N2B2:


For her to be honest with you about something so sensitive, she must really like you.

So long as she isn't still doing this, hold onto her.

Naa, stop being naive. She might be playing on his psychology thinking that being forthright would either earn her pity love, his compassion or trust to the end that she wins his love. She might also be trying to dampen the effect of his reaction should he find out about her past. You just could never tell.

The rule of thumb is to always know what you want and have a set of principles you stand by.
For me, I cannot see myself marrying a girl that is not a virgin or someone I am not 100% sure lost hers to rape talkless of the lady in your case. That's one of my core criteria for anything near marriage.I have been heavily criticised for it but I don't care. As orthodox as it may sound, I still stand by it. My reason is that I have observed overtime that Okafor's law is rarely false. Secondly, how would a non-virgin mom with premarital s*x exploits train the standard of kids I want to raise should I decide to have one? The non-virgins might hate me for saying this but deep within, they know it is true.

Logan95:
Good day house.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

@OP, the fact that you brought this here shows you are not comfortable with her. If you aren't now, you likely might never be. If you try to manage it now, it will likely suffice in future with an even more devastating effect. For me, you just have one option now and you must act quiclky. It is wickedness to waste a girl's time or increase her vagiometer reading if you know you will not marry her.

Brother, keep the girl.... For her to open up.... keep her

lilwetdick:
you boys are funny ooh

what do you expect after buying lot of stuff for your broke ass or did you think it was free

everything was a game from start, a game to control your manhood

best will be to stop collecting gifts and use your brain

Lol

safarigirl:
I no dey do anything, nobody dey find me. You get what you're looking for, that's all

girls wey no dey do tricks dey,but safarigirl i am telling it is hard, very very hard just like finding an emotionally intelligent nigerian,what abound everywhere are average people in deeds and character.These days,all the small nonsense girls no want pressure or any small financial problem,dem go rush bend yansh say na poverty cause am..........i no won write again i dey vex!!

kay29000:


Lol. You are wicked o. She could have had those two abortions for one guy na...do you know how easy it is for some girls to conceive? I have a young friend of 21, the first time she had sex with her boyfriend he couldn't penetrate her, so he decided to go raw. He hadn't even enter fully before he pulled out and came. But sperm don enter already and she got pregnant...imagine that case. Also, her saying she has so many bodycount is relative..it might just be a bodycount of 8

story for the gods

what happen with condoms...if you can marry her, it is up to you but i can not, i have seen many of these relationship and how it ends

it starts with pity and end with brutal insecurity and finally destruction.

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

She’s loves you enough to tell that please love her back... those things we do for love you don’t need to blame her.... would you have rather found out from someone else... Brother take her out and tell her you love her and then tell not to worry.... it’s her past can’t judge someone cause of there past.... Good girls are hard to find when you see one hold em tight

Damaged women can hardly be saved.
There is all lot of issue a man has to deal with when married to them.
They have got trust issue and the moment a man make little mistake they are back in square one. They go back to their former lifestyle, attitudes and stuff.

A man that has decided to marry one of these damage women out of love or sympathy will need a whole lot of patient and God in dealing with her because you can never be right and she probably might begin to trust you when you turn 70

naijadrivablog:


Forget,las las, your wife was someone's ex. Give and take, I like bad gals that have DECIDED to change and get married. How do you know? redpill won't teach you that.

sparko1:


Let me paint this scenario for you, you have a girlfriend but she just act normal, no guy issue, no funny message on her phone, she doesn't even have a lock on her phone! what will you think? oh! let me guess, you will think she's an angel! Do you know that she might have had lot of abortion, slept with numerous guys, even did prostitution for years in like the east or south south and when she was ready to marry came to Lagos and started living like a virgin. You met her in church, she's very prayerful, hardworking the kind of woman you will think have never met a man or slept with one.

all these are stories

kay29000:


Even you safarigurl?

even me o

Today is not the day I empathize with anybody. I cannot relate. As old as I am, I have never done abortion, never even had sex, so, I cannot empathize because I cannot understand why someone who is 20 will be sleeping around to fund a man's lifestyle, not even a relation. That is some high level of mind fuckery

I have been making money for the last three years and helping myself without sleeping with anybody. I cannot relate, I have self respect and dignity, but most importantly, I have sense, even at 20 I had sense.

