judetov2:
After reading this post I felt like crying...I am sorry to say but that man is a complete GAY. From what u said I believe u are so "hot" yet he is never moved....I can mention more than 10,000 signs of a gay....I hate them so much. .....pls dnt allow ur male child to stay with him even as he is the Father... I will pray for u...u have a beautiful heart.

Seems they have done you strong thing. Loooool

This is what happens when you refuse to accept that people are gay, lesbians and bisexual and you force them to be straight, who do you think they will marry? Your straight families! That's why that anti gay law is stupid. Nigerians are hypocrites and would never want to agreed things are just the way they are.
Madam, you either divorce or you manage him. if, Manage him by talk about it and always use condoms. Infact, go for std tests and do the needful. Your husband is 100percent gay, not bisexual, if he's bisex you would never know. Cos he wld service you well.
Make sure you cry, and tell him your worries, try to keep evidences, and tell hin you know what's up. Prayers would not change him, don't waste your time. He himself woulf have fasted and prayed for it to go but prayers don't change genes and DNA. Prayers can't change you from black skin to white or short to tall. It's all biological but africans and religiosity will not want to agree and na dem do am pass for secret!
Sorry, you are not the only one, plenty people are in your shoes, some it's lesbians they got married to, the lesbians used them to have kids and then ask for divorce later. Hypocrisy will kill Nigerians, until you all accept the truth and stop hiding under religion.

IDERAWOLE:


Seriously, you need to calm down, watch things with no bias in your mind. If your suspicions are still being reinforced. Then, call him quietly, to discuss this.

If you aren't explosive in your approach, he'll definitely open up to you, haven seen that you've known and bold enough to open it up.

Now, let's assume he's agreed to your discovery, what's the way out?

Don't be deceived, there are therapists that can assist him to overcome the complexity of his emotions.

What he needs is actually a therapy!

I'll suggest a therapist to you if you need one. Chat me up via my signature.

Don't swindle her. Nothing can change a man's sexual orientation.. Forget all those psychology bullshit and conversation therapy. They don't work!!! Save your self the stress and read more, do more research and stop trying to claim what you know nothing about.

koyyes:


Think like a gay?

Let him have anals?

Are you OK?

Grow brain. Gay is sexually attracted to sane sex, how is it the same as anals? Girls that like anals are gays? That's the mistake you people make. Gaybsex is not same as anal sex. There are gays who. don't do anals and there are straight who do and enjoy anals

Duggedised12:
Did you attend all male boarding school?

Male boarding school doesn't make people gay. Stop all these stereotypes! People are gay cos they are gay and not cos dey wnet to boarding school

Shugargal:
Nothing changes any gay person, not even prayers.. though am sure of the lesbian folks, pray till tomorrow you can't change what someone is, talking from experience. madam is either you start doing the other wise or you take him for who he is. but omo having a gay hubby make sense die, this sex up and down from you guys won't be there, they don't even wanna know when you want it or not, weda you're tired or not, make man pikin pai one day ni? dem go rush me so.

from your write up, you are lesbian. I hope u dont deceive a straight guy into marriage? Lesbians should marry gays.

tiredoflife:
When a woman is materialistic this is what u end up with
U barely knew him
But he had the cash
U just shoved all the other guys cos to u they are broke
See wetin if u no get money hide ur face put u

Many ladies are like u
Unhappy marriages cos of materialism but they will lie its domestic violence

The deed as been done
Leave him alone.
He wont change
Pack and leave the marriage or he will dash u aids one day

You are a dumbfucck.

deuzgreat:

Male boarding school doesn't make people gay. Stop all these stereotypes! People are gay cos they are gay and not cos dey wnet to boarding school

The gays i know including lesbians picked it up from same sex boarding school and i am sure many people here can testify to it too.If you see it as a stereotype ,definitely your cup of tea ,not mine.


The bottom line here is gender segregation promotes sexual deviancy, same way that vatican has been fingered in homosexality and also sharia run environments are crawling with closet homos.

Sicilyjoe:
No need to suspect him, just try and dip ur finger in his anus and confirm it,

Anus is not same as sam sex. Dont open ur mouth to talk about something you don't know.

