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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ecolime(m): 7:49am On Oct 13, 2019 |
From your writeup, it seems your husband has anger issues and you have ego issues as well. Your marriage is a young one and you guys can still make things work. Do not listen to rubbish advises online. Some are home wreckers while some are frustrated singles. I do not in anyway support emotional abuse in any form though. I believe some men react this way when they don't get sufficient financial support from their equally working partners. He might be overburdened financially. How well are you supporting him financially? 36 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Richardjcooper(m): 7:54am On Oct 13, 2019 |
You guys need space away from each other. I’m not trying to support divorce but some characters are unbearable and you should have noticed this during courtship. You might need the intervention of the elders in the family or better still a marriage counselor if he’s also willing to go through this route. This behavior doesn’t necessarily mean he’s cheating. No! If after the counseling and all and this unrepentant behavior continues I’ll advice you call it quits. It’s no good for your self esteem and mental health. In all I think you should pray about it. Maybe...just maybe...use your head 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by DONFASZY(m): 8:19am On Oct 13, 2019 |
SALTandFIRE: She is d nagging and alfa type dat want to fight n argue wit almost every tin U are already going for date outside as a woman Why tribe are u n ur religion A man is d head of d house n i read disrespectful words already frm u n no sign of lv U ve left ur matrimonial home 5 times...u r immatured for marriage in d first plc n must u Dont regret later if u dont make dis marriage work Go n beg ur husband for forgiveness and stop argument all d time with him Most divorced single mother regret dere actions after 1 month Your husband have anger issues and you know it so manipulate him and dont allow intruders to come into your marriage and whoever that is pushing u with bad advise of leaving your husband home is your worst enemy Stop all this and reconcile with your man You need a professional counselor to counsel you and your husband and be apologetic too Take ownership of your mistakes, shifting blame will never spark growth - Skynetfas Cargo Agency Contact us immediately for shipping biz WhAts app 08023958005 Www.scaexpress.com Info@scaexpress.com Skynetfas@scaexpress.com Freighthostshipping@scaexpress.com 29 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Zhuhilat: 10:42am On Oct 13, 2019 |
Thanks all. No i am not a Muslim. Couples will always have misunderstandings, we are 2 different people with different upbringing so we will always have mis understanding even siblings do. I just get tired of all the leave my house and stuff. How do I commit to a marriage financially (although, i do) and emotionally when i can be kicked out any day? Also isn't the house s ours? Secondly, how do I protect my child from all this? Also I believe that every time he apologizes, i tell myself that maybe it was my fault and then i just let it go and go out of my way to please him again. I do not give him space to work on it too in other words,enabling this to continue. Either ways thanks guys. 15 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Mstick: 10:52am On Oct 13, 2019 |
Madam you wouldn't get any reasonable advice on here , they will ask you to endure because most of them saw there fathers doing same to their mothers and she endured and they do same to their wives.They will see nothing wrong with your husband cheating rather they will bash and insult you. Think about yourself and what do YOU want. 36 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ecolime(m): 11:03am On Oct 13, 2019 |
Mstick:She never said her husband is cheating on her neither did anyone support such. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 11:08am On Oct 13, 2019 |
ecolime: She said she suspects that he is... anyway enduring a hardship is not necessarily bad... it depends on the end to which you do it. There are fruitful hardships that help people progress and there are unnecessary ones that just break one down 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ecolime(m): 11:23am On Oct 13, 2019 |
midnighter:No one wants her to endure hardships in marraige all her life. But she needs to find the root cause of her hubby's anger and be willing to make compromises. I want to believe the guy wasn't this cruel during their dating years. Like I said in my first submission, money issues and lack of substantial financial support from our wives makes most men aggressive. Is she really supporting her hubby? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 11:28am On Oct 13, 2019 |
ecolime: Yeah but at the same time every relationship has a rough patch I agree with you, she hasn't really said what actually his problem is She said in her first post that they both work and are very comfortable, then she said again that she contributes financially to their home For me I think it's a pride issue. She might come from a well-to-do home and he's trying to cut her down to size. Did you see the part where he felt bad when her mother sent them foodstuffs? He can't feel bad unless he feels that her family pities or looks down on him If he's feeling financially uncomfortable then he shouldn't feel somehow if his in-laws help him out...more men would complain that their wife's family is leeching from him 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ecolime(m): 11:41am On Oct 13, 2019 |
midnighter:He's probably not financially comfortable at the moment and feels insecure/embarrassed with the foodstuffs sent. Young men and ego. I see reasons with you on this. I would advise the wife to be calm and should never consider seeking attention outside. That's a NO NO. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 11:48am On Oct 13, 2019 |
ecolime: Yeah you also have a point there. I saw it as pride because he kept reminding her that he doesnt need her, like he doesnt need her (money/ family's money). And she said that money is not their problem But then he refused to buy just a small tin of baby food ![]() He is insecure about something.. either his money or his family background She has already been calm and its not working... they need counselling 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Winneygirl(f): 12:01pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Is he from a broken home? Some of these family issues carry on to the childrens lives. . You can't control what he does, and you can't expect perfection from him. You can treat him as an equal. This lies in the way you talk to him. He forgot something should not degenerate into an argument or fight. Instead, seek alternatives to the need. When you treat him as an equal, he will treat you as one. . One thing I use alot is the word 'Help'. It's not hard to hear me say 'Please Help me', 'Help your daughter ' , 'Help Nigeria'. Even when it is technically not a form of help. . You will be amazed to know the amount of favours I get when I use those words. . So why don't you start saying things like 'Help your Wife' instead of insisting on something. A little 'Thank you' goes a long way too. Little drops of water make a mighty ocean. 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Rexology: 12:02pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
