Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Nobody: 5:37pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Firstorderwizard: I'm just tired of naija gals. How can a gal be trolling you, disturbing your life,always hanging around even when i maltreat her etc for almost 3years only for me to finally try to upgrade her to a main chick and propose to her and boom she suddenly starts forming hard to get on a very serious level. lol.. Wise people don't hang around something they can't have for too long.. They move on eventually.. You're probably late bro .. Don't let this deter you though.. Perhaps, it's just her way of punishing you for the years you left her in the cold.. She probably just wanna feel good about herself . |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by phylshan: 5:38pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Firstorderwizard: I'm just tired of naija gals. How can a gal be trolling you, disturbing your life,always hanging around even when i maltreat her etc for almost 3years only for me to finally try to upgrade her to a main chick and propose to her and boom she suddenly starts forming hard to get on a very serious level. Like seriously? |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by daxclusive1: 5:39pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
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Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Nobody: 5:40pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I have a bestie, a childhood friend, when I get married, the closeness and all will definitely reduce yeah, but I will never forget or do away with him cos I'm married, nah. why not marry him? 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by gurunlocker: 5:41pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
This is a nice thread compared to that useless and unfortunate thread posted on FP earlier
"Your boyfriend is not your husband" 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by DameB(f): 5:41pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Firstorderwizard: I'm just tired of naija gals. How can a gal be trolling you, disturbing your life,always hanging around even when i maltreat her etc for almost 3years only for me to finally try to upgrade her to a main chick and propose to her and boom she suddenly starts forming hard to get on a very serious level. Lol.... It's payback for all those times you maltreated her |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by anthonyuncle(m): 5:43pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
wait o! shey them don dey argue change of surname for marriage? wetin musa no go see for gate |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by JJOF(m): 5:46pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Ryan03: One sided write up. So guys don't also have the bestie and ex issue? Why does it have to be only the lady who should let go if bestie and ex. It should be same for both sides Shey u no see the title of the thread ni? 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Fountainofyouth(f): 5:46pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
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Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Kingjames(m): 5:47pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Ryan03: One sided write up. So guys don't also have the bestie and ex issue? Why does it have to be only the lady who should let go if bestie and ex. It should be same for both sides prime suspect identified |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Fountainofyouth(f): 5:47pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
anthonyuncle: wait o! shey them don dey argue change of surname for marriage? wetin musa no go see for gate Same way y"all argue about bride price, duh...... 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by JJOF(m): 5:50pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:
Same way y"all argue about bride price, duh...... Ayam nuh understanding |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by goat22: 5:57pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:
I have no feelings for him.
Your foolishness has advanced degree. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Fountainofyouth(f): 5:59pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
goat22:
Your foolishness has advanced degree. You are a goat. 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Nobody: 6:01pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I have a bestie, a childhood friend, when I get married, the closeness and all will definitely reduce yeah, but I will never forget or do away with him cos I'm married, nah. Has he ever fucckkked you? And shouldn't you guys consider marriage since you are this close? |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by noisy45(m): 6:04pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
jibrilELsudan: The ultimate thing she must agree on before engaging her is to always suck your hard cuck and she must let you shoot your hot cum in her mouth. Wa gbe eyi |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Nobody: 6:08pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:
I have no feelings for him. what sort of feeling are you talking about? you have no feeling for him but still want him around while married to another man? 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Jokerman(m): 6:10pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:
I have no feelings for him. Then why keep contact with the so called bestie at all?? |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by nwafresh(m): 6:18pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I have a bestie, a childhood friend, when I get married, the closeness and all will definitely reduce yeah, but I will never forget or do away with him cos I'm married, nah. When you're ready for marriage, you'll forget your parents |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by bonnyhope: 6:19pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
raphroye:
The list is not complete without denomination Thank you, denomination ia also key in taking that engagement decision 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by mechanics(m): 6:24pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Number 6 is a must na, but some still add their maiden name to the surname. |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by bonnyhope: 6:27pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:
I have no feelings for him. Then detach yourself, you don't have feeling for him but you will still allow him to DIG you. Nigerian girls and feeling!!! |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Sheuns(m): 6:28pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Ryan03: One sided write up. So guys don't also have the bestie and ex issue? Why does it have to be only the lady who should let go if bestie and ex. It should be same for both sides The post said before dating a lady. So it’s only logical it tilts towards the ladies. |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by bonnyhope: 6:32pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I have a bestie, a childhood friend, when I get married, the closeness and all will definitely reduce yeah, but I will never forget or do away with him cos I'm married, nah. THE PROBABILITY THAT YOU WILL CHEAT IN YOUR MARRIAGE IS 99.9% |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Dimex03(m): 6:33pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Writercruze: Arguments and disagreements are part of every relationship. It doesn’t matter how much you love your partner; there’s always something to argue or disagree over.
But there are certain things that you must agree on before taking your relationship to the next level. Otherwise, the relationship may not stand the test of time.
Like I always tell people, love is not the most important consideration when choosing a life partner. Some people are madly in love with themselves, but their marriage didn’t last. Do know why? It’s because they fail to agree on some sensitive issues.