Rilwayne001:


What could have prompted a man to prefer fellow man when it comes to sex? The preference doesn't just come naturally I believe. If it does, we would have had homosexual as much as straights, but what's bringing the difference?

Based on what I have read and a little research, I discovered that some were psychological. Some male that were not well loved, vulnerable and not looked after as kids by their father have the tendency of turning into gays..When they couldn't get that love and approval they were yearning for they grow up finding that in the arm of another man.

Some were gay out of curiosity, some out of rebellion. But some were born with it..

The bottom line is if u choose to act on it, that what makes you gay.. that's why I said preferences

But if u don't want to do it or act on it, you can't be called gay because u weren't having any sexual relations with any one..they refer to such case as being in closet..

No knowledge is a waste in this world. I wish that people can use their data bundle wisely sometimes. even if it involved reading things that were not important. U never know when you can educate someone on that topic... I have read through some post here, felt really bad. This are people/ youths that might travel to stay in advanced Countries some day. If they mistakenly say even a little about what I have been reading here, they might end up in jail

Rilwayne001:


What could have prompted a man to prefer fellow man when it comes to sex? The preference doesn't just come naturally I believe. If it does, we would have had homosexual as much as straights, but what's bringing the difference?

There are gays everwhere even in your family bu you would never know. You expect them to say they are gay? They wld keep it and marry a lady like this op and then wahala would start. Use ur google and research, gays are everywhere same as lesbian u wld not just know. And if u think it's only bobriskies fem guys that are gay, ur are in for a shocker. Ur manly muscular, aggressive aohla males are gays. Only insiders know, it's all biological and inborn. Nothing prayer or anything can cure.

Ajaerof:
I accept all d blames, but am down psychologically plz I really help nw, no body to talk to

Now, this question I will ask you, will determine my advice for you,

Does he Bleep you well whenever you initiate the sex?

For real you can't really do anything about it,nothing can change him,he should just allow u have extra marital relationship,and then whenever he's good to have you better,because he's also enjoying himself,and keep the marriage going just for the sake of the kids...

Richy4:
Based on what you have written here, your husband is not gay. He is bisexual.. if he is gay, U will be a total turnoff when he sees u... No matter how sexxy you dress, nothing will stimulate or move him to have sex with u. As it is, he is playing on both field.. that's why his stuff can raise to accept u when u initiate sex..

Sorry that's who he is, There's nothing you can do about it..
U can either divorce him on grounds of cheating (based on that chat without letting anyone know with whom because u might endanger his life ) or u accept him the way he is.. that's just the cold fact .. It's kinda normal in advanced Countries.. I can just imagine how shocking it was for u

He's not bisexual. He is a wicked gay. He married her to conceal his status and keep people away from nagging him about marriage. If it was a woman you would all say she's lesbian.
I'm surprised at the weak advice she's being given because it's a gay and a man involved. Men, have you you forgotten to ask her what she did that the man is following other side dishes? Have you reminded her to look hot for him and cook his best dishes and pray for him?
The man is gay. No mistake of bisexuality. He just married her for the record. When he's tired of it he will find an excuse to divorce her and be with another man. I've seen this happen before.
He is a cheat. That man isn't loyal. She should dump him and find a man who actually wants her

These girls out there lately just because he is nothing cheating on you now you look for other way to frustrate him

REDBUNNY:
Nigerian women always acting foolish.
Your husband is gay.
You want to keep being married to him while he goes out and sleep with his boyfriends or you want to move out and get a life?
But no, you want stay there and cry, play victim, pray and do everything but get sense.

Lol. They have been brainwashed or fed idiocy for so long that they feel they must fight for finished marriages. Imagine someone asking how to live with a gay man

BRATISLAVA:

He's not bisexual. He is a wicked gay. He married her to conceal his status and keep people away from nagging him about marriage. If it was a woman you would all say she's lesbian.
I'm surprised at the weak advice she's being given because it's a gay and a man involved. Men, have you you forgotten to ask her what she did that the man is following other been? Have you reminded her to look hot for him and cook his best dishes and pray for him?
The man is gay. No mistake of bisexuality. He just married her for the record. When he's tired of it he will find an excuse to divorce her and be with another man. I've seen this happen before.
He is a cheat. That man isn't loyal. She should dump him and find a man who actually wants her

OK what advice would you like to give the OP? that is why she is here in the first place. Your nice comment might work on her situation.

