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When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Toks2008(m): 9:52pm On Oct 11, 2019 |
Do you know that 99% of ladies who are still single at marriageable ages have no business with singlehood? Many ladies pray to GOD every now and then for a spouse but unknown to them, GOD has blocked his ears to their prayers...WHY? Because God has already given them a spouse but they rejected his choice for them due to the preconceived unrealistic standards they have already created in their minds of what a good husband should be. The average woman does not really want a good man or a good husband in the real sense but what she wants is her own fantasy idea of what a good husband is supposed to be, in order words, she already has her MIND MADE HUSBAND... Whilst men may get away with this mind-made choice because they are at a vantage position due to their ability to walk up to any lady of their choice, a lady may find It very difficult to do the same...maybe things would have been easier if ladies can walk up to the man that has their standards to decisively woo them and make them fall for them, propose to them and stay married to them ![]() Whilst I totally agree that it is perfectly ok to set a standard as regards the type of husband you want, it is sacrosanct that you do not cross that line from realistic standards to fantasy and you can't pray to GOD to give you a good husband and at the same time give him conditions...if you want GOD to lead a good husband to find you then allow him to do just that. *Work on yourself to be independent financially and you won't care if your man is jobless, broke or earns 30k per month at the moment cos the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary. *Sixpack or a good body frame does not equate to a good husband. *A big dck is not a guaranty that he will be a good husband. *That he is rich does not mean you are also rich. *You will hardly find a rich man that will be there for you whenever you need him. *It is very unrealistic to expect a good husband to act or look like the super romantic sexy F boys you have met in the past and hoping to turn a F boy into a husband is lame. *A man is not supposed to be cute like ladies who are regarded as the fairer sex or must be tall to be considered a good husband...what a man needs to have is a genuine desire for you. *You can never date a pastor, a divorcee, can't marry a man with kids, you can't date a workaholic and you want a rich man, you can't be with a guy who is not fluent, who talks too much, he has to belong to a certain tribe, religion or even church denomination, must have a certain skin color, must have good dress sense, must be based abroad or from a certain country, he must not be too young or too old as if age gap is a prerequisite for a good marriage... *He texts you or calls you too much or so into you and you feel he is not your type!...would you rather prefer he cares less? *You want a good guy or husband but you have bad manners, you act and dress indecently and your nude or semi-nude pics and videos are all over social media and you dare crave for a good man ![]() *Your feelings for a man as important as it is can not guaranty that he will have the same feelings for you and if you marry a man you have feelings for but does not have true feelings for, sister you are finished maritally. *You Have friend-zoned and you keep friend-zoning the good guys and running after bad boys like a jinxed lady and you still talk about how difficult it is to find good men... *You don't want to build a life with him cos you feel he will leave or cheat on you if he is made...strange!... I can go and on highlighting a series of unrealistic standards many ladies look for in a prospective good husband. No matter how you pray and no matter the number of the singles summit you attend, If you are not ready to forget your false standards and make a serious compromise, you may remain single for a very very long time. l believe that the most paramount desire of an unmarried lady is to have a GOOD husband who will love and care for her and any other thing should be secondary and when you pray to GOD FOR a husband, blank your mind from any Imaginary standard you have created for yourself and allow GOD HAVE HIS WAY or simply develop the balls to approach any guy that matches your imagination and stop bothering GOD. I hope this makes sense. 103 Likes 18 Shares
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Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 10:01pm On Oct 11, 2019 |
'I want a handsome,tall rich man' is a teenager's illusion. Just marry someone you have things in common with,lobatan. 96 Likes 4 Shares
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Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Toks2008(m): 11:08pm On Oct 11, 2019 |
Simplep: 7 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 11:15pm On Oct 11, 2019 |
I opted for growing a pair and finding my perfect man... Good luck to those who have to drop their standards ![]() 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by 24kmagic: 11:30pm On Oct 11, 2019 |
Until God himself comes down to tell Nigerians that He doesn't give a partner, people will keep on believing that he does. God no de give husband or wife. God doesn't have control over your happiness. He will bless whatever you bring to him. He learnt his lesson when Adam told him "the woman you gave me" . God doesn't want another Adam kind of situation. Him go just fold him hand de watch you as you de do your thing. So that by the time weh the idiot girl begin show you pepper. You no go say "God which kind wife you give me so"? All those people whe say de de fast make God reveal their life partner for them just de hallucinate. Because last last na man weh don toast you before you go go for, not someone sent from heaven. Anyways, I trust sheeples, they will never agree with me. So lemme just fvck off. 120 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Toks2008(m): 11:50pm On Oct 11, 2019 |
Guest007: What standards are you talking about? Do you have any power to decide the type of man that approaches you? You can only be lucky to find your standard. 44 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 12:04am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Guest007: Last last you go drop your standard. The country is extremely hard and there is no money in circulation. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 2:00am On Oct 12, 2019 |
