5. I’d like to know what you see in me.
Sadly, I have picked myself apart and criticized every little detail. I’ve been looked at strangely, told I’m weird, and have felt out of place time and time again. I’ve focused on my faults and allowed my introversion to hold me back from the things I really want. So, what is it that you see in me? Why do you want me when no one has desired me before?

I don’t inquire because I’m needy or want to put you on the spot, but because I’m learning to like the woman I am, too. My opinion of myself is warped, but as we, a team, begin to break down the walls I’ve built, I want to know that you really see me, that you’ve thought long and hard about my qualities, and perhaps you have a greater understanding of me than I have of myself.

Of course, you may be similar to me — introverted, possibly socially anxious — in which case, we can work through our struggles together. I’ve always been hyper-aware of my surroundings and observant of others, and I’m going to take plenty of notice of your talents, strengths, and interests. I’m also going to make myself aware of the things you don’t like or that make you uneasy so we can learn to commingle well and continue to grow as a unit.

It is my hope that no matter how similar or different our personalities are, that I am with someone who accepts me and loves me for who I am — and that you let me love you back tenfold. Of course, I’m not one to make the first move, and if you come on too strong, I’ll likely back away. Approach me as a friend instead and let romance evolve naturally between us. Dating an introvert doesn’t have to be difficult or scary, and now that you know me a little better, perhaps you’ll take a chance on me.

Introvertdear

babtoundey:
And I am wearing black.
I wore it yesterday and day before.
Never thought how that came to be.
It's simply weird!

I thought I was alone

raydatluvs:
I'll like to recommend a book which I think contributed to my very good esteem of myself even though I'm an introvert- attitude is everything

Reading it, you'll understand that you should not weigh yourself by circumstances you cannot control eg someone treating you awfully even though you were kind or a partner cheating on you.

As introverts, most times our actions tend to well thought out and are often good, meaning by default we're enough but it's when we begin to judge other people's reactions toward us that doubts creep in. Someone is insulting and we think it's our fault or someone isn't interested in us and we feel we're not good enough. And rightly so as it's our nature to overanalyze things, we're thorough like that.

Make it conscious to first decide how much impact and control you had in this outcome because it'll be unkind to yourself if someone else make most of the decisions and you're beating yourself up. Try this and I believe you'll have less worry

what manna of man are u?

Ajoboss:
what manna of man are u?

the one that falls after intense prayers .

elguaje:


Black is our color. ... introverts are more into warm colors like Red and Black. I always used to think, as to why is this the case.

I'm a core introvert and I don't like black, blue is my favorite color and my second fav is white

Hello to all the intoverts in the house.

I never knew a lounge like this existed on Nairaland, glad I found out.

Before now, I've been quite depressed thinking I was suffering from low self-esteem considering the traumatic experience I suffered in the hand of my uncle's wife after my mom died.

But reading through most of the comments, I'm happy knowing am not alone. I feel so much relief.

God bless the OP that started this post.

SilverG33k:


I'm a core introvert and I don't like black, blue is my favorite color and my second fav is white

Good,there's always an exception

mrssomebody:
I think we find it difficult making friends too..I need new friends..pm me if it's not too much stress because I understand how hard getting to know new people can be.

I sent you a pm.

To anyone else looking to make new friends, please send me a pm. Want new friends as well. Extroverted, fun people welcome too

Adarrel:


I sent you a pm.

To anyone else looking to make new friends, please send me a pm. Want new friends as well. Extroverted, fun people welcome too

friend recruitment lol. I replied already

I sent you two pms, kindly check. I'm also open to this if anyone wants a cool chat buddy, pm me.

mrssomebody:
friend recruitment lol. I replied already

how are PMs sent.

dunno though.

Adarrel:


I sent you a pm.

