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| What Should I Tell My Son by thedio(m): 2:52pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
I have a four year old son who I cherish so much but their is one bully boy living opposite to my house,the boy is 5yrs old.He always come to my house because I bought bicycle,ball and other toys for my son. I have no qualm about accommodating this bully boy afterall his presence get my son adrenalin flowing.he always try to show the bully boy somethings especially his riding skill. The problem is that he can't stay for 30min without fighting and beating my son.The poor boy will cry and report him to me,i will say sorry, call them together and ask them not to fight again.The case keep repeating itself whenever I'm around, one day I got infuriated and told my son to fight him,if he dare beat him again. This is very wrong,i know,besides my son does not have the strength to fight him but I can't allow this intimidation to continue.should I stop him from coming to my house,mind you his dad is like a friend to me or I should keep telling my boy sorry. The fact is I hate him beating my son. |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Lordwheez(m): 2:54pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Teach him self defense.... Just give am permission to plank the guy when next the guy wan show himself. I promise, the guy will be so unprepared for this experience and would never step up to your son again...... Works everytime... 26 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Jentle244: 2:54pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
To me i would say the advice you gave your son is not bad, at a point in time in his life he will have to stand up for himself. The earlier you start teaching him that the better (not fighting) Like when the bully comes around and does the same thing, simply tell your son to pack his toy and enter The house , when the bully is tired he goes back home and then he can continue but by the way is that 5 year old boy the only child around? Is there no simbi to play with ali? Why must it be Musa?  ; D10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by sisisioge: 2:57pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
| Well, you need to talk to the bully about fighting in your house. Tell him he gets to leave and never come back if he fights in your house. Issue resolved. 12 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:16pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
get this poisonous child away from your son... PERIOD!!!! as your child grows up, teach him how to defend himself and possibly get him into some self defense classes to boost his confidence. 12 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Omojudy: 3:19pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Me wey go warn that pikin for my pikin absence say if he touch my pikin again he no go play with our toys again nor get snacks from me! 3 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:06pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
let us all remember that asking that innocent boy to fight now, and possibly get his aaasss royally kicked by the bully... will not only drive your son's confidence to the ground, but also would make that bully even more brazen to attack your child again and again. 7 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Uchenaija: 4:41pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Tell the boy if he ever beats your son he would never come to your house. Tell the dad of the boy to talk to his boy. You say the boys dad is your friend that makes it easier. Retaliation breeds more wars. You can always find new play mate for him 7 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by thorpido(m): 6:02pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Warn the boy with a Stern voice and angry face not to dare treat your son that way again. Report him to his father and let him check him. If I see him do that again......I'mma smack him real bad(my opinion). 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by mysticgal(f): 6:56pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Reminds me of secondary school. This bully prefect asked me to pull my white shirt but I told her I didn’t have a singlet on but she insisted and then I pulled. She made her classmates laugh at me and still flogged me. I went home and told my mum and my mum gave me the insult of my life and also inspiration to fight back. My ma was angry it was a girl like me that gave me shit to eat and I did with pleasure and royally. Ha!!! I swore I was going to deal with her with my last strength and her younger sisters under me. As for the school, I flouted every single rule because I felt the bastards that were supposed to control her did not. So one football match day, SS1 against SS2, I was captain of my team and she was whatever. As captain I was required to take a free kick, I did and my target was prefect halima, which got to her, destabilized and fell her down. From that moment, it was war on the field till we were running opposite each other and collided so hard we both fainted. I woke up at the clinic, was sent home. Told my mum, she examined my head and fried chin-chin, bought a crate of Mountain Dew and a new Barbie bag. Entered SS2 and was waiting for whatever prefectship I was about to be served to deal with Fatima and sulia, halima’s younger sisters and Just then, my dad withdrew me from the school because he feared I would be expelled with the way my stubbornness was going (before they beat me then In school, they pour my back cold water because I dey chop cane die). I wrote him a long letter that night telling him how much he hurt me and how much I don’t respect him and I hated him. But then, I loved my dad just that I wanted to revenge, lol, he bought me my school books complete for the first time since I ever started school and some novels Well, sorry, I was nostalgic but then, since your son can’t fight, how about you fight for him and don’t allow the into your house. How person pickin go enter your house dey beat your pickin you go still dey talk sorry . Don’t let him come close and if necessary, keep your kids toy just for your kid . My 2 cents 6 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by folake4u(f): 7:21pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
