Hello people, please your kind advice is needed here.
sometimes in 2013 My Aunt whose been married for a decade without a child, opted for an adoption of A baby boy after reaching an agreement with her husband.

they adopted the child In mid December that same year, two years later she conceived and delivered of A baby boy.

there has been a bit of controversy on who is the First SON.

sincerely speaking who should be the first SON?

Nna17:
Hello people, please your kind advice is needed here.
sometimes in 2013 My Aunt whose been married for a decade without a child, opted for an adoption of A baby boy after reaching an agreement with her husband.

they adopted the child In mid December that same year, two years later she conceived and delivered of A baby boy.

there has been a bit of controversy on who is the First SON.

sincerely speaking who should be the first SON?

Who ever was born first obviously!

The biological son of course!

The adopted son is the older son and the first son. It doesn't matter that he was adopted.
They should treat them equally, not start introducing unnecessary disparities like this into their midst.

This one is tough but blood is thicker than water

The biological son is the first son, they should explain to the adopted son that he was adopted

The adopted son is still the first son, let them leave it at that.

this should not even be an issue. later if the adopted son kill of una now . you guys will say he is evil

If you can’t treat your adopted child as you would your bio child then you’ve no business adopting a child.

The first son is the adopted kid because he was born first. TF is wrong with people?

^^^ What's the meaning of the biological son is the first son?

Please if you will not treat an adopted child who has taken your name and has been integrated into the family as a heir,you have no business with adoption.

If i ever get adopted and grow up to be treated like Esau who gave up his first born rights,i'll wait for an important family gathering,see that everyone is in and secretly strap myself with an IED and wipe the whole family.

^^The above statement is just a joke but questioning the rights of the adopted son is just so wrong.

Nigerians we are not ripe for many things sha.

I keep realizing that we cannot use oyibo methods to solve most of our problems.

Adoption means the child is yours.

If you are still asking who the first son is after adopting a son, there is a problem.

BTW, doesn't the child have the family surname?

bukatyne:
Nigerians we are not ripe for many things sha.

I keep realizing that we cannot use oyibo methods to solve most of our problems.

Adoption means the child is yours.

If you are still asking who the first son is after adopting a son, there is a problem.

BTW, doesn't the child have the family surname?

That the question even crossed the parent's minds is bad enough, they are even debating it with extended family. Unbelievable

Nna17:
Hello people, please your kind advice is needed here.
sometimes in 2013 My Aunt whose been married for a decade without a child, opted for an adoption of A baby boy after reaching an agreement with her husband.

they adopted the child In mid December that same year, two years later she conceived and delivered of A baby boy.

there has been a bit of controversy on who is the First SON.

sincerely speaking who should be the first SON?

Your thread title "Who should be the first son" is alarming. There's nothing like "Who should be", as if the assumed "position" is debatable or ambiguous.

I assume you mean who is the first son.

As people have told you, the first son is the oldest child.

The adopted one is the first. There's no need for this question, unless you want to kill him

bukatyne:
Nigerians we are not ripe for many things sha.

I keep realizing that we cannot use oyibo methods to solve most of our problems.

Adoption means the child is yours.

If you are still asking who the first son is after adopting a son, there is a problem.

BTW, doesn't the child have the family surname?

Laugh wan kill me after reading your comments. You are right my sister. We are not ripe for certain things as Nigerians.

That they are even debating it is already a problem, meaning the possibility of treating, according all rights and privileges due the adopted son like their biological child is very remote, either now or in the future.

Should this be a question let alone causing any issue in the family? Adoption mean accepting a child as yours. Meaning you give the child your name, love and everything. It doesn’t matter if one child is biological or adopted. He is their son, meaning the adopted is the first child and son. What the hell is wrong with you people? Nigerians adopt child not for love but for the saying that one child begets another. And once they get that other child, the adopted becomes a nobody to them. Phew! You people play too much! To think some people commented saying it’s the biological child makes me shiver. Selfish people!

ogawisdom:
This one is tough but blood is thicker than water

The biological son is the first son, they should explain to the adopted son that he was adopted

The actual meaning of the full version of the emboldened quote is the opposite of what people think it is: "The blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb".

The adopted son is the first son.

The adopted child is the first son. Which kind question be this?

sholay2011:

The actual meaning of the full version of the emboldened quote is the opposite of what people think it is: "The blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb".

The adopted son is the first son.

Woah! I had no idea.

Why did they adopt in the first place?

That's the results when you copied what you have no knowledge about

The biological son is the first son.

Here to learn & Juxtapose.

elektra:


That the question even crossed the parent's minds is bad enough, they are even debating it with extended family. Unbpelievable

you don old for nairaland oo

Kisses

Prettiepearlz:
Should this be a question let alone causing any issue in the family? Adoption mean accepting a child as yours. Meaning you give the child your name, love and everything. It doesn’t matter if one child is biological or adopted. He is their son, meaning the adopted is the first child and son. What the hell is wrong with you people? Nigerians adopt child not for love but for the saying that one child begets another. And once they get that other child, the adopted becomes a nobody to them. Phew! You people play too much! To think some people commented saying it’s the biological child makes me shiver. Selfish people!

bukatyne:
Nigerians we are not ripe for many things sha.

I keep realizing that we cannot use oyibo methods to solve most of our problems.

Adoption means the child is yours.

If you are still asking who the first son is after adopting a son, there is a problem.

BTW, doesn't the child have the family surname?

This my sister sef.. Very funny

Smh!!! The minds of some Nigerians, WTF is wrong with you people

Lmaooooo. Nigerians!!! Worlds biggest comedians. This is why adoption mostly fails in Nigeria because once they give birth to their own child, the adopted child becomes like an inconvenience. It’s cultural because even extended families will not accept a child that is not related by blood. Nigerian culture does not have space for adoption. It’s seen as charity and not family.

Let’s assume they didn’t get to have their biological child, would this question have come about?

The adopted Son is the first son...

This question shouldn't come up at all...mtchew..

Human beings are wicked sha.
You adopted this boy not because of love in your heart but becasue you felt you could never have a child of your own. Now that this boy's entrance into your home has opened doors, you want to relegate him to the background.
God is watching you o.
Please, the adopted son is the 1st child in that family.
Leave a will and share things equally between them in order to avoid cultures that would deprive younger siblings of an inheritance. That way, you would have done right by your children

liberalchick:
If you can’t treat your adopted child as you would your bio child then you’ve no business adopting a child.

End of story!
They just adopted that boy to bid time. What a shame!