To anyone else looking to make new friends, please send me a pm. Want new friends as well. Extroverted, fun people welcome too

nice
I like this..
Also sent u a pm

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Wow. I can't believe what I just stumbled on. I've spend the last 7 yrs thinking there are just a few persons like me. Wow this thread just made my day.

Something I've learnt overtime being an extreme introvert is to try as much as I can to be happy.

As an introvert, you'll experience sadness to the core, and even depression which most times comes from you being much concerned about how people treat you after you've been homely and kind to everyone.

But guess what, no one cares about you. My idea, is to always say the words, "am happy" "I love myself" "I respect myself", just like who you're, stop thinking there's something wrong cos nothing is wrong.

I noticed I become unhappy when I try hard to change who I am, so love yourself and always put your interest first in any action you take.

What's in for me? that's the question I ask myself all the type, and it has helped me be more proud of myself.

I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

skultrick:
I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

I don't know if introversion is the cause but I had same issues in school, I am this intelligent guy that people come to meet for help, I like knowing things by understanding it and I hate cramming and it affected my education too.

I was looking for job and I had interest in programming but during the period I was searching I was at home morning till evening and I was lazy studying web development rather I preferred watching film and playing games but when I got the small job am managing that's when I become serious every day developing myself immediately I come from work.

It may be your state of mind that determines your motivation.

scave:


I don't know if introversion is the cause but I had same issues in school, I am this intelligent guy that people come to meet for help, I like knowing things by understanding it and I hate cramming and it affected my education too.

I was looking for job and I had interest in programming but during the period I was searching I was at home morning till evening and I was lazy studying web development rather I preferred watching film and playing games but when I got the small job am managing that's when I become serious every day developing myself immediately I come from work.

It may be your state of mind that determines your motivation.

@Scave, you sounded so familiar, I would like to see more response.

@ the bolded, I think you're right about the state of mind thing. Seems like meeting and interacting more could help.

Thanks for your time.

skultrick:
I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

Exactly what I am going through... Having this big picture in mind to bring to reality but when I get really free after work , I just surf Internet and do other things. But if given a task to do, OMG I will work like my life depends on it.

Is this due to being an introvert or having lack of commitment.

skultrick:



@Scave, you sounded so familiar, I would like to see more response.

@ the bolded, I think you're right about the state of mind thing. Seems like meeting and interacting more could help.

Thanks for your time.

Meeting people helps especially when you not happy with your current state, I channel my anger to personal development.

jessysparkles:


Exactly what I am going through... Having this big picture in mind to bring to reality but when I get really free after work , I just surf Internet and do other things. But if given a task to do, OMG I will work like my life depends on it.

Is this due to being an introvert or having lack of commitment.

That's me!!

Most of us just rather blame the supposed disease of introversion for our shortcomings( well, it's convenient) rather than put in actually work in our relationships or commitments.

I'm currently reading seven habits of highly effective People and the first of them is proactivity meaning we all have unlimited capabilities beyond our beautiful introverted shells if only we decide consciously to put effort to them.

I'm really sadden anytime I find introvert self doubting or limiting their lives to oh I'm an introvert. God knows I relate with the getting easily bored but make it a conscious decision to put extra effort in these activities, in your relationships- accept it would never always be intriguing and communicate with your partner, even in business and any other activity that involves a second person participation.

You know as introverts, we tend to be very independent and very effective at it too but there's a higher level of effectiveness which is interdependence. Strive for that!

Apus:




That's me!!

Lol..... Anyone with an idea on how to go about this?? Alot of us has this issue....

The best way to help yourself as an introvert is to surround yourself with people who loves you and understand you.

elguaje:
The best way to help yourself as an introvert is to surround yourself with people who loves you and understand you.

I know I'm pretty much surrounded by people who "love" me but at a point I get tired and crave for my solitude. I know I can easily switch moods and be sociable around people and I also tend to not let people discover me easily...just prefer being weird.

In relation to boredom or procrastination which are problems listed above, I just think it is a matter of how much importance you attach to would be "achievements".