If I ever have children, I'm enrolling them in Karate and Taekwondo classes. They need that shït for self defence, it's so important these days. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Nobody: 7:30pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
This is a good opportunity to teach your son how to defend himself and be a confident boy who can stand up for himself. Once you do, don't allow the bully into your home again b|c 1) you don't want to keep exposing your son to this unhealthy situation and 2) you want to send a message to the bully that bullying and beating your son are unacceptable and as a result, he is no longer welcome in your home to play w| your son's toys. 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Nobody: 8:32pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
We taught my younger sister self defense and all then  We actually got all hyped one day when she decided that she was ready to face her bully...(she was meant to face the opponent and start pulverising her immediately, giving her no or little chance to react) So we agreed that once we made one sound from our balcony upstairs? It would be the cue for her to attack Hmmm! My brother who was the mastermind sounded the cue, for where? The others tried, for where? I even joined, nothing My sister kept raising her hand in an I know what I am doing way. I think she even irritably told us to allow her handle it By the fourth call the bully had obviously gotten wind of a plan, and the next thing we knew and saw, was my sister flat on the ground and crying! The mortification that we all felt The cowardly and stubborn girl later came upstairs and started blaming us and our “stupid” plan!  Well in their friendship/rivalry she remained the less strong one, till we all moved Lol I don’t know how you can help your son, just be sure it’s bullying and not you being overprotective. If it’s bullying, the bully’s family must be informed too, bullies are a horror, and there is still time to salvage this one I confess I didn’t read everything Sorry! Good luck to you all 4 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by sisisioge: 9:51pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
mysticgal: Baddooo! Ok, I was actually a tomboy for the most part of my secondary school until I got to SS2 and fell in love with a boy, the game prefect as I was on the football team too. We wrote letters no be small. Femi with the horrible handwriting but I was in love .Sorry OP, I still think you need to lay the rules for the little bully. 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by MiseryHimself: 9:55pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
theButterfly: Your profile pics, where is that? |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by mysticgal(f): 10:11pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Boys obviously spoils everything but then it’s soothing to the chest abi heart abi mind sisisioge: 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by mysticgal(f): 10:13pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
folake4u:i tell you |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by LadySarah: 10:38pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
If You keep Ignoring it,your son will be at Their mercy. Teach him to stand up for himself.Even If the 5 yr old is stronger,just calling his bluff Or fighting back will destabilise the bully. This was My son early this yr but After My husband threatened to beat him If he comes home crying again,he whooped the bully's ass.He is 4 too and the bully 5. Now they play together while the boy avoids provoking him 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by shitshappen(m): 11:20pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
Few months ago my little girl came back with a cut on her face and a note from the school explaining that she was dragging toy with another girl Titi* and got wounded. Was furious at the teacher, the school and everyone, even threatened to press charges for such negligence. It took the intervention o my wife to calm me down. Three days late babe literally designed Titi's face with her nail almost unprovoked. Turns out she hasn't forgotten the fight of three days ago, didn't know if I was proud of my mini-me for exacting her pound of flesh or afraid of how vengeful she is becoming at almost two. Won't want my child bullying anyone, but what I hate more is anyone bullying my child. I never punish her at home for standing up for what is her right, I feel like breaking her spirit will affect her later in life especially in face of bullying. Just teaching her cause and effect so she won't become a bully herself. * Name has been changed 2 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Nobody: 11:39pm On Oct 24, 2019 |
MiseryHimself:BC |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:35am On Oct 25, 2019 |
Lordwheez: thats wrong but we see life and exprience it differently all she needs is to play parent to the bully boy i.e the bully has to learn and know that for each fight he cause he looses the priviledge to play with bike and he gets send home he will learn that for every wrong he has been told not to do, their is punishment aka loosing playing with bike 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by nonen(m): 4:47am On Oct 25, 2019 |
Kids giving women and men counseling everywhere. I’ll suggest you keep your child away from the bullying boy. Stop the bully from coming to your home; try and take the boys While asking your son to fight the bully, didn’t you think that your son could be hit in the wrong spot like his eyes? He might end up with even worse scare 1 Like |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by ifyalways(f): 9:35am On Oct 25, 2019 |
