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Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by mzhorlah(f): 3:14pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Sarmiz24:we are entitled to our individual opinions sir 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by fergieboy: 3:15pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
After 2years |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Ugosample(m): 3:15pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
mzhorlah: That's more like it |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Nobody: 3:15pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Many people who are commenting aren't being objective. Ask any married person and they will tell you that adjusting to married life takes some effort. Marriage isn't something that happened in a day. You have to gradually adjust to the quirks and peculiarities of your spouse. Before having babies, you both should be in tango emotionally. Having a baby tends to share the affection from two into three. Also, finances MUST be considered. You must understand the financial implications of having a child. If you don't have a child yet, you and your spouse can still "manage" yourselves . You can't "manage" a baby/parenthood. What if your wife has to undergo Cesarian operation? That's about #150k for childbirth alone. We've not discussed ante-natal, baby clothes (which must be changed maybe every month or two), baby food, baby diaper, school fees when the time comes, and the overall responsibility of training a child properly. Don't go into something you're not prepared for. A friend decided with her husband to wait for three years...yes, three years before she got pregnant and they have a beautiful baby now. TheyreT doing very fine. If you're not thoroughly prepared, enjoy your spouse for now. Modified: I just heard toys are very expensive too. Think and plan well before plunging into the decision to give birth early .You see people who are pressuring you - mothers, friends, general talkatives - they won't be around when you're thinking of how to pay school fees. Now imagine if you give birth to TWINS! Those things I wrote, multiply them conveniently by TWO. You'll understand that responsibility isn't for children. TRIPLETS nko? I cannot even begin to can .God works in wonderful ways! 19 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Divay22(f): 3:16pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
2 years ![]() ![]() ![]() He should pls stay off me until am ready ![]() Lemme enjoy my marriage before their distraction 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Nobody: 3:16pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Richdad50: Bleep for one year, after that you get married. Instead of marrying and waiting for one year. For me marriage is because of having children. 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by MrNipplesLover(m): 3:17pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
your wife supposed don carry Belle like 4-5months before marriage Naaah! which kind quecion be this? 2 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by akdjr(m): 3:17pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Give her belle before you say for better for worse |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by dave4rella(m): 3:18pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
![]() At the changing room before the reception starts 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Amarisa(f): 3:18pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Richdad50: On point.I and hubby decided to wait for a year,initially I didn't agree..lol..on the month of our one year anniversary,I took in..now she's here,our lives has changed..our third anniversary was last month,I'm pregnant again.. ![]() It all depends on the individuals involved..I didn't take any contraceptive during the one year period.. 9 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by capitalzero: 3:19pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
donstan18: what about men with no or zero sperms? They should hang themselves? 2 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Tonymario58: 3:19pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Richdad50:What if the man dies along the enjoyment corridor wherefore he married for children. 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by obalola007(m): 3:20pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
It depends on the party involved |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Biskemi: 3:20pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Wait for at least a year to get to know one another very well emphasis on each others shortcomings and deal breakers. Before bringing kids into the setting. Just in case you realise you both are not compatible. You can walk away without complications. Even for those that are compatible it gives them time to enjoy one another's company because when children come along its a full time job oh no break whatsoever. Asides children it gives them enough time to construct their life in a direction they look forward to. 2 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by bleskid: 3:22pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
kpata kpata one yr |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by ufotty2001: 3:22pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
why not ask davido ... anytime is suitable forget about religion .. even before marriage is ok to me 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by coldFLARES1(m): 3:23pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Though I cannot claim to speak for others, I think, for guys (like me then) whose friends have started having their families, the plan to start one was estimated for 6 months after our wedding, after we may have defrayed a sizeable chunk of the wedding 'Igbese'. But according to God's account pregnancy came 3 months earlier and every other thing fell into place. If money dey, and baring other encumbrances , e good to start straight up after wedding. Nonetheless, God has the final say because some got wedded and had to be constrained to wait 17yrs thereafter to start a family. 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Okuda(m): 3:23pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Tela101: whatever furckin rocks your boat! |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by highbee02: 3:23pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
SoftP: U must be a chain smoker with this your meme, lo |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Richdad50(m): 3:25pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Thank you Amarisa Amarisa: 3 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by mercyviv(f): 3:26pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
As long as it takes to plan for the baby's arrival and upkeep. But then 2years wait on the average is alright. Meanwhile... Are you a teacher? Get FREE access to the best compilation of school lesson notes/plans, curriculum and exams. Visit my signature for details... 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by highbee02: 3:26pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
historica: It's good to test run the item/ equipment u want to buy before paying 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by TruthProphet: 3:28pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
jenifer007: You do know, having a child involves planning and preparations, not just bringing a child into the world because you feel it is what you ought to do after marriage or because others are doing it. What is the state of your finance after all the spending for wedding; have you planned for school fees, health insurance and all that stuff?? 2 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Nobody: 3:28pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Amarisa: Thank you! Please educate those saying "jump in" that having a pikin is responsibility! 4 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by cococandy(f): 3:29pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
As long as they want. It’s a personal something. 3 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by raphy(m): 3:29pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
when they at bouyant enough financially to raise children then they are good to go.some. women will see there husband who is us pushing a wheel barrow they will pop 6 kids sharp sharp thinking the country will pay them salary. they can't even allow the man to buy okoda first . any way. am not rushing to get Married when am ready its twins I want boy and girl 3 Likes |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Vasgas: 3:29pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
donstan18: Your last sentence is it an opinion or fact. 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by BIXYBABE: 3:29pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
donstan18:even if na d man get low sperm count abi 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by Vasgas: 3:30pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
donstan18: You don't mean it?? 1 Like |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by 12345baba(m): 3:31pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
Which kind yeye question be this? |
Re: After Marriage, How Long Should People Wait To Have Kids by TruthProphet: 3:31pm On Oct 10, 2019 |
donstan18: @bolded I hope your sisters or cousins don’t happen to have issues conceiving after marriage; if they do and are sent packing, please don’t come here to ask us what to do. 1 Like |
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