So, if you are dating a Nigerian lady, ensure you agree on certain things before taking the relationship seriously. So, in this article, you will learn the things to agree on before engaging a Nigerian lady.
Crucial Things to Agree on Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady
#1. Commitment
If there’s no commitment in a marriage, such union will not stand the test of time. One partner will always feel cheated and this will degenerate to a serious marital crisis.
So, before you decide to engage her, ensure that you guys share the same view on commitment. Every beautiful or successful marriage, you see is a function of both partners’ commitment.
And once you discover that the lady isn’t ready for commitment, please don’t engage her. She can never give you a good home. Trust me; nothing frustrates a man than having a wife who’s not committed to the marriage.
It’s better to break up a five years relationship than marrying someone who will not be loyal to the marriage.
#2. Privacy
This is another area Nigerian couples often have issues in marriage. Ensure you agree on this with your girlfriend before taking the relationship to the next level.
Privacy in this context has to do with access to your cell phones and other personal belongings. If you guys both agree that you want to be open with each other, it’s okay.
This means that your girlfriend has your phone pin or pattern and you have hers too. It also indicates that you can sneak into her phone and check what she is doing and who she’s chatting with. Similarly, she can do the same with you.
If you both agree on this and it has been working for you guys for a while. Then you are in the right direction.
#3. Bestie And Ex
You see these two guys – Bestie and Ex, they have destroyed many homes. About 67% of infidelity in marriages are with Besties and Ex. Yes, it’s that serious.
If you are dating a Nigerian lady, ensure you guys agree on the fact that no male besties or unnecessary contact with Ex. Don’t take the relationship to the next level if you guys haven’t agreed on this.
My friend had a terrible experience with his girlfriend during our NYSC days. His girlfriend was always around a guy who she claimed was her best friend. According to her, the Akwa Ibom boy was like a brother to her, nothing more.
My friend innocently allowed things to go because he wanted to be a gentleman. Guess what happened? He met the so-called bestie in banging his girlfriend. It was a terrible experience, and they ended the relationship.
Imagined my guy didn’t discover this thing on time… What do you think would have happened? The bestie would have still been banging her in my friend’s house.
If you are dating a Nigerian girl who’s fond of contacting her ex all the time, don’t take that relationship seriously. You guys can still be having fun together, but it will be dangerous to marry such lady. Okafor law is dangerous and never allow anybody to manifest it on your woman.
#4. How You Settle Disputes
I have always mentioned that there’s no perfect relationship anywhere. To the best of my knowledge, you only see perfect relationships in Zeeworld, Nollywood, etc.
So, if you are expecting a relationship without disputes or fight, you are living in a fool’s paradise.
It doesn’t matter how many times you fight in a relationship. What matters is how you guys settle your disputes.
If your lady always shuts down and gives you the silent treatment after every argument, try to work on it before engaging her. If you can’t find your way around it, then she is not your soulmate.
How will you feel if your wife is keeping malice with you over a little disagreement? It won’t make sense.
#5. Lifestyle
Lifestyle is another area you must agree on. If your girlfriend is living a lifestyle you don’t like, try to discuss it with her. Don’t allow love to accept what will not work for you. It will never end well for you.
If she goes to clubs and parties, talk to her about it. And if you guys aren’t on the same page about it, don’t take the relationship seriously. You will always have severe issues with her if your lifestyle differs from hers.
#6. The Name Game
This is another important area you should agree on. Do you want her to change her surname to yours? If yes, discuss it with her while dating.
Some ‘Nigerian babes dey form feminism’, they may not want to change their surnames. But if you discuss this from the onset, you will not have issues with it.
#7. Careers
Career is a sensitive area that must be discussed before you take the relationship to the next level.
If both of you are working, is her career going to affect your family? For instance, if you are a banker and your girlfriend whom you want to marry is also a banker, how do you cope? It won’t be easy.
An ambitious career woman wants to make it to the top of her career ladder may not have time for the kids. And if this isn’t something you can take, quietly work out of the relationship. It’s better than having issues in future.
Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/7-things-to-agree-on-before-engaging-a-nigerian-lady/
The number 1 and 3 ehn solid |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Nobody: 6:37pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
iCauseTrouble: 8. Check the radius, diameter and circumference of her punanii. Yes oh. If na borehole, Japa FC |
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Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Kokaine(m): 6:40pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
RedCreme21:
i agree with most of the things on the list like commitment. As for the bestie issue, you partner ought to be closest friend. But it applys to both males and females. not easy. Especially if your best female friend happened to be funny and your wife isn't. Men are naturally funny. Women are not. Its hard to meet a funny girl. |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by Candycrushy(f): 6:48pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
True to some extent tho...it all still boils down to understanding... |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by gonkin(m): 6:55pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
It's like I'm cursed with that ex boyfriend issue. Infact I really dont wanna hear ex from a girlfriend's mouth cuz thats like a threat to me 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by womenareapes: 6:57pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
Writercruze: Arguments and disagreements are part of every relationship. It doesn’t matter how much you love your partner; there’s always something to argue or disagree over.