Today is not the day I empathize, certainly on another day, with an older person, that has a more valid reason for sleeping around.

Baba God please do not let any höe in the name of girlfriend use me as her final retirement and settlement plan in Jesus name.

Amen.

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

She loves you so much... She had to tell you her past. Love her more than ever. Dont leave her cus of all these. Help her grow and if you can live with it biko wife her...

safarigirl:
even me o

Today is not the day I empathize with anybody. I cannot relate, as old as I am, I have never done abortion, never even had sex, so, I cannot empathize because I cannot understand why someone who is 20 will be sleeping around to fund a man's lifestyle, not even a relation. That is some high level of mind fuckery

I have been making money for the last three years and helping myself without sleeping with anybody. I cannot relate, I have self respect and dignity, but most importantly, I have sense, even at 20 I had sense.

Today is not the day I empathize, certainly on another day, with an older person, that has a more valid reason for sleeping around.

Okay. I understand you.

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

LISTEN ANY GIRL WHO CAN CONFIDENTLY TELL YOU HER PAST LIFE SURE TRULY LOVES YOU. TELL HER THE PAST IS IN THE TOMB.. YOU BOTH HAVE A GREAT FUTURE TOGETHER. YOU JUST FOUND A TRUTHFUL LOYAL WIFE. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

CsRockefeller:


I also pray to get married to a virgin. I have never touched any ones daughter and hope.mine.is somewhere left untouched.

Lost interest in a near relationship because I found out she wasn't a virgin and wasn't interested in secondary virginty.

I can't just wrap my head around getting married to someone that has had multiple or a single partner, I just can't.

Sincerely, I can only imagine what would have been running thru my hubby's head if he didn't marry me as one too..
Cos I guess for some partners who didn't meet their other half as one will be having issues with trust...
As much as my hubby and I sometimes argue and fight over issues like financial responsibilitlies, child raising, home commitment amongst, he doesn't for once have any doubt about my fidelity to him unlike others, and that feeling alone is heavenly....

safarigirl:
even me o

Today is not the day I empathize with anybody. I cannot relate, as old as I am, I have never done abortion, never even had sex, so, I cannot empathize because I cannot understand why someone who is 20 will be sleeping around to fund a man's lifestyle, not even a relation. That is some high level of mind fuckery

I have been making money for the last three years and helping myself without sleeping with anybody. I cannot relate, I have self respect and dignity, but most importantly, I have sense, even at 20 I had sense.

Today is not the day I empathize, certainly on another day, with an older person, that has a more valid reason for sleeping around.

that is it safari girl,there are some key words you used here which is very precious to my whole being, SELF RESPECT AND DIGNITY!! see,all these girls these days don't have it in the minutiest quantity in their dna,i have always asked who gave birth to all these empty humans on earth, e dey pain me.

Logan95:

She's quite a young girl at 20. I don't know why she made these mistakes

i was ambivalent until you shared this detail.
at 20 she has not even started lmaoooo. i thought she was like 28 or so, i for even still try dey rationalize.
bro.. honestly, no matter how good her intentions are, she is still a child. she will fhuccccccccc, from now till 30, monogamy or not. her hoe phase has not even begun lmao
"good heart" or not, toss her back into the water o. you will gnash your teeth last last or my name is not amunekeuto 1. i know this type WELL WELL

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

What is your dilemma here? U obviously got yourself a very good girl and u come here asking us questions?. U don't deserve her....
Make your head correct oooo

HarunaWest:

Why is she even apologizing for telling the truth sef...is it cos she told yah,u sef come dey form saint obi. If she kept shut,heaven won't fall @ all....The fact that she confessed,you should respect her the more....The last time I remembered my body count was in the year 2016..twas exactly 52...between then and now,Ave lost count.

