accordingly by ignoring the cravings for alpha co.ck and pussy, and settling for something more closer to home.

others sadly will stay on this cause in pursuit of this constantly fleeting pleasure, not minding the pitfalls. Those who become successful in their careers may employ the use of money to momentarily tame their object of lust. Others will provide favours just to receive some validations.

This the cycle that rinses and repeats till fade.


The point being made here is that Alpha qualities are not learned. what you have are coping mechanisms, otherwise known as game, pickup or even miseducation.


The problem with miseducation however is that the guys whose only chance of furcking pusssy is by paying up or beta providing may be misled into abandoning thier tried, tested and trusted technique for something as vague and worthless as game.

Curvinus:
OP, the point is no human being wants to be used.

Alphas will dump whoever presents constant negative reinforcements and move on to other options with ease as a result of their genetic endowments. Betas however do not have this luxury so would try to beta provide hoping that it would be enough to keep their prized possessions.

Betas are the less fortunate men and women who are not so much endowed with good looks. They are the needy and clingy people who will do anything to please a partner in a relationship because of their insecurities and vulnerabilities.

When alphas post on Facebook for instance, they get hundreds of likes. but Its a lot different when a beta sticks up his or her little head for some validations. T

So, the betas learn over time that they are not the hot shiit that mummy and daddy may have gotten them to think they were. they also realize that Alphas will not place anybody's feelings or interest above theirs.

Some may understand that they are not genetically designed to receive love from those they desire and
will adjust accordingly by ignoring the cravings for alpha co.ck and pussy, and settling for something more closer to home.

others sadly will stay on this cause in pursuit of this constantly fleeting pleasure, not minding the pitfalls. Those who become successful in their careers may employ the use of money to momentarily tame their object of lust. Others will provide favours just to receive some validations.

This the cycle that rinses and repeats till fade.


The point being made here is that Alpha qualities are not learned. what you have are coping mechanisms, otherwise known as game, pickup or even miseducation.


The problem with miseducation however is that the guys whose only chance of furcking pusssy is by paying up or beta providing may be misled into abandoning thier tried, tested and trusted technique for something as vague and worthless as game.

Read again dear for better comprehension, then read part 2 dear... Love you

Sandra8:


OK dear, at least I tried

yup u did.

your man will be happy to have such a caring soul.

kindlyheart:


yup u did.

your man will be happy to have such a caring soul.

Yes he is dear. Thank you

how do ladies find these write ups interesting at all?

lilwetdick:
I have never seen any guy that just wake up to be tough without experencing some form of troubles

so the illusion that some boys from childhood just became tough aka alpha without some kind of personal experience is false.

The article is trash, you need to learn how men develop mentally and emotionally.

Every damn gender were untamed when growing up, it was bad experience that toughen the heart

that's not true...

there's a very young boy in the compound I live... very young less than 4 years.. from his second year he's been one... funny enough the little girls around like him.
this is a natural thing that you don't need someone to tell you unless you've been living in mars or far away from human contact

henryobinna:
that's not true...

there's a very young boy in the compound I live... very young less than 4 years.. from his second year he's been one... funny enough the little girls around like him.
this is a natural thing that you don't need someone to tell you unless you've been living in mars or far away from human contact

Thanks for your input dear

lilwetdick:
I have never seen any guy that just wake up to be tough without experencing some form of troubles

so the illusion that some boys from childhood just became tough aka alpha without some kind of personal experience is false.

The article is trash, you need to learn how men develop mentally and emotionally.

Every damn gender were untamed when growing up, it was bad experience that toughen the heart

I respect your degree of natural intelligence



Good research..

SNizar:
Sandra8, you have invaded Nairaland to deal with us. Barely an hour into the new day and we've got to deal with the first wave of attack.

To me i don't see this as attack, rather she/he is letting us understand women game strategies, digest this his miseducation and the other of his miseducation for men, and you will be king of relationship world, seat back and fasten your seat bet and learn from this genius

Hopefully, this person is not Ubunja, I want to doubt it.

Sandy baby has dropped another track, Alpha Male and Second Alpha male. Well, it is either an alpha male or betas trying to be alpha because they do have not found reasons to be.

Girls always like the bad guys and that has always been, nature made it that way.

Now you want to crack guys mind, but the problem is you, girls. You guys use emotions for everything, never applauding right thing, punishing the good, elevating the bad guys with "game" and when you get the stick, the guy misbehaves, you cry wolf.

Omo, happy understanding oooh!