But there are certain things that you must agree on before taking your relationship to the next level. Otherwise, the relationship may not stand the test of time.
Like I always tell people, love is not the most important consideration when choosing a life partner. Some people are madly in love with themselves, but their marriage didn’t last. Do know why? It’s because they fail to agree on some sensitive issues.
So, if you are dating a Nigerian lady, ensure you agree on certain things before taking the relationship seriously. So, in this article, you will learn the things to agree on before engaging a Nigerian lady.
Crucial Things to Agree on Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady
#1. Commitment
If there’s no commitment in a marriage, such union will not stand the test of time. One partner will always feel cheated and this will degenerate to a serious marital crisis.
So, before you decide to engage her, ensure that you guys share the same view on commitment. Every beautiful or successful marriage, you see is a function of both partners’ commitment.
And once you discover that the lady isn’t ready for commitment, please don’t engage her. She can never give you a good home. Trust me; nothing frustrates a man than having a wife who’s not committed to the marriage.
It’s better to break up a five years relationship than marrying someone who will not be loyal to the marriage.
#2. Privacy
This is another area Nigerian couples often have issues in marriage. Ensure you agree on this with your girlfriend before taking the relationship to the next level.
Privacy in this context has to do with access to your cell phones and other personal belongings. If you guys both agree that you want to be open with each other, it’s okay.
This means that your girlfriend has your phone pin or pattern and you have hers too. It also indicates that you can sneak into her phone and check what she is doing and who she’s chatting with. Similarly, she can do the same with you.
If you both agree on this and it has been working for you guys for a while. Then you are in the right direction.
#3. Bestie And Ex
You see these two guys – Bestie and Ex, they have destroyed many homes. About 67% of infidelity in marriages are with Besties and Ex. Yes, it’s that serious.
If you are dating a Nigerian lady, ensure you guys agree on the fact that no male besties or unnecessary contact with Ex. Don’t take the relationship to the next level if you guys haven’t agreed on this.
My friend had a terrible experience with his girlfriend during our NYSC days. His girlfriend was always around a guy who she claimed was her best friend. According to her, the Akwa Ibom boy was like a brother to her, nothing more.
My friend innocently allowed things to go because he wanted to be a gentleman. Guess what happened? He met the so-called bestie in banging his girlfriend. It was a terrible experience, and they ended the relationship.
Imagined my guy didn’t discover this thing on time… What do you think would have happened? The bestie would have still been banging her in my friend’s house.
If you are dating a Nigerian girl who’s fond of contacting her ex all the time, don’t take that relationship seriously. You guys can still be having fun together, but it will be dangerous to marry such lady. Okafor law is dangerous and never allow anybody to manifest it on your woman.
#4. How You Settle Disputes
I have always mentioned that there’s no perfect relationship anywhere. To the best of my knowledge, you only see perfect relationships in Zeeworld, Nollywood, etc.
So, if you are expecting a relationship without disputes or fight, you are living in a fool’s paradise.
It doesn’t matter how many times you fight in a relationship. What matters is how you guys settle your disputes.
If your lady always shuts down and gives you the silent treatment after every argument, try to work on it before engaging her. If you can’t find your way around it, then she is not your soulmate.
How will you feel if your wife is keeping malice with you over a little disagreement? It won’t make sense.
#5. Lifestyle
Lifestyle is another area you must agree on. If your girlfriend is living a lifestyle you don’t like, try to discuss it with her. Don’t allow love to accept what will not work for you. It will never end well for you.
If she goes to clubs and parties, talk to her about it. And if you guys aren’t on the same page about it, don’t take the relationship seriously. You will always have severe issues with her if your lifestyle differs from hers.
#6. The Name Game
This is another important area you should agree on. Do you want her to change her surname to yours? If yes, discuss it with her while dating.
Some ‘Nigerian babes dey form feminism’, they may not want to change their surnames. But if you discuss this from the onset, you will not have issues with it.
#7. Careers
Career is a sensitive area that must be discussed before you take the relationship to the next level.
If both of you are working, is her career going to affect your family? For instance, if you are a banker and your girlfriend whom you want to marry is also a banker, how do you cope? It won’t be easy.
An ambitious career woman wants to make it to the top of her career ladder may not have time for the kids. And if this isn’t something you can take, quietly work out of the relationship. It’s better than having issues in future.
Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/7-things-to-agree-on-before-engaging-a-nigerian-lady/
my best advice! DONT DATE A NAIJA WOMAN! if you want your life to start turning upside down, follow otherwise! our Naija women are bunch of useless ungrateful selfish creatures who only care about themselves and nothing but themselves!! why will I waste all my resources following one black low self esteem creature who later at the end will still cheat on ya date a foreigners and see how sweet it is to have a woman at your Side! 5 Likes |
Re: 7 Things To Agree On Before Engaging A Nigerian Lady by webngnews: 7:02pm On Oct 23, 2019 |
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