This dude is a real G.

Evidenx:
LISTEN ANY GIRL WHO CAN CONFIDENTLY TELL YOU HER PAST LIFE SURE TRULY LOVES YOU. TELL HER THE PAST IS IN THE TOMB.. YOU BOTH HAVE A GREAT FUTURE TOGETHER. YOU JUST FOUND A TRUTHFUL LOYAL WIFE. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

o boy, a girl opening up about past relationships does not mean love, it is just a way to get sympathy from nice guys

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

Lols you're just a kid.
With these confession, i think she did nothing, most girls have done X3 what she said she did.
Pls her past is her past, she made mistakes by telling you, so dont use it against her.
Enjoy your time with her, its just a passing phase.

ArticleBeast:

Baba troway this thing or carry am go meet repairer make them give you 5k. S7 screen na almost 40k-60k...Who wan buy debt.

he go beta for u jere. disturbing our peaceful threads since yst...wu wan buy ordinary casing for 20k

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

instances like this is the reason I love to use that saying by Jesus Christ: "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone".

So bro, if you're sinless, leave her but if you're not, forgive and move on.

EITHER SHE WANTS TO BREAK UP OR TEXT THE GUY'S SERIOUSNESS AND LOVE.

Bro I believe that this your principles are founded on your faith/beliefs.. I'm a Christian I don't want to infer yours but from your name I'd want to believe we're of the same religion.
Remember the adulterous woman in John 8:1-11
Jesus didn't condemn her eventhough the world did.. Did she commit a sin ? Hell yes! Did it have consequences ? Hell yes ! But is our God a gracious and merciful God ? Ohhh Yes ! What God truly desires is the repentance of a sinner and if its genuine thats all he sees. All He'll say is "go and sin no more" by reason of our human nature we're sinners constantly in need of God's grace towards perfection..
My only concern is this if the OP himself is truly grounded in Christ because what the lady needs is Christ and his grace not to go back into such ways.. I hope you see my perspective.. Cheers !

chuksjuve:


You were not once like me and I can't be you!

This just a discussion that has to do with setting the records straight about choice and consequences, forgiveness and justice ..

Until we learn to understand that choice have consequences and life must must bad behaviors we won't live our lives well,
Besides until we also understand that forgiveness cannot erase justice , we will keep living as hypocrites.

What makes you think the lady in question is not trying to manipulate the young man into accepting what might end up ruining him !

Anyways .. It's nice engaging you .
Cheers bro.. No homo

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

Her past would always hunt her no gree o. I have experienced the same story.

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, .......
I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

She just dey tease you.

BatleFox:
Feel free to dump her and go and marry a virgin that will tear your life wide open

Why do you hold the opinion that a virgin will tear his life wide open?

BotafogoJunior:
that is it safari girl,there are some key words you used here which is very precious to my whole being, SELF RESPECT AND DIGNITY!! see,all these girls these days don't have it in the minutiest quantity in their dna,i have always asked who gave birth to all these empty humans on earth, e dey pain me.

e no pain you reach as e dey pain me. Because guys genuinely think we are all stupid, so, imagine my anger when I am approached as if I don't have sense, or when someone tries to play some silly trick on me.

We that have sense are the direct victims of the senselessness of the majority

lilwetdick:


20 years old girl with 2 abortion and lot of body count.... it seems you are with a hoe

better go find yourself a good girl...anyway it is up to you.i personally cant cope with her.

Bros, nothing like good girl. just because she revealed her past doesn't make her a bad person. The one you think is a " good girl" may even have done worse.
@ Op , please let us know ur own past, how many girls you've slept with.

If you have done more than 5 girls since you became sexually active , then you also have to reveal your own to her and also apologise.

My two cents