The level of Jungle justice in Nigeria is alarming and should be checked. A young lady reported her husband's attitude of allegedly disrespecting and disregarding her, without hearing from the husband, judgment is been served against him already. Sadly this is what we have become in this Country. Since I have not heard from your husband to have a true picture of the situation, I am not in a position to advice you . Beware of the counsels you get from people online or offline. Most people advising you here are either single or had a failed marriage. In all remember that "a wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman destroys it" Peace! 33 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by BetterPoison: 12:09pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Mstick:why are you like this? 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by olabrinks(f): 12:38pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Rexology:The man is the head of the home. The leader, the example setter and the main component that keeps the house together. Once the man fails to excel in his responsibility as the head, the foundation becomes extremely faulty and the union begins to crumble. Women submit to responsible men. A Woman cannot build a home on sand. I think some men really need some marriage counselling because most of you are so unaware and lost. And before you quote me, I am not single, miserable or bitter. Thanks in advance. 48 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by blaise26abj(m): 1:33pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
my advice is that you should try as much as possible to avoid arguments . they are the root cause of the issues. Try everything you can to make it work. your husband has the emotional intelligence of a toddler. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Lonelypacifist6: 1:35pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:If you use movies to evaluate your relationship you'll fail ooo. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Zhuhilat: 1:40pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Thanks all. I appreciate. Truly speaking, i am just tired of it all. I do not know how a very comfortable young girl, working in the health sector, traveling to different countries for conferences ended up here. I feel like this is my life now, no light at the end of this tunnel No my husband isn’t broke we earn really really well and i am not doing baldly either. My biggest worry is for my child. Also when is enough is enough? I dont want to loose myself. I am just 26. So sorry for ranting but it is better than talking to family members that will gossip about you. 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Omobhukky(f): 1:42pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by nikkygal(f): 2:02pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: I feel your pain and I know how frustrating it can be when you feel so helpless with an irrational spouse. However, midnighter and ecolime are on to something and have asked you some pertinent questions, which you're yet to answer. Your marriage is still young and I believe these are still part of the teething problems, even though I see that your husband's ego & anger issues are at work here. I think answering their questions might shed more light into the reason for husband's attitude. Is it stemmed from an inferiority complex? Does he have certain reservations about your family? What kind of background or family structure is he from? Does he see your background or parents as intrusive & maybe disrespecting his actions? These answers might help in providing solutions in how to better deal with him going forward. One thing I would say is try to refrain from getting into arguments or wanting to have the last word with him. Also does he have any older person apart from his parents that he respects a lot & looks up to? That you can possibly discuss with? 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by swaggylomo: 2:23pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: It's one of those things, try to do your own best. Marriage is hard work 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by jesmond3945: 2:44pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
i know you are a muslim but run now to synagogue for your family deliverance. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by patitobeeb(m): 3:03pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
5 times already � I don't care about the details. if you are a Muslim, by the third count it automatically means a divorce no argument 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by NoToPile: 3:09pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Money is not this mans issue so why would he get upset that his mum in law brought food stuffs. A lot of mothers bring/ send foodstuffs it doesn't really matter if shes the wife or husbands mum, Its not strange for the mothers to do so. I will find it strange if a wifes mum sends village garri, yams every every and the husband gets upset and calling it disrespectful getting to a level of leave my house. Just try to avoid getting into arguments with him and let him be when he's ready he ll come back home 15 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ecolime(m): 3:56pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
NoToPile:Spot on! Just keep your calm and avoid any form of confrontation or argument. That's the best you can do for now. Also never you leave your home for your parent's as you both own it. Thank God he is not the physically abusive type. Focus on your well being and that of your baby. He will definitely come back to his senses. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by omonikiba(f): 3:57pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
My granma sends me garri, dry pepper, oil from village, oh, let me not forget she sends yam and plantain too, even melon. Mama can send the whole village if possible. My hubby enjoys it now. Initialy, he wasn't comfortable with it, I told him mama do that to all her children and am not an exception. She cant travel to your house empty handed, never. What we do is we give her money in return, there are times i send her money to get me oil. Not an insult at all. All caring mothers do this and it's not because they want to disrespect you. The only thing is give them the cash, more cash to cover the food stuffs and more, buy them cloths and things you know they need. Chikena. On arguing, you guys are still new, stop running upandan. My hubby n I argued alot when we newly got married. I had to learn to laugh when he start, when I start my own he goes to bed because we never liked the way we argued. You both are still in that 'know me know' you period. You want to look out, no good man out there ooo, forget getting love outside. Build your home. 37 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooooooks(m): 4:00pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
I have two sisters, a twin sister and a younger sister. If their husband ever tells them to leave the house, I'd advise them to pack out. This is how domestic abuse starts. After this, it will be one hot slap and so on. Please go for marriage counseling (preferably not religious) and if he continues, make contingency plans. Sorry my sister. Zhuhilat: 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooooooks(m): 4:02pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Thunder might need to pay you a visit. If her husband is constantly threatening to throw her out, where will she find love? No be for the outside. blackboy: 25 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooooooks(m): 4:03pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooooooks(m): 4:03pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Very important question. I hope she's not one of these 18 year old brides. Perhaps that's why her dad did not ask her to go back to her husband. ![]() Oksman: |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooooooks(m): 4:05pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
Is this not supposed to be done during the courtship period? omonikiba: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by cooooooks(m): 4:07pm On Oct 13, 2019 |
How has your comment helped her matter? If you have nothing to say, watch TV. What kind of a comment is "it's one of those things". swaggylomo: 2 Likes |
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