Consult a genuine man of God for advice

madenigga:
He is gay. Dont confront him, cause if u do he might stop hiding it from u and start doing it openly.

Just tell him u want the both of u to be praying together, your prayer point should be u sentence to death and destruction anything that wants to spoil your marriage, he himself would be scared and start thinking about his actions

Why shouldn't she confront him? So what if he does it openly? She already knows. He's a cheat. She should dump him and get a life before he dumps her when he feels he has fulfilled all righteousness in having kids

Richy4:


OK what advice would you like to give the OP? that is why she is here in the first place. Your nice comment might work on her situation.

My advice from what I saw a gay man do to a woman is to leave him. He is only there to have children. He will soon cook up a story about her, then turn people against her, because most people are biased against women. Then he will divorce her so that he can continue living his life. His excuse will be that after devil fear women when people notice that he's not remarrying.
Advice is for her to leave him. Adultery is grounds for divorce

deuzgreat:

Grow brain. Gay is sexually attracted to sane sex, how is it the same as anals? Girls that like anals are gays? That's the mistake you people make. Gaybsex is not same as anal sex. There are gays who. don't do anals and there are straight who do and enjoy anals

What is this one saying?

Journey miss road.

So the op should go and submit her anus to her f@ggot husband to cure his mental illness abi?

You need psychiatric evaluation.

Ewu. I hope you get punctured in the anus one day. Let's see how much you will enjoy it.

Closet f@ggot.

justice12000:
Not every man that is no longer interested in sleeping with their wives or girlfriends are gay. Women make this stupid assumption all the time. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive anymore, maybe the way you smell down there irritates and makes him sick; happened to me with my ex, even if you give me 1 million, I won't sleep with her. Maybe he has health issue he doesn't want to tell you as a man, maybe it's stress or just lost interest in sex. Some men I know after they get married or even single can go years without sex; nothing wrong with them, just lack of interest. Respect his decision or seek divorce.

It's nice that your ready to defend men. But didn't you see where she says she saw a conversation between him and a small boy, asking him to shave next time, that clearly shows he was having relations with the boy?

Please madam do you guys live in Woji,Port harcourt ?
If so i will like to chat with you privately

Duggedised12:
The gays i know including lesbians picked it up from same sex boarding school and i am sure many people here can testify to it too.If you see it as a stereotype ,definitely your cup of tea ,not mine.


The bottom line here is gender segregation promotes sexual deviancy, same way that vatican has been fingered in homosexality and also sharia run environments are crawling with closet homos.

They didn't "pick" it up. They discovered it was in their nature from their. We all did things while young, we moved on and not stucked. They are stucked cos it is in their nature. Stop arguing anf get the facts. Boarding school didn't turn them, if they never went to boarding school, dey wld stl b gay and els cos sooner or later, the natire comes to glare. Some deny it and marry then they see marriage doesn't cure their gayness or lesbian whatever. Same sex schl could only have actes as catalyst. Thats how ppl label boarders as homos. Bad stereotype

koyyes:


You sure say na boy? abi na one dumb girl...I don't know where all these people come from with their rubbish mentality.

They see themselves as the liberal progressives

deuzgreat:

They didn't "pick" it up. They discovered it was in their nature from their. We all did things while young, we moved on and not stucked. They are stucked cos it is in their nature. Stop arguing anf get the facts. Boarding school didn't turn them, if they never went to boarding school, dey wld stl b gay and els cos sooner or later, the natire comes to glare. Some deny it and marry then they see marriage doesn't cure their gayness or lesbian whatever. Same sex schl could only have actes as catalyst. Thats how ppl label boarders as homos. Bad stereotype

lol ,nobody is born gay,its a habit just like any other habit picked up by an individual ,its just like any addiction out there.Go and read on the current president of the Philippines.