Personally, if there is financial reward attached to a project, I am up for it till completion. On the other hand, working on something with future rewards in mind can be seen as a boring task but if it must be done, then you should apply yourself.

Stave of procrastination by thinking about the rewards which might be emotional, physical, spiritual and financial.

You do not enjoy reward by wishing but having completed the required task. To your success.

skultrick:
I want to ask a question about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

I don't know if this experience of mine is associated with my introverted nature, or something else which is why I've brought it here to know if anyone else is battling with same problem.

Okay, am the guy who's into web development and programming, and ideas are abound (thanks to my introverted nature). I make 6-figures monthly already from my properties online, I've well taught plans to increase this (at least 95% success rate), but the biggest problem I've experience now is that am too lazy to get working on this projects that need my attention.

So, my question to the house is, do you feel overwhelmed with the tasks ahead and prefer to lie down there browsing through the internet, sit down there thinking, reading that interesting story or perhaps find a way to while away time rather than get working on the job?

You only get the best from me when am challenged. I loose interest in everything easily, it has affected my relationship with my lady badly, academics and business.

Please is there any one else here dealing with commitment issues, have you been able to overcome it, and how did you go about it?

Thank you for your time and response.

yes

Same with me

I loose interest in something very very fast

I remember learning coding and all of a sudden I lost interested and till now I keep postponing when I'll start learning it again

Even in school, within me and my previous performance am a naturally intelligent person but I find it hard to open my book unlike when I entered newly cus I've lost interested in school and am not even halfway done.

Vibesking:

I'm the kinda guy that'll rather take a bullet than come out in front of the class to "say a little about myself."

For many years I tried to deny who I really am. I'm an introvert. I hate crowd. I detest small talks. I just wanna be on my own.

I question everything. I question life. I question God. I question reality. I question myself. My mind runs wild and I tend to overthink things.

I'm a typical misfit. You can't associate me with a group. I'm a one man army pointing my own gun to my own head.

I feel people don't understand me, but I can't blame them. I don't even fully understand myself.

I'm an outcast. I like strange things. My favourite colour is black and I put it on everyday.

‌To me, black is not just a colour, its an expression. It represents what I feel inside–void. formless. empty. Lost. Calm. Peace. Chaos.

Lol, this is weird cos you perfectly described me...

and as for the all black? A friend (girl) had to buy different colours of shirts for me just so I could wear a different colour...

I never wore them.

When people be like "I don't understand you" I am always like "I don't even understand me"

michealdeco:
yes

Same with me

I loose interest in something very very fast

I remember learning coding and all of a sudden I lost interested and till now I keep postponing when I'll start learning it again

Even in school, within me and my previous performance am a naturally intelligent person but I find it hard to open my book unlike when I entered newly cus I've lost interested in school and am not even halfway done.

I also find it hard to read, until I was place on probation, then the As, B's started flying in, and my course adviser was marveled. Challenges are the only way I put in my best.

Just encourage yourself, remind yourself why you need to put in the work.

A lot of people have suggested going out more which is a very big challenge for me. But am ready to take on it.

suregalluv:


I know I'm pretty much surrounded by people who "love" me but at a point I get tired and crave for my solitude. I know I can easily switch moods and be sociable around people and I also tend to not let people discover me easily...just prefer being weird.

well, settling in a new environment is hard enough for us and not being surrounded by those people who understand you doesn't help. Kind of situation I'm in.

Hello everyone
I just came across this post and i am really so excited
I am an introvert and also suffer from anxiety disorder and one of the symptoms is panic attack

This has not been easy because i am married with kids but the good thing is that i no longer have OCD and sleeping paralysis,thanks to the drugs given to me back then by my psychiatrist.

I have stopped seeing the psychiatrist though because i was getting addicted to the drugs and I don’t want to live my life on drugs

Please I would like to know if there’s anyone out there going through this and how they’ve been able to handle this so far