At this age,your son expects you and the dad to be their hero and protector and there you are failing woefully with your pathetic excuses. You are giving the bully wings by just talking and taking no action to stop it. God forbid one day, it gets to molestation stage, what do you think the bully will tell your child? - "Your mother cannot save or help you" and its true. Take the boy to his dad, tell the dad with a stern voice that you do not want his son playing with yours again because he bullies yours .Face the boy and tell him that if he ever smacks or attack your son anywhere again, you will beat him. Keep your son away from the boy. Your son should be your priority, not some yeye friendship.. 9 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by MiseryHimself: 11:15am On Oct 25, 2019 |
theButterfly: |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by MiseryHimself: 11:16am On Oct 25, 2019 |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Nobody: 2:25pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
MiseryHimself:I'm a citizen. |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by ahnie: 3:56pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
Small case. If he spanks my child...I would tell my son to spank him back,then bounce him outta of home Zero tolerance for bullies! |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by MiseryHimself: 7:07pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
theButterfly: Are you the child of immigrant parents? Looks like you visit Nigeria once in a while. You know what I mean "Na wa oo!" |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Teettyllayho: 8:23pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
I don't usually drop my comments but I experienced this same issue a few weeks back. We recently moved into a new place and my boy of four years old was constantly being bullied by a boy of 7. At first, I didn't know what was going on because the kids are always about 5-6 playing together and my boy is usually the one crying. I'll tell him sorry and sometimes even beat him for crying unnecessarily because other kids will be playing. After a week, I discovered my son's self-confidence was diminishing. He continued crying whenever he goes out to play and this became irritating to me. Whenever I ask the boys what happened, they'll tell me 'he's picking dirt from the floor' or 'he beat me first'. I'll scold him and tell them to stop fighting. Then, something happened when his dad got him a new bicycle. The bully collected my son's new bicycle and he told him "I'll ride 20 times and you'll ride only once" What?? I thought. Then I waited. At this point, my son started shouting and crying for his bike but the bully wasn't ready to leave the bike. I stepped in at that point and told him to give him back his bike. He did. But as I turned to leave, he pushed my son and he fell with the bike. Wow?! Honestly, I would have given the bully the beating of his life, but I don't like beating people's children. I just moved closer to the bully and shouted on the top of my voice "if you ever touch my son again, I will beat you seriously. Don't you ever touch him again because he's not your mate. Do you understand" I repeated it again and took my son inside with his bike. The bully stopped coming since then. Ever since then, my boy has been his old active self. I really felt bad that I didn't discover this in time. I felt bad for punishing him wrongly. Please, stand up for your child and get him away from that bully. He'll turn your child to something else. 7 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Ournaija: 9:01pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
I recall some years back, I was playing football with my elder brother's friend who is a year older than my brother with other boys in the hood. Suddenly my brother's friend asked me to leave the pitch. I quietly picked my shoes and left. My elder brother was by the corner watching. He was surprised to see me walk off the pitch. He ran to me and asked why I left the pitch and I told him that your friend asked me to leave. And you left, he queried. Immediately he ordered me to go back and play. Your friend will beat me, I protested. He became mad at me and asked me to hit him back if he dare beat me for any reason. I went back to the field and a fight ensued. I didnt know where the strength came from. I carried my bully up in the air to the ground and started punching. Before you know Mr. Bully started crying and his other colleagues felt insulted and wanted to gang up to beat me. My brother who is the strongest though not the oldest, made a statement and everyone crawled back to their holes. My brother got his inspiration, strength and self defence from our dad. The man took time to build him up. He transfered all that to me. He always asked me to confront me fears and fight my fight. I was eight years this happened. I believe my story will help you to tell your son the right thing. 4 Likes |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by Rosarie(f): 9:19pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
My dear I will lock my door cos if I beat the boy the parents will be angry,I was once in that situation.i shunned the girl and tell her to stop harassing my girl.my daughter does not have voice when she comes around.i stayed where they play,if she drops or starts her bully I correct her in love but when I saw no head way make me as person no go quarrel because of kids I just lockup like i am not home. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: What Should I Tell My Son by ruzell86: 8:28am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Hmmn, Kenny Rogers song "Coward of the County" comes to mind. Dear OP, please google the song's lyric and read it up. and it ends thus... "Sometimes you gotta fight when you're a man." Trust me, fighting back a bully doesn't have an age range... it just must start some where and some how. Tell your son; he must learn to fight! 1 Like |
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