historica:
The latest trend is some men wait till their women gets pregnant before they start talking of marriage.

midnighter:


Very bad trend...making it awkward for the woman

In my place you can't marry a pregnant woman...you have to wait until she gives birth to the baby... it can get quite embarrassing if your parents are church officials

nairalandposter:


Good thing you said in your place, everywhere is not the same.

jenifer007:
My brother taking in should not be delayed all because you want to enjoy yourselves as couple..The joy of marriage especially in Africa is having children.It is better you start trying immediately after marriage because you will be surprised by the time you are ready,conception might also tell you they are not ready too.

Body differs

Delay is dangerous

midnighter:


Lol are you following me? Yeah it's good if it's not going to cause problems

THUNDER4real:
Funny question with joking answers.

Let's analyze:

If you say you will wait for 3 months to 1 year, does it mean no sex or your wife will be on family planning?

We humans are not God, if your wife is not on family planning( which is not 100% certified excluding Abstinence), you will wake up one day with pregnancy

Furthermore, I still see no reason, a newly wedded couple will start their lives with Family planning programs.?

There are some family planning programs that has adverse effect that can be detrimental to the woman.

God giveth and God taketh, Don't act too wise, so you won't be a candidate of looking for fruit of the womb.

spiritedtete:



I personally waited 1 year before i start shooting..

nairalandposter:


shooting what or who?

LewsTherin:
I will always advice to wait at least a year before tryimg for kids. Not so as to "sexually enjoy each other " but so as to get to know each other. No family, no extras, no one but you both. Then you know who the other person really is.

We waited 3 years before one pastor prayed one kind prayer like that wey no be im business.

I miss those early days.

We could just get up and go on a night out. Go to the movies. Dinner. Go to a concert. Take a weekend off just like that. We could go visit friends whenever we wanted and if the traffic got too bad, we go to a hotel somewhere for the night.

And yes the sex. Palour, kitchen, bathroom, any room.

I miss those days. Now everything is "where are the kids?" "Where do we keep the kids?" "The kids can't go there" "We have to hurry to pick up the kids" and of course "not so loud. You'll wake the kids up!!!"

I miss those early days.

nairalandposter:
No, I'm not following you.

I should ask if YOU are following ME.

donstan18:
I don't know for women, but I strongly believe that children are one of the major reasons why most men settle down.

Reason the day a man becomes a father is more memorable than his wedding day.

So I think it's proper not to wait for anything before making babies, especially these days where 70% of slay queens are womb-less. Start immediately to help you know if you married a fertile woman or not.


In fact, any lady that fails to take in at most, 2 months after wedding should be questioned or sent packing.

midnighter:


I tend to comment on posts without really noticing the moniker...forgive me , I can't remember quoting you

nairalandposter:


@ bolded

I believe I mentioned that about myself on another thread which you probably saw and are now quoting verbatim.

donstan18:
I don't know for women, but I strongly believe that children are one of the major reasons why most men settle down.

Reason the day a man becomes a father is more memorable than his wedding day.

So I think it's proper not to wait for anything before making babies, especially these days where 70% of slay queens are womb-less. Start immediately to help you know if you married a fertile woman or not.


In fact, any lady that fails to take in at most, 2 months after wedding should be questioned or sent packing.

AkupeMBANO:

from their monikers you shall know them.

Chill2:
Forget societal pressure nonsense, have a kid only when you can afford to raise one. No one will take up your responsibilities because you are following African norms. I have been married for more than a year, we not not ready for a baby yet. No one has the right to pressure you into raising kids. Let's stop all this African mindset that has taking us backwards.

nairalandposter:


If the woman is not complaining, other people including yourself should not complain for her.

Tela101:



Why so rude?

Chill2:
Forget societal pressure nonsense, have a kid only when you can afford to raise one. No one will take up your responsibilities because you are following African norms. I have been married for more than a year, we not not ready for a baby yet. No one has the right to pressure you into raising kids. Let's stop all this African mindset that has taking us backwards.

nairalandposter:


With time, you'll reveal more of yourself no doubt.

Quite sure this is a new moniker for you, your old ones must be somewhere.

joepepsy:
Are you out of your mind? A public forum you seek for advice on intimate issue like this?

joepepsy:
Are you out of your mind? A public forum you seek for advice on intimate issue like this?

midnighter:


I should say the same to you.

It seems I should watch you more closely so that I'll know when I'm apparently stealing words straight from your fingertips...since you think I couldn't possibly be thinking of my replies myself