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Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 2:02am On Oct 12, 2019 |
condemn: Your portion isn't mine... Money is abundant in my reality. ![]() 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Toks2008(m): 2:12am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Guest007: At least you chose the latter option. I wish many ladies will have same guts to approach a man. All the best. 8 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 2:35am On Oct 12, 2019 |
24kmagic:Perhaps. But I believe in some kinda force that gets things done in a way that we can explain. The universe? Perhaps, but positive reinforcement is key. 1 Like |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by rosalieene(f): 2:58am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Toks2008:for once, I agree with you. 8 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 3:16am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Guest007:u no be nigerian lady nau ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 3:43am On Oct 12, 2019 |
God has given us the freewill to choose for ourselves. 5 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 4:38am On Oct 12, 2019 |
lefulefu: Times are changing, niqqaz are popping pills so chicks have no time to be stuck in the past. If she waits then she shouldn't complain about small prick, and empty pockets, she should be grateful someone found her ![]() ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by SALTandFIRE: 6:34am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Good morning Nairaland I wan to use this avenue to apologize to everyone that felt offended due to some post I might have made on a certain thread. I am was just joking around. I am apologizing because I don't want to be a troll or being trolled. Forgive my tribal comment on sentiment It was a joke taken too far 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by skywalker240(m): 7:57am On Oct 12, 2019 |
24kmagic:sense scatter full your post like stock fish for thick egusi soup. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 9:22am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Guest007: Time will tell |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Nobody: 10:49am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Guest007:no truer word has been said ![]() ![]() 8 Likes
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Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:52am On Oct 12, 2019 |
24kmagic:.... ...You re correct.@ Op,God doesn't give one wife or husband. You find a wife and God blesses the union. 6 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:56am On Oct 12, 2019 |
The fact still remains that God will never give you what you hate, when you diligently pray, he will give you your heart desires. 13 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Tajbol4splend(m): 11:02am On Oct 12, 2019 |
It's in the default nature of man to seek perfection, but our judgement is too quick to know that perfect person, so we shut ourselves from the perfect person and keep looking for what we have found, eventually we end up with the wrong person because of time. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Raalsalghul: 11:03am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:Sometimes, you might not like the packaging of your heart desires. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Fountainofyouth(f): 11:09am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Raalsalghul: True sometimes, one time I met my heart desire then found out down there is too small for my heart desire, I left him ![]() Point is, all you want can't be packaged in one person, you just have to make do with it anyhow, but for me presently, I got a full package ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:23am On Oct 12, 2019 |
What's bad with having standards? The problem is ladies inability to detect the right man asap and hold onto him, because for the average woman in her single days, out of all the men that approached her, her kind must have been among, but she might not have been smart to know. 15 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Raalsalghul: 11:40am On Oct 12, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:This is a very smart comment and has been the bane of some single women who want to marry. It's hard to believe that out of all the men that've approached you in your life time, you've not seen your spec or something close to that. 19 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:44am On Oct 12, 2019 |
Exactly.... It all lies in the ability to be smart, or should I say lucky to know the right one when he shows up. For an average lady, how many guys approached her in her single days? Out of the several or few that approached her, her type might have been there. Raalsalghul: 4 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Raalsalghul: 11:46am On Oct 12, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: 16 Likes
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Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Cholls(m): 12:02pm On Oct 12, 2019 |
my brother's I just smh when ever I read this kind of topic about Nigerian Single Women, bcuz they will hear the truth but never accept it. There is a saying in Yoruba that “iri ni si ni isoni lojo” (you dress the way you want to be addressed). Which has always n will always be the rule to this game of finding the right one for you. 3 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by Toks2008(m): 3:30pm On Oct 12, 2019 |
Raalsalghul: Abi! |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by JONNYSPUTE(m): 3:43pm On Oct 12, 2019 |
Raalsalghul:.. Honestly. Most times I used to ask this question.I'm still yet to understand why its difficult for most ladies to make decisions when it comes to marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: When You Want Your Mind-Made husband. by LadyGCrueDKilaB(f): 4:26pm On Oct 12, 2019 |
Story I can never marry or date a broke hass ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
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