As for the bolded, please speak for yourself and yourself alone. Except you mean to tell me people are drug addicts because its their nature to be drug addicts and so they got stuck on it.lol.

All this narrative your likes give as excuses for their deviancy wont fly here as far as i am concerned go else where with it.

And i still say it again, gender segregated places such as sharia dominated countries(which is why homos are common in the north) and so on breed favourable grounds for sexual deviancy and make it easy for kids to pick it up at a young age,if you don't agree, take a hike.

Shugargal:
[b]Nothing changes any gay person, not even prayer[/b]s.. though am sure of the lesbian folks, pray till tomorrow you can't change what someone is, talking from experience. madam is either you start doing the other wise or you take him for who he is. but omo having a gay hubby make sense die, this sex up and down from you guys won't be there, they don't even wanna know when you want it or not, weda you're tired or not, make man pikin pai one day ni? dem go rush me so.

The current president of the Philippines, President Rodrigo Duterte, said at a public forum, that he used to be gay but that his current wife converted him from being gay to a regular heterosexual male; and as a result of their relationship, he is no longer attracted to men but rather, is now very much attracted to his wife - because of the great love and strong bond that they share.

Op, you should google the speech please. It should be available on YouTube.

It thus seem that a gay can change - if he really wants to; especially if he is in a relationship with the right (or non-judgmental), loving and knowledgeable woman.

I feel your pain but if you really want a solution, don't make this all about you because your husband is in pain too; and already feel condemned by society.

If a were you, I would aim for a win-win solution - that is in the best interest of all concerned.

I sincerely hope and pray that you find the right answers and make the decisions that are right for your family as a whole.

Good luck.

Ma'am ur husband is bisexual and nothing you or anyone else can do about it. Those that is advising you to start fasting and praying are just deceiving you cos ur prayers can never change who he is.
This is what you get when you criminalize ppl sexuality cos it doesn't suit you. There are millions of gays, lesbians and bisexuals out there living in closet waiting for the right time to get married to your sister or brother because society forced them to do so. And when they start exhibiting who they truly are, you will start complaining while you were the cause of it by trying to force them to what they are not.
Ma'am, gays are lovely and kind and from ur post, your husband isn't treating you bad except sexual aspect. It's left for you to accept him the way he is and build a happy marriage with him which only you and him knows his problem or divorce him and move on with ur life likewise him too.
There is absolutely nothing you can do that will change him.
If you think of exposing him instead, the shame will be shared between both of you equally which is not good for you as a woman too especially if you are still staying back in the marriage. Many women are in your shoes cos society put you and them into it and they decide to build their home and protect their husband while some divorced their husband.
The choice is urs to make but think deep and consult widely b4 taking decisions to avoid had i known.

BRATISLAVA:

My advice from what I saw a gay man do to a woman is to leave him. He is only there to have children. He will soon cook up a story about her, then turn people against her, because most people are biased against women. Then he will divorce her so that he can continue living his life. His excuse will be that after devil fear women when people notice that he's not remarrying.
Advice is for her to leave him. Adultery is grounds for divorce

OK I have read your comment maybe you should try again to read my earlier post. The one u attacked me on. This time slowly and see if there are differences between what u suggested and what I said.

BRATISLAVA:
They see themselves as the liberal progressives

Liberal progressives only talk about coexistence/divorce in cases like this.
That one is just an air head.

Richy4:


OK I have read your comment maybe you should try again to read my earlier post. The one u attacked me on. This time slowly and see if there are differences between what u suggested and what I said.

You said he's bisexual. That is not true. He's gay. I don't know why most men are afraid to admit it. And there's nothing to pray about or understand in gays. The only solution is divorce because he's been cheating on her and can never have true feelings for her. She is merely his scapegoat. You feel he doesn't see her as a total turn off, but he does. The children were his aim.
You said it is normal in other countries, it is not. The media has made you think so. Population of gays isn't enough to constitute a nuisance.

koyyes:


Liberal progressives only talk about coexistence/divorce in cases like this.

That one is just an air head.

Today I've seen a lot of things on the topic. Some solutions are not